I have large labia, should I be embarrased?

As a guy I can tell you its not the size of the libia.... Its the size and strentgth of the vagina..... He wont care as long as the sex is good.

Dear Shy1234,
I hope I can fade away your unnescesary fears; I am a 31 year old male from Holland and I find it very attractive that a woman has large labia! It is nothing more and nothing less than 'more p***y', to put it in men's talk. For me, I find it admirable because there is more to spoil during oral sex. Believe me, if a guy would turn you down for that, he's a complete id**t!!!

Your lips must be just amazing and beautiful...u should be so proud dear

I'm a 40 yr old woman. At 13 I noticed that my labia (inner - the part men call "lips") were kinda large and dangly. All the girls in my school were pretty secretive about our vaginas. So without reference I could only accept them as normal.

Turned out to be quite the blessing.

My college bf spent loads of facetime with my labia - loved them - declared them the 2 most perfect things he ever saw. One day I found his stash of girly mags and had a peak. I was stunned. Compared with the centerfolds, my labia were HUGE. I started to grow self conscioius, wondering if I was normal - then if my bf was normal. I was terrified to talk to anyone about it... I didn't want anyone to know - just in case I was a freak. I broke up with that bf shortly after and lost a lot of my security in my sexuality.

I got it back though when my sister - who had just finished medical school - was doing her internship in the ob/gyn ward and said one day.... "did you know that some women have big, long dangly bits?". I asked her if it was common. YUP - very. Turns out my sister didn't have them and she was quite shocked to discover that so many women did. Women with children, husbands, lovers - women with active sex lives.

My normal uninhibited nature came back like a storm and I've loved those luscious labia of mine ever since. Honestly - I think if we asked 1000 men what they don't like about vaginas - the list would be short enough to write on a post-it note. Ask 1000 women though - and we could fill a library. Us women are far too easily swayed into believing that our body parts are not up to the grade - when they usually far surpass the wildest fantasies of the men we meet.

Very Well said !!!
Thank You !!!
Lot Of Love Sgt. Bert

OK i am a 13 year old girl and i just found out what a labia is i just thought it was something on me that none else had so i am very embarrassed of it because one of my friends seen it and started saying i had a penis :( so that is why i am really embarrassed i didn't wanna go back to school and im scared that if my bf ever sees it he will break up with me for please tell me what to do im like really embarrassed of it 

You have a very Wonderful Gift !!!
Latter on Your Gift will Be a Treasure for You & Your Husband .
Other wemon will be Jealous of You & other men will wish that they could be Your Husband .
You have a Very Beautiful Pearl that most people age 20 & under do not under stand & most clams do not have a Pearl. But at age 25 people start to under stand & will say WOW That is Awesome , I wish I had one .
Men age 25 & older will do anything to be Your Husband .
You are a Very Beautiful Woman & in another 10 years every body will start to see that !!!
Lots of love !!!
Sgt. Bert :-}

As girls - we go through life with so many questions about our genitilia. Are they okay? Are we normal? Are all the parts the right size... etc.

Truth is - we're all different. Before adolescence -girls all look pretty much the same. Boys all look pretty much the same (to each other). Between 12 and 16 we begin the road of developing sexually, but at a different pace from one another.

So the friend who, right now, thinks your labia looks like a penis has likely never seen up close a selection of mature male penis's (hopefully she hasn't anyway) - and she probably hasn't seen a selection of mature female vaginas up close either. So she's only commenting on what she knows from her own body. She likely doesn't realize that labia are as different from woman to woman as penis size is different from man to man. So take heart - you're perfectly normal.

My advice to you is (from the Lord of the Rings... lol) "keep it secret, keep it safe". The girls in your school are all equally insecure and - you know this - probably don't know how to handle differences very well. So those who have more physical maturity may be hiding their parts just as well from the girls who are still a bit behind. It's your body - you don't have to show it to anyone.

If the "friend" makes any further comments - don't be gentle. Tell that girl to get real - just cause she doesn't have woman parts yet - doesn't mean no one else has - and your body is not her business.... (or something to that effect).

As for the bf - be cautious. There are 2 things you don't know right now: 1) if he's reached a level of sexual maturity required to be turned on by a woman's body (more than in jest with his friends - or out of macho insecurity) - and 2) if your internal structure has reached a maturity level required to actually enjoy sexual activity with him. At 13 that's very iffy. At 14 it's borderline iffy - at 16 - it's more likely - at 18 it's pretty certain. Moreso with boys than girls - who tend to reach physical sexual maturity sooner than boys.

If this bf is your age - he may find more than one thing that freaks him out with the female genitals - things he didn't know. He may be expecting everything to look just like his sister did when she was 5 and they had baths together. If he blabs info on your private areas all over school - you'll have a very difficult time for the rest of your high school years. Not because there's anything wrong with you - but ... well.. you know already that normal has nothing to do with crowd teasing.

