I've never looked specifically for stats, but based on a lot of reading my guess would be that maybe 5 to 10% of men past puberty have a problem with constant erections, or at least frequent erections, for a variety of reasons. That's just a guess on my part, though. Some are the result of too much blood flow to the penis (as mine is) and some are the result of blood being trapped in the penis, which is actually just a normal erection as long as it goes away after a while. Excessive blood flow isn't dangerous, but when blood is trapped in the penis and can't get out for some reason, that's ischemic priapism and that's the one you see the warnings about - like if you have an erection for more than 4 hours you should go to the emergency room. Anyway, if there were stats on this, they probably wouldn't be all that accurate because a lot of men wouldn't talk about having constant erections even with their doctor.
We've been to the nude beach this summer, a couple of friends my friend and me. The other guy undressed also on the 1. day but he got dressed after a few minutes because he started to get a hardon. Both girls asked him to get naked again but he would not. On 2. day he remained with his shorts on because again he had a hardon but this time from the beginning on. He told us so very freely and of course his shorts didn't hide it very well. So we talked about hardons and especially his and mine and in the end I was hard also but I decided to stay naked. On 3. day he had had sex with his friend just before coming to the beach and he thought he was on the safe side. He undressed and after a while we went for a walk on the beach. After quite a long time we had still not turned and he started to hide his penis with his hand because he was getting another hardon. He asked us to sit down but it wouldn't go away so we convinced him to let it happen. His friend was actually kind of proud and put her arm around him and held him close to her. At that moment I would have liked to have a hardon myself because it seemed to be most natural thing on earth. Nobody took offence at his state of arousal on our walk back and the following days he didn't hide it anymore when it happened. But I was kind of ashamed because my penis was smaller than his and because I had only rarely hardons and only for a short time.
I think that just sort of proves that everyone's different. Your friend obviously didn't want to be erect, but couldn't help it, and apparently it didn't have anything to do with thoughts about sex or anything like that. On the plus side, it seems that his girlfriend liked it. That's my point, though - some guys just get erections a lot whether they want to or not, for a variety of reasons. No one should ever assume that it means they're thinking about sex, or are some kind of perv or something. Take those assumptions out of it, and what's there to be offended about? Or embarrassed about? That doesn't mean a guy should be touching himself or otherwise trying to show it off, obviously.
Anyway, it seems like with nude beaches, it kind of depends what beach it is. It also seems that if it's a couple (or group of people) and a guy has an erection, nobody really minds - but if it's a guy by himself, then it's somehow offensive. Or am I missing something here? I'm talking about adults, not teenage boys, of course. It seems like a lot of women would either sort of like it or at least not care, if the guy is with someone, and only a few would be offended.
Anyway, it seems like with nude beaches, it kind of depends what beach it is. It also seems that if it's a couple (or group of people) and a guy has an erection, nobody really minds - but if it's a guy by himself, then it's somehow offensive. Or am I missing something here? I'm talking about adults, not teenage boys, of course. It seems like a lot of women would either sort of like it or at least not care, if the guy is with someone, and only a few would be offended.
No I believe you're quite right. I was with my bf at a nude beach this summer and it took me two days to convince him to not let his hardons spoil the thing and afterwards when we were walking and he was hard nobody seemed to take offence.
Thanks - kind of proves my theory. I wouldn't be at a nude beach by myself anyway, I'd be with my girlfriend, so I'll probably try it. She's talked about it in the past and when I told her about this discussion she pretty much said "See, no one will care so lets go while the weather's still nice!" Can't this weekend, but if the weather stays good maybe next weekend. She's been to nude beaches before, but it'll be my first time. Still makes me kinda nervous, but I'm talking myself into it - I'll never know if I don't try it, and it'll make her happy.
