Well, time has definitely passed since my last post. Seems like there is a big issue among women. I've come to realize it's just the way we were made to act when it comes to children.
I also found out that the reason why my husband "isn't ready" is because (Please "Awe" if you feel it's appropriate) he wants to be there for his child. As if you couldn't tell by the user name, he's in the Army and facing a stop loss and deployment this year. No, it doesn't make me at all happy but I am VERY proud of him. So, understandably, I'm going to have to suck it up and wait until September of 2010 to start trying.
On a side note, this will give me PLENTY of time to lose the weight I need to. It will be a positive experience if I choose to make it so. :-) <---That's me TRYING to be positive even though it's crushing me. :-(
I also found out that the reason why my husband "isn't ready" is because (Please "Awe" if you feel it's appropriate) he wants to be there for his child. As if you couldn't tell by the user name, he's in the Army and facing a stop loss and deployment this year. No, it doesn't make me at all happy but I am VERY proud of him. So, understandably, I'm going to have to suck it up and wait until September of 2010 to start trying.
On a side note, this will give me PLENTY of time to lose the weight I need to. It will be a positive experience if I choose to make it so. :-) <---That's me TRYING to be positive even though it's crushing me. :-(
I'm a 22 year old married marine... I'm a devout catholic as well... (same as your description) I stumbled onto your blog because I want a baby very much as well. My wife, who's also military, does not... EVER! I am fully willing to support "any" child of mine... I'm only responding to your blog because, if you're really serious, and you "really" want to have a baby......... Maybe we could contact each other personally...? I might have a solution to your issue.
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Thanks everyone for your posts, it helps to know others feel how I do.
I'm 31 and my husband is 33, we've been married for almost 5 years and have known each other for 13 years. I'm absolutely desperate to start a family, but my husband has asked me to wait a bit longer. It seems like every woman I see on the street has children or is pregnant, and they're all so much younger than me!! It breaks my heart, it really gives me that gut wrenching, nauseating longing, plus I'm terrified that my fertility is slowly dwindling away!!
I work 5 days a week in a good career, have maternity leave and long service leave, we own a home, and my husband also has a well paid career, so there is no financial reason not to have children now, even though he says this is one of the reasons. He also says things like our place is too small (even though we have a study that can be converted to a bedroom) and that a baby would take away time with me (although my job is time demanding and does this anyway!). My husband comes from a family of 5 children, so you'd think he'd be super keen to have a family of his own! It is very difficult to understand his reluctance to start having children. I think that some people, men in particular, can be quite afraid of change, and while they may list a million and one reasons to put it off, ultimately it's because of this fear of change. I think that the fear can be driven by a certain degree of selfishness also, as some people worry about how it will disrupt their lives. But how do you get someone to look beyond their fears? All I can do is keep trying to point out all the beautiful things about starting a family, so that change doesn't look so negative. Anyway, it's been great to get this off my chest, and I hope all your dreams of family bliss come true!
I'm 31 and my husband is 33, we've been married for almost 5 years and have known each other for 13 years. I'm absolutely desperate to start a family, but my husband has asked me to wait a bit longer. It seems like every woman I see on the street has children or is pregnant, and they're all so much younger than me!! It breaks my heart, it really gives me that gut wrenching, nauseating longing, plus I'm terrified that my fertility is slowly dwindling away!!
I work 5 days a week in a good career, have maternity leave and long service leave, we own a home, and my husband also has a well paid career, so there is no financial reason not to have children now, even though he says this is one of the reasons. He also says things like our place is too small (even though we have a study that can be converted to a bedroom) and that a baby would take away time with me (although my job is time demanding and does this anyway!). My husband comes from a family of 5 children, so you'd think he'd be super keen to have a family of his own! It is very difficult to understand his reluctance to start having children. I think that some people, men in particular, can be quite afraid of change, and while they may list a million and one reasons to put it off, ultimately it's because of this fear of change. I think that the fear can be driven by a certain degree of selfishness also, as some people worry about how it will disrupt their lives. But how do you get someone to look beyond their fears? All I can do is keep trying to point out all the beautiful things about starting a family, so that change doesn't look so negative. Anyway, it's been great to get this off my chest, and I hope all your dreams of family bliss come true!
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I have been searching all over for some sign that I am not alone. I know there are women out there who feel the way we do but it's easy to feel alone.
