How do I overcome the feeling I am ugly?

hey...nobody is ugly...and i mean NOBODY!!! I THINK im ugly,but people always say im pretty, I dont BRAG about myself...i BAG on myself...my guy friend, shane, once told me that i was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen, and then he asked me out...so i guess im pretty, but i still think im ugly, reason being, 2 months later he met this new girl, she was HOT...and he broke up with me and got with her...pretty sad...Have you ever seen the movie beastly??? ITs a good movie about beauty within the heart...

-Scarlet

I'm ugly and proud. Join the rest of us.

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All my life I know I am ugly - "Ugly" was my nickname when I was younger.

Anyway, by some miracle, I have reached my 40s and am married to one of the handsomest guys, who often gets looks from people like 'What the hell is he doing with her?". He is the only person in my life who has ever called me beautiful. My parents and sister all think I am ugly and have never said I look pretty/cute/ beautiful in all my life.

I also have two kids - a 16 yr old boy whom everyone says is so handsome, and an 11 yr old girl whom everyone calls a beauty. I have been happily married for close to 20 years and everyone always tells me how much my husband loves me by his behavior towards me.

I know I am still ugly and some days are worse than others. I would be dressing for work and refuse to look at my face. I just repeat to myself, "Don't look, don't think, just be presentable" over and over until I am finished.

I often worry that one day my husband will finally realize that I am ugly - though it hasn't happened yet. Sometimes I even think something is wrong with him if he can see me as beautiful.

But for the most part I enjoy my life and accept what I have been given, maybe as compensation for being ugly.

hi well u just have to become friends with the cool kids at school and then u will think that your one of the hottest guys on the planet

As I continue to live, I go through "ugly/pretty" periods where I feel that I am either attractive and I thank my family for my genetic balance or hideous where I would kill for a chance to be Model Material. I'm also gay so the looks dependency grows bigger. I adore fashion and it SUCKS that I can't wear what I want because of what I think because I am chubby. I too, sir, dread that I wont get where I want to be in my life. I wont find love.... blah blah blah ect. I think we just need to pull ourselves out of this. We need to become "Better versions of me." We can work out and get hair cuts, but we can also just be. Thank about what is beautiful like rain boots and the fact that we CAN feel, rather than the ugly. Lets shine like the sun and love with the knowledge that we are not promised tomorrow, or even the next hour.

I'm ugly really ugly pictures proove it and I hav tried everything there is just nothing u can do about sorry

I'm not fat, but I'm very skinny and i got an ugly face. I'm 20 and I just can't stand looking at my face in the mirror, just once i'd like to look at my reflection and see someone attractive but i just can't. And it gets even worse with pictures, I can't look good in a single picture, I look even worse than in the mirror. The other day i wanted to change my facebook profile pic and I had to take around 20 pictures just to look half-decent. this really bums me out and i can rarely walk around without remembering i'm ugly :(

you are all pretty no ones prefect your beautiful  :-D

hi,

the original post is from 2007 but i'm just gonna give my opinion for those who have googled "i am ugly" (like myself hehe) and came accross this site :P

if you think you're ugly do something about it; go learn about make-up/fashion/best hair style for your face shape/dieting tips. There's lots of sources you can get to online (especially youtube.) If you think you're fat do exercise... if you think you have bad acne do everything you can to find the best acne solution out there...

that's what i tell myself whenever i feel ugly... i just do something about it and it makes me feel a little better :) right now i feel fat... i think i'm gonna indulge for a bit eat as much shite as i want then tomorrow i'll go to the pool and work it off haha. This post may come accross as quite shallow;i may even come accross as shallow. But i feel like we live in a society which, in general, finds appearance as the first and foremost aspect we notice about a person... so i've always thought meh if you can't bet em - join em! haha

"there aren't any ugly people in the world... just lazy ones"

HI there you know why I AM UNgly what should i do i what pretty plz

Im 14 years old, and whenver i look in the mirror, i just want to be someone else. i want to be pretty, but im not. my nose is way too big, i have no striking features, my hair is thin and boring, but most of all, i hate hate hate hate hate my nose. i really want a nose job, but my says 18 years old is the youngest age i can get one. but for once in my life, i just want to think, just once, "damn im pretty"

You get home and turn on the tv. first thing u see is a commercial with this really pretty girl in it. "i wish i cud b her" is ur first thought. You second thought is "i hate her". thesse two reactions are normal. Before I continue on with this, let me explain what I call the "media attraction" cycle.

1) a company produces a commercial with insanely beautiful girls that you wouldn't find in real life to try to get men to buy their product. 2) men get ridiculously high expectations as to what a girl should look like from the media. 3) girls recognize #2 and become obsessed with what they look like and wish they were as pretty as the girls in the media.

Sadly, this is what happens. People always say "it doesn't matter what you look like, it only matters what's on the inside." i wish this was true. but its not. Mankind these days puts so much judgement on physical appearance. For example, a pretty girl and an ugly girl both drop their purse at the mall. A boy picks up the pretty girls purse for her. no one picks up the ugly girls purse.

It's like evolution gone to far. The only reason people are attracted to one another is for species survival and mating. but that doesn't even matter anymore. Mankind's population will never fall down to extinction. Let me explain more of the attraction stuff. People are attracted to certain attributes that will help the species become better. for example, a woman is attracted to a muscular man because he can hunt for her, and her children might become muscular, thus a better survival. But as I said earlier, it doesn't matter. Mankind won't become extinct very soon.

This all explains the thouhts in the first paragraph. You wish you could be the beautiful girl so people would naturally like you. Then you hate her because your jelouse.

And as I said before, men usually like prettier girls better. But that's okay. If a guy's shallow enough not to like you because your not as pretty as the next girl, then that's fine. You wouldn't want to date a guy like that. You want to date a guy that likes you for your personality; not just looks.

So what can we do about this? We can't trick society into thinking that looks don't mean that you should go get plastic surgery, but maybe a haircut or a makeover will help. What I mean by making yourself pretty is not by being 'as beautiful as the other girls and every guy will like you" but trying to make yourself prettier will raise your self esteem. Because if YOU think you're pretty, then none of this really matters.

I'm sorry for making thise the length of an article. I just wanted someone to read my opion. :-| :-)

i'm 13 i am in year 8 every one calls me uguly i have red hair people make me feal so down about myself i dont know what to do no one says you look pretty my 2 friends only hang around me beacuse they feal sorry for me because evry one make fun of me i dont know what to do anymore

I was the ugliest kid in my school. I was super duper short and anorexic. didn't have any friends and everybody would bully me. I only started dating when I was 17 because no one was interested in me before that and even that guy left me for my cousin. four years later I'm a part time model and everybody wants to be my friend. I'm considered very pretty now, but that didn't happen until I believed I was pretty. love yourself, be confident and everybody will love you. its as simple as that :)