You know when I was younger I was like the stork. Weird body.. Tall and shinny... I used to hide in the corners at parties and then but about 24 I changed and became like John Travolta in grease/Saturday Night Fever. Someone the really pretty girls were attracted to me and I ended up with more than one. Then I got to a certain age one day something traumatic happened. I started to change and turn not so good looking an longer..
And people started to call me name.. I experienced both sides of the coin. And if this never happened I would not have known the evilness of people.
People are rude/sinners/cruel and look at the television. Always good looking people. The bands of yesterday/60, 70's not all the members had to have looks like today. They market VANITY and it was written that in the end days it would be like this. In the Disco Days they had freaks/weird people and people tended to be more accepted. Okay perhaps "Gay" people get a hard time sometimes for there choice in life. We may not accept it but no one has the right to judge. I think I was probably cursed for some reason... either for sinning and my calling was to do the works of the lord. Remember Jesus was insulted for everything and then they "cry" save me lord. Don't ever forget that. WHen they draw images of Jesus they draw very good looking Jesus. Everyone will be judged for every thought, every sin and everything.. So why did Jesus not come to earth as a beautiful guy. He came to do the work of his father. He came not suspected. He gave the vanity to the people that use it in films/TV/Magazines/What Ever. But he can give them other stumbling blocks. Don't judge them either for their gifts.
cherrybomb1 "I'm considered very pretty now, but that didn't happen until I believed I was pretty. " See if you have faith
in time things fall into place.
I suffer all the time/yet I have my unique side too that sometimes glorifies but I am not looking for glory. God gets the glory.
Peace & Love
Bless you all....
Charlie
And people started to call me name.. I experienced both sides of the coin. And if this never happened I would not have known the evilness of people.
People are rude/sinners/cruel and look at the television. Always good looking people. The bands of yesterday/60, 70's not all the members had to have looks like today. They market VANITY and it was written that in the end days it would be like this. In the Disco Days they had freaks/weird people and people tended to be more accepted. Okay perhaps "Gay" people get a hard time sometimes for there choice in life. We may not accept it but no one has the right to judge. I think I was probably cursed for some reason... either for sinning and my calling was to do the works of the lord. Remember Jesus was insulted for everything and then they "cry" save me lord. Don't ever forget that. WHen they draw images of Jesus they draw very good looking Jesus. Everyone will be judged for every thought, every sin and everything.. So why did Jesus not come to earth as a beautiful guy. He came to do the work of his father. He came not suspected. He gave the vanity to the people that use it in films/TV/Magazines/What Ever. But he can give them other stumbling blocks. Don't judge them either for their gifts.
cherrybomb1 "I'm considered very pretty now, but that didn't happen until I believed I was pretty. " See if you have faith
in time things fall into place.
I suffer all the time/yet I have my unique side too that sometimes glorifies but I am not looking for glory. God gets the glory.
Peace & Love
Bless you all....
Charlie
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So let me start off by saying I'm 25, male and gay. I have for many years been incredibly self conscious and felt really quite ugly- I stopped swimming because I was to embarrassed to take my shirt off; didn't like to go to the gym for the same reason. Needless to say, without exerciser I feel flabby- whether I am or not isn't something I can honestly gauge.
Why would someone like me be posting on this rather obscure form anonymously? Well, today I felt ugly. Some days I don't, some days I do. Today- today I felt like the ugliest person alive- even though I know I am not, as it is literally impossible to be the anything of anything. What triggered it? Seeing someone who I felt was incredibly attractive, younger than me, and with a 'better' life. I guess some part of me imagines that this person, who is so beautiful, has things so much better in a social context- regardless of their 'inner beauty'.
Days like these are common- I often do my best to have a stiff upper lip and not feel too bad about myself, but today it was enough that I actually googled 'why do I feel so ugly'; and lo, here I am.
Do I have reason to feel ugly and depressed? Probably not; I've graduated university and am in the process of working as a medical technician while I save up to head back for my masters and PhD. I have the most wonderful, loving fiance in the world to whom I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with. I have (most) of my health, though I am fought with kidney stones (another story there, perhaps for another lonely evening). Yet here I sit wondering in part, why I feel so god damn ugly and why I am posting on a random forum somewhere in the bowels of the internet.
