I'm ashamed of my erect penis

Hi. If he refuses to get naked even when there's only you it might be difficult. I try to hide my own hardons as well as possible but at home I go "bottomless" which actually turns my gf on. Maybe tell him you would like to see his penis especially when it's hard. I'm mostly semi-hard with only part of my penis sticking out but it actually goes up and down (literally lol) a lot and she loves to witness this and often caresses me or even gives me a blowjob. I think you should tell him.

I don't think there's any way you can make someone comfortable with their erections. Maybe point out that there are a lot of men who "show" no matter what they do, even when they're soft. Also, I guess, make sure he knows you love it. That's helped me a lot - my gf loves that I show, and even though I accepted it a long time ago, that still makes it easier for me. Another thing is that a lot of people don't even notice, and when someone does, so what? I know this sounds too simple, but it's really just a matter of learning not to worry about what you can't change, and not being too concerned about what other people might think. Your husband has to do that for himself - he has to decide not to let it bother him, and no one can do that for him. Again, he's definitely not alone! Something else to think about - how often does he notice other guys who show? I don't usually - my gf points them out sometimes if she notices, but I rarely pay any attention. Assuming he doesn't notice other guys, why would he think other guys notice him? For that matter, why would he think women notice him? I know better than most that sometimes people notice and judge, and I hate that, but as I've said many times, erections aren't always sexual. Those who assume that they are, are ignorant. That's just another way to see it - don't worry about what ignorant people think! I don't know if any of this will help - good luck, though.

I've always done a lot of sports and so I've been in a lot of situations where I was naked in front of other guys, showers, changing rooms and later when I did it on a semi-professional level relaxing rooms and even doctor's visits. I was one of those with the most erections but I was far from being the only one so I never really paid attention to it. When you get a massage after a game or even only take a long shower and relax you get easily an erection. So you just don't pay attention. And what woodman writes is quite true: some guys show even when soft!

hi a friend invited me to a party at her place and offered me to stay for the night, therell be other people as well so were probably all going to sleep in the same room and Im afraid of being seen in my pyjama because of my hardons. Any advice?

Wear something else, I guess. Sleep in your pants, maybe. Keep your underwear on under your PJs if it'll help, like if you wear tighty whities. Otherwise just don't worry about it. Personally, I'd do exactly what the guy who posted before you said - don't pay any attention to it. Act like you don't even realize you're erect. Worrying about it and trying to hide it just draws attention to it anyway. Besides, unless you're the only male there, you probably won't be the only one who gets hard - all guys get erections when they're asleep, and most guys wake up hard. Hope that helps - good luck.

We've all got our penis-predicament I guess. My testicles push it up- and forwards so it's always prominent in pyjamas shorts etc.

Hehe - penis pridicament. I like it. Definitely an lol! But yeah, we seem to. My point remains, though - you can't worry about it. No, I wouldn't be a shower if I had a choice, so I get it, but really - everybody knows what's there, and it's not something to be embarrassed about.

I remember going to a nudist resort with my parents. I didn't have much problems with erections as an adolescent, I was hard in the morning but only rarely during the day so I never thought of getting dressed during puberty as some did, I only stayed inside until the morning erection was gone. But one day all of us kids were playing volleyball and I felt myself getting hard. I couldn't interrupt the game or hide so I decided to act natural but step by step I got a full erection and I stayed that way for the whole game. I lost the erection afterwards but got another one only a few minutes later and it went on like that until the end of the day with erections of varying durations from 10-15 min. to more than an hour. Even during the game my penis hurt a little and the longer erections were all more or less painful after some time. Eventually in the evening I masturbated and I got rid of it. Later in my adolescence I experienced this again from time to time and I learned it was an attack of priapism. I haven't experienced it since. Anyway this first time was very awkward for me and I felt shame and at the same time I wanted to overcome this shame. I wasn't the only boy hard, even during the game another one was hard for a short time, but it was not that common either to see erections and above all it was the first time for me that I was hard in public and it felt very strange and since it lasted for that long my friends and my parents asked me about it. But my father told me that he himself had had frequent erections at my age and that he had even been wondering if I shouldn't get more with time. He was very supportive. So we supposed I was going to be hard often myself (which proved to be not true except for the priapism episodes but there wasn't another during these holidays) and since I didn't want to stop being nude because of that and my father encouraged me not to I decided that in the mornings I wouldn't stay behind anymore in order to wait for my erection to go away when my parents and my sister left for the beach. So from that day on I felt actually liberated. And since during that holiday once the morning erection was over I didn't get another one everything was more than ok.

