Heeja everyone. I am a 19-year-old male who is also struggling with physical appearance. This is one of the main causes for my Social Anxiety Disorder and depression for which I am now treated. My low self esteem is preventing me from doing a lot of things I used to enjoy, just because there are other people out there. In fact, I don't feel ugly, I feel like an abomination. I don't see much stuff to improve and still feel ugly, whether most other people can in fact improve a lot by exercise or stuff.
But even now, there are people who like me. Probably not love me, but still willing to hang out. And I believe there isn't a single person on this world who can't have friends because everyone is rejecting him or her based on looks. I can honestly say that because I will be your friend, even though I don't know you yet. And it is said a thousand times before, but your outer beauty is nothing compared to your inner beauty. Being ugly has a positive side to it as well. People will like you for who you are, not for what you look like. And that is a foundation on which you can built a lot more than a friendship based on looks. Looks will fade in time, and people depending on those are left with nothing, while inner beauty will last.
And try to remember what you have besides looks. Some of you will be good at sports, others at maths, science, electronics, computers, philosophy, hiking, helping people, etc. I always say to myself that good looks will help you get laid, and being ugly will help you find true love. I will choose the latter every day, so I guess I'm lucky for being ugly :-). And the fun part is, feeling good, even though you are finding yourself ugly, will make you beautiful. The people I know with the most friends aren't the pretty ones, but those who have this glow of positivity around them. Those who want to be your friend, even though you are ugly, and no matter what. And the best part is that anyone can be one of those rare "happy people".
Take care everyone :-)
But even now, there are people who like me. Probably not love me, but still willing to hang out. And I believe there isn't a single person on this world who can't have friends because everyone is rejecting him or her based on looks. I can honestly say that because I will be your friend, even though I don't know you yet. And it is said a thousand times before, but your outer beauty is nothing compared to your inner beauty. Being ugly has a positive side to it as well. People will like you for who you are, not for what you look like. And that is a foundation on which you can built a lot more than a friendship based on looks. Looks will fade in time, and people depending on those are left with nothing, while inner beauty will last.
And try to remember what you have besides looks. Some of you will be good at sports, others at maths, science, electronics, computers, philosophy, hiking, helping people, etc. I always say to myself that good looks will help you get laid, and being ugly will help you find true love. I will choose the latter every day, so I guess I'm lucky for being ugly :-). And the fun part is, feeling good, even though you are finding yourself ugly, will make you beautiful. The people I know with the most friends aren't the pretty ones, but those who have this glow of positivity around them. Those who want to be your friend, even though you are ugly, and no matter what. And the best part is that anyone can be one of those rare "happy people".
Take care everyone :-)
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Last year,I was a total mess.I was always "the shy girl",but I became even more shy.This happened because my best friends at middle school started saying that I'm chubby and commented my body,ever time they had the chance to talk to me.Once,I was at my best friends house with another friend and she offered us some cakes.She said in a teasing voice to me :"Take some,we all know your an expert in food."This really hurt my feelings,and I wasn't even that much larger than they were.I had a bigger body and everything but I didn't consider myself fat,until they made me believe it.For a couple of months,I listened to their comments,daily.My confidence shrunk and I no longer had respect for myself.That's when,one day I woke up and decided it was enough!I started following a strict diet and exercised daily-even 5x a day!
