Ive been happily married to a man 18 years younger than me years. If you love each other, its no ones business.
I love a much younger man who is in a relationship and so sm i. Any suggestions how to get him away from her??
I truly wish I knew the answer to this. I have what sounds to be an identical situation as yours. my younger man is exactly half my age and we were seeing each other off and on for a year. I never let him believe it was anything but casual although my heart was telling me something different. Sadly, perhaps as a result of silence about my feelings for him, he went back to an ex-girlfriend who quickly became pregnant with his child following the abortion of another man's baby. Now, one year later, he has a four month old baby and lives in a very abusive situation where he has confided in me that she has cheated and has physically abused him multiple times. He is torn between staying in this situation and leaving and not seeing his child on a daily basis. I try to support him now as his friend because this is what he needs at the moment and an expression of my true feelings would complicate what he is going through. So perhaps the best I can offer you is to be a true friend to your younger man when he experiences times of need in his current relationship and things will eventually take course.
I've been seeing this younger man, who is 25 and he is in the service and I'm 35. We met 6 months ago when he was deployed and now he has been home for a month. He spends a lot of time with me and I am falling in love with him. We talked every day when he was away and the chemistry is definitely there. He is very mature for his age and shows me everyday how much he cares. I'm so scared of falling in love because I have had my share of heartaches.
best of luck...it could work..
I know just how you feel !
I am almost 56 and have been seeing a guy who is almost 30 for over 2 years. Yes, I am a booty call and I do have feelings for him. I work full-time, live alone and have an active social life with a small circle of friends. When I'm with him I can be me. He makes me laugh, he's adorable, sweet and yes, I cater to him. He's the best in bed that I've ever had and my regret is that I turned him down the first time he pursued me. I know it will end and he will eventually find someone his own age and I will move on but it won't be with a young lover again. No one could ever fill his shoes. I will also move on and maybe find someone closer to my age to spend time with and maybe a long term relationship. It is what it is and right now I'm not complaining.
I am nearly 10 years older than you. I am 57. The love of my life turned 32 late last year. He still tries to see me. It got too difficult.
I am a 50 year old widow and my lover is 38, a thirteen year age difference. We were co workers at the time and I teased him when he first started. He came back for revenge, as he put it, for me teasing him. We hit it off right away we had a very similar sense of humor. We spent a lot of breaks and lunches laughing and talking, he asked me to the movies and I accepted as friends. No kissing no touching just hanging out and having a great time. Until one day he kissed me and things changed. I was blindsided . He said he had always felt that way he just wasn't sure how I would feel about dating a younger man. And to tell you the truth I wasn't either, I kept thinking why me? Did he think I had money and would be his sugar momma did he have MOMMY COMPLEX. Well to make a long story short we've ben together a year now and its truly the best relationship I've ever had. We are blissfully happy and the sex is off the chain!! I'm going to enjoy every moment until some thing changes and it will but I wouldn't have missed it for the world!!
I am 51 and my fiancé is 34. We have been together for four years. Engaged for 2.
My children are 31, 28, 26, 21. His children are 5 and 8.
This relationship has been hard on all of us.
He is amazing and treats me very well. We love each other but I find myself thinking of reasons on why I shouldn't marry him. Will he still be attracted to me in 10 years. Will he wonder off w a younger woman. It's very difficult. If I had it to do all over again,. Would I? Probably not.
This thread is amazing and it makes me feel less weird for being in love with a man half my age. I'll be turning 40 this year and he is turning 20 in a few days. Since I am of Asian decent, appearance-wise I look 10-12 years younger and he (Caucasian) looks 5-7 years older. We haven't told our friends yet how old we really are but if you were to go by looks, it doesn't really look so bad. However I am not getting younger and don't know how much longer I will look youthful.
It's not about the looks though. We have an amazing chemistry. He's rather mature for his age (oldest sibling), sweet, caring and does most of the pursuing. I'm rather the quiet and demure type. Our personalities match very well this way and we have similar hobbies and likes even. He adapts a lot to what I like, which I find sweet but I try not to be too much of an influence so he can still develop his own personality. We are both rather geeky and surround ourselves with people in their 20-early 30's.
I often find myself worrying about the age gap and the problems that will arrive with time. I know he wants kids and even talks about it. I have a kid who is 13. It's odd but what can we do? We love each other and hang out like young people in their 20's, doing things people that age would be doing. Once a week I secretly find myself wanting to quit this before it I get hurt but everyday he makes me love him more and more with the kind little things he does unconditionally. I'm living in the now and closing my eyes to what may come. This thread gives me strength. Thank you to all of you have shared (or are sharing) similar fates.
It's not about the looks though. We have an amazing chemistry. He's rather mature for his age (oldest sibling), sweet, caring and does most of the pursuing. I'm rather the quiet and demure type. Our personalities match very well this way and we have similar hobbies and likes even. He adapts a lot to what I like, which I find sweet but I try not to be too much of an influence so he can still develop his own personality. We are both rather geeky and surround ourselves with people in their 20-early 30's.
I often find myself worrying about the age gap and the problems that will arrive with time. I know he wants kids and even talks about it. I have a kid who is 13. It's odd but what can we do? We love each other and hang out like young people in their 20's, doing things people that age would be doing. Once a week I secretly find myself wanting to quit this before it I get hurt but everyday he makes me love him more and more with the kind little things he does unconditionally. I'm living in the now and closing my eyes to what may come. This thread gives me strength. Thank you to all of you have shared (or are sharing) similar fates.
Just like you, I'm 49 Asian Chinese and he's 27 Italian....we like each other very much. He said he love me more than a friend but not like boyfriend/girlfriend or hubby/wifey kinda way.
We work together, see each other daily and sex is obviously super and on regular basis. I'm his boss if to put it that way.