I suppose the reason is, in the end, is that this is cathartic. I truly looked at this other person- his body, the fact he was a model and thought to myself "Dear gods, I am incredibly ugly- all my accomplishments in the world are meaningless because I do not meet this standard of beauty". And in truth: I don't. I know that; and frankly I will probably never meet those standards of beauty. It is in writing this that I realized that that- being without such physical perfection- is alright.
It's painful, don't get me wrong. It hurts- when I began this message I was on the verge of tearing it hurt so bad. But it is that hurt, perhaps, that has inspired me to do so many other things. To accomplish- with exceptional grades- university; acquire commendations from professors; to brave love and find my soul mate. Or perhaps I would have done all those things had I been beautiful, I can not say. But the fact remains I did all of that despite how I felt about myself; sure I had privileges of being in a country where this is possible- something most people don't have- but it remains I did it anyways, without being some drop-dead bomb shell.
I myself could work out and achieve, with dedication, that ideal body. I don't however- and I constantly berate myself for not doing it. Maybe one day I will finally manage the motivation to really dedicate myself to a workout regime. Right now, I guess that isn't for me. So I suspect in the end, being physically ideal isn't that important to me. But I know that option is there, at least right now; but when I really think about it there are so many more things that are more important to me than physical beauty. I write, I read; I spend time with my fiance, with my cat; I relax and indulge in playing games; I casually exercise to stay healthy and feel that, for me right now, that is enough.
What I can say is that everyday we will wake up with the choice of smiling or crying. Choose to smile. It may hurt; and if you stop smiling your lips may bleed, but smile. Smile even if the world doesn't smile back. Life is hard and unfair. God is a crock; find beauty in reality. There is so much worth just being alive for... if someone calls you ugly, or you feel ugly: do what I've done. Share your feelings, let them out until you don't need to keep them inside anymore and move on.
Alright random internet forum, that's all from me. You've been very kind to listen to my blathering, and if you've actually read this... post your own story. Share how you feel- why you feel that way. At the very least, at least you'll have your own thoughts to look at and wonder 'why', and that's the first step to understanding.
Wake up tomorrow and smile; especially if you 'need' braces- I regret not smiling more before I got mine.
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I was actually just perusing this thread, with no plans to post anything, until I read the above passage. At the moment, I'm 21, fresh out of obtaining a good degree from a decent university. I too have always, for reasons unknown to me, felt ugly or unattractive. There was never any particular event or occurrence in my formative years that led to the formulation of this negative belief. I've had a few relationships, and passed up on the chance for a few. I've only ever been called "ugly" to my face once, and even then I'm not sure if it was supposed to be some kind of a joke. Regardless, the feeling pervades my life and always has done. The thing that I find really interesting is that this belief is largely unassailable. I've been told on more than one occasion by a member of the opposite sex that I'm good looking. Once I actually got called "pretty" by a girl. (Wasn't sure how to take that one..) It never really seems to sink in though. I'll feel good about myself for a little while, then just revert back to feeling unattractive.
What actually really interested me in the above post was the feeling that being unattractive renders all your accomplishments meaningless. It's something I've felt more than once in my life. I'll look at someone who is obviously way better looking than I am and feel almost.. cheated, as though dumb luck dealt them a better hand than I. Immediately I think of all the things that I could have accomplished if I never had to be self conscious of my looks. It's a weird feeling, almost like a kind of un-directed, ambient anger. Such a ridiculous response.
I've also noticed that on the days when I feel as though I am actually quite good looking (it happens sometimes!), it makes such a difference. Nothing will have changed about me physically, I'll just feel better about myself. The positive energy flows and people sit up and take notice. People are friendlier. Women will flirt with me. It makes me question why I'd ever want to get down in the dumps about how I look, if it can be that good. I suppose the point I'm making (not that I was intending to make a point, just a good ramble for my own feeling of catharsis) is that "ugly" is a relative term.
Honestly I have no idea how to "get past" feeling ugly. I'm not sure there even is a way to completely eliminate those types of feelings. While I understand that I'd have a much better life if I felt attractive everyday, I recognize that I'll probably never be able to achieve that. It sucks, but it would be naive to think that one day I'll wake up and feel that way. It's cold comfort, but I think that the above poster is right. Smile through gritted teeth if you have to. Looks are fleeting, we're all going to get old and lose them. It doesn't mean your life has to be some kind of joke.