Nice that your father was supportive, and encouraged you not to let erections bother you. I also think that it was pretty courageous of you to just keep playing during that volleyball game, despite feeling shame. You did exactly what I'd do - act natural, like everything's completely normal - because what else are you going to do? I did that all the time as an adolescent, although not nude, but I have to admit that I didn't lose the shame and embarrassment as quickly as you did - it took me a while. If I'd been nude, I don't know - maybe that would have forced me to deal with it more quickly.

Anyway, if you've read the rest of this thread, you know my situation, and I keep coming back to my same old point - erections shouldn't be anything to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. Yes, I still have a bad moment once in a while, I probably always will, but for the most part I'm over that.

Thanks for telling your story!

There's nothing on earth which moves me more, nothing which excites me more, nothing more beautiful, nothing more troubling than a man's erection, than my man's erection. The sheer force of it, its hardness, the pure fragility of it, its softness, the mystery of its growing, the disclosure of its being touch me deeper than I could say. I love you Brad. I love your erection in private and I love your erection in public. I love your memories of your youth, of your loss of power over your powerful body. I love your recollection of the evolution of your soul, from innocence to the feeling of weekness to the consciousness of strength. I imagine that arrow you aimed at the world even at an early age. I picture that totem you raised against the world when you were a little older. I love your stories of how you were mocked for it wherever you had to show it. I love your tale of how you scoffed at it when eventually you decided to show it. I love how you tell about your uncontrollable ejaculations and I love how you describe the first one you were willing to let happen. But most of all I love you for the pleasure that your erection gives you now, when I see it and when others see it, when you feel it and when we both feel it and I love you for the pleasure that it gives me when you show it and when you let me touch it and when you let it touch me. I love you for not being able to hide it and I love you for being able not to try to hide it. I love you for the verticality of your hard penis and for its length, for the thickness of your glans and for the slenderness of your shaft. I love you for your priapism and I love you for your exhibitionism. I love you for you, Brad. Celine

Wow! That's really beautiful! The thoughts and the adoration behind them - so deeply loving! Thank you for posting that - you made my day! There's SO much more there than just the physical...

I was coming here in order to read others' expériences but hey this knocks me out! Beautiful! If every woman could have these feelings for our snakes! Wow!

I was lucky: in my class there was another boy who was hard and in the changing rooms there was another guy who was 2 years older who always got hard when he undressed and he clearly gave sh.. bcause he showered naked and he also dried his hair naked. Nobody said anything to him so both of us were also left alone. Plus this made the others stop hiding when they were hard also.

Yeah, it's always easier when you're not the only one. I usually was. I got pretty good at comebacks, though - like how come you're so interested in everybody's weenies? What's the matter, yours doesn't work? lol

From a woman's point of view: I kind of admire everybody's openmindedness here and yet I think it's normal that other people should think otherwise. (I don't want to earn a sh.tstorm, so I'm trying to be really careful about what I'm going to write here.) I always found it kind of gross to walk around with a hard-on. My brother did at home when he started to have them, naked after showering, with only shorts on in the evening or even during the day etc. and our parents let him do but I didn't want to see his erections and so I had to. Later I had a friend who was the same, even eager to show his and I told him I didn't like it and it was the subject of endless discussions especially when we were on the beach and he wanted to be completely naked. Don't get me wrong: I'm not prudish. I do topless at the beach and I love good sex and IN THAT CONTEXT I love everything about a penis. But it is sex-related, no matter what you write. Even if your erections are not sexual for yourself, how can they not be in the eyes of others. I don't think the parallel with hard nipples is justified. Men also get hard nipples. Nipples are nipples, sexual in a woman, yes, but not a penis. The only parallel could be with a wet vagina I believe and as a woman you don't go naked in public when you're in that state of arousal, at least I don't and when it happens (for ex. after riding) I certainly don't use the common showers.
As I said: I don't want to earn a sh.tstorm. It's only that I think you shouldn't impose your erection on others even if you don't feel sexual about it. The others might find it offending and they might be right about it. I certainly do.