I feel the exact same way that all of you feel. My Name is Jill and I am 21 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We don't plan on getting married, but we do plan on being with each other for the rest of our lives. Now, I have wanted a baby since I was 16. But I knew I wasn't ready. Now I feel like I'm dying to have a child. I see my friends and family having children and I resent them with all I have. I want a baby right now. But the problem is that my boyfriend doesn't want kids ever. He said that he hates kids and never wants to have them. I keep hoping that it will happen by accident but i'm getting desperate. I don't know what to do. His family said he will grow out of it and want children eventually, but I don't want to wait that long. I'm not on birth control and I refuse to use condoms in hope that it will happen. I think that pull out method may be more effective than I think it is. lol. Does anyone have any advice for me?
all of this sounds way too familiar...my husband and i are both 22 and have been together for 4 years. we are about to graduate from college and i really want a baby. now, i realize that i should wait until i am out of school to start thinking about this, but since we graduate in may of 2009, that's not that far away. However, my husband decided that he wants to go into the military after we graduate. Instead of me wanting a baby, less, i want one more! all of the classic "what ifs" constantly go through my mind: what if he goes away and figures he doesn't want babies? what if he is badly injured? what if he gets killed? the latter causes me to think that i want his baby, so that i can always have a little part of him with me. i know that sounds stupid and selfish, but its how i feel.
almost all of my friends are either pregnant or just had a baby. it makes everything so much more difficult. to make matters worse, i just found out my sister is pregnant, and putting her baby up for adoption. all of it is just so maddening!
almost all of my friends are either pregnant or just had a baby. it makes everything so much more difficult. to make matters worse, i just found out my sister is pregnant, and putting her baby up for adoption. all of it is just so maddening!
Snav,
I am the same age and was in the same boat as yourself, well still am to a certain degree. My husband had a list of excuses...I mean "reasons" he didn't want to start having children yet. Same thing happened in regards to marriage, I waited 7 years until he got his list of wants, goals, and desires met before he was "ready" for marriage.
He finally agreed to go see a counselor about the baby-making business and against all odds now has a much better outlook on it all. He didn't completely let up, but is much more positive about having a family sooner than he was.
I think there is just something about one man telling another its going to be okay, you make things work, etc... It was like before, I was some evil wife trying to ruin his life with children and now I am perceived as a normal human being who's natural desire at this age is to start a family.
I am the same age and was in the same boat as yourself, well still am to a certain degree. My husband had a list of excuses...I mean "reasons" he didn't want to start having children yet. Same thing happened in regards to marriage, I waited 7 years until he got his list of wants, goals, and desires met before he was "ready" for marriage.
He finally agreed to go see a counselor about the baby-making business and against all odds now has a much better outlook on it all. He didn't completely let up, but is much more positive about having a family sooner than he was.
I think there is just something about one man telling another its going to be okay, you make things work, etc... It was like before, I was some evil wife trying to ruin his life with children and now I am perceived as a normal human being who's natural desire at this age is to start a family.
This so sounds like me, I have been married for just two months but with my husband for six years. I am 27 and so is my husband. I have wanted to have a baby for the past four years or so but my husband has always wanted to wait longer than me. He has agreed to start trying at the end of this year now we are married but like so many other women I just can't get rid of these broody feelings and seeing my friends having babies isn't always easy for me! I know that the end of this year isn't too long to wait and I will only be 28 then so age is on my side but it's like other people posting here have said, it can take a while to conceive and then there is 9 months before the baby is even born. I have tried to make my husband commit to earlier but he won't have it and we had a massive row about it yesterday. He says he wants to live his life a bit more first and I do understand that but I just can't help how I feel. He is a brilliant husband in every way and I love him dearly but this is the one issue that we just don't agree on. I can't help but feel really angry towards him sometimes and like he doesn't understand. I am pleased to find other women in the same boat as me xxx
I have been with my fellow for over 5 years. We are still not married (his decision). He says he wants to wait till he finished school which is looking like Dec 2009. I help out as much as possible to make sure he passes. For the past couple of months I have decided that I really want a baby. I know that a year or two can wait but I have worked with infertility patients and it is the saddest thing in the world to see woman not able to get prego. I even saw a 21 yr old in premenopause. I already have GYN issues that can interfere with me getting prego, which is my biggest concern.. I will be devasted if when he decides he is really, I can;t get prego. %-)
I'm so glad i found this site! My husband and I have been together for almost 3 years but just recently got married in Sept. 08. In Nov. I found out I was pregnant and then later on that week I miscarried. Now the idea of have a baby never hit my husband within that week but knowing that I carried that child and then it past really took a toll on me. I now find myself wanting a child, and my husband and I have talked about it. Most of his reasoning for not wanting one now revolves around us not being financially ready, the other part is that he doesn't want to see me go through the pain again. Now I completely understand that but for being financially I don't think any family ever truly is. I've really thought about why I want a baby so bad, to make sure it's not just because I miscarried and even though that may be a small ounce of it there's so much more to it. My husband is 17 years older than me and well as much as my time is short his is even shorter. We also have another hurdle we have to jump over and that is my Crohn's disease, which is the reasoning for my miscarriage. I thought I could wait to have a child with him but the more we have sex the more I want a baby. I just feel like I'm in the wrong sometimes and I find myself depressed and crying when I think about it.
