I am 49 years old and got infatuated with a 22 years man. He does not behave like a regular young man of his age, he is rather mature. I do not know how to fall out of love but I doing all I can in my strength to move on and just charge the feelings I have for him to experience, but how exactly will I do that. Perhaps is a crush, its infatuation, its love....Never in my wildest imagination that I would ever be attracted to a youngman. Matter of fact, I never ever encountered this strong feelings to anyone close to his age or anything remotely close. It is painful to tell myself to just forget about this man, we are just a friend and neither his side or my side expressed how we felt for each other. He confide in me frustrations he has at work or someone and had no difficulty communicating that. I am not hoping for anything, how I wish I am his age of course is absurd but I asked myself, why at my age, you meet someone that you bond with and have this very strong feelings. I tell myself that I can admire at a distance but the hope to be with him is far fetched. Just like what everyone has said...a person of this age stills requires a lot of growing up. I just wish I never met him. Just sharing my story.
Heidi,
Human's tendency is to judge. I also felt infatuated with a young man. If you love each other, what other say about you and your relationship with him is none of your business. Your age difference is not too far apart. If someone can define love. It does not alter at one's demand. Good luck, I hope you both live a happy life. You can never stop people from criticizing, you have to live your life....let that beautiful heart of yours express the love you feel for him.
Thank you....we all get to cross our path with someone that makes the slight dent in our heart that either leave a beautiful memory or a sad one.
I think we are not typical, however. I feel like I am the one who is inexperienced in life and love. And I am the one learning from him. I have college age daughters and that concerns me. Yes.... what will they think? But also, will he like one of them someday and how yucky is that?!?!
Ugh. When we are apart, I long for him. Not just in the private sexual way but in every aspect. I want the daily life! It is kind of scary. We have not been out in public yet, but I have met his family. His parents are ok with it, but not so sure about his sibling.
Thoughts welcomed! Please reply.
Hi, I hear you. i also fell in love with a much younger man. Iam 50 and he is 31. He was the one who started and I got so involved that I lost my identity. We were together for year and half. He used to tell me that i was his whole life and that he was so in love with me; I believed it. He broke up with me 9 months ago. My life was hell, I end up trying to kill myself twice but no luck. I still think about him and it still painful. To you just be careful, enjoy it for now but keep in mind that many relationships it coul be end at any time. By the way is not wrong. Good luck!
Interesting you said "friend" and lover. He is my BEST FRIEND also.
Hi Inlovewithrod,
Heart vs. mind is the most difficult thing, like you I also asked myself how do I fall out of love. I thought it would be difficult, thru many postings I read who had similar situation, I came across one advise that helped me....that is to list everything you dislike about this young man, and I did. This day, I am confident to say that he does not even enters my mind unless he text me. I learned to detached myself and my emotion. I deleted his phone, I deleted his pictures and slowly I am redirecting my mind and my heart away from him. I do not want to waste my precious time as I know he has a lot of growing to do. And part of him will find and will want a younger woman. Perhaps this advise helps you a little bit. I feel your younger man is very undecisive, which is indicative of his age, so it is a relieve to know that you are still able to see that distinction and conviction as to whether to pursue this relationship, to which only you can decide. Good luck, guard your heart as if he already clearly tells you that he is concern about your age difference then that will be a problem that will continue to be dragged on should you decide to stay with him. Good luck.
i fell in love with a younger man he was 22 an i was 34 an i though to my self this cant work so i will get in where i fit in, so we whent out some time he pay some times i do..we had so much fun together..i decided to let it go an have sex with him an end it.but he wouldnt have sex with me! an i tryed all kinds of ways to do this an make it short an sweet..so when i stop trying to have sex with him an say hes a cool friend,then one day he took me out an the we ended up at a hotel it was nice an he had every thing set up..he had ask me so many things about my self..he remeber evry thing..my favorit color food i like moves i like an we stayed in that room for two days..an he then told me that he had new i was trying to sleep wit him an stop see in him,an that he didnt want that he wanted a family with me an i already had two kids...i didnt no what to say..we had a baby gurl but she passed a way soon after birth..it was his dna that had the ceocell treat...we both where hart broken ,it was a nuther young lady that he was seeing to on the side of me she had came between us for a while an the she left him over some crazy stuff an i was still there for him i let him move on he was young an had growing to due but in the end he came back an we are togther to this day...love come back an freedom grows...i live life loveing him an dueing me we no what we got who care who appove of it it how i feel...
I cant argue with this. He is the love of my life. I am actually suffering physical pain. I just want to curl up and die. I know he will go out and search for a vessel for his children and probably fall in love and be very happy.
I feel, at this moment, I will be bitter and twisted. I just dont know what to do with myself, My heart hurts. I have never been one to curl up and die and am putting a big smiley brave face on things but I hate his new women/woman already. I know I will eventually feel better in time........that is no consolation because I dont think I will ever be the same again. He was perfect in every way to me. Oh god! this is a living nightmare.