How do I overcome the feeling I am ugly?

yea i so agree with u strupp..im soo freakin ugly that no one ever look at me n they all make fun of me.
ma gf sae im gd lookin but y ppl treat me like this???
am i that ugly? HELP



IM SOOO UGLYY I WAN KILL MASELF

plez help me or introduce sum gd plastic surgery doctor for me plezzzzzz helpppp

Most people, however they look, are self-conscious about their looks. As a guy I know that everyone has a body part that they'd like to look better. For some people it's their face. But as a mother wrote earlier, God made you how you look. No human being can love your looks more than God. God made you how you are. Also know that there are people who are "worse off" than you and people who are "better off" than you, if there is a such thing.

Let me ask you a question, if you woke up each day worried about dying from war or starvation in a third world country -- would you be concerned about how you look? If you are dying from a terminal illness, would you be worried about how your face looks?

I have a friend who complained to me today that his nose was too wide at the base towards his mouth. Schoolmates made fun of his nose and said it was BAD. I honestly disagree and I think his nose actually looks good. When I met my friend, I honestly didn't even think of his nose and I accepted him as he was. I think he also feels self-conscious about his whole face and other body parts. But I told my friend that I love every bit of my friend exactly as it is. I love my friend outside and inside his heart. He's got such a great personality, he's HILARIOUS, and has such kindness. I hope that he finds a girlfriend that is just as beautiful both inside and out. I told him that when I get married I'm not as concerned about looks as I am about personality. There are some HILARIOUS women out there for me, who are of varying appearances. I found out that I get really turned on by smart women who can smile and be funny, even if they're a little "ugly". I consider myself smart so I guess that's partly why. :-D

I think I could easily marry a woman who isn't immediately outwardly attractive. Personality and heart can really make up for any "lack" of good looks. We all tend to look for people who are of similar social backgrounds, economic status, etc anyway, so there are other factors in "beauty" than just physical looks.

Differing levels of beauty has its pro's and con's. Yes, society has some perceptions of beauty. But really the thought of beauty was created in our own minds. Apparently psychologists have found that, the more "average" your face is, the more attractive people find you. Take 1000 faces and average them out, and you'll create a "Hollywood" star.

In ancient Greece, pure white skin was considered beautiful. Fashions, trends, and opinions of beautiful change.

If you're "ugly" I'd love to hug you and assure you that you'll do just fine in life if you just stop focusing on those thoughts. Nothing turns people off more than a low self-esteem. Think of how you can better yourself mentally and physically. Maybe go to the gym or work on rounding out your experiences in life? Try some new hobbies? Increase your self esteem my friend by doing some things that make you feel good about yourself. Volunteer, workout, or start some hobby. Find some new friends who love you for exactly how you are. Find other "ugly" friends who can support you, and who you can support. Find people who are in similar or the same situations in life. I found some friends who are just as self-conscious as I am about some things. But we love each other to death because of it.

God loves you exactly how you are. When we're all dead in 100 years, does it really matter how we looked? It doesn't. Live life to the max, help your friends who have troubles, and you'll feel good about yourself. Do things that make you feel good -- like telling your friends how much you love them. I love my friends and they talk to me about being ugly. But I insist that I love them exactly as they are. They are honestly good looking in my opinion and their hearts are so great that I can't help but love them as they are. I'm self-conscious about some things too. But we can all support each other. Because in the end, it really doesn't matter. Beauty sags with time and ultimately it doesn't matter. There are greater things in life to focus on than how "inadequate" we appear. Let's do something about it if we can. If we can't, just accept it and move on. Let's help each other, and stop worrying about these things. I've been in your shoes too my friend, but keep looking for answers. Talk to a psychologist if you need to -- I did. Take care.

im ugly 20years old never had a gf all my friends did they would even makeout right in front of me or have sex. i hate social networks like myspace because they had these guys touching girls and stuff my heart cant take it.

Looking at all these stories really made me feel better.
So I'd like to explain my own because it'll probsmake other people feel better. Firstly, if you feel ugly, well, may i ask a question-do you have scarring?
Because I do and its a problem which I'm probably going to have to deal with the rest of my life. I'm a 16 year old girl who's had to deal with bad acne all of her adolescent life. Now, I have bad scarring on my face, just to make matters that much worse. So...think yourself lucky you're not in my situation!
Secondly, well, even with my problem I know that it's not the end of the world. My friends and family appreciate me, and even with the obvious faults I know I'm attractive for being who I am.
In conclusion-you probably don't have it that bad, and even if you do, we are all human, and to be be human is to be imperfect.