I am 24 and so is my husband. We have been together 5 years and married almost 4. He is in the academy to be a Fireman and I work at a daycare. I want a baby more than anything; I feel like every decision I make revolves around our future family. He used to freak out when I brought up the subject and just plain ignore it. Now, he wants to wait until 2010 so he can have a job. His other "excuse" is our finances. Every one older than us tells us to wait until we can afford it. I found this calculator to predict how much you'll spend on the baby for the first year.
http://www.babycenter.com/babyCostCalculator.htm?scid=te-media:20071029:4326:101038:11899
I won't need all the basic stuff seeing as I am pretty much the last one to have kids; my family has all the things we need that can be handed down. I am so frustrated because he wants to wait just a few more months and I think "what difference does it make?!?!" Will we really be that much better off or that much more mature?? I think not! I am starting to feel like this is a control issue on his part. I feel like he wants to make this desicion no matter how I feel. It hurts. I got to work everyday and love on other peoples' children. I am ready to give that love to my own child and teach them to be a productive member of society. My husband centers his arguement around money and I hate that answer everytime I hear it. He's not the type to wait for things and that's why I am so angry about his resistance. We were together a year when he proposed at 19 years old. Now we are more grown up and now he wants me to wait?!?! But.....how do you push such a sensitive issue? I could get pregnant on the sly only to make him resent me and the baby. I could wait and be a "good wife" only to hate him before its over.
I am really thankful I read this thread, you all made me feel like I am not being selfish and irrational the way he makes me feel. Good luck to everyone!!
http://www.babycenter.com/babyCostCalculator.htm?scid=te-media:20071029:4326:101038:11899
I won't need all the basic stuff seeing as I am pretty much the last one to have kids; my family has all the things we need that can be handed down. I am so frustrated because he wants to wait just a few more months and I think "what difference does it make?!?!" Will we really be that much better off or that much more mature?? I think not! I am starting to feel like this is a control issue on his part. I feel like he wants to make this desicion no matter how I feel. It hurts. I got to work everyday and love on other peoples' children. I am ready to give that love to my own child and teach them to be a productive member of society. My husband centers his arguement around money and I hate that answer everytime I hear it. He's not the type to wait for things and that's why I am so angry about his resistance. We were together a year when he proposed at 19 years old. Now we are more grown up and now he wants me to wait?!?! But.....how do you push such a sensitive issue? I could get pregnant on the sly only to make him resent me and the baby. I could wait and be a "good wife" only to hate him before its over.
I am really thankful I read this thread, you all made me feel like I am not being selfish and irrational the way he makes me feel. Good luck to everyone!!
I completely understand how you all feel. I am a recently married twenty six year old who dated her husband for almost a decade prior. So, we've pretty much grown up together. We have a great marriage, own a home, have great careers, etc. etc. While we were on our honeymoon he wanted me to go off of my BC and to start trying to have kids. I was overwhelmed, it made me very happy that he wanted kids already (I thought it was really cute), but I wanted some time to think about it (I didn't want anyone to think I was a pregnant bride!). So I did and we came to the conclusion we would start trying this Spring.
Now I wish I hadn't waited. Several months after deciding I was ready, he decided that we should wait longer. He decided that for his career we should wait at LEAST another three years! (I would be over thirty while pregnant with our FIRST child.)
I feel very frustrated. I told him I respected his career aspirations, his dreams, and would never want to hold him back in his career. However, I am not happy with the decision to wait this long. He knows this though. As a result, he is now okay with us going to a particular European destination he was previously opposed to.
I feel like we are heading down a different track of a different lifestyle than I imagined. I always wanted to have both my two children before I turned thirty, or have my LAST child at thirty.
