How to deal with son's erections? He doesn't particularly hide them. Should I tell him to?

Get him a girlfriend to wear him out.

Growing up I had a lot of hygiene issues with my uncircumcised penis. I produced a LOT of smegma. My foreskin would get inflamed. As a result. Mom always bathed me, even into puberty. I would get erections while she washed it. She would tell me penises are supposed to inflate and besides it was easier to clean like that.

My mom encouraged me to feel good about my feelings I had towards her and my erections. She helped to keep it stay up and keep up until she let the tention release where we unlike others felt was totally natural. It was just what our lifestyle was with mom and her friends were free thinkers and didnt believe boys should grow up with taboos making feeings and urges wrong...

This is an absolutely absurd assumption.

You are completely correct. I have three sisters. When I was growing up I always saw my sisters without out clothes. We bathed together and our parents taught us all about our bodies and urges. I would as all boys do get erections many times a day and my mom and dad explained that it was normal and try to keep it private at our home. They both taught us all how to masturbate to release our urges. We also had friends that were nudist to. But back when we were growing up it was very taboo. So it was taught to keep our nudism private. I can only say that I and my sisters are all married and have all taught our children the same way. Don’t hide or discourage your kids when they are having sexual urges, it’s very normal and teach them what their sexual urges are all about and how to release them.

Sounds to me like he needs a handjob MOM!

You are right. That’s why thoughtful mothers, when they begin to notice frequent erections in their boys, will begin a special nighttime ritual at least several times a week. At bedtime, the mom will give her son a very relaxing and thorough back rub which puts the boy in a very passive relaxed sleep, with many boys almost asleep at that point. The mom gently helps flip the boy into his back and proceeds to give a very soft and soothing massage to the boys neck and chest. This puts most boys into a quasi-sleep mode. At that point, the mom simply moves the massage lower on the boy’s body, including his boxer briefs. Many boys at this point aren’t mentally aware or register what’s going on. He won’t notice (or care) when her fingertips start to gently massage his boxer briefs. Won’t notice when his penis begins to lengthen and stiffen inside the briefs. But mom will. She will then begin to focus her massage on the material over the head of the boy’s penis, the most sensitive area of his young body. He will attain a full erection very rapidly. He won’t notice when her fingers then begin to massage the glans of his penis, below the head, nor that her other hand is gently massaging the fabric covering his testicles. At this point he is fully sexually aroused. The mom will soon feel the wetness through the fabric of his precum. At this point, the mom will stop and use her fingers to open the slit of the boxer briefs, allowing her son’s erection to naturally come out in the open air. Using her son’s own precum as a lubricant, she can gently massage his entire penis with her hand to bring him to a full and quick ejaculation in his sleep. Some mothers instead will simply lower their mouth onto the head of the penis and using a combination of sucking and licking the head, bring the boy to ejaculate directly into her mouth.

You're so lucky he's comfortable within his own family, to walk around his parents, or siblings, etc. naked. If it was alright for him to be nude, as little boy, it should be alright as a teen for him to be fully nude as well. Hard-ons, out in the open shouldn't make a difference.. My son now in his 20s, always nude when he stays here in the summer month's. Seen his erections, doesn't hide them. I'm a single dad, and don't know if that makes a difference.

Is this guest a man or a woman? For a man, the younger he is, the more likely it is to be a case of, "It just seems to be on a hair trigger some times, and I don't even know what triggered this one." For a woman, most likely a mother, it could be a case of, "Now, there you go again." rather than, "Oh boy! Could I get some satisfaction out of that." This is the perspective of a guy who has aged out of the "hair trigger" days, but wishes he could return to them sometimes. But I never wanted to share that state with just anyone who would happen to see me. That's why I never wore a underware/pants combination that would look like a tent, if that happened.

Does this guest want to be a porn writer?! It leaves me saying, "Why couldn't I have run into one like this when I was that age!!!"

Hey! We are talking about his mother. Since this is fiction, it needs a re-write to get the creepy factor down. Mother out. Middle school psychical therapist in. It still is a little creepy, since it is still an adult involved with sex-play with a child, but most middle school aged boys won't be complaining. And here's a title for it, "HOW I GIVE MY MIDDLE SCHOOL BOYS A PSYCHICAL THEROPY SESSION THEY'LE NEVER FORGET. And I also have a closing dialog exchange for it, Therapist - "Is it still sore?" Boy - "Ahhh, I kind of forgot about that about the time your hand moved about 6 inches above my knee and kept on going."

