Is it normal my husband masturbates too much ? Newlewed

I'm in the same boat as you ladies i have been with my fiancee 5 years and we have lived together just 12 months , before we lived together we had sex once a day or more , now we live together we have it once a month , my fiancee is bisexual and im starting to think this may be the problem we get into bed and he wont even touch me i always make sure i smell nice dress sexy and always ready incase he feels he urge .... But it's really starting to piss me off , I dont think i can marry a guy who only wants sex once a month , i'm open minded and will try anything different roles e.t.c but it makes no difference STILL NO SEX may have to look around for it because every other guy wants it lol 8)

I've been married 18 months and been with my wife for 5 years. We have 2 children. I used to masturbate a lot and we had a lot of sex.I stopped masturbating and my sex drive dropped or I would have accidents in bed which is really embarrassing. I don't think masturbation is,bad in a relationship providing it's not excessive

experiencing the same as sadwife and guest... and btw, any number of suggestions can be made and those experiences are wonderful - but the sad part is that i am the one who has to promote those and ask for those, and i look forward to those. i want my husband to pursue those times and look forward to them as much as i do.

it is sad sometimes to know that you really are second to the visual porn images that capture his attention almost daily.

If women want men to have more sex with him, then you probably need to lose weight and 2ndly, you need to be more feminine. Nothing hotter than a feminine hand touching your penis. I've had some female's hands touch me that felt like men and it didn't do anything for me at all. If you got a hand and grip like a truck driver's and you are a woman, sorry but that might be part of the problem.

When it comes to being a woman, less is more. It's kind of like string theory. The harder you try, the worse it is. You need to be feminine, innocent, calming, pleasant, and caring and you're man will want to bang your brains out. If you are smoking a cigarette and walking around the house with a beer in hand, then you aren't going to be very attractive to a man. To a man, new toys are always the funnest so if you look like the same toy he's always played with then he's going to stop playing with you.

And btw, when your man is masturbating while in bed with you, that is absolutely not an invitation to join in. It just means he wants to get off and be done with it.

Your SUCH an ass! Yes, it's important for a man to find his woman attractive, but attractive doesn't mean needing to loose more weight or be more feminine. Every man likes something different, so the fact that your generalising like that just show's that your a complete ass. ASS. And before you say I'm probably overweight don't bother. Because I'm actually like 3 pounds under my healthy weight.

2ndly, maybe men need to make more of an effort for their woman. All this comes down to girls is complete selfishness on their part.

Particularly with porn!
As woman we all know that watching a bit of porn or even looking at naked images, even of other woman, can be a turn on.
But we don't choose THAT over "making love" or "f*****g" our partners.
We certainly wouldn't do this if we knew it hurt them!
So why do most men choose to do it, regardless of how it makes us feel?

Because they're inconsiderate cunts, and don't truely understand the complexity of a woman's emotions.
Look, most men can't even multitask! Seriouslly, we're just a better more complex and advanced breed than they are!

If you REALLY want him to stop it, just tell him straight- If he doesn't quit it, and NOW and make love to you more than once a week like a worthy partner should, then you'll be going online to browse some hot images of sexy toned men!

Haha, he'll tell you to go ahead if he's anything like my husband,. . but when you do finally do it you'll never have seen such jealouslly coming from a grown man.
Facebook page? Add some fan pages of "built men"- I "liked Ryan Reynolds fan page, he got soooo pissed which in turn made me so so so happy!!!

If he does continue with the childish behaviour and doesn't give you what you desire then really act like your just so not interested in him anymore. Knock his confidence like he's knocked yours. And actually start spending alot less time with him. Go out, dress sexy, have fun, reassure him that you love him and would never cheat on him if he's becoming too worried though. But teach him a good old fashioned lesson.

At the end of it all,.. you probably wont care less if he's watching porn anymore.
And also, you probably wont care too much that he's not giving it to you so often, because you'll become so used to pleasing yourself aswell, that you will actually become alot less attached to him anyways.

This IS Sad, but he will make you happy before it reaches that point if he has half a brain!!!

P.S You could try another tactic, allow him porn on YOUR Terms, 2 or 3 times a month. If you're in control and YOU decide when he gets it then it doesn't feel as heartachingly painful!

Good Luck Girlies! <3

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i agree with you, some men do become selfish wankers. they are not interested in pleasing anyone but themselves. i was dating a guy like this. he would turn me on through emails and text messages . then i would want to have sex and ask to come over, but he would decline and say that he is going to wank himself instead. he was too tired. it was really hurtful to me. he didn't care about my sexual needs, only his. ladies!!! this is nothing to wink at. i am not saying this applies to all men, but when a man prefers to get himself off instead of you, or if he doesn't allow or want your help, it could be a BIG RED FLAG!!its not good. there's some issues going on there. i love my guy, he is a sweet and gentle man, but i have broken off with him in the past, because i am afraid that he is not going to be a considerate lover. he has told me that its easier to wank himself than to have sex, , i am sure this may be true, but he is going to lose a good, loyal woman because he is content pleasing himself more than me. i have been off and on with him for over 4 years. he is very touchy about his masturbation habit. i don't want to compete with his hand. i don't mind giving him hand jobs or whatever. i think too much masturbation tends to desensitize either sex, but especially men. i can't imagine a man preferring a woman's soft body and sweetness over his hand. what a lonely experience. thank God there's men who would prefer a woman.

my husband and i have been together for 6 years, we have 3 kids, we have no issues with our sexlife but he seems to need to masterbate before he even gets out of bed in the morning and lately hes been waiting for me to fall asleep before he does it, iv been awake a few time without him knowing. nand when i found evidence from last night thismorning and asked when this happened, he said he didnt know. i knew though cause i do the laundry and there was nothing on our floor lastnight. so is he hiding for some reason? feeling guilty? im really upset about it cause hes comfortable to do it with me, or infront of me, but now hes hiding to do it. makes me wonder what is on his mind while hes doing it! pisses me off! i feel like im being mentally cheated on cause ya know damn well there not thinking of you. there thinking of something 18 cute and tight. well im sure like alot of the rest of u guys too, we are no longer 18 cute and tight, im only 26 but if hes doing this now and im not enough for him then what about when im 36 or 46. will he be actually cheating???

