How do I overcome the feeling I am ugly?

i'm 21 years old and i have ALWAYS felt ugly. I constantly look in the mirror looking at ways to improve myself, but no matter what i do, i still feel ugly.I have been with the same guy now for almost 2 years. You would think by now that i would see what he sees in me, but i don't. I wonder why he's even with me. All his ex girlfriends are gorgeous there is no comparison between us. It's hard knowing that he's dated all these beautiful girls, and now hes with me, the ugly one. I just don't know how to make myself feel pretty or even the slightest bit attractive. My insecurities are getting so bad, that i fear i will loose him.

Tbh, I Think beauty Comes From Confidence. My Friends All Have Confidence Where As I Haven't. And Going Out With Your Friends And All Them Getting 'Chatted Up' Can Have A Negative Effect On Yourself. But Dont Let That Think Your Ugly. Its You Yourself That Think Your Ugly. So Get Some Confidence Sweetie :)

I know what it's like dude. Compared to my beautiful friends I am the ugly one out of all of them. And I'm the chubbiest too. Im not fat, my friends are just all...well gorgeous. I've learnd to live with it, and the fact is if i just be myself and have fun then i will shine. There's always someone out there who is in love with your smile, so don't go around frowning. If you believe you are beautiful you will be.

I can totally relate to this feeling...and I thought I would get over feeling ugly as I grew older and--supposedly--more mature...I'm now 27yrs old, but I feel like that 15 year-old kid with pimples, thick glasses, and a funny accent...When I lived back home in Somalia, surrounded by my own black people, I still felt like the odd one out on account of my sexuality...When we moved to the Netherlands, living in a small border town with Germany, my white school mates and neighbours were mostly racist and made me feel so ugly, calling me the N-word and other nasty words...This happened when I was eight and has stuck with me my whole life...But it got worse when we moved to Toronto, Canada, and not because of racism per se, but because puberty hit me like a freight train at full speed...pimples, pimples, damn pimples! and glasses, and having to learn yet another new language at such a vulnerable age, feeling isolated, feeling gay, feeling black, feeling Muslim, feeling like everything about me was just wrong...God, how many times have I prayed for a miracle? Please, God, let me be straight, let me be white, let me be English, let me be handsome, just let me be "normal"...of course, now I understand my insecurities are a product of my environment, not something internal to me...knowing about history, about this eurocentric world of ours, this frigging world so in love with being white and male and straight...well, knowing all that doesn't help very much...I still feel ugly, odd, different, but at least I understand where it all comes from...

I hate feeling ugly. But the truth is beauty is in the eye of the beholder... I feel ugly, but I really am not. Im popular and if anyone who goes to my school or has gone there says my name, they all no me. Im in great shape and will get a college scholarship, I have parties that are well attended, and i have had 5 girlfriends. I am 16 years old, and still feel this bad about my looks.... its been years. Ive been called "hot" and "cute" by alot of girls, and i still cant help but dislike the way i look.... im not my own taste... i really need some help... i dont no how to feel good, even tho i can feel kinda confident....help?

Im 16 and i can definately relate to this. I have been told im pretty but thats from my friends and i am assured they are just saying that cos they feel sorry for me. Everyone thinks im weird but im not gonna change that. I am only 16 yet i have really bad stretch marks on my hips and breasts ( and no i have not had a baby) i have cellulite all down my legs and i am pretty sure i am chubby. i weigh 9st and a half and i hate it. i can't go swimming ever again because i feel physically sick knowing people can see me. yet when i see others that are bigger than me i think they look fine. I have never seen anyone i would call ugly but myself. However when i go out i fake my confidence and both boys and just friends like that. so just try and forget about what you look like and be confident talk to who ever you want if they reject you or call you ugly they are such idiots you should feel sorry for them. NO ONE IN THIS WORLD IS OUT OF ANYONE'S LEAGUE and i strongly believe that..

Well I also have this problem, its not the fact that im ugly its that i have yellow eye. Every time I look a someone I think that they is looking at my eyes thinking that something wrong with me. Then I realized that you think that they thinking about your problem (hair,face,Etc...) and you don't want no one to see talk about you so you avoid contact, when really the person not thing about the problem.....


what im trying to say is be you, dont worry about what someone may be thinking about you, the fact is most of the time there not, don't let yourself miss out on anything because you can be missing alot


I learned That Not So Long Ago

I am a mother and want like most mothers to teach my daughter to love herself exactly the way she is. My word of advice to her always is: "you are who you are. There is no one else in this world like you. You are unique and this is the way God made you". I hope this helps others feel better about themselves.

Im 16 male.
Sometimes i feel really really ugly and sometimes i feel good looking and happy with how i look. I think that i feel ugly because of low confidence mainly as very few ppl have told me im ugly. I look in the mirror a lot because im insecure about how i look and im kindof judging myself.

but i think that looks arnt really that important especially for men, women would prefer confidence and personality to a pretty face. well thats my view = )

I've never been good looking,I am ugly,people do like me.I'm funny and nice.
Sometimes its just not enough i know how you feel you're 17 you probably like a beatiful girl and she doesnt even talk to you.Its not your fault world isnt fair you can blame the god for that and still you should be thankful atleast you're not handicapped or something.Right?

Some people are less attractive and other people are more attractive. Some are rich and some are poor. It is the rules of life and you just have to accept it. Being less attractive also has its positive side. Less attractive people usually have a more pleasant and sensitive personality and usually are more hardworking and mentally stonger than attractive people because they have gone through a lot more difficult times. Just accept how you look and live life the best you can! You are worth it! And happily 4 us God loves us so much just as we are!

Having read your plea I was initially shocked, your description is an exact one of me. Well, I am here to shed some truths on the subject.