Many parents where I live have babies in their thirties, in fact having children in your mid twenties or younger is a rare thing.
He has to take this big exam and wants to have children AFTER this exam. Mind you, this is not a college exam, this is for his job. He doesn't know when he can take this exam yet, he wants to try taking it a little earlier or exactly when he can. It just has me frustrated because I am a planner and like to know exactly when.
I don't want to "forget" to have children. This is not something that I want to put off as if it is not important. Luckily, I am a teacher and get to spend my days "mothering" and teaching children. However, it just adds to my frustration of wanting our own and wanting to share and create a beautiful childhood.
I tried to comprimise and start trying around the same season as his test, however he doesn't even know when he can take it yet and won't be able to find out yet either. It all depends on his job performance for the next few years. As a result, I feel like this is still all unsettled and I don't know what I'm working towards. Ugth.
I just wish we could have kids sooner, after all pregnancy practically lasts a year!
Now I wish I hadn't waited. Several months after deciding I was ready, he decided that we should wait longer. He decided that for his career we should wait at LEAST another three years! (I would be over thirty while pregnant with our FIRST child.)
I feel very frustrated. I told him I respected his career aspirations, his dreams, and would never want to hold him back in his career. However, I am not happy with the decision to wait this long. He knows this though. As a result, he is now okay with us going to a particular European destination he was previously opposed to.
I feel like we are heading down a different track of a different lifestyle than I imagined. I always wanted to have both my two children before I turned thirty, or have my LAST child at thirty.
Many parents where I live have babies in their thirties, in fact having children in your mid twenties or younger is a rare thing.
He has to take this big exam and wants to have children AFTER this exam. Mind you, this is not a college exam, this is for his job. He doesn't know when he can take this exam yet, he wants to try taking it a little earlier or exactly when he can. It just has me frustrated because I am a planner and like to know exactly when.
I don't want to "forget" to have children. This is not something that I want to put off as if it is not important. Luckily, I am a teacher and get to spend my days "mothering" and teaching children. However, it just adds to my frustration of wanting our own and wanting to share and create a beautiful childhood.
I tried to comprimise and start trying around the same season as his test, however he doesn't even know when he can take it yet and won't be able to find out yet either. It all depends on his job performance for the next few years. As a result, I feel like this is still all unsettled and I don't know what I'm working towards. Ugth.
I just wish we could have kids sooner, after all pregnancy practically lasts a year!
My husband and I have been together for about 5 years and married for two of these. Neither of us have children at this point and we discussed having children before we were married with the idea that we would start trying at about a year into our marriage. This time came and passed and now he has other reasons to prolong having a child, first it was being married a year, that's fair, he wanted me to stop smoking, that's fair all these things accomplished and now he believes that we must not EVER have an argument. These are obviously reasons that have turned into excuses. I am currently 28 and he is 43 no prior children, we are both educated have great jobs so I am really not understanding this other than I am beginning to resent my husband more and more and we are now going from a happy couple to a very unhappy couple mostly due to this issue. It is like he never intended on children and has created a self fullfilled prophecy.
I can't even begin to say how at home I feel when I read these posts.
I'm almost at my wits end while I wait for my husband to decide that he's ready.
Firstly, I'm 23 years old and my husband is going to be 31 in only a few months. We've been together since early 04 and we married in Dec of that year so we've been married for four years. There was a ton of skepticism, but we proved them wrong. No matter how rough things got for us and no matter how hopeless it seemed at times, we stuck together and that counts for a lot.
But sadly, no matter how much you love one another, topics like, "I want a family, when can we make this happen?" will always lead us into an argument.
Now, that said, we both a ton of goals in life that we'd love to accomplish. I'm very artistic, he loves personal training... we both work on film projects.. we have our whole lives ahead of us to nurture our careers but I've always longed to have a child... a family at a young age. I don't want one because it's a trend. I don't want one because I want someone to love me. I want to feel complete ... I want to have a child ... I want to give my husband children. I think a wife giving her husband children is one of the most amazing things we can do in our lives.
I feel like I want this for all of the right reasons but my husband keeps telling my absolutely not.
Now first he stated he didn't want to, "ruin his life" with a baby. To fowl up his plans of a career s'os to speak. I've never forgotten that. I know people say things in the heat of arguments but honestly, I think this is how he feels. It's a fear for him.
Now of course it's moved beyond that, now we don't have the money, so says he.
I'll be perfectly honest: We don't have a ton of money but we get by and we're in love. We can get hand me downs of absolutely everything we'd need material wise so that cuts a huge amount of expenses down.
