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Well...here goes. Im so glad I found this topic board. I am 52 and the young man will be 25. If that is not bad enough, I met him while I was married. I was a photographer and he was a young model. He kept writing me to shoot him again and when he started in college. We kept communicating...but never physical or anything. My husband divorced me over this saying I had an emotional relationship with this young man. I have two little boys also. He has a girlfriend. This was 5 years ago. He keeps in contact with me....then he stops talking to me. He looks at my professional profile on LInked In. Right after I post something. He has blocked me on FB and than sends a friend request. I don't get it. We were talking for over a year...then...he just quit. Im single, and just want to talk. Ive offered him to go on vacation with me which he wanted to do. Then....crickets. Im crazy over this. I should just find someone my age...but for some reason he stays on my mind. On his FB, it never shows his girlfriend. A friend once bumped into him at a wedding and he asked about me a lot. I guess I need to give it up......
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goshhhhhhh..... another women gona change her religion in the name of love????
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Val, I would love to hear what happened. I am finding myself in a similar situation. I am beyond confused, sometimes feeling guilty and even disgusted with myself.. but I cant stop how I feel. Ive tried and I feel like I cant breathe. How do we make this work? I am younger than you and still have younger children. I feel lost.
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These posts are killing me. I wish I could talk to you all. I am in a similar situation, except there is no talk of "eventually trading me in", although it is the white elephant in my mind. Is it possible for someone so young to really be in "that type" of love? I wish I could talk to someone who made it work despite all the negatives.
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I'm in the same situation
I'm 42 yrs old
I have fallen in love with a man 14 yrs younger.
I don't know what to do.. It hurts thinking of letting him go.
I never meant for this to happen .
We met for a reason I just know it.
I can't imagine him not in my life.
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Stay with him! As long as it's going fine, not need to think about letting him go.
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I am 45 and seeing a 21 year old casually as a friend and sexually. He is the nicest sweeter man and I started to develop stronger feelings for him. We see each other every 2 weeks or longer sometimes. I just feel so relaxed and happy in his company. I never thought I would have feelings for someone much younger but I can't control my feelings especially when he tells me I am beautiful, have a cute smile, nice boobs and legs. His compliments make me feel special. We get along well. I know eventually we need to stop seeing each other and the age difference sucks. It will be so painful not to see him ever again.
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I need to talk is this anon
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66 and26 ??Its mind over matter I think ,If u dont mind why should it matter!
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For those of you who are writing that you have to keep your relationship a "secret"- your boyfriend is embarrassed. This is not good. If he were really a grown man and truly loved and respected you, he would proudly share his feelings openly and without question. Been there, moved on from that.
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You are right, it will be painful. Your heart will break. Try to move on from him now while you feel good about yourself and your relationship. Otherwise, the impact from your inevitable (sadly) breakup could really take its toll. I wish he were older.
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Contact him once and ask him if he's okay and how he's feeling. You might find he's suffering insecurity and thinks you din't want to see him or he feels inadequate as a lover.
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You do NOT love your husband. Cheaters don't even love themselves.
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This sounds similar to what I'm dealing with right now. I am turning 50 soon. The young man is 33. We haven't in person yet, but the chemistry is really strong. There's something there that I haven't had before. We became Facebook friends after meeting on a dating site. He started a couple of risque chats (which I participated in), felt bad about it and blocked me. We're now in touch another way. He will stay in contact for a while and then stop for a while. He said he likes that an older woman will be honest and truthful unlike women his age. Right now I just want to talk with him. We have so much in common, much more than I had with my husband of 29 years (We've been divorced over a year). I really wish I could find someone closer to my age, but men my age seem to have unrealistic expectations of women. This young man stays on my mind.

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