I'm in the same boat as a lot of women on here. I've read the positive comments and they're wonderful to hear, but as a 21 year old with large, thick labia sexual encounters can be scary. I've only had one person mention it, and he said "oh wow you have big lips", I was done there. In high school, what I always heard was oh large lips she's a hoe blah blah blah. It was like okay I'm a virgin and mine are like that. I guess it could be said that I've been traumatized mentally. I'm very insecure about my body and as I've seen some women on here expressing, I'm very uncomfortable wearing a bathing suit or a male/female see me in my underwear as I'm bi. That's another issue, I get very uncomfortable with women because I know I'm different and I know how judgmental we can be. Which also goes hand in hand with being uncomfortable with a man as I've only really known other women to have really small labia. I feel like there's something wrong with me and I honestly don't know what to do. Surgery isn't an option for me, I refuse to alter my body to please someone else, but I don't know how to become more confident. I'm so scared to be judged for it or talked about behind my back. I'm not really sure what to do

Wow !!!
Your p***y is Awesome !!!
I really enjoy eating p***y with Big Labia Lips !!!
You have so much more to enjoy & play with !!!
When I am giving a woman cunnilingus with big Labia lips , they usually have Stronger & more enjoyable orgasm then the ones that have very small lips inside . I like to lick & suck on those nice big lips , but I can not do that with the small ones in side . And also Intercourse is much nicer with nicer Big soft lips , they feel very good . The ones with the small lips on the inside do not feel as good & it is much harder for them & me to have a orgasm .
You have a very Wonderful Gift & I wish I could enjoy Your fabulous Labia with YOU !!!
With Lots Of Love For YOU !!!
Bert :-}

"I've only had one person mention it, and he said "oh wow you have big lips", I was done there. ...That's another issue, I get very uncomfortable with women because I know I'm different and I know how judgmental we can be. Which also goes hand in hand with being uncomfortable with a man as I've only really known other women to have really small labia. I feel like there's something wrong with me and I honestly don't know what to do" --- I'm not sure how or why you think you're "different (as in abnormal)"? I once had a bf tell me I had big boobs (and I'm a "B" cup)... comments are usually all relative to the person making them. If you were sitting in a room with 100 women - many would have much larger labia than you - others would have smaller - a few would probably even have the same size. There is no uniform size for a woman's lips. The only real problem with protruding labia - is that us women don't have enough knowledge about this part of our body - what is normal and what is not. We get insecure about everything from our thighs to our eyebrows - but most of the time, we have something to compare with. Genitals are not so. Aside from Doctors, most women will only see a few other vaginas in their entire life. So if we don't see one "like" ours - the most common reaction is to think we're somehow different or abnormal. You're not abnormal. Best way to become more confident.... learn how your labia work - spend some alone time with them (and a mirror). They're actually quite amazing and integral to your sexual experiences.

Ladies, please don't worry if your lips are long.  I think women worry much more about this kind of thing than any man.  As a man that has appreciated a number of women over the years, I can attest that large labia are the best!  I've found them to be easy to suck into my mouth during oral appreciation and by a women's reaction - they love it.  It's great to see and feel their pleasurable reaction to this sucking technique.  For women with small labia it is much harder to do this.  So feel lucky if your labia are large!  Plus, large, dangly labia are very, very sexy!  So girls, love your labia and feel proud to show them off to your man!

Please know that our Large Labia's are definitely a gift from God. I am very sensitive and have multiple orgasms, and I attribute that to my larger labia. It swells even bigger when aroused, and I am happy to say that it is easily aroused, and I get wet, wet, wet. I have always had men tell me that 'oooooh, your p***y is so phat'. At first, when I was much younger, I would get offended because I didn't understand. Now, I love it...and so do they! Treasure your lips, and do not let anyone make you feel insecure about them. If you are with a man who has a problem with them, HE is the problem and obviously does not know what to do with them. An experienced man will immediately salivate when he sees your big lips because he will know that he is in for a big treat! wink. enjoy and be happy!

Wow !!!
EbonyLips I am a man & I totally agree with YOU !!!
I Love giving cunnilingus & Large Labia are very enjoyable to me MMMMM
Thank You !!!
Bert :-}

I had a similar problem at your age.

Back then it was much more difficult to talk about.I remember my mother taking me to the doctors to be checked out when I was about 8 or 9. Although I didn't have much idea of why,many years later I found out that he told her that it was entirely normal and that my lips would probably become less obvious as I matured.[This was just after I was married and asked me if everything was alright-the only reference she ever made to it]

It was at senior school that the teasing started and I was nicknamed 'Flaps' and I really started to believe I was abnormal and avoided dating in case of embarrassment. Inevitably I met a boy,now long since my husband, whom I liked and fancied a lot. After a time my refusal to indulge in any sort of petting and shied away from any talk of engagement led to us bickering quite a bit.

The only solution was that I,very red-faced,confide in him that things weren't right down there. He assured me that I was probably exaggerating and that he should see for himself. I can still recall my terror as I was convinced he would be either disgusted or laugh before dumping me. As it was he told me it was rather cute and I enjoyed his touching and gently telling me off for being so silly.

Obviously my confidence grew as we started a normal and healthy sex life. As this developed he showed himself to be an inventive lover and did things to my labia that I could never have enjoyed with small ones. For a time I still had issues about wearing anything tight in public, such as one piece swimming costume,as I was convinced people could see my shape but with his support I gradually got over it and got to like him giving it a discrete tickle.

Since then I have had babies,now grown-ups, and the usual female health checks with out exciting any comment or funny looks from medical staff so I can honestly say that I have long since  felt normal. Of course girls worry about their shape,more usually boobs,bottoms and legs, but like my labias it does't matter if they are small or large,long or short we are all normal and any guy who values you is not going to be put off by any of those things.