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hi,im ugly and i can't get rid of the thought that people lie to me about me being ugly, its confusing and very upsetting, im 14 yrs of age but im still very ugly no matter what i try to do, i hate myself so bad that most of the time i feel like killing myself but i don't un-fortunately..... i bet im the ugliest girl around. anyways there are alot of things you could do to make you heal that mental strain of being ugly, like hanging out with friends and talking about anything other than how anyone looks, never raise that subject of appearance especially when someone you know has bad thoughts about themselves. as for me though, nothing in this world will help, unless i get facial surgery but i don't want to, its risky, ha, the things you have to do to fit in!!!!!!!!
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im 21 and ugly! I have been called a butter face all my life and compared to my beautiful sister since middle school. It really takes a toll on my self esteem and has destoryed the relationship with my boyfreind. I never want to go out in public or even to class b/c i know that im going to have to feel even worse about myself by the time i get home. It sucks being ugly and i wish there was something that could make it better. But the fact of the matter is that is the way i was born and im going to just have to be alone for a long time. My self esteem is actually so low that i have pushed away any friends and now i have nobody. It's really sad cuz when im with my family im really funny and outgoing but as soon as i get around people i put my head down and stay quite. That way nobody says anything and my self esteem wont get any worse.
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everyone feels ugly every now and then..
understand that this is just a phase and u wil get over it soon.
but if u keep thinking about it u are gna put uneccessary pressure on urself
so get urself involved in activities that u enjoy.
and before u know it u are beautiful again!
to avoid feeling ugly every now and then u have to stop thinking ugly
look at urself in d mirror and say that u are handsome ..tat really helps !
bein 17 is hard..but trust me u r gna laugh at urself for this post later in life..
:D
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Im 18 and male. Somedays i feel like im attractive, and then some days i feel like the ugliest guy in the world. It's all back and forth wishy washy... I do believe this tho.. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and not what someone else may think wether or not they may or may not seem more attractive. Live for yourself.
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I'm 20 and I've never felt like I fit in my whole life. I never felt pretty or believed people when they say I am. It's been an ongoing struggle since I entered grade school. I know I should'nt compare myself to other people but when I look at my friends and other people at my school I think "why can't I be that pretty" or "I wish my legs were that toned". I put on a front that I'm confident by wearing makeup, keeping up with the trends, etc but deep down I still feel ugly, not good enough, unwanted. I used to have acne and braces and I thought that maybe when that went away I'd feel better about myself but I don't feel any different. To make matter worse, I sweat alot like more than the average human and its been going on since I was young. I absolutely hate it! It just adds to my insecurities and the fact that I can't wear certain color clothing makes me constantly worry what people think. I've never had a bf, it doesnt bother me because I have my whole life but guys don't notice me or at least I don't think they do. I want to be that confident out going person but I'm just not. Being shy also doesnt help. I'm gradually overcoming my shyness but these insecurities, lack of self esteem are still there. I think that in order to feel pretty you have to believe it and just not worry about what people think but it's hard when no matter how hard you try you still feel ugly. I'm starting to give up on trying but at the same time I want to do things that I love to do and that make me happy. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm lost :(
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That is beautiful...... you don't know how much I really needed to hear some one say that right now.:-|
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That is beautiful...... you don't know how much I really needed to hear some one say that right now.:-|
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I feel so ugly. I'm a16 years old girl and its the last week before Christmas. people haven't called me ugly and I'm not super overweight but i just feel disgusting. Stats wise i sound great blue eyes that sometimes change to grey of green long naturally blonde hair 5'4'' 24'' waist ...I don't have any boils scars anything like that but whenever i look in the mirror or even down at myself i just feel disgusting ... like i should never even leave my room or go out in public. i have no chest at all to speak of and my friend who's actually legitimately gorgeous always teases me about it. my family says i shouldn't compare myself to her and my sister says I'm prettier but i know they're just saying it to make me feel better. i have had acne problems for years now and my skin is starting to get better but its still feels repulsive touching my own face. I don't know what to do I son't always feel like this but today I'm just horrified. it's super busy this time of year and I have tons I need to get done but i just feel like I don't even want to exist right now and I'm terrified to leave my room.