I took everything too seriously,and I basically starved myself.I lost a couple of pounds,and I was really exhausted.But I felt much better with my body.The thing that started bothering me again,that when I lost all those extra pounds,no one noticed that.They just stopped criticizing me!I haven't heard any fat jokes about me for less than a year,and I'm pretty happy about that :)
And I got rid of my "pimple problem".I started using a product called "Zorac" and it really helped!So,in august,I'm starting my first year in high school!I'm really excited,because all the mean people I called "friends" won't be going with me.I know that there will always be people that will judge me and tell me that I'm not beautiful,but I'm building my self-esteem back,and frankly,I don't care about anyone's opinion ^^
The best tip I can give to those people that think that their ugly and have similar problems as I did:
You are beautiful,no matter what the others say! :D Look into the mirror and say:"I am beautiful,the others are all jealous!"...then make a huge smile!If nothing helps,try to hide those imperfections of yours,with make-up,clothing,etc.REMEMBER!No one's perfect,and neither are you!Crooked nose,weird ears,squinty eyes...We were made like that,so we couldn't be equal :) Everyone's a unique individual,and you are who you are.Beautiful outside,and inside. :D :D
I took everything too seriously,and I basically starved myself.I lost a couple of pounds,and I was really exhausted.But I felt much better with my body.The thing that started bothering me again,that when I lost all those extra pounds,no one noticed that.They just stopped criticizing me!I haven't heard any fat jokes about me for less than a year,and I'm pretty happy about that :)
And I got rid of my "pimple problem".I started using a product called "Zorac" and it really helped!So,in august,I'm starting my first year in high school!I'm really excited,because all the mean people I called "friends" won't be going with me.I know that there will always be people that will judge me and tell me that I'm not beautiful,but I'm building my self-esteem back,and frankly,I don't care about anyone's opinion ^^
The best tip I can give to those people that think that their ugly and have similar problems as I did:
You are beautiful,no matter what the others say! :D Look into the mirror and say:"I am beautiful,the others are all jealous!"...then make a huge smile!If nothing helps,try to hide those imperfections of yours,with make-up,clothing,etc.REMEMBER!No one's perfect,and neither are you!Crooked nose,weird ears,squinty eyes...We were made like that,so we couldn't be equal :) Everyone's a unique individual,and you are who you are.Beautiful outside,and inside. :D :D
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Nobody in this world is ugly. I don't know if you're a Christian, but I am, and in the Bible, it says that God created us in His image. So we are all beautiful. God's creation is always beautiful, never ugly. There is no such thing as ugly. People just made up that concept to justify those who don't have perfect skin or perfect hair, and so on. It's normal for people who are in their teen years to feel insecure about their physical looks. Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and I think, "Hmm, I wish I looked like her.." But I realized that I am beautiful no matter what others say or others think because beauty comes from the inside. Lift your head up and be confident! :-) Don't try to change yourself; be confident in your own skin. I have so much more to say, but I'll stop. :-) Hope this helped!
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Plastic surgery is just putting a bandaid on the problem. Did you know that most people who get plastic surgery get it again and again? Very few people only get one surgery. And it's sad becasue it's a self esteem problem, not a looks issue. Have you thought about seeing a therapist to work through self esteem issues? There's no shame in it. I went to a therapist for awhile to get help. Do you think you'd ever try that?
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iam not ugly but not pretty
i get called fat but tbh im not im normal
i have ugly days and pretty days
& im only 12
i get called fat but tbh im not im normal
i have ugly days and pretty days
& im only 12
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I'm glad to hear that you've got a good attitude about it. I'm not ugly or pretty either. I have a lot of good friends, I'm pretty happy, and I have a good job. I hope you know that when you get to be my age, you'll be the same way, okay?
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I feel like I am one of the ugliest people on the planet--one couldn't create an uglier Mister Potatohead on purpose. When I look in the mirror not so bad, but when I see my photos I am almost in shock to see how ugly I am. The weird thing is I have a fiancee that is one of the most beautiful and attractive women on the planet. And she truly seems to love me (even though I can't imagine how this is possible). I am beautiful on the inside but I try to honestly access everything and therefore have to ask, how can a person be this ugly on the exterior? If there is a God does he hate me or should my parents just never have gotten together as a potential for such extreme ugliness existed? I am so ugly I consider blowing my brains out so no one and myself will have to look at me but I am so in love with my fiancee... I even feel like I would be doing her a favor by killing myself so she wouldn't have to be with such a monster... I am !@#$ed up I know but the sad part is as I said I am honest. Don't expect any advice to help, just sort of venting. When your ugly and you know it and got the face to show it (and can't hardly stand to look at yourself) what do you do?