We agreed to take on an open relationships and I'm fully aware of his intentions. He's been having hookups and it is biting me inside! I tried so hard to be cool...it's easy to be said than done. I think I'm falling in love with him, and I hate myself for that.
I wanted to call it off but it's just so difficult to it let go. We made so many future traveling plans and business venture together and that make me feel great about myself and to move forward in a positive way and I love it!
I'm a sole breadwinner with 5 wonderful kids and am also free to do whatever I've missed for the pass 28yrs.
He's that kinda man I want...handsome, strong, a real gentleman, a great martial artist, a dance instructor, a philosopher and love kids!
He said that I'm prefect for him if I'm younger and with no kids. He can't settle with me due to the fact that he wants a fresh start with someone fresh in life.
Happy and heartbroken at the same time. Ironically, I choose to do so...I guess, I don't wanna miss a thing and just go with the flow. What do I gotta lose?
Would love some advices and to share similar experiences here. :)
We work together, see each other daily and sex is obviously super and on regular basis. I'm his boss if to put it that way.
We agreed to take on an open relationships and I'm fully aware of his intentions. He's been having hookups and it is biting me inside! I tried so hard to be cool...it's easy to be said than done. I think I'm falling in love with him, and I hate myself for that.
I wanted to call it off but it's just so difficult to it let go. We made so many future traveling plans and business venture together and that make me feel great about myself and to move forward in a positive way and I love it!
I'm a sole breadwinner with 5 wonderful kids and am also free to do whatever I've missed for the pass 28yrs.
He's that kinda man I want...handsome, strong, a real gentleman, a great martial artist, a dance instructor, a philosopher and love kids!
He said that I'm prefect for him if I'm younger and with no kids. He can't settle with me due to the fact that he wants a fresh start with someone fresh in life.
Happy and heartbroken at the same time. Ironically, I choose to do so...I guess, I don't wanna miss a thing and just go with the flow. What do I gotta lose?
Would love some advices and to share similar experiences here. :)
Just like you, I'm 49 Asian Chinese and he's 27 Italian....we like each other very much. He said he love me more than a friend but not like boyfriend/girlfriend or hubby/wifey kinda way.
We work together, see each other daily and sex is obviously super and on regular basis. I'm his boss if to put it that way.
We agreed to take on an open relationships and I'm fully aware of his intentions. He's been having hookups and it is biting me inside! I tried so hard to be cool...it's easy said than done. I think I'm falling in love with him, and I hate myself for that.
I wanted to call it off but it's just so difficult to let go. We made so many future traveling plans and business venture together and that make me feel great about myself and to move forward in a positive way and I love it!
I'm a sole breadwinner with 5 wonderful kids and am also free to do whatever I've missed for the pass 28yrs.
On the other hand....he's hungry, he wants knowledge, he wants to explore the world, he loved women and sex.
He's my kinda man...a martial artist, a dance teacher, a philosopher and he loves kids! He knows I can make him happy but he doesn't want to settle with me as he felt that we're too far apart and will short live..,,
Happy and heartbroken at the same time. Ironically, I choose to do so...I guess, I don't wanna miss a thing and just go with the flow. What do I gotta lose?
Would love some advices and to share similar experiences here. :)
We work together, see each other daily and sex is obviously super and on regular basis. I'm his boss if to put it that way.
We agreed to take on an open relationships and I'm fully aware of his intentions. He's been having hookups and it is biting me inside! I tried so hard to be cool...it's easy said than done. I think I'm falling in love with him, and I hate myself for that.
I wanted to call it off but it's just so difficult to let go. We made so many future traveling plans and business venture together and that make me feel great about myself and to move forward in a positive way and I love it!
I'm a sole breadwinner with 5 wonderful kids and am also free to do whatever I've missed for the pass 28yrs.
On the other hand....he's hungry, he wants knowledge, he wants to explore the world, he loved women and sex.
He's my kinda man...a martial artist, a dance teacher, a philosopher and he loves kids! He knows I can make him happy but he doesn't want to settle with me as he felt that we're too far apart and will short live..,,
Happy and heartbroken at the same time. Ironically, I choose to do so...I guess, I don't wanna miss a thing and just go with the flow. What do I gotta lose?
Would love some advices and to share similar experiences here. :)
I am a 46 year old woman, married with two younger children. I have been seeing a 29 year old guy for the past few months. We have known each other for over 2 years and get along great. It is great to just be able to hang out and talk and of course the sex is amazing. However, though we never intended this to be more than a fling, I fell hard for him and he has some pretty deep feelings for me. This weekend he dumped me, it sucked. We have all the same friends, work together at least once a week and it is killing me. I know he still has feelings for me but has just ended it and won't talk about it. I am hoping we can work things out because I have not felt like this about someone in over 20 years. I know it's not just the sex since we have abstained the last few times we were together and just being together was great.
This whole thing just has crushed my heart, I am barely functioning at this point and yet I still have to take care of my family, go to work and maintain a household without completely breaking down. Also, being with him made me able to tolerate my awful marriage. I am just drained and so lost. I wish I had never met this guy.
This whole thing just has crushed my heart, I am barely functioning at this point and yet I still have to take care of my family, go to work and maintain a household without completely breaking down. Also, being with him made me able to tolerate my awful marriage. I am just drained and so lost. I wish I had never met this guy.
I am 67 and I meant the most amazing guy who is 38....he acts alote older and that's why I was attracted in the first place....he treats me like no other and I am thinking of letting him go because I am afraid of loosing him to a younger woman....I will be 70 in three years but I have never been happier....I look alote younger than I am and we have been out in public but sometimes I see people give us looks.....he does not want to call it quites but I am wondering if I should end this now to avoid a broken heart which I will have no matter what if we end this.....any body have any words of advice for me....Thanks...