don't like nipples to be touched

I also have the same problem. If it's in a non-sexual way I just get annoyed but if it's during sex I get this horrible feeling in my stomach. I actually want to be sick. I had no problem breast feeding when I had my daughter but now that feeling is worse. I don't feel like I'd have a problem when I have another child. My boyfriend is very respectful sometimes I'm ok for a little bit and if I brush his hand away he'll stop. I'm just glad I'm not the only one I really felt like I was weird.

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I hate having mine touched or lic*ed with a passion as well. Sucking isn't nearly as bad (although still bad) because it provides much less of that obnoxiously tingly sensation that doesn't connect with the sexual part with me at all well. When my boyfriend does it, particularly licking, more than just 3 seconds (which is already horrible), I just want to punch him hard in the face and slice off the nipple he played with. The "agony" from nipple playing used to be a masochistic fetish of mine until I grew disenchanted from it overtime; now, it's just an utter disgust. My boyfriend f'ing loves suckling, licking, etc. my nipples so much that if it were up to him, he'd literally go at them like a nursing baby- I'm not kidding, and I'm on top trying to associate it with something pleasant as hard as I can while failing miserably. I've told him the restrictions, how I hate it, and how I have to compromise my comfort just to please him. We did go from almost nonstop to no more than 4-5 seconds at a time for a few times throughout a session, which is still way too much for me as I'd rather have none of it.

I also would like to add that I agree with the posters who say that it is emotional as well as physical. For me, the combo of that awful tingly sensation and the tongue just feels like I'm being violated for a reason that I can't put my finger one. Yes, I was molested as a child, but I have no recall or recognition of nipple playing ever happening, which I do for the other activities that went on; plus, I do not have any emotional scarring that I an aware of from the molestation and once it was over, it was over for me even though it went on for years. I know for most people who have been molested, they are scarred emotionally and physically for decades and are well aware of how "off" they feel from this past, but not me. I just got over it right when it was over.

The feeling of violation must stem from other environmental factors or maybe naturally. It just feels disgusting and invasive.

I experience this problem, but I now my cause. I have been in an emotionally and abusive relationship for 6 years. I am still in it, sad to say. I guess I am disgusted beacuse I am not sexually there with him any more, i get flash backs of things he have said or done to hurt me and that ruins the mood so he says. I hate his touches, but what is weird is I am still attracted to him, but just don't want to be touched by him sexually. I use to like him licking and sucking my breast, it turned me on. I just get disgusted now, beacuse of all the hurt and disrespect he has dished out. All pray for my strength to release to demon from my life.

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I have the same feeling, such an emptyness and sadness seems nothing has sense. Its horrible, fortunately I usually dont feel it that bad with my boyfriend at least not too often maybe is because of the way he touches.

I deal with the same issue. I have been molested as a child but I do not feel that it has any part in the irritating nipple touch. I wonder about hormonal imbalances or maybe some ppl are just more sensitive? I dont know wish there was an answer. It drives me crazy and whats worse after about 4 months of nursing my babies I just couldn't handle the irritated feeling anymore and had to stop.

I am glad to know that I am not the only one with this problem though.

I am so glad that I found this thread. My husband has such high hopes that someday this will change for us. I was molested as a child, but I have noticed that many were not, so it does not seem like there is any rhyme or reason for this issue. I absolutley despise having my breasts touched in anyway, shape or form. I get instantly angry, and nauseated all at the same time. I hate it!!!!! My husband does not dwell on it, or even bother going there anymore (we have been together for 12 years so he gave up..lol) and that bothers me, because I know it would make him so happy. I ahve tried and it just ruins any feisty, sexual mood I was in. I hope someone chimes in soon with a valid reason and possibly an answer on how to fix this.

I find myself angry when they are touched - even when my bra shifts position awkwardly over them. It's such a strange anger like I immediately want to strike something in my path. Often times with my partner if I'm not in a good enough mood I've shoved them away from me and couldn't do anything after.

It's so damn... unpleasant.

Other times if I'm worked up enough I acutally enjoy it. I wish I understood this problem as I have other issues with sex as well. >>

Update: Things are getting a lot better... (recap: I've got young children and have been dealing with absolutely no libido and when things did manage to get going, if my nipples were brushed against, it was over... problems going without a bra and in the shower etc)
I talked to my doctor about the libido problem (as well as the nipple thing.. but focused more on the libido) and ended up on a low dose testosterone cream... (a test before showed my levels within a normal range before the cream)
it's been about a month and a half... first thing i noticed was i could wear my pajamas longer without having to hurry and get a bra on.... i can even go without a shelf bra (but still reluctant to)
and these last couple of weekends, my husband and i have experienced more intimacy than we've had in a long long time.
there are probably a variety of reasons why people are having this problem, so this isn't going to be a solution for everyone, but talk to your doctors about it... so far this is working for me...

Hello Everyone!

