how to stay in love with a bipolar person

Well I have got back together with her and broken up many a time afterwards. I've been studying the behaviour like a scientist to get closure, to be able to rationalise it, and because, yeah I love the girl I fell in love with. They come back with heightened libido - goading you to get you back in the sack. It's dismaying to read it's taken you four years still. I don't think it's something one really ever forgets. Like meeting wonder woman - that wonder woman just doesn't obtain a full time existence. But that part time beauty can break our heart hard. REALLY hard. I still suffer panic attacks the only cure for which have been diazepam, or to give in to her 'sexual summons' or to ask her round too. Our men brains are unfortunately susceptible to these creatures - especially if they're beautiful - and we just keep getting hurt. I'm trying to keep it together and finish my PhD. I COULD WRITE AN ESSAY. Just don't try and rationalise it all - because it isn't rational.

Hi there I am married to0 a men who is bipolar he has up and downs can get nasty at times He thinks he is always right and I am always wrong no mater what He was told about 10 years ago he was bipolar was put on medication I ben married for him for8 years He is not taking hi medication because he tells me and all other people that there is nothing wrong whit him the people hat are in the world are all stupid ,if the would listen to him al would be ok .As long as I agree whit him all is well but don't say no to him then al hell breaks

I'm in the same boat but drugs is not an option I can take I really wish I new what to do I wear my heart on my sleeve so I feel like sh*t when she's on one of her moods I feel drAined I used to do BMX and I used to go and hang with my friends I don't do those things no more because I'm always in fear that I'll lose her she means the world to me and I do everything I can to be there for her it's hard I'll tell you that specially because we dnt get to see each other but one day a week till school comes like now I feel shitty light headed and I dnt want to do nothing but I love her do I always have my arms open for her

The only way you ex-girl friend will get better is her choosing to get into a recovery program: Celebrate Recovery, a 12-Step program. But that is for her social being. The other half, recovery of her mental being, is finding a psychiatrist you will treat her with one of the medicines for bi-polar, anxiety, and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). Perhaps what is transpiring in your ex-girl friend is a chemical imbalance in the brain. The modern anti-depressants work very well to control then imbalance.

I have been dating a BP woman for 5 years now, she admitted early on she was BP and at first it shed some light on the then weekly, somewhat milder freakout she experienced. Like the majority here, we fall in love with them, probably meeting them in a manic moment, and instantly charmed by them and the fun they bring to the table, that is what sets the hook so to speak.
As time went on the ugly side began to rear its head. When a depressive episode arrived, it was and still is absolutely horrible. The names I have been called, wishing my children dead, the allegations of me cheating, you don't love me, you never loved me, etc. You all know the drill. On rare occasions it would become physical. At first I didn't quite understand the illness, but have read and tried to educate myself, so I do have a better understanding, but lack the coping skills to effectively deal with the abuse. By the way, my gf (ex) is a psychotherapist, and from what I understand and have heard quite an effective one, but it is difficult for her to be objective with our relationship to effect meaningful change. She does take medication, but then stops, displays highly irregular sleep patters, has a million ideas, but rarely sees anything through to completion. Spends more then she makes, behind in bills. If she had $10,000 today I would bet it would be gone in three days. During our time together she has had to pay no living expenses or utilities. I have bought 4 used cars, for her three adopted children, sent one of the kids off to very expensive camps over the past three summers. Given her money, not hundreds, but thousands. The result of all this, is I get accused of not doing anything for her, of not loving her, being a cheat, well like I said you all know the drill.
We have broken up countless times, I'm guessing more then 20 times, during one break up she got married, and is still married, but had been living with me after he became abusive. However during the last break up moved to Florida to be with him again, and moved out after a week to return back here. I do love her, I feel sorry for her but the hurt she induces and the pain she causes me is at the point I need to opt out. My relationship with her has alienated me from my family, and my friends have all advised move on, she's not for you. It is a hard choice, there were some good times, but the c**p ones have now far outweighed the good ones. My last two vacations with her have been disasters, to the point midway through the last one, I drove her to the airport, because she wanted to leave and run back to her aforementioned husband, and at that point I was more than happy to oblige. Anyway I question why it is so hard for me to pull the trigger and call it a day. I think part of it is I feel bad for her, feel selfish in doing so, always hoped things would be different, but at the end of the day I know that if I ever want to be happier than I am now I must do this. I am a good person, and I am not doing this without a great deal of thought, angst, sadness and a sense of loss. I am glad I found this sight, it's good to see I am not alone, and offered me a venue to get this off my chest unfiltered. Thanks for listening, best to you all!

your post is spot on to my gf also - right now she hates me and tells me she never wants to talk to me ever again - and just because I got angry when she dissappeared - but this has happened 10 times in 2 years - she hides in closets to deal with her depression - never finishes anything she starts - drinks and now smokes like a fish and chimney - she has uncontrollable spending habits but gets so mad at me when I put limits on her Amex - however when she is good - she is the most años oh perfect fitting girl for me ever - I am all in with her and it's been hard to balance it - when she is good she follows me around all the time and loves my attention - when she is bad I am evil and a monster she calls me - it's insane - she hasn't been diagnosed - she she has mentioned many times she thinks she is bipolar - anyway - good to read these posts :)

f**k mate, you just summed up my relationship to a cue. are you still with this girl?