Brief Introduction:

I have had BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder) and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) problems since the age of six. I believe myself to be too ugly to be loved and will constantly find new ways to criticize - and sometimes comfort - myself. My world has become nothing more than a self-centred paranoid delusion of sorts, as I constantly believe that all people are judging me; consequently, I will judge myself in any reflective surface anywhere up to fifty times a day. Love is beyond my grasp, as I am not worthy enough of any man or woman; instead, I find myself desperate for an escape from my own self-induced loneliness. I am on the edge of reason, my analytical logic has led to me consider only two possible truths: 1) I am irrational, or, 2) I am rational. Let me discuss both.

1) I am irrational.

This would be open relief for any individual with low self-esteem problems but would not eradicate the long-term neuroses that have festered in the minds of the weak. There is only one solution.

2) I am rational.

Complete and numb-inducing despair is the reaction. A fatalistic attitude is adopted, due to the innoperability of this particular illness - socially verified ugliness. Most likely suicide or a nihilistic decline in one's quality of life is the most probable outcome; but from here, may I remind you there is only one more solution.

The Solution.

"Man believes that the world itself is filled with beauty- he forgets that it is he who has created it. He alone has bestowed beauty upon the world- alas! only a very human, an all too human, beauty." (Friedrichs Nietzsche)

Both claims have the same solution; to overcome the triviality of one's own pitiful existence. Beauty is an abstraction, and like all things is a form in the mind of the sapient being. We apply our conceptions of form unto a chaotic universe; and likewise, we have been bullied into perceiving chaos through the eyes of our neighbours.

FIRST! If your neighbour is pathetic, disregard him/her.

SECOND! Be strong, and overcome with grace the plague that has beset yourself.

THIRD! Pursue new and more life-affirming levels of existence.

This the good man shall teach his son, and all remnants of a pitiful former life shall be shed in the brilliance of your new awakening. By drafting your mind to other concerns, you shall forget your self-hatred and abandon all mental and physical inhibitions.

It is likely that your neighbours - the ones you idolize - are weaker than you. Come to accept your own ego; and, by doing so realize that they and you both share this humble condition. Both neighbour and self are not elegant but brutish and disgusting creatures; and, that in that foul state, lies the very construction of beauty.

hi my name is olivia i am 16 yrs old and i dont know weather i am ugly or pretty. :-(



when i walk down the street i have a minimum of 1 boy a day asking me for my number (no lie) :-D

But den today this boi that i av known since primary school (nd i havent spoken 2 in ages) who i av only just started to talk to him again.

our friendship is goin fine and we a growing more fond of each over we decide to meet up and hangout (he claims dat e has seen me before whilst e woz on a bus) so i go to bromely and he says that he carnt come and luckily i wasnt by myself so me and my friend decided to do some shopping and we were shopping and then i get a text from this boy asking me were i am and i fort well y do you need to know that so i egnorged it and carried on shopping. and then i woz in a shop and i saw him with one of the boys who i hate . and we both saw each other but then him and the other boy started to run and that carried on until i got fed up and left bromely. i then get to belligham and he calls me and askes where i am and i said that i am in belligham and he was like dont lie and hung up the phone.

he then texts me asking me to delete his number and i replied ok. he then text me hurry up and do that your ugly .


i know it was a long story but you wouldnt have understood if i had jus said a boy called me ugly and now im upset.

what i didnt understand was if he had seen me before that then why didnt he tell me to delete his number then??? %-)

now i feel like all boys i know are thinking that im ugly and that they only talk to me because they feel sorry for me !!!!! :'( :'( :'(


but know his life is going to be over when i next see him.
he is a dead man walking. :-S >;) >:( >:( >;) :-S

Hello,

i know wot u all meen, sometimes someone can really knock your confidence and mood, so much you feel you've lost any hope of ever looking in the mirror and being happy with what you see.

Im 20 now and during school i was bullied on and off about my looks,called scabby, and various nasty confidence crushing names. i had large thighs, pale spotty skin on my face, wonky teath, which i needed a brace on for 5 YEARS because of, and frizzy hair, that not even a hairdresser or straitners could solve at the time! so i had to wear it slicked back in a bun to hide it from teasing kids!

i was always the uglyest one out of all my friends, and the one that never seemed to get the boys!

then during college i was the fat pregnant girl, still with a brace, and still with my hair slicked back in a bun!

when i left college and had my son, shortly after gr8 straitners came out and i had a good haircut started straitning my hair, wearing nice clothes, lost loads of w8 and had a nic figure, started wearing makeup and making an effort with myself, then my brace came of. i got happy and confident.

now three years later with a difrent boyfriend of 2 years and its gon again! excema has flaired up aound my nose, which is itchy, cracking and red, ive started getting spot breakouts, gained wieght, and my hair is looking dry due to all the straitning.

but believe this!......thats not wot took my confidence away from me, my boyfriend did, he rarely tells me he loves me anymore and doesnt seem to long for me, need me or be attracted to me anymore, but to top that he referd to my face as SCABBY :-( :-( when he saw me with no makeup on so now i fl like nt only do i not wnt to be looked at but also i dont want him to c me with no makeup on.

im a 15 year old boy and i have often felt depressed or upset by my looks. A key thing to remember when you feel ugly or down about your looks is that their are people out there that are really deformed, disabled, bling, deaf, and people that dont have long to enjoy life. So when you next look in the mirror just think to yourself that i am lucky that i can do things for my self, i am lucky i can even walk down the street and im lucky to be me. In my experience i also learnt that a lot of people are fond of me because of my personality and sense of humour and they have accepted me for being me and love me for being me and they would have me any other way so why should i want to be any other way. BE PROUD TO BE YOU !! EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN UNIQUE QUALITITIES