-Ashley
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I’m 15 yrs old and I just got a vibrater and omg