Sorry I didn't know you had a personal interest in the answer. So let me be more specific in order to reassure you compleletely. Of course Alex wasn't hard all the time but he's pretty much the frequent boner guy (which I love) and he's always looking more or less swollen even if his penis hangs it stands away in a small angle but most of the time he's partially hard and it stands away in a 30-40 degree angle. This he was comfortable with but my friend who was with us made a remark about it, not a negative one, only that she found it awesome, but it made him become more self-conscious and more reluctant to be naked when getting or becoming really hard. In no way was she offended and anyway she had seen him naked (and hard) before. When he felt that he was going to be hard the first time on the beach he went into the water before it really happened but when he came out he still was half-erect and he was back to fully erect before reaching our spot. He was alone then but even then nobody seemed to take offence. On day 2 he was hard to start with and we looked out for other men with hardons and that day we found 3 adult men, 2 who were alone and obviously not quite innocent and everybody ignored them and 1 who was with his family and who was like Alex changing from partial to half and sometimes more than that. But speaking about it made Alex even more conscious and also more hard and he wouldn't go into the water on that day. So in the evening I talked to him and managed to convince him to act as if nothing were and even to undergo a "shock therapy" by walking a long distance on the beach without taking a towel to hide his penis if it went hard. So on day 3 we had sex in the morning in order to calm it down and he was flaccid at the beginning and the three of us started for our walk. After an hour or so he showed the first signs of getting hard but his penis was growing but still more or less hanging. Both of us held hands so that he felt reassured and also so that there could be no misunderstanding concerning our relationship to anyone. Then he put his hand around my waist and I did the same and this started it for good. He got half hard and stayed like that for some time and then he went fully hard. I caressed his butt in order to show him my support and my friend said very nice things to him and he agreed to walk on like this. I can tell you nobody was offended. Of course people looked and some looked very deliberately so be prepared for that but nobody said anything or showed signs of disapproval. We crossed a group of young people playing volleyball and 2 were erect and they stopped playing and showed in our direction and smiled at us but that was I suppose because they were glad there was another one, just like we had done the day before. There was also an adolescent couple walking holding hands and he was erect and they were simply cute and we greeted them and they greeted back. And on our way back the group of volleyball players was still there, standing but they were back to soft whereas Alex was still changing from half to fully erect. My friend said she was very proud of walking with us like that. and we talked about nipples showing and getting hard (my friend's are quite impressive though she's got a small bust) and women who have their lips hanging out (we met a few, fully shaved so very noticeable). The remaining days we didn't repeat the walk but Alex accepted his state and was happy with it. So: good luck to you. You should go for it, maybe also walk in order to get the worst out of it immediately. It's very liberating.
Thank you! I know I'm probably worrying about nothing, but when you look fully hard all the time it's something you think about. Very briefly, due to an injury I'm permanently about 75% erect, and short of surgery that I won't risk, there's nothing I can do about it. Long story. It's called non-ischemic priapism, if you want to look it up. I wrote about it earlier in this thread, and I don't mind repeating the details (the injury, the diagnosis, living with it, etc.) if anyone cares. Anyway, that's why I'm a little nervous about a nude beach - it's not embarrassment, I've learned to live with it, but I'm not into offending people or upsetting anyone.
With that said, it looks like I'll find out next weekend if nothing changes. I hope everyone's right! The long walk is a good idea - I think it's a good way to kind of get acclimated to being nude whether you're hard or not - and my girlfriend will like it. Thanks again!
With that said, it looks like I'll find out next weekend if nothing changes. I hope everyone's right! The long walk is a good idea - I think it's a good way to kind of get acclimated to being nude whether you're hard or not - and my girlfriend will like it. Thanks again!
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I went through all this myself when I was at university there was this nude beach nearby and there was a dare that we go and do it, we were 3 guys and 1 girl she was boyish but nonetheless I suppose everyone of us was afraid he was getting hard when seein her naked and I for my part was afraid that I was going to be hard anyway because I was like you other guys here freauently hard. That morning I masturbated twice in order to not be hard immediately. So we boys undressed and she wanted to keep on her bikinitop at first but then she took it off also and she actually had great tits but she was also very hairy and I don't know if that put the others off or if they too had masturbated before anyway no one got hard right away. We went for a walk and i felt all relaxed and then it happened and no way to hide it of course. One of the other guys said "so you"re the first" and she said that she had hoped to see at least one of us hard and that suddenly made it all normal.
