How do I overcome the feeling I am ugly?

btw im a girl
ive actually started to not know the difference between ugly and pretty... i even found myself saying "what a pretty person" for persons who just have good personalities
i dont know if im "ugly" or what not and frankly it doesnt matter to me... if im going to be judged by a male going by if im pretty or not then that just ownt work...
what i do is look myself in the mirror and create such a commotion about what a cool person i am... i think thats all that matters
not looks
if it helps all the pictures i take look hideous... but whats gonna change that...
embrace your "ugly" and show the world what awesome person you are (the only thing that matters)

im 14 year old girl and i have low self esteem i from the country i moved to a big city and a new school the boys would always pick on me and call me ugly at first i didnt believe them but they kept sayin it and eventually i believed it so when i move again i decided to sneak in my moms bathroom and put on her make up because i saw all the other girl wearin make up so i thought that would make me pretty i forgot to take it off one day and my mama saw it she asked me why i had it on and i couldnt tell her why i thought i was ugly because i have a mole on my face i have pimples and scars on my face to im to shy to talk to any one because i dont like lookn people in the face because they will think i am ugly andvthere is this boy that i really i am 2 shy 2 tlk 2 him in person but i txt him alot i think he likes me but im to scared to ask because boybonly like girls for the way they look and boys mostly like thick girls and im skinny please help me i dont know what 2 do

I also have really low self-esteem and it does not look like that I can ever get rid of it either. My parents and siblings always tell me that I'm cute and all that stuff, but I never believe them. I know they say such things just to make me happy; they know about my low self-esteem. It's very sweet of them to give compliments, but their kinds words go in one ear and out the other. I've never heard from anybody else that I look cute for what feels like 10 years. I think it started at the age of 13... Before that I never had a single complex about my appearance. After 12 years of age, I went up in weight. My thighs and stomach got rounder. I got pimples, dark circles under the eyes, uneven eyebrows, hair that grew on the upper lip and a bunch of other nasty things. Before that I was the popular girl in the class, who radiated self-confidence and happiness. Now I neither radiates beauty on the inside or outside. Sadly, I am not only ugly but also unintelligent, almost embarrassingly stupid. It feels like I suck at everything. I'm often very slow-witted and I never dare to raise my hand at a lesson, afraid I will not get the sums (or whatever). That happened once. Brr... Sometimes I feel really useless and hide myself in a blanket and try to forget that I exist. The last four or five years I have lived in isolation in my room. I have no friends (except my siblings) because people outside the family never get to know me when I am always so withdrawn and shy. In the event they get bored with me and forget about me. I had a boyfriend when I was ten years old but we were more like friends than a couple, so I do not know if that counts... We didn't even kiss. But it feels like everyone is disgusted with me when I walk by... I guess it's a part of being a teenager. But I hate it. I really hope I'm gonna get over it a beautiful day... ;-)

I am ugly too, I am 21, i have hair loss and am almost balding. I dont have good skin,my nose is fat. i have very light eyebrows, and big forehead, sometime s i look like a man with a wig...almost.
am 5' 3, not slim, my boobs are big tho, my feet are big, even bigger than my brothers!! and the worst part is people stare at them as if they have spotted something unusual.

Some people have even tried telling me am not beautiful. !@@$#$$%#$

i have been in relationship with several guys before who said I was 'beautiful', but somehow i felt that was the last thing from the truth. or perhaps i look good because i am good at other things -studies, music, dance.

on the outside, I stand proud, with a 'i dont care a @#!% what you think' attitude, and pass by people like i was the most hottest looking thing on the planet. and that confidence manages to grab attention sometimes.

but deep inside i know the truth that am not beauitful It crushes me. it makes me wanna go invisible mode. or worse die. or sometimes kill people who make me feel so UGLY!

I cringe with pain to be ignored, it hurts really hurts!!

But i want to tell you I have a bf, who is very hot, genuine and cares for me. I don't know how it happened, but i must thank god i got such a great guy, he chose me over several hot looking tramps. I must be something special.
but sometimes even though he tells am beautiful, i don't seem to think i am.

I feel all this inner beauty is all sh*t, all guys want model bodies, pretty faces.

I dont understand us women have vaginas and you have penises so why the hell can't we get along???
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I've done all I can do make myself feel proud and confident of my exterior.

However, I realized with my facial structure and nose that it is an obvious waste of time.

Of course, I am equally suspect of the term "inner beauty" in that I do not find it mutually exclusive with easily finding a love-interest.

Nonetheless, I am developing the best and most caring personality I can; even more, I spend more time studying and cultivating passions than worrying about my face.

I say all this after having tried to kill myself five times.

There is more to life if you try; and I know that effort in this day and age is extremely difficult, but never impossible.

And in the end it does'nt really matter :-D

I feel like the uglyest man on earh, and that aint beacuse I am fat or to skinny, or whatever, its like everyone else, when I look at a picture of myself I just get amazingly deppresed, however it gives me strength somehow, give a man some big ears and some weird hair and his capible of anything, it dosent make it any better that I am ultra deppresed. I am 1.88, got small eyes, brown blond hair, joker teeth, and a long face, my lips are thick, and I just.... ugh, I mean I was thinking if I was a girl I would never kiss me, still I dont know that.

hey, i'm 15,

and well i believe that it is the people around you that really influence how you see yourself.

i have a best friend who is extremely insecure about how she looks, but i think she is really pretty as girls go.
yet, she constantly compares herself to all the girls at school. and i tell her that if everyone looked the same it would be so boring!
she is really pretty thin, she has lovely long blonde hair and big blue eyes and a little cute bunch of freckles across her nose (which she despises). she is your classic cutie. but she feels like some kind of grotesque monster!

