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The exact same thing happened to me. The guy i thought loved me and gave my all to started treating me terrible after I lost  my virginity to him. It's hard because the love I had for him was so strong i didn't know what to do. I as well went into depression and couldn't stop crying. I lost a lot of weight because I didn't want to eat. I still think about it all the time and i know He didn't really care and just took advantage of me. Guys want to get what they want from a girl and continue. Girls usually have more emotion and heart then guys. They love with all their hearts, while the guy is just thinking of ways to trick them and nice things to say to get the girl to have sex. The Virginity if the girl is like a prize to them to show off to his friends but to him personally it usually doesn't mean anything just that he enjoyed his time by having sex. I learned the hard way by falling for a party boy who loves sex. Whenever I tried talking to him about it he didn't care to listen. IT was like he found someone new after taking it from me. To this day I continue crying about it and am in depression. Staying to myself is the best thing to do because after something like that its hard to ever trust again. 
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Sweetie don't worry about it. Everything in life happens for a reason. He just didn't deserve you, that was all. Please don't regret it- that's the worst thing you could do. It was a choice that I hoped that the both of you made. There are people who lost it through rape.. and that is terrible. In life people come and go. It isn't the end of the world believe me. Just try not to have your emotions to turn in to hatred. You are beautiful inside and out remeber that you are a rose and not every guy is like that. It goes both ways; a girl could take a guys virginity and leave him as well. it doesn't make it right either. Eventually you will slowly heal, and it will become a memory that you will use to help others.
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The same thing happened to me! He had manipulated me to think that he is a very caring, nice, and loyal person. However, he left me only a week after we had sex! I am also from a culture that loosing virginity is not good!

This happened about a month ago and I cannot forget it. I sometimes hate myself to let someone to abuse me like that and I hate myself for being so gullible! I sometimes feel dirty for becoming a girl who had let the "one-night stand" happens to her! I have all sorts of feelings!
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your not going to hell,you ask forgiveness.as far as the guy thats rape you're 15.no man if he truely loves you will let that bother him,but tell him so later he doesn't think you've been lying.this is coming from a straight male.
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Not all guys are the same. Please don't hurt yourself. I am a guy and have not had sex yet. I treat girls with respect and only love, and I know several guys like that as well. Don't feel sad. You will be fine. I promise :-)
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This is messed up that religion has influenced you so badly. We all makes mistakes i used to be a catholic, but i lost all faith.. If theres a hell and you were going thats pretty condeming. I used to believe that c**p but after going to war and knowing ive killed men, used drugs in my younger days and the fact i put in a uniform and a sidearms everyday and work the streets of a living hell to protect others and knowing the good ive done and will do throught my career, and having the fear of god still, it lost me a long time ago and im only 27. Kido you need to relax you made a mistake life is learned through trial and error. I wish you the best. -Gabriel
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I don't understand why you girls are very much worried about you virginity, if you loose virginity you are not going to loose and thing, there are many thing do in this world

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I read all the posts but now hear what happened to me...

I lost my virginity at the age of 24 and to a guy who we planned to marry. we were dating for 3 years and we start having sex in the last 4 months around once a week. I never had a boyfriend and I never even thought about being with a guy I was living my life before him but he came to me and with his sweet words I fell in love. He even introduced me to his family and I thought i made the right decision and he will be my husband and I lost my virginity to a person who I truly loved. but two weeks ago he broke up with me, why??? because of money, because we(me and my family) are not rich to give him a lot of money!!! Nobody can feel how devastated i am. it was 2 months before the wedding. I just wanna say to be aware! even if he says he loves you, even if he introduced you to the family doesn't mean that he is yours forever. I could not believe what I was hearing from him, he was completely a new person and his family who were pretending to love me even don't answer my calls!!! they all changed suddenly! please have sex after marriage if you care about virginity.

I will never trust again and my whole life and future is now gone my dreams and wishes...

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Its something the girls feel virginity largely belongs to only them,

I am a guy of 22, and was serious into a relationship with a guy of my age for 3 years. I told my parents the moment she initiated the relationship together we ( my parents and her ) sat and discussed the whole thing since she was from a rich background and we were from a middle class. it went on with ups and downs like any relationship. I did involve in physical intimacy with her. I come from a background where we dont even put our arms over girls who is not our wife . but here the oly thing that didnt happen was sexual intercourse . I so badly badly badly wanted to be pure to the girl i marry. Like how virginity holds up for girls so does for a guy. she ditched me bcos of the fact that i am not up to here mark which we discussed years back and creates bloody stories to leave and go. Its so sad that along crushing my true love for her she also stole my virginity? though everything may be right for me i cannot recover the virgin feel again. what do i do or say?

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and a slight correction its girl i typed as guy by mistake
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Don't worry.I am in the same position like you one day. I loved a person more than anything in my life morethan my life also.we both were very happy with each other but due to circumstances we are separated.Initially I am not able to stay without talking to him but now its already 8months that there is no contact betn both of us. Only thing I did to be stable is chanting my fav gods name continously inside. Now I am bit ok.

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At the end of 2012 i slept with a guy but befor sleeping with him vi dated each other just två times .I hade no idea that this guy is needy . I was so honest with him and told him that if you like me why ? coze i come from backword country people i explaned for him my all good and bad positive and negativ Point of wives and that was the reason top trust him and he just took my virginity but when i called him aftr long time he replyd me and told e that listen you are so Beautiful you have Everything but you have to studies more coze my all friends are very modren and i became quite .But what is happing now my family is forcing me to get marry which i can not . I feel so much depression and he is enjoying with his friends . And now i have don that i am gonna tell him that he has to marry me i have no choice .According to me do not let that guy who did this force him to accept you and get marry you after two or Three months of marige if he leav not big problem .but we have to clear and teach these kind of guys who did wrong and has no care ,they Think that Girls are week . infact i am also worry but lets see what will happen .I just hope for good .
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hey dear i can understand what u r goin through.... listen, first of all do not trust anyone just like that.. i know falling in love is quite good but knowing our mate more imp. then that..

i know it's a big issue, when a girl has lost her virginity.. but in today's scenario these things are common.. i suppose it was ur first love or smthing to say.. that's why u r confused.. just leave it and move on in ur life.. there are much imp things in life then a guy like that... he had never love u infact he intentionally used ur body.. so give a f&$k to him and forget it forever..

lastly,,, i m a medical student and throughout whatever i have learnt (HYMEN) or vaginal covering IS NO SIGN FOR VIRGINITY. 

there is no science which can say that a girl with torned hymen is not virgin. it's a thin membrane dear and can be broken by accidents, fall, etc. and also sometimes there is NO BLEEDING even when the vaginal covering is torned during the first sexual experience..

ok! so stop getting tensed and live your life happily.. if he loves you he will come back to u.. kk.

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This exactly happend to me too, i got into a relationship with my bestfriend, i was a virgin we had sex the next day he said he doesnt feel right incade the police gets involved (im 14 hes 16) so he left :( was it an excuse i feel used.. i did love him :/ well i trusted him with everything?! Advice?:'(
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Awwe hunn dont worry w/e happened just happened for a reason. I have a story similar to your's. You deserve way better just pray to god if you believe in him and he will forgive you had a reason for doing so and too bad for him he is missing out something great. Move on he will realize one day. tc hunn
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