I went through all this myself when I was at university there was this nude beach nearby and there was a dare that we go and do it, we were 3 guys and 1 girl she was boyish but nonetheless I suppose everyone of us was afraid he was getting hard when seein her naked and I for my part was afraid that I was going to be hard anyway because I was like you other guys here freauently hard. That morning I masturbated twice in order to not be hard immediately. So we boys undressed and she wanted to keep on her bikinitop at first but then she took it off also and she actually had great tits but she was also very hairy and I don't know if that put the others off or if they too had masturbated before anyway no one got hard right away. We went for a walk and i felt all relaxed and then it happened and no way to hide it of course. One of the other guys said "so you"re the first" and she said that she had hoped to see at least one of us hard and that suddenly made it all normal.
Actually, it went really well! I was pretty nervous at first, but I guess that's pretty normal for anyone - but everyone always says that after a while you get used to being nude and it's no big deal, and I found that to be true. We did "the walk" almost first thing - I'm not sure how far, but a long way down the beach, and if anyone was offended they didn't say anything. I really wasn't paying much attention to how many people noticed I was erect because habit kicked in - I mean, you can tell even if I'm dressed, and I'm used to that and very good at ignoring it, and that's what I did - I basically just ignored it. Noticing who noticed was my girlfriend's department lol! Anyway, the walk was repeated several times through the day, and after the first one it was really no big deal.
I wasn't the only guy with an erection, but we only saw a few others. There was a teenage guy who seemed to have one most of the time, two couples where the guy was at least partially hard, and oddly enough an older couple where the guy seemed to be mostly erect all the time. My girlfriend thought he probably had an implant and kept it pumped up to please his wife! lol! That was about it, though. The beach wasn't terribly crowded, but certainly not empty - a lot of couples from teenagers to I guess late 60s, a few people alone that kept to themselves mostly, and only a couple of families who didn't seem to pay much attention to everyone else. There was one couple who we saw every time we walked down the beach - a little older than me and my girlfriend I think - and my girlfriend pointed out that the woman very definitely noticed my erection every time we walked by. About the fourth time we went by, she got up and came over to us (with her husband) and said hi. We stood there talking for a bit, and she finally asked my girlfriend what she did to me to keep me erect! lol! I explained about my injury and then we sat with them and talked about that and other stuff for a while. That was the only comment all day, though, and it was all positive. Oh, and her husband got erect while we were talking, which the wife was thoroughly enjoying. That was the only other erection we saw. My point, though, is that I came away from the whole experience feeling that at least on THAT beach, an erection is no big deal, and that most women actually enjoy seeing it. I hope that's the case - I liked the whole experience and I want to do it again, but still have a little concern about offending someone.
Just because it was brought up - do women on a nude beach really have a concern about hard nipples? My girlfriend has quite long nipples, and I know is sometimes bothered that they show through her clothes, but on the nude beach she says she really doesn't think about it much - less than she would in a swimsuit. Just curious - being brand new to nude beaches, it's not something I ever thought about before.
Okay - female guest (since I don't know your name) thank you again! Kisses back! You helped a lot, I really liked having a female perspective outside of my girlfriend's. I'd love to hear your thoughts if you have time and feel like it.
Everyone else - thanks for your stories and comments, I really appreciate them! Going to a nude beach for the first time has it's challenges for anyone, even more for me, and you all made it easier. You guys helped me make my girlfriend (soon to be wife) happy - she loved it!
I wasn't the only guy with an erection, but we only saw a few others. There was a teenage guy who seemed to have one most of the time, two couples where the guy was at least partially hard, and oddly enough an older couple where the guy seemed to be mostly erect all the time. My girlfriend thought he probably had an implant and kept it pumped up to please his wife! lol! That was about it, though. The beach wasn't terribly crowded, but certainly not empty - a lot of couples from teenagers to I guess late 60s, a few people alone that kept to themselves mostly, and only a couple of families who didn't seem to pay much attention to everyone else. There was one couple who we saw every time we walked down the beach - a little older than me and my girlfriend I think - and my girlfriend pointed out that the woman very definitely noticed my erection every time we walked by. About the fourth time we went by, she got up and came over to us (with her husband) and said hi. We stood there talking for a bit, and she finally asked my girlfriend what she did to me to keep me erect! lol! I explained about my injury and then we sat with them and talked about that and other stuff for a while. That was the only comment all day, though, and it was all positive. Oh, and her husband got erect while we were talking, which the wife was thoroughly enjoying. That was the only other erection we saw. My point, though, is that I came away from the whole experience feeling that at least on THAT beach, an erection is no big deal, and that most women actually enjoy seeing it. I hope that's the case - I liked the whole experience and I want to do it again, but still have a little concern about offending someone.