i tell her she is gorgeous, because she is, but she thinks i am telling her out of sympathy. she is so consumed by feeling ugly that sometimes she cries, or feels like she has nothing to wear because all her clothes look ugly on her. she always frets about how "fat" she is, yet i am much much heavier, but she says i look great. she feels she will never be loved by another person because she is so ugly, but she really ISN'T ugly.

my family are always extremely complimentary of my looks, and i feel this gave me confidence. i think confidence is really important,
because for a while i felt really really ugly too, but didn't talk to anyone about it. there were a lot of factors, my weight, being all horrible and spotty, my growing confusion about my sexuality, being really short and i just felt that people didn't really know me anymore. when i look in the mirror, i still think "yuck". i have a wonderful girlfriend now, she tells me i am good looking often, though sometimes i highly don't believe her, haha. but it makes me feel okay to know that she loves me for what i am, all little flaws and imperfections included! but i have grown to love what i have, and whilst i think i could lose a few pounds here and there, i am always just going to be me, and there is a hell of a lot more fun in life than caring if your nose is a funny shape, or if your eyes are too far apart!

there will be someone just dying to meet you and if you are friendly or have a really distinctive laugh or smile, or are just plain really nice to talk too, or are a good listener or share interests with people, they will be drawn to you. go join a group about something you are interested in, just try and socialise with people who share the same viewpoints and ideas as your own. confidence and a smile really does you a lot of favours. me as a person, i find i am drawn to people with awesome personalities rather than what they look like. i think it is so superficial to only like people who are supposedly "of your own league". there is no such thing! because if you never start a conversation with said person because you believe you are not "worthy" of them, how do you suppose there is any way to become their friend? you really can not judge a book by it's cover! get talking to people!

i have found that any friend that doesn't make you feel good or positive about yourself isn't a friend worth having.
there are so many lovely people out there who will love you for all that you are.
i hope this helps someone.

Don't feel like that. Im 18 and think im ugly to i have big ears freckels, little lips so little that i don't look good in lipstick. I tried it on before and everyone else commented on my bff's lipstick and not me they looked at me like....Ewww shes a boy.
I never had boys even dare to look at me. All my 2 boyfriends i had cheated on me all becuase maybe becuase i was ugly. I hate myself sometimes my teachers and family don't understand they say im pretty. But they don't undertstand >;) :'( thats how I FEEL
Thats MY OPINION. How can i get pass it im bi sexual now but should i change into a lesbain all becuase i think im ugly?
and i feel you but noone is ugly the only time someone is ugly is inside of them if only they mean and rude.

im 17 now and im content with my looks i never used to be but i learnt from a young age that hardly anyone is happy with the way they look as they always look at the negative aspects and never the positive i mean even models feel less attractive when they compare there selfs to others and end up geting plastic surgery done 2 enhance there looks. Beyonce had surgery done on her and she is aparantly one of the most beautiful women in the world. My point is this dont think aout your negative points just focus on your poisitives. Also i really think personality is way more important then looks, a guy has to be funny and he will be able to pull a girl easily. and girls can do it to by being kind ans thing. i lost the girl i love to a person who i used to think was ugly and i was so so sure i was better looking but it turned out he cud make her laugh more then me. focus on your personality, if you have a nnice personality your looks wil not be a issue.

well i guess i am the ugliest person on earth.may be the ugliest one in all the space.so think abt this and be happy.nobody can be much uglier than me, i bet.swear.

i'm ugly and it sucks..... i cry over it because i have a bestfriend that is truely beautiful and she gets all the attention and i'm just left there to be ugly alone! I cut myself over it :$ its that bad i know you find this pathetic but its the right thing to do and i dont reccomend it to ANYONE! i feel when my teeth wll be straighter i will be prettier but i know it wont help.... sorry to bore you but i need to get it off my chest, i bet you're not that ugly anyway.. :-D unlike me :'( byee x

i feel the same i'm 18 and i just feel so dam ugly!
it never really bothered me that much before until i seen my bf
texting some other girl sayin how she was making him turned on :/ :'(
it upset me loads we have been together two years now and this happened
about a year ago since then it started to build up in my head why can't i have the
perfect face!! then my bf posted on his facebook 'the top 5 people he would definilty do'
when i seen it i just cried for ages it just made me sad that i cant lool like them girls
blonde big boobs perfect faces :-(
and why there is pretty and ugly why is so much importance placed on this!
i can do something about the way my body looks, i can excersise and tone
but my face is just so ugly! recently me and my bf had a fall out because
i always pull away from him when we watch telly and preety girls come on
i just hate it so i just move away from him, i love him so much and would hate to
not have him in my life so i will just need to learn to accept the way that i look!

Hey I'm 23 yrs old and I have had breast augmentation and a nose job done to make me look prettier, but I had those surgeries done when I was only 18yrs old and now I feel like I didn't really need those surgeries and I look at pictures of me when I was younger and I say hey I wasn't really that bad I just had a bad image of myself and I had a lot of problems when I was younger with family and abuse and I took it out on myself. I made myself feel uglier than I was and now I'm older and looks don't even matter to me most guys who look good are cheaters, have no personality or humor and I'm not interested in them. Self image is everything focus more on being a good person and having a good personality in the end that is what is going to get the kind of girl you want and that is what will make you happy. Keep your head up

:( I ALWAYS think that i am fat and ugly and i also think it is true as my bf dumped me for my bestfriend and everyone thinks she is pretty ugly :( what shall i do. i really liked my bf aswell[/list]