I would like to do a Statistical Research about that topic. Please, Email me your Answers . Put as subject "Nipple's prob".
Here it is the topics that you may answer (you can propose more if you think they are appropriate!)

example given --> 1)SEx: a) Male b)Female ---> Your answer 1) a

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1) SEX: a) Male b)Female

2) Sex oriantation: a) Straight b) Homoseaxual

3) Country of origin: (Complete... example given: Norway)

4) Sex violence in childhood a) Yes b) No

5) Sex violence in sex relatinships a)Yes b) No

6a) Start age (when you realized that emotion) a) Baby-4, b) 5-12 c) 13-18, d)19-25, e)26+

6b) Your age now! a) ...4, b) 5-12 c) 13-18, d)19-25, e)26-35, f) 36-50, g)51+

7) Type of body a) Slim b)Normal, c) not so fat, d) Fat

8) type fo breasts a)very small breast, b) Small, c) it can full a hand, d) well developed, e) big, f)Very big //(photos are accepted)

9) I had a very good childhood a)Yes, b) No

10) I used to take medicines for years even ssimple ones such as Aspirin a)Yes, b) No

11) Please describe medicines that you have taken more than couple of times (example given aspirin once a week for 3 years)

12) What is your feeling when someone touch your breast (best described emotion: a)Emptynees/loneliness, b)Sad/depression like, c) Pain/disgust,

13) I can touch my breast for a) few seconds, b) few minutes, c)more than 5 minutes d) Not at all

14) The described feeling is coming up when a)in few seconds, b) in few minutes, c) in more than 5 minutes

15) I have some chronic illness like Aids, Cancer, Hypotheroism (Please describe what)

16) i tried hard to feel pleasure from my breasts and i was successful (i dont feel any more the described emotion) a)Yes, b)No, c) I have not tried to feel pleasure

17) i use Microwave almost a) Everyday, b) two days per week c) a couple of times per month, d) NEVER

18) I have another person in my family that has felt the same way (or in a similar way) : a)Yes b) No

19) i like to be touched in breasts more from the same sex person (gay lesbian) than by the other sex (straight) a)Yes, b)No, c)I have not tried to sleep with a person of the same sax

20) i work many hours (more than 8 hour in average per day) a)Yes, b)No

21) my mother breastfed me a)yes, b) No

22) I have children 1)Yes, 2) No

23) i take pills for pregnancy a) Yes, b) No

24) i take vitamins in pills a) Yes, b) No

25) i am sexually healthy a)Yes, b) No

26) i am checking my sexual healthy a)Very often (once a month) b) often (once in six months) c) not so often (once in a year) d) Once in two years e) whenever i have a sexual proble, d)Never or very rare

27) i like generally sex a)Yes, b) No

28) i lived with my parents until the age of a)10 b)15, c)18 d)25, e)30, f)35 g)40 h)45+

29) i found the solution to that problem a)YES, b)No

30) Describe the solution

31) i changed country of living/environment a) Yes b)No (Please describe)


Sincererly,
Elias,
Greek Statistician Researcher

I don't find this is a professional way to conduct research.

Hello,
I have experienced this disgusting feeling on and off my whole sexual life. I am 43 and sometimes when my breast are touched, especially my nipples, I feel a violent rage inside. I am disgusted to see a grown man suckling on me like I am his mother.

I believe that the sensation of touching my nipples is connected with anger in my brain. Like some of you, if I am already feeling good in the sexual act, I don't mind so much having my breast touched. However, I loathe my breast touched as the beginning of foreplay.

To the man who is upset with us women: this is not something we can "turn on and off" like a light switch. How dare you expect women to feel disgusting to please you when we should also enjoy our sexual encounters.

I can't even stand to look at women who have their breasts sticking out of their shirts, or women who talk about their breasts either.

Hi Everyone :-) I have a similar problem too.. though I wouldn't say I feel disgust when my nipples are touched its more the fact that they are so overly sensitive that its an unpleasant feeling and its almost like a reflex motion in the way that I try and stop the touching! I'd love to be able to allow my partner to touch them and enjoy it too! Was just thinking.. is there any sort of numbing cream you can get that allows you to not feel they are being touched so at least the man gets pleasure out of it if there is no way that I am going to? Can you get a similar thing for breast feeding? Because the thought of feeding a baby makes my stomach turn... :-(
Have to say, it annoys me so much that it feels horrible!! I'm envious of the women who like it!!
With regards to childhood molesting... I don't think that comes into it with me.. I think i just have very sensitive nipples? I really don't know! Doesn't seem like a valid reason to go and ask a dr about either really!!

I am very surprised in how many of us are out there. My husband feels like if I don't love his touch. And I do! I really do! Just not my nipples. I learned with the years that it depends on how he forplays makes a great difrence. Just like all of you out there many thoughts came to my mind about my childhood. Wondering if this problem has a connection to an unknown past. Many years ago I spoke to a female Dr. And she told me that it was just a nerve many women and men have that is too sensitive to the touch. And that it's okay to tell him about it. But I guess he should have been there with me since there are times he feels like I'm making excuses. Since I do love my spouse and I want this to work I found a cream called progesterone 3000 the highest dose out there from Dr. Norman. This cream has many other wonderful results but it really helped me with this matter. Our body changes as we age and trust me I needed all the medical help I can get. Do your own homework. Go to Dr.Norman.com Im sure you will learn so much and more about your body. GB!

This is the first discussion I've ever found around this and it's great feeling I'm not the only one. I am in a really loving relationship but absolutely hate my nipples being touched, I even find it difficult to think about. It brings up huge anger and irritation, I also find that when I feel angry/irritated I feel more sensitivity there too. I do have shame around my body I am trying to overcome, and I also had a case of abuse when I was younger which in teenage years led to me hitting myself because I was angry at my body for 'betraying' me. I have found no solution to this despite having had many years of therapy.
Now my partner and I are thinking of starting a family and I really want to give the best care to my child, but I honestly can't even bear the thought of breastfeeding, simply because I hate being touched there. It's even difficult to be with my breasts myself.
I wonder if anyone has any answers to this? Coping mechanisms? In any case I wish you all peace and harmony with your bodies.