Just because it was brought up - do women on a nude beach really have a concern about hard nipples? My girlfriend has quite long nipples, and I know is sometimes bothered that they show through her clothes, but on the nude beach she says she really doesn't think about it much - less than she would in a swimsuit. Just curious - being brand new to nude beaches, it's not something I ever thought about before.
Okay - female guest (since I don't know your name) thank you again! Kisses back! You helped a lot, I really liked having a female perspective outside of my girlfriend's. I'd love to hear your thoughts if you have time and feel like it.
Everyone else - thanks for your stories and comments, I really appreciate them! Going to a nude beach for the first time has it's challenges for anyone, even more for me, and you all made it easier. You guys helped me make my girlfriend (soon to be wife) happy - she loved it!
Thanks woodsman for the story. So your experience is very much like ours and I believe it to be the same on most beaches. There's a long way from a hard penis to an offending penis! It needs an offending attitude for that. As for the nipples: not minding that much when nude yes that's something my friend could I believe relate to. I've got small nipples but laaarge areolas so it's only noticeable when nude but if you go down that road and worry about everything you'd better just stop being nude. I get the occasional stare but I'm fine with it. Have a nice day. And by the way, the name's Sandy.
You're welcome Sandy! And thank you for the encouragement! Your story helped me decide to go for it, and I'm glad I did. I don't think it'll happen again this year because the weather's cooling now, but my girlfriend already has plans for next year lol! I think I'd better get used to this - we're even talking about finding someplace where we can have a nude honeymoon. (Just talk so far, but she's serious!)
You and she seem to think a lot alike, actually - she said almost the same thing you did about just not being nude if you're going to worry about everything, and not worrying about stares. She said, "Let them look, so what, I'm looking at THEM, too. We notice the differences in people's bodies, but the point is, we don't really judge when we're all nude because we're all aware of our own flaws." Pretty smart, I think. (I won't say that's word for word, but it's pretty close.) Anyway, that's kind of been my point all along - don't make assumptions about erections, and mostly, don't judge! Same thing goes for nipples (or areolas) or any other body part. Oh, and finally, I'm Rick and my girlfriend's Nicole. Thanks again Sandy - have a great weekend!
Everyone else - your stories and comments are appreciated too!
You and she seem to think a lot alike, actually - she said almost the same thing you did about just not being nude if you're going to worry about everything, and not worrying about stares. She said, "Let them look, so what, I'm looking at THEM, too. We notice the differences in people's bodies, but the point is, we don't really judge when we're all nude because we're all aware of our own flaws." Pretty smart, I think. (I won't say that's word for word, but it's pretty close.) Anyway, that's kind of been my point all along - don't make assumptions about erections, and mostly, don't judge! Same thing goes for nipples (or areolas) or any other body part. Oh, and finally, I'm Rick and my girlfriend's Nicole. Thanks again Sandy - have a great weekend!
Everyone else - your stories and comments are appreciated too!
Wow, this is amazing, the way you keep this topic clean and nice! I'd like to share my story (well actually my husband's). He's 29 and still remains as you put it the "frequent boner guy". Both of us are used to nude beaches and resorts so it is only natural that we go there together. He's of course at ease with having erections but he's always uncomfortable when his penis is starting to stand in front of other people. I like it; I find the change beautiful because he has such a small penis when it is soft and it gets three times as long when it is hard, from more or less 2'' to 5.5'' with a nice upward curve and his glans also uncovers in the process because his foreskin is not long enough to cover it when it is hard, but for the same reasons he's embarrassed. So he's ok with having a hard but not with the process of getting one. Isn't that weird? I mean it's beautiful but if he could choose he would cover up then. He's at ease with it when it happens when we're alone of course but not in public. But of course it happens all the time, for his erections don't last very long, only a few minutes, but when he's naked he gets up to 3 or even 4 in an hour and so even if they're not always full erections and also if he doesn't always get back to being completely soft in between in the resort we spent our summer holidays he had easily 20 or 30 erections each day and at least 10 of them were the real thing from completely soft to fully hard and this happened when we were queuing in the store or when we were in the elevator or when we were having drinks with others etc. It also happens regularly when he starts peeing so he usually uses the individual toilets but in one of the restaurants there was only a trough urinal and it happened there, starting actually when he got up from the table so that he ended up fully erect while he was peeing and it prevented him actually from finishing. He knows how I love it when he gets erect though so he tries less to hide it but I know it's difficult for him. I hope I haven't given you too much detail but I wanted to share this so that you could maybe understand the problem the way he feels it.
