Is it normal my husband masturbates too much ? Newlewed

a lot of couples go thrugh this ,I am married to my wife for twenty years I masturbated before ,and I masturbated now,we all do exept if some thing is wrong,women don't understand this,men all masturbate,married or not,we marrie to have kids not to have sex,and if you dont want your man to masturbate the other option for him is to find a hooker,and if you want to see him change just ignor him,and you will see attention,if you comfromt and embarrased him,you will make matters worse,leav him alone ,or marrie a woman

is good that you masturbate and let others be like your husband

This problem is easily solved you wank you husband off until he is fully hard then get on top and ride him until he ejaculates take control you f**k him he will love it.

My husband and I have been married for 6 months now but been together and lived together for 4 years... I caught him masterbating 3 weeks ago and I thought I was getting over it till I found out he has made it a daily thing.. I understand its normal and that's not what bothers me the hardest thing for me is I am pregnant with our second baby and I didn't have much of a sex drive up until I caught him masterbating.. I want this to leave my mind like I never knew but it can't I want him to tell me it isn't me he still loves me he still wants me and he is still happy with me.. But this is hard to get over!! Some of the posts have helped I have tried telling him lets watch porn together lets try new sex positions or lets try new places to have sex and he still does it when I am at work and our daughter is napping. What do I do how can I get over this move on and have a happy marriage? Like it was before I caught him.

Oliver (above me) though I hate your answer it sounds the closest to what my husband says. I guess I am lost in a different area. IF A MARRIED MAN COULD SHED SOME LIGHT ON THIS I WOULD BE ETERNALLY GRATEFUL!!! My husband says he loves me, that I'm beautiful...I believe that. He does masturbate everyday, I wish a little less but, happy he's home (try not to fuss too much). Just concerned about live stuff like him watching another woman do stuff (not a photo or recording). I don't know that he is doing that and I'm sure he would say know since he erases everything I have no choice but to take his word for it. We do not have sex everyday. I have put on a few pounds (he says he likes it) but, it is due to 2 kids. I have stretchmarks, flabby tummy (not looking like my 19 year old self. I am 27 still young but, one you have kids things change. When I met him he let a few women to be with me and I am concerned that he may have gotten bored with photos and recordings. I can't prove anything but, would you (a married man) consider this cheating? It can't be a two way street because if your wife was video chatting or watched some guy masturbating live you would have to apply the same terms. Please don't give a one sided answer I am just trying to find peace and wanting to feel more attractive. I hate that an outside opinion has to be the determining factor but, it is. Please confirm...someone!

Side note: I asked it sex is still good and he says its great. I am starting to wonder if I am loose or he may not be big enough for me. If so what the hell do I say about that. This is really important. I love my husband with all my heart. So much so that I would stay with him even if that means I have to fake it forever (orgasms that is). I guess if he cums that for sure means its good to him...right? Can someone answer that as well?

Thanks!

I feel the exact same way and have the same situation. Our sex life is amazing we still have sex 3 times a week however I would like it to be more. The fact that he masturbates every day bothers me I har talked to him and he admits it. He said he will not hide it. It doesn't matter if I help him a little in the evening he will still masturbate everyday at night. I really don't know what upsets me and frustrates me our sexual life is good but it still something I can not end accepting. I wonder what is e watching on his phone and why is he doing it?? I would like to say that reading all this posts will make things different but I don't think so. I feel this is a list cause

I have read a lot of the posts on here and the common theme I see is that many women are concerned about their man's masturbatory habits.  Many of these concerns are valid given the fact that the women posting here remain unsatisfied themselves, even while they understand their man's desire to masturbate.  I am a male, married 18 years, with two children and I masturbate regularly to porn with my wife's permission (and even her joining in).  Our secret to success has been sensible, well defined boundaries and plenty of communication.  We are open to nudism (in legal places like resorts and beaches) and aren't afraid of our bodies.  Sometimes, she wants to get off by herself with a mirror and her rabbit while watching porn and I respect her.  She does the same for me when I want to masturbate.  Sometimes, she likes to cam with random guys she doesn't know one sites like omegle or chatroulette.  She likes that she can play with herself and make another guy cum in the process (if you do this, don't show your face because some less scrupulous guys will record the session and post it on porn sites).

We do have a stronger sex drive than most of the posters on here which probably helps.  I generally cum three times a day, her once or twice.  Two times are with her (oral or intercourse) and once is through masturbation.  Contrary to what many believe, I believe that the more I cum, the more I want.  If I let it die down, I can easily go to cumming twice or even just once per day which then can create problems if I decide to masturbate instead of being with my wife.

 

TL;DR: Make yourself and your spouse cum more by whatever method possible (porn, masturbation, internet sex, nude beaches, etc) and there will be plenty of opportunities for whatever kind of sex each of you enjoys.