All of this sounds like my relationship with my GF. I want to keep her but she is pushing me into the arms of another woman, and once that is done it is over for our child as well. What the hell do I do?

all I can say is RUUUUNN

My girlfriend has bipolar too. She has always suspected something isn't quite right with her mind and emotions, but recently went to her gp for an official diagnosis, and now she's on two different medications for her illness. I can see already improvements in her, she is calm and smiling and happy and positive and sweet and loving, and just everything the girl I've known and loved for almost a decade, really is. When she has had episodes (and I suspect there may be more to come before things become better long term), she would be stressed and snappy, and negative and self hating, and blaming me for every bad thing that's ever happened to her in her life and calling me every horrible thing in the English dictionary to push me out of her life. A day or two later she would be so apologetic and beating herself up for treating me like this, and struggling to understand why I love and want to be with her. Despite her illness, i see past all her negativity and anger and hurt, because i know the real person is in there. The first step is for someone with any illness really is to acknowledge and accept they have a problem, and be willing to get the help they need to improve their life, and the lives of those around them. Depending on the severity of the illness and what triggered it to begin with, medication may not be enough to improve things alone, but in any case of mental illness, I would recommend therapy sessions as a good measure.

You are as goofy as she is partner. Sorry, you got what you deserved.

Idk if you'll even see this but thank you, I'm glad someone else deals with what im dealing with, it's been 6 months slowly she's been shutting me out, she's about rock bottom, and the whole year I've known her, her mom has said "she's just scared to let you in because she doesn't want to hurt you", im glad I'm not alone in the fight of loving an emtionally sensitive girl

Wow I cant believe all that im reading the similarities, my BP ex-girlfriend now, just kickedme out for the fifth time, always on holidays! She constantly talks about her exes I just dont think I can do it anymore, she's turned the whole world against me, to her friends and family, and all I ever wanted to do was give a better life for us, bcause as crazy as iit seems I love her to death!"but now im on meds, and seeing a therapist! I never needed to before in my 49 yrs! Shes constantly messing with my head, but when im not with im even crazier, bcause I miss her, yet she always calls me back, and I run to her like a poor helpless fool, I just cant take the space she needs all the time leaving me alone on all the holidays, its just not normal, she's extremely jealous , have no friends, im imprisoned in her place, while she goes out and does what she wants, im trying to show support, and loyalty, but im slowly losing it ha, I lost trust in her , and her apologies and promises are meaningless by now, everything is my fault, will this ever change? Or am I to takemeds to deal with her forever . Thank you for reading

If your you are considering on dateing a woman with bipolar depression you are in for a bumpy ride.I met my ex in Wisconsin at my lil cuz wedding I'm from Chicago so we kept in touch for at least three months and finally moved in with each other this girl was one of the sweeties females I've had. Now doing those first three months say told me she had depression but I had no knowledge of this disorder but seeing that she had hella medication I started Googlein her meds an later found out she all so suffered from bipolar to.I thought I could help this women with love and it did but when she took her self off meds she became a different person. First she cut her hair down so low that to the point I didn't want to even be seeing with her in public because I hate that she did that but I stayed because I love this girl but her way got weird like not taking a shower all day or not changing clothes say the weirdest sh*t. And also doing the dumbest sh*t ever.then one day she want sex then the next she doesn't this sh*t was driving me crazy. So finally after a year I left her two weeks after our anniversary and yes it was bad and good because she stay on my mind but i wouldn't be with her ever in life because I refuse to die miserable. It's been 7months since I've seen her but see text me merry Christmas n I replied but if she does this on new years I'm gonna tell her to please stay out my life because she not mentally stable an I don't deserve the hurtfulness behind her illness.. So choose wisely when it comes to a female suffering from this illness..

Bro I honestly think she is cheating on u..no disrespect but I don't think that has anything to do with bipolar...he shouldn't b sleeping over especially when she is bipolar cuz tree can take advantage of get feelings for him...But dint trio my gf us also and she always brings up get ex to me and it hurts