Hehe - well, as clean and nice as the subject of erections can be, I guess. The point is that erections are perceived as sexual arousal by a lot of people, and that just isn't the case all the time. Sure, sometimes it's arousal, and I'm sure that for many guys it's almost always arousal, but at the same time there are a lot of us who just get lots of random erections, and a few of us who are permanently erect for other reasons. I live with this, and want people to understand that it's NOT arousal most of the time - but if I let this topic degenerate into sexual innuendo I'm not making that point at all.
Anyway, with that said, no that wasn't too much detail because you stayed on point. Your husband gets frequent erections, not necessarily because he's aroused, but because that's just how his body works. You love it and think the change is beautiful - you didn't make it overtly sexual, you just find it a very appealing thing. What's wrong with that? Nicole finds my condition very attractive (thankfully) because in her opinion an erect penis is far more attractive than a flaccid one, as is a bulge in a guy's pants. She knows full well that it doesn't mean I'm aroused, she just thinks an erect penis is much better looking, and that the bulge when I'm dressed is appealing. I get it - I love looking at her because I think she's beautiful. I'm not necessarily thinking of sex when I look at her, sometimes I'm just enjoying her beauty. Yes, I think her long nipples are very appealing, but they're only a small part of what I see. The same goes for her, nude or dressed - when she looks at me my erection is just part of the overall picture. Point is, once again, it's not always sexual. Maybe another way to put it is that there's a distinct difference between sex appeal and sexual arousal.
About your husband's discomfort with the process of becoming erect, I think I understand. I remember as a teen being erect almost constantly, and you have to develop an attitude that you just don't care. There's nothing you can do about it, so you do your best not to let it bother you. For example, if I put on a swimsuit when I was already erect, my attitude was pretty much, "Oh well, there's nothing I can do about it." I didn't like it, but I knew it probably wasn't going to go away, so I did my best to ignore it. If I'd managed to put on a swimsuit without being erect, though, and then was out near the water and started becoming erect, that would embarrass me. Once I was fully erect I'd go back to ignoring it out of necessity, but I never could manage to ignore the feeling of the erection growing. I wish I could explain why the process is embarrassing, but I really don't know - it just is. Even now, although there's not too much difference in how I look between 75% erect and fully erect, I'm quite aware of the process as it happens. There's no particular embarrassment, as the only person who's likely to notice is Nicole, but a vestige of it remains.
I have to laugh - yes, the peeing problem! I don't have it much at 75%, I have just enough flexibility to manage to aim, but fully erect the stream goes mostly upward. I have a bit of upward curve too - slight at 75%, but more pronounced when I'm fully erect. It's not much, but when fully erect the end of my penis (last inch and a half, I suppose) curves upward significantly. Other than that it's pretty much straight out in front of me. I don't have the issue of my glans being exposed, I think that would be quite uncomfortable. My foreskin will pull back without too much difficulty but won't stay back. I honestly don't know if I'd find it embarrassing if my glans was exposed, I've never thought about it - mostly just uncomfortable when dressed, I think. So there, I've shared detail as well - it's simply male anatomy.
I very much appreciate your stories, Sandy, and I understand a woman having a certain amount of curiosity about male anatomy and men's feelings about it. We're just as bad - men are endlessly curious about female anatomy, as I'm sure you're aware! Regardless, most men won't open up about this sort of thing. I've been forced to by my situation, occasionally because I'm defending myself against accusations that I'm some sort of pervert - all because of an injury. I just want people to get it! So I don't mind details, mine or anyone else's (if they choose to share) as long as we keep it a serious open discussion without sexual innuendo. With that in mind, I'm open to almost any question.