o.O

wanna know the truth? The truth is that all this "beauty comes from the inside" is BS and people like us are stuck with worse than the bottom if the barrel. If i could i would try to cheer you up, tell you some lie, but i know, if not more than you what its like to be the worst looking of your friends. Trust me, im better in alot of aspects, as much as i hate to say it, but im not good looking and thats what brings you down, ALWAYS. i know dude i know for a fact f**k these kids saying they know that its the inside, if it was the inside this wouldn't be a debate would it. Either accept it or give up is the only choice we got and im still debating it

im in with the ugly crowd, my family would always give the odd complement but id of course never believe them. I stare at my reflection searching for some hint of beauty, sometimes i find it but then its lost in the bages under my eyes or the size of my nose. Sometime it strays though, the beauty i see and think why was i so hard on my self i, actually i think i'm fairly good looking. It seems to change alot, up and down. In the end you cant really trust your own head. The fact is you just need to let it go don't let it be a big deal. Don't let your self be effected by prase or insult, just simply like others show genuine kindness from the understanding that everyone beats them self up everyone has pain and suffering in there life. Basically we are all in the same boat and its simply nice to have someone how understands what your going through.

p.s
sorry for the bad spelling and gramer(oh how i suck)

i'm an overly sensitive person & i know how much even little comments can damage your self-esteem loads.
today i was walking down the street, wearing yellow shoes and this guy said that they were "blinding" him, but maybe it was a good thing so he didn't have to see my face. i couldn't think of a comeback but it really stung me. i don't know if he had even seen my face!
it's just so hurtful, and even if he was trying to be cool in front of his friends it just makes me feel so ugly and rejected.
these things always seem to happen to me and not my friends even though we're all quite similar.
i feel like i'm the only one! does anyone else ever get this?

hey i'm fee, i'm 17 & i'm an overly sensitive person. i know how much even little comments can damage your self-esteem loads.
today i was walking down the street, wearing yellow shoes and this guy said that they were "blinding" him, but maybe it was a good thing so he didn't have to see my face. i couldn't think of a comeback but it really stung me. i don't know if he had even seen my face!
it's just so hurtful, and even if he was trying to be cool in front of his friends it just makes me feel so ugly and rejected.
these things always seem to happen to me and not my friends even though we're all quite similar.
i feel like i'm the only one! does anyone else ever get this?

there's also a photo of me and my friend on this website
www.bebo.com/BeforeTooLate

yah nobody's ugly and girls VOTED me the ugliest kid in the class in grade school, hey that's always fun

to be honest i think im ugly but some of my friends say that im not. I myself tried acting two different ways for two weeks at a time and i foundout that when i was quiet and mean to ppl girls avoided me. when i was nice and acted like they were my equals they talked to me and actually liked me. what im trying to say is that it is ur personality is what counts. dont act like ur superior to them or they are superior to u we r all equals. ppl who r ugly r blessed with the ability to strive for what they want causing us to grow more than ppl blessed with looks. but be mindful there r some girls and guys whom r narrow minded. try being nice but not to nice they will think u r worshipping them and b turned off.

I am sure you are not as ugly as you think, Personally I think everyone is ugly in different lighting- location and by what they wear.

I am 17 also and I cannot stand my looks, I hate myself for it, I began to overcom this by talking to randoms on webcam.. being told im not ugly and alot of people said i was "attractive".. i began to seemyself as they did and i saw what they saw... despite used to having about 100000 spots on my face, which eventually started to disapere and i didnt look half as bad. now I dont think so shitty of myself and i learnt to make the best of my features and look at others how others looked at me to help them get through rough times in confidence. Society in general is very up in arms about "perfection" and i think its all c**p.. You will feel more confident very soon im sure and laugh about it all.

I hate it when people say beauty is in the eye of the beholder or no one is ugly. I know what I see, what I feel. I have come to terms with the fact that i'm ugly. I know I am destined to a life of solitude. Being happy is overrated...

I am answering the last guest:

life is a short period of existence..to live it alone or to live it with beautiful girls is the same thing .

Beauty is personified from the inside. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We hear quotes like that all the time to make us all feel a little better. But the camera doesn't lie. If we don't look good, we just don't look good. Tests have been done, and even babies have a prebased judgement on what is or isn't attractive. You could blame the media for making people like us feel ugly, but in the end, we're not any more happier than we were at square one. So what to do.

I feel like I can relate to this post. I used to think I was pretty, but I feel really ugly now. I can't stand my pictures, and I don't like my reflection. I try to stay in shape and I get enough sleep; I drink water and do makeup and hair and stay away from the bad things, but when I look at myself, I know what I see. And I think I'm ugly, because I'm not living up to my ideal standard of what is beautiful.

To be honest though, I don't feel as bummed out about it. I guess what's more important is whether or not if you feel comfortable in your own skin. Who cares what people think-- people will always come and go. And if you're worried about the dating thing...My mom always said that in order to recieve things from others, you must be able to do it to yourself first; ie. if you want to fall in love, learn to love yourself first. That's my tidbit for you. Tc.