MAKE SEX INTERESTING BY WEARING COOL, DIFFERENT MAKEUP, TRY NEW POSITIONS AND NEW PLACES IN THE HOUSE, DRESS UP AS A FEMALE CARTOON OR GAME CHARACTER ( SAILOR MOON, YUNA) OR A FLIGHT ATTENDANT, ASK HIM ABOUT HIS CHILDHOOD FANTASIES AND SEE WHICH ONES YOU CAN DO. wATCH PORN TOGETHER AS AN INSTRUCTIONAL VIDEO AND TRY DOINF WHAT THE VIDEO SHOWS, EXCEPT ANAL, (YUCK!)

ALWAYS PRESENT YOURSELF IN A HOT ATTRACTIVE WAY: NAILS MAKEUP, BREATH, HAIR. (ALTHOUGH NO MAKEUP IS HOT TOO IF HE RARELY SEES YOU WITHOUT IT)

JUST TRY TO ENHANCE YOUR BODY TO SEDUCE HIM. REMEMBER HE ALREADY KNOWS YOUR BODY, GIVE HIM ANOTHER REASON TO WANT YOU. SATISFY HIM IN DIFFERENT WAYS. SURPRISE HIM.

AS A LAST RESORT GET COUPLES THERAPY WITH SESSIONS WHERE BOTH ATTEND.


This was writtend by a young guy. So try these and it should work. If not then your man is just too damn selfish to love you, or anybody else for that matter, because loving is giving. If thats the case he can only love himself. its HIS problem.



Hope this works!!
God Bless and Merry Christmas!!

The reason that your man masturbates is because he is addicted to the chemical that it prodices. It is not just sex that he is addicted to it is the amount of chemical that is produced from his own masturbation. He has learned throughout his life through isolation and the lack of real freindships that support and encourage that this little secret will meet his need. Now that he is married his little compensation just will not go away. But there is hope if he is willing to seek help. But likely his embarrasment will overshadow his love for you and he will not seek help. I wish you well.

I just found out that my husband is maturbating. I checked his computer and found that he watches porn everyday  I confronted him about it and he completely denies it, he said I am disrespecting him and he started hitting me.  We have just been married  a year now, and I dont see a future with him any more.  We have sex like once in every two months and when we do, he has no control over his orgasm.  I need some advise because I am completely frustrated, I dont have anyone who I can talk to about it, and I cant talk to him about it.

it is normal for men to masterbate .it is also normal for us women to take it and turn it on ourselfs .try not to drive yourself crazy .maybe just talk it out in a healthy relationship you have to talk to one another

GOING THREW THE SAME THING U ARE,MY HUSBAND RARELY HAS SEX WITH ME JUST FOUND PROOF HE WATCHES WOMEN MASTAURBATE,AND PREFERS TO SATISFY HIMSELF HOW SELFISH IS THAT! YET I COOK AND CLEAN FOR HIM. THE COOKING STOPPED. I'M LIKE TAKE CARE OF ME,OR LET ONE OF THEM WOMEN COOK FOR U.L.O.L.

I am a male and i masturbate since i was 9  now m  23  .i do it everyday 2-3 times i talked to doctor he said i had more sex power than other so  doing it is ok.i sometime do 6 times a day  yea i did .after that feel satisfied and tension is released.im not married but i also like havingh sex even so i do masturbate. its perfectly normal for men so do not worry.

I'm a young married.  Its been 2yrs now and we have a 1 yr old. Sex has been alot better since having the kid, but now my husbands masturbating habits are starting to REALLY annoy me.  i can always tell when he's masturbated, cos the history on my laptop is erased...he's such a dumbass to think THAT makes it better, that i can't see which sites he's been to...I do love him, but its not helping my self esteem since breast feeding has ruined my nipples and breasts.  They are so saggy even I am not turned on...what can I do....?

Maybe you should try having 5 or 50 minutes of "peace" for yourself and make sure he knows what you're doing. If he knows you are masturbating without him maybe he will want some of the action after a while. And make plenty of noise so he will want to know what is going on that's so wonderful.

I have had to do it alone all my life because my wife doesn't wnat to hear about it at all. that's not the way I want it, but that's the way it is.

Maybe I was spoiled, before her I had a girl who couldn't keep her hands off me. As soon as she got in my car she had my fly open and she was polishing my rocket. She never wanted to stop. As soon as she could get it up again we were off for another rocket ride. I never had a chance to do it alone, she kept it worn out. I never wanted to do it myself anyway when I was dating her. She was just as good at working it as I was and having her hands on it felt much better than my own. Actually she was better than I was because she could force me to have an orgasm that was so much more intense than I could do myself. She would hold me down as I came and work the incredibly sensitive tip of my penis in a way that I could never make my own hands do.

Maybe you can find a way to do him so he won't want to do it for himself. I can't speak for all males, I don't know if other guys experience the intensity that I do. But when I come, the tip of my penis is incredibly orgasmic. I can't hold myself still enough when I try to massage it to be able to hang on to it. My girl would lean across me to hold me down while she worked that area and made me holler and moan. My legs would kick and I was completely depleted when she finished or I should say she didn't stop until I was done (dead?). I sure learned why the French call it "the little death".

It's just a thought, maybe my description will help you claim him for yourself and he won't want to do it alone any more.

Good luck.