Anyway, with that said, no that wasn't too much detail because you stayed on point. Your husband gets frequent erections, not necessarily because he's aroused, but because that's just how his body works. You love it and think the change is beautiful - you didn't make it overtly sexual, you just find it a very appealing thing. What's wrong with that? Nicole finds my condition very attractive (thankfully) because in her opinion an erect penis is far more attractive than a flaccid one, as is a bulge in a guy's pants. She knows full well that it doesn't mean I'm aroused, she just thinks an erect penis is much better looking, and that the bulge when I'm dressed is appealing. I get it - I love looking at her because I think she's beautiful. I'm not necessarily thinking of sex when I look at her, sometimes I'm just enjoying her beauty. Yes, I think her long nipples are very appealing, but they're only a small part of what I see. The same goes for her, nude or dressed - when she looks at me my erection is just part of the overall picture. Point is, once again, it's not always sexual. Maybe another way to put it is that there's a distinct difference between sex appeal and sexual arousal.
About your husband's discomfort with the process of becoming erect, I think I understand. I remember as a teen being erect almost constantly, and you have to develop an attitude that you just don't care. There's nothing you can do about it, so you do your best not to let it bother you. For example, if I put on a swimsuit when I was already erect, my attitude was pretty much, "Oh well, there's nothing I can do about it." I didn't like it, but I knew it probably wasn't going to go away, so I did my best to ignore it. If I'd managed to put on a swimsuit without being erect, though, and then was out near the water and started becoming erect, that would embarrass me. Once I was fully erect I'd go back to ignoring it out of necessity, but I never could manage to ignore the feeling of the erection growing. I wish I could explain why the process is embarrassing, but I really don't know - it just is. Even now, although there's not too much difference in how I look between 75% erect and fully erect, I'm quite aware of the process as it happens. There's no particular embarrassment, as the only person who's likely to notice is Nicole, but a vestige of it remains.
I have to laugh - yes, the peeing problem! I don't have it much at 75%, I have just enough flexibility to manage to aim, but fully erect the stream goes mostly upward. I have a bit of upward curve too - slight at 75%, but more pronounced when I'm fully erect. It's not much, but when fully erect the end of my penis (last inch and a half, I suppose) curves upward significantly. Other than that it's pretty much straight out in front of me. I don't have the issue of my glans being exposed, I think that would be quite uncomfortable. My foreskin will pull back without too much difficulty but won't stay back. I honestly don't know if I'd find it embarrassing if my glans was exposed, I've never thought about it - mostly just uncomfortable when dressed, I think. So there, I've shared detail as well - it's simply male anatomy.
I very much appreciate your stories, Sandy, and I understand a woman having a certain amount of curiosity about male anatomy and men's feelings about it. We're just as bad - men are endlessly curious about female anatomy, as I'm sure you're aware! Regardless, most men won't open up about this sort of thing. I've been forced to by my situation, occasionally because I'm defending myself against accusations that I'm some sort of pervert - all because of an injury. I just want people to get it! So I don't mind details, mine or anyone else's (if they choose to share) as long as we keep it a serious open discussion without sexual innuendo. With that in mind, I'm open to almost any question.
hi folks, these are amazing stories, but I couldnt" bring my husband to perform all that
he's asamed of his erections, he alwahys has been and hoped for them to become less frequent, today he's 25 and stil l rock hard in the morning and after that a few more times during the day and in between his penis mostly remains swollen and difficult to conceal even if it"s not standing. of course when he gets hard there's no way to conceal it no matter what underwear or what type of trousers he wears.
how could I make him comfortable with his condition? he even at home refuses to get naked and to be at ease.
he's asamed of his erections, he alwahys has been and hoped for them to become less frequent, today he's 25 and stil l rock hard in the morning and after that a few more times during the day and in between his penis mostly remains swollen and difficult to conceal even if it"s not standing. of course when he gets hard there's no way to conceal it no matter what underwear or what type of trousers he wears.
how could I make him comfortable with his condition? he even at home refuses to get naked and to be at ease.