My clock has been going off for the past 3 years and I know men seem to think that our clocks are a figment of our imagination and that we should simply put our feelings aside but is it possible to wait for these past few years and slowly become resentful, un-trusting and eventually... cold?
Of course it is. Is it justified? Not entirely.
Now as time passes the ultimatums no doubt spew from all of our mouths.
We've all, at least once said, "OK. You need to give me A or else!"
Who's NOT said that? It was never right of us to say it but we did it with good intentions. We did it because we wanted them to listen.
Did they listen? Not really, but we certainly got a rise out of them.
Was that our objective? No, of course not.
I suppose arguing, causing waves and being stubborn might prove that we're not ready for children but on the other hand if we've all stuck with it this long, held out this long, maybe it's just our way of showing our absolute frustration.
Call me impatient but I don't want to wait until I'm 26 to have my first child. I don't want to wait until our account is full of money before we try. Anything can happen at any time. Our lives aren't guaranteed from one day to the next and I think it the scheme of things, we forget that.
He's always preaching to me that we should live for the day and that we don't want to regret what could have been. And to him I want to ask, "Then what if your career falls through? What if at 45 you are still stuck in this same spot but with no family to finish out your life with?" Think of all the damage he's done not only to his life but to his wife's life and can it ever be fixed?
Love goes so far but when you deny matters of the heart... I can see why so many flames die, so many couples just divorce rather then to wait to see what happens. And who are we to blame them? We have only one life to live, should we spend it waiting?
So aside from the topic I suppose the real question is, "How much longer can we wait?" and we all seem to be so dedicated here. No poking holes in condoms, no forgetting to take our pills.. we're being responsible. We're being so respectful to our loves, it's hard to feel like we're being respected in return.
Please understand, again, I know love is why you're still waiting but when does it turn from love to resentment and is it possible to turn that around knowing how much time you've already used up?
Oops. Sorry for the rant :\
I'm almost at my wits end while I wait for my husband to decide that he's ready.
Firstly, I'm 23 years old and my husband is going to be 31 in only a few months. We've been together since early 04 and we married in Dec of that year so we've been married for four years. There was a ton of skepticism, but we proved them wrong. No matter how rough things got for us and no matter how hopeless it seemed at times, we stuck together and that counts for a lot.
But sadly, no matter how much you love one another, topics like, "I want a family, when can we make this happen?" will always lead us into an argument.
Now, that said, we both a ton of goals in life that we'd love to accomplish. I'm very artistic, he loves personal training... we both work on film projects.. we have our whole lives ahead of us to nurture our careers but I've always longed to have a child... a family at a young age. I don't want one because it's a trend. I don't want one because I want someone to love me. I want to feel complete ... I want to have a child ... I want to give my husband children. I think a wife giving her husband children is one of the most amazing things we can do in our lives.
I feel like I want this for all of the right reasons but my husband keeps telling my absolutely not.
Now first he stated he didn't want to, "ruin his life" with a baby. To fowl up his plans of a career s'os to speak. I've never forgotten that. I know people say things in the heat of arguments but honestly, I think this is how he feels. It's a fear for him.
Now of course it's moved beyond that, now we don't have the money, so says he.
I'll be perfectly honest: We don't have a ton of money but we get by and we're in love. We can get hand me downs of absolutely everything we'd need material wise so that cuts a huge amount of expenses down.
My clock has been going off for the past 3 years and I know men seem to think that our clocks are a figment of our imagination and that we should simply put our feelings aside but is it possible to wait for these past few years and slowly become resentful, un-trusting and eventually... cold?
Of course it is. Is it justified? Not entirely.
Now as time passes the ultimatums no doubt spew from all of our mouths.
We've all, at least once said, "OK. You need to give me A or else!"
Who's NOT said that? It was never right of us to say it but we did it with good intentions. We did it because we wanted them to listen.
Did they listen? Not really, but we certainly got a rise out of them.
Was that our objective? No, of course not.
I suppose arguing, causing waves and being stubborn might prove that we're not ready for children but on the other hand if we've all stuck with it this long, held out this long, maybe it's just our way of showing our absolute frustration.
Call me impatient but I don't want to wait until I'm 26 to have my first child. I don't want to wait until our account is full of money before we try. Anything can happen at any time. Our lives aren't guaranteed from one day to the next and I think it the scheme of things, we forget that.