I've got a whole bunch of reactions and one or more suggestions. First; Seven pages 0f responses and counting, I guess I'm not the only one who has a bunch of reactions. Your son was 13 at the time of your writing. When I was that age (half a century ago), that was the big transition year. On my 13th birthday (naked), I looked more like a boy. My penis, although bigger than it was when I was completely pre-pubescent (And I didn't remember how small it was way back then, only how small it was yesterday.) was still noticeably smaller than a full grown man's and there wasn't much pubic hair to be seen. On my 14th birthday (naked), I looked more like a man. My penis was about as big as it was going to get and I had enough pubic hair so you could see it from 100 feet away. With improved nutrition, this probably happens 6 months to a year earlier today. This certainly seems to be true of your son. I've said, a 12 year old girl is more woman than girl. Now that I think about it, I can also say that, a 14 (or 13) year old boy is more man than boy, (with regard to the issues that we are writing about). You mentioned that "He doesn't try to hide his erections". This suggests that he is wearing something, like pajamas, that are loose enough to look like they have a tent. The answer is for him to wear tight underwear when he has an erection while wearing pajamas around others. When I was a boy, "we all" wore "tighty whitties", not at all stylish, but what regular guy would wear stylish underware in the 60s? This will restrict his penis from pointing where it wants to point, but what man doesn't remember having his penis pushed down by his solidly built pants when it wanted to stick straight out, uncomfortable, but "it ain't going kill you" or harm your penis. I have 3 unrealistic alternatives to forcing one's penis to bend when it doesn't want to; Wear a "cup". (A baseball catcher wears one. It fit in his underware and over his penis. It's like a bunker for his testicles for when that 90 mph pitch gets by his glove and is stopped by his body.) Problem is, a cup is only 2-3" deep and you want one about 8" deep. Good luck finding that in your local sporting goods store. Or you could ware a hoop-skirt. See the ball scenes in "Gone With the Wind" to see what I am talking about. It will give you plenty of erection space, but it's been out of style for about a century, so they will be almost as hard to find as that 8" deep cup, and guys and skirts don't go together too well. Or modify your underware and pants so when you get an erection, it will just push right on through them and stick out 6" in front of you. The biggest problem with this one is that people don't react too well to this and the police just may arrest you if they find you. Just about every guy before you has found that he can live with his penis being bent when it really wants to point straight out. (I'm not finished yet, but I have to break to something else, so I'll hit "Reply" to this one and continue later.)

I'm a little fuzzy on how often you see him completely nude. It sounds like "after sports" he'll get undressed once he can't be seen from "the street", go have a shower, then not get dressed until he is leaving the house. I have the impression that the urge to shower after sports starts at puberty because that is a boy really starts to stink after he has built up a sweat. If so, you have only seen nude for prolong periods of time since he hit puberty. This would explain why you described him as starting to have erections now. Most boys have erections of and on from birth. It could be that he has been having them all along, but not when you saw him naked. The two inch erections aren't as easy to spot through his pajamas as the 6-8" erections he is having now. He could be thinking, "I've been having erections all my life and mom has never complained, so there is no reason to change anything." He may also be thinking, "It's no big deal with mom if I walk into the bathroom and see her naked, so it's no big deal with me if mom sees me naked when I don't care to put any cloths on after sports. After all, I shower and smell "as fresh as a daisy!" This is best handled by the father, but he seems to be out of the picture. Mom wants to address the issue but chickens out each time she should to begin the conversation. It's part of the reason that single parent families get a bad rap. But, what should she say. First, the point shouldn't that anyone is doing anything bad, but some things have changed over the last few years and it's time they change to reflect the new reality. I'm not a mother, so what do I know, but if I was his mother, here's about what I would say; "When you were a baby and little boy, you were so needy and helpless and with a cute little penis, just an inch or so long, that I thought that I would never have a problem seeing you naked. Now I see that I was wrong. Today, when I see you with an erection, it looks like an 'emerging manhood progress report', and I the way I read the report that you are all the way there. OK, I've got that. From here on out, if I'm wondering how you are doing in that arena, I will ask you. From here on out, I want you wearing at least shorts whenever I can see you. If I can't see you, feel free to be as naked as you want, just don't stand in front of a window that way. Also, from here on out, If I am in the bathroom, knock and ask to enter before you do. We are now past the time when you should be seeing your mother naked. I hope this doesn't bother you. I should have told you this about the time I realized that you 'weren't a little boy anymore'."

A few more reactions to things the mother said. About "hiding" his erections; Rather than "hiding his erections", I would like to think of it in man (older) to man (younger) terms. I would tell him, "Don't let it be obvious to anyone who walks up to you that you have an erection." A pop culture phrase comes to mind, "That's too much information." About her son having "obvious sexual issues", I don't see any, just an early-teens boy unintentionally acting the way early-teen have unintentionally acted forever. About the mother's mind-set shown by phrases like "don't want him to feel bad" or "don't want him to get the wrong idea about me." You are the mother of a boy who is becoming a man, not a pal of some "snowflake". If he isn't yet, he should able to handle something he may not like hearing. She also writes of being bothered by wet-dream caused stains on his pajamas. This tells us that he has reached sexual maturity and probably has yet to discover masterbation. A wet dreams is the man's body ridding itself of excess semon. Once a boy/man starts masterbating, he's not likely to accumulate enough seman to have a wet dream, so this is a temporary problem. To speed the process along, I'd almost want to teach him about masterbation, but he shouldn't be learning about it from his mother. That has a higher creepy factor than seman stained pajamas.

This one reads like a man's response. I'll get back to your first 2 sentences later, but first I'll address the issue that is bugging you. Once a boy can see he has entered puberty, each erection is like an "emerging manhood progress report". I can remember being pretty proud of it myself and admiring it for quite some time, but I did so privately. (We are talking over half a century ago.) Things were different back then and before. Many of the fathers were (former) military men from the Second World War and Korea, when almost all men were in the military. They came out of that with a certain self-discipline that would last through their father years, if not for the rest of their lives, and if we had a good father/son relationship, we sons respected that. That is much less common today, so I don't know if the following would work. When I look back today, if I was late or post pubescent and was naked or was showing that I had an erection, My father would have said to me, "Son, you look like a boy in a man's body. You're old enough now that you should know better than let your female or younger relatives see you naked. (or) Don't let it be obvious to anyone who sees you that you have an erection. If you don't have any underware that keeps your penis from making a tent in your pants, I'll get some for you the next time I'm in the store. I've had more than one pair since I was your age. Oh, and by the way, Congratulations, and welcome to manhood! I'll let you know about other unwritten rules of manhood as I think you should start following them." I figured this out without being told and others did too. I wish those who can't figure this out on their own would get this message and take it to heart.