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to be truthful no-one is ugly wheather you think it or not, i've always thought i was ugly and i think that compliments are what make you seem more beautiful... when i was in primary i was ugly as, man. believe me i know but i never got a single compliment at all which made me feel ugly, now i've gone up to secondary school i get more compliments and it boosts my confidence and the more i think of what people say to me the more prettier i feel. i know i'm a girl but it's the same thing for everything, just ask your friends to stick by you and help you feel like i do now. i hope this helped you :-) x x x
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Hey don't worry about it im 17 to and i think i'm ugly but everyone tells me i'm hot. iv'e only had 3 real boyfriends in my life and never had sex. everyone's like oh kaelyn ur so hot ur not ugly don't say that i go yea right ur funny. i only feel this way cuz i was called ugly all the time and made fun of in middle school those years were horriable and i have no self esstem i put my self down all the time. so don't worry ur not the only person who thinks there ugly :-(
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i totally know how you feel im fourteen and hate how i look even my friends tell me and they're right about me im always the one in the group without a boyfriend every one always asks why there is never a good picture of me whcih is kindda annoying lol even my teacher the other day started laughing and i asked her what she was laughing at and she said every time she looks at my face she cant help but laugh and feel sorry for me :(
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Hi there, having a boyfriend doesn't mean that you're pretty. In fact, usually at your age, boys will just date a girl who will have sex with them. Trust me, I am 25 and I've never been in a relationship and I'm not an ugly guy. It doesn't mean anything, okay? Just be happy being who you are and someone else will see that too. Okay?
i totally know how you feel im fourteen and hate how i look even my friends tell me and they're right about me im always the one in the group without a boyfriend every one always asks why there is never a good picture of me whcih is kindda annoying lol even my teacher the other day started laughing and i asked her what she was laughing at and she said every time she looks at my face she cant help but laugh and feel sorry for me :(
Hi there, having a boyfriend doesn't mean that you're pretty. In fact, usually at your age, boys will just date a girl who will have sex with them. Trust me, I am 25 and I've never been in a relationship and I'm not an ugly guy. It doesn't mean anything, okay? Just be happy being who you are and someone else will see that too. Okay?
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There are so many girls in the world who think they are ugly. It makes me want to cry. The media put so much focus into the super perfect models that girls think that they have to look like them to be pretty. And boys too. Some other responses talked about inner-beauty. I know from experience that even if people tell you you're a great person and you have inner beauty you want to look beautiful on the outside too. My whole life I've been extremely shy. I don't have much self confidence. And I just wanted to say that for every person out there that feels bad about the way they look or themselves, you're not alone. The average person is not a model. There just normal. You may feel like everyone around you is prettier, or handsomer, or better looking but in truth they have probably all felt something similar to what you feel. Im a christian and am really close to god. I believe that he made everybody special weather it be outer beauty or a magnificent personality. I also believe that he made a perfect match for everyone. So chin up. Remember that you are not alone and that there will always be someone who loves you for you. <3 form a 15 year old girl
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hehe i really like what some of you wrote. its so cheesy but its so true that beauty comes from the inside. smart people know that. im 24 now and in college i went out with 2 guys who were both absolutely stunning and both treated me like c**p and cheated. because they could. i thank god i learned that lesson, im not saying that all beautiful people are assholes, im just saying thats what you get if you go only for looks. i find all of my best friends really beautiful just because i love them so much. and people i dont like i cant find pretty. im a flight attenant right now saving up money to go back to college and get my masters and most of the girls i work with are so stunning but im not jealous because i know im really special and beautiful in my own way. i have to many dreams and goals in life and so many opportunities that most people dont have so comparison to all that, my rather average looks, seem to matter so little.
and i can also confirm that the way you feel about your body and your looks changes. i used to hate my looks now ive made peace with. haha i guess you could say i got used to them.
and i can also confirm that the way you feel about your body and your looks changes. i used to hate my looks now ive made peace with. haha i guess you could say i got used to them.
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Im Ugly too. And i hate it ! I look in the mirror and it seems like i look ohkayy, but once i take a picture or a video of myself i look SO UGLY and i just hate it ! I even keep myself from liking people because im so ugly and i never get the person i want. So thats what my life is like. :-(
Why did i have to get the ugly face ?!
Why did i have to get the ugly face ?!
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