 

Sounds right, now you are living with him you are finding out how much he masturbates. Welcome to a guys private world! Your husband is right, men masturbate through their whole life. I have been married over 30yrs and masturbate 1-3 times a week. I masturbate less when we have sex, more when we do not.

Personally, I would never pass up sex for masturbation. I love masturbation, but I love penetration and oral, too. My wife has no problem with my masturbating just so I take care of her when she needs it. I usually tell my wife when I will masturbate. No secrets. I do not use porn because she would rather I don't. Just me, my hands, lube and imagination.

You may want to have a discussion about your views on masturbation. Tell him it is ok, but can you have some of that?

I'm sorry to tell you this, but cohabitation and a sex life with your partner before marriage leads to a less satisfying post marital sex life, as well as a more unhappy marriage in general. This is the price individuals have to pay for a liberal life style.

Gurl that is so true, men don't understand that us as their women try to be understanding about their masturbation issues, but at the same time we honestly don't need to kno about it, like they say it's something private and personal, i also feel like it creates issues in the relationship because now you got your gurl or your wife feeling some type of way, and if its not thst you don't enjoy sex wit her than why make her feel like that, i think that's wrong and selfish, at the end of the day men will be men, but have some consideration and try worrying about how ur other half might feel about it... My personal opinion towards men that masturbate EVERYDAY, have issues... Im just sayin!!!!!!

I have to say, I am so glad I am not the only wife totally frustrated to live with a chronic masturbator! We have/had sex 3-4 times per week, and most of the time he can't come, because he already came on his own a little earlier that day. I hate it, and it make me feel bad about myself. I know that I am not the problem, because my previous relationships were not like this. I am seriously considering leaving this man. I don't mind if a guy maturates a few times per week, but hey, safe some for me. If he gets off before we have sex, then it is a chore for me. You men think it's a chore? Please!!! Try having sex for hours, but the guy just won't come, because he already whacked off. How about a little restraint and not masturbate every single day? That way it feels like both people have lust for each other, and are not trying to prof that he can ejaculate twice in a row while f*****g the wife raw without coming. Now that's a chore guys. This situation has just about completely turned me off wanting to even have sex with my husband. I feel like leaving him and finding me a more considerate man again...

I'm a guy. There have been times, that I have masterbated 9 times throughout the day. Why? I don't know, I just felt turned on. It's better than going out and cheating on my wife! I used to hide that I do it each day. Sex or no sex. I have had sex, goid sex, then 10 minutes later, wanted more, but the wife was asleep....sooooo yeah, I jerked off. Women.... You aren't men... Plain and simple. We don't know what you have inside, and you have no clue what it's like for us. You say that "it's excessive" by whos standards?? Yours?? No.. Think again. You have to many shoes.... Yeah exactly.. We aren't in each others brains. Sometimes, I just don't want to bug my wife after she has had a tough day.. Doesn't mean because she isn't turned on I'm not!!! I do have the courtesy to leave her alone though. I told her finally, that I was tired of sneaking around, and doing it. I explained that if I felt the urge, I was gonna just do it in bed. 90% of the time, this actually leads to sex with her, because it turns her on. Maybe, just maybe if we discussed things with our spouses instead of YOU knowing what's best for a COMPLETELY different person, maybe you would understand and accept it. If it truly bothers you, or you feel left out, talk about it. Maybe you are such a pain in the ass in bed, that it's easier for the guy to jerkoff in peace than try to get a lecture for wanting sex. Sex is an integral part of a relationship. Communication is the ultimate aphrodesiac. Try it......

Men masturbate because they have tension and need more sex. Women need to give them sex anytime they want. Instead of calling men jerks, selfish, or asses, try to understand your man's needs. He needs to release on his time, not a schedule detetmined by his wife. Join him, turn him on by telling him he can have you any way he wants, We men sometimes need sex 3 ot more times a day, no we are not weird, we are made to have lots of sex and procreate, the wives have to keep up with us.

I am also with a masturbating addict. He masturbates every night in bed next to me when he thinks I'm asleep. Alot of the time I go to bed and fall asleep instantly I wake in the middle of the night to the bed shaking and husband masturbating. He does it all night every night and we have had many arguments about this every time he denies and now he saying he must be doing it in his sleep even going as far as going to a dr about it. I understand men masturbate I just never realized they needed to do it this much. We don't have lots of sex but that was often his decision now this masturbation keeps happening I can't get turned on by him so I hardly ever want sex maybe 1-3times a week and I'm usually not very turned on. We continue to have argument it's ruinin my sleep our sex life and probably eventually our marriage I'm now sleeping in a seperate bed every now and again he makes a big fuss of this and seems upset but it doesn't stop him choosing masturbation over me. I don't know what to do anymore

Try taking off your clothes and helping him by giving him a hand-job or just watching you naked while he masturbates.
Believe me he will love you and cherish you more.
I know it coz I love having my wife give me a good hand-job in the morning.
BTW, most of the time when I do masturbate without my wife, I am usually fantasizing about her.