I've scanned the internet for tips dressing or doing you hair but my body type looks bad in baggy clothes and I REALLY don't want anyone to see my body right now. I need to at least get my chores done because my aunt is coming over tomorrow and my room and bathroom are a mess and my mom asked me hours ago to unload the dishwasher. it's such an easy job and requires nothing of me but to just leave my room but ican;t do it.
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OMG!! Thank-you...I feel Better And Thanks For Saying I'm Not Ugly :) You Made My Day...
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im a 15 y/o girl, and i always feel that i'm ugly. everytime i look into the mirror i always feel dissapointed of my look. even some of my friends keep tellin' me that i'm not, but i just cant stop thinking that im ugly, especially when i saw pics of pretty girls around, i tried to make my self believe that im beautiful but i failed. i often cry at night because of it.
to be honest im glad that i found this site, i could share this awful feeling...
to be honest im glad that i found this site, i could share this awful feeling...
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i am 22 , and i am litterly the real meaning of the word 'ugliness', i am just 'ugly' thats it , nothing to explain. i cant really tell you how it feel coz you cant imagine my life, imagine every f** day u go school everyone one lauthing on me , and looking me in a weard way , i just curse alone like a crazy guy, i think i will be real crazy soon , i just want to tell them ' wtf people!!! its my fault that i look this way , why the f**k u look at me like i am a monster or an allien.?!' .
THATS MY LIFE , wake up, go to school , people looking and lauthing all they way to school , when i arrice to school the students sterring me and lauthing at always , i get so made , so i leave school and go to a jungle or an empty place where i pass all day smoking . IMAGINE THIS SHIITY LIFE PLZ !!!!
i am smart student, but i didnt succed last year coz of this tards of people , i cant stand their looks and lauths.
Imagine i am losing my life and my school and my future coz of this world , this people laughts!!!! i dont know how i will live or who gonna give me money to live , coz i cant work too, PEOPLE RUINED MY LIFE
THERE IS NO SOLUTION FOR MY LIFE. and by the way i have a f****g big head , thats funny is it?? i bet u are lauthing on me too now.
i thought about suiciding alot of times but i am p***y and i could not do it . why such a nice guy like me suffer all this just coz i am ugly?? u think that is fair?? i never hurt anyone ..........why is that happeing to me
THATS MY LIFE , wake up, go to school , people looking and lauthing all they way to school , when i arrice to school the students sterring me and lauthing at always , i get so made , so i leave school and go to a jungle or an empty place where i pass all day smoking . IMAGINE THIS SHIITY LIFE PLZ !!!!
i am smart student, but i didnt succed last year coz of this tards of people , i cant stand their looks and lauths.
Imagine i am losing my life and my school and my future coz of this world , this people laughts!!!! i dont know how i will live or who gonna give me money to live , coz i cant work too, PEOPLE RUINED MY LIFE
THERE IS NO SOLUTION FOR MY LIFE. and by the way i have a f****g big head , thats funny is it?? i bet u are lauthing on me too now.
i thought about suiciding alot of times but i am p***y and i could not do it . why such a nice guy like me suffer all this just coz i am ugly?? u think that is fair?? i never hurt anyone ..........why is that happeing to me
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I am goin to be honest and straight to the point. The truth is people are attractive to physical appearances (sadly) but everyone has different meanin of what beauty is. Just like everyone has a different favorite color. The problem is media tells us whats beautiful or whats not. and thats what screw with people perspective of the truth of beauty. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. I mean look outside everyday dandiion growin or bird singing people never notice until they take the time to see it for it is,then they say wow look how beautiful that flower is or the song makes me wanna cry. To me my own meanin of beautiful is this imagine u see a palm tree growin in the middle of NYC. All eyes would be on it and why ? because its different from everything else in its enviroment. Look at fashion and even models or even actors or singers. Truly study it and u will notice its not so much their physical appearances is like everyone elses. its because their different in personality and physical appearances. Be different, be bold. ANd set DREAMs that u wanna share with the rest of the world !!!! That what beauty is !!!
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