He's always preaching to me that we should live for the day and that we don't want to regret what could have been. And to him I want to ask, "Then what if your career falls through? What if at 45 you are still stuck in this same spot but with no family to finish out your life with?" Think of all the damage he's done not only to his life but to his wife's life and can it ever be fixed?
Love goes so far but when you deny matters of the heart... I can see why so many flames die, so many couples just divorce rather then to wait to see what happens. And who are we to blame them? We have only one life to live, should we spend it waiting?
So aside from the topic I suppose the real question is, "How much longer can we wait?" and we all seem to be so dedicated here. No poking holes in condoms, no forgetting to take our pills.. we're being responsible. We're being so respectful to our loves, it's hard to feel like we're being respected in return.
Please understand, again, I know love is why you're still waiting but when does it turn from love to resentment and is it possible to turn that around knowing how much time you've already used up?
Oops. Sorry for the rant :\
Wow, reading these posts is like reading my own thoughts. Who knew all of us feel the exact same way. Even though the throb of pain is still present, I find some solace in reading your blogs. :-) Thank you.
I am going to be 24 in a week, and my husband is almost 26. We have been married for almost 4 years, and we have been very happy. We bought our first house in September, we are both in the Army, and we have almost zero debt and have surpassed our goal for our savings account for the year.
There is nothing I have ever wanted more in my life than to be a mom. I knew it was going to take a lot for my husband to be ready to have kids because he grew up extremely poor and unstable. He has always said he wants to be financially stable before having kids. Because of this I have not mentioned my strong desire to have kids until recently so that he did not feel pressured. I wanted to respect him, since he was upfront about this from the very beginning.
I recently found out I have some semi-serious health problems. Nothing fatal, but things that could potentially affect my fertility and other things. This is terrifying for me because I don't believe in having fertility assistance. My husband is aware of all of these problems, but does not seem to be fazed. We also have issues in the bedroom, so that makes me even more stressed I won't be able to get pregnant.
I know I am considered young, but I am so nervous. I feel he is going backwards, and I am trying to go forward in our life. He said he wants to be more financially stable, but I think that is an excuse because at the same time he is getting his motorcycle license and wants to buy a motorcycle. I wish he would at least tell me the truth about it.
It seems that ever since I have been honest with myself about my feelings, there are so many people having babies all around me. The most painful I found out today; my sister. I am happy for her, but she is miserable because she is not ready. She is not in a good money situation, and she is about to go on disability because she really hurt her back 2 weeks ago and can't walk. It breaks my heart to hear the disappointment in her voice, when she gets the thing I want the most and is unhappy about it. I can't think about anything else.
My husband has been away at school the past couple of weeks, and I have been so unhappy. I am really scared of how awkward things are going to be when he comes home.
I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts.
I am going to be 24 in a week, and my husband is almost 26. We have been married for almost 4 years, and we have been very happy. We bought our first house in September, we are both in the Army, and we have almost zero debt and have surpassed our goal for our savings account for the year.
There is nothing I have ever wanted more in my life than to be a mom. I knew it was going to take a lot for my husband to be ready to have kids because he grew up extremely poor and unstable. He has always said he wants to be financially stable before having kids. Because of this I have not mentioned my strong desire to have kids until recently so that he did not feel pressured. I wanted to respect him, since he was upfront about this from the very beginning.
I recently found out I have some semi-serious health problems. Nothing fatal, but things that could potentially affect my fertility and other things. This is terrifying for me because I don't believe in having fertility assistance. My husband is aware of all of these problems, but does not seem to be fazed. We also have issues in the bedroom, so that makes me even more stressed I won't be able to get pregnant.
I know I am considered young, but I am so nervous. I feel he is going backwards, and I am trying to go forward in our life. He said he wants to be more financially stable, but I think that is an excuse because at the same time he is getting his motorcycle license and wants to buy a motorcycle. I wish he would at least tell me the truth about it.
It seems that ever since I have been honest with myself about my feelings, there are so many people having babies all around me. The most painful I found out today; my sister. I am happy for her, but she is miserable because she is not ready. She is not in a good money situation, and she is about to go on disability because she really hurt her back 2 weeks ago and can't walk. It breaks my heart to hear the disappointment in her voice, when she gets the thing I want the most and is unhappy about it. I can't think about anything else.
My husband has been away at school the past couple of weeks, and I have been so unhappy. I am really scared of how awkward things are going to be when he comes home.
I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts.
It is good to find people in the same situation, but does anyone have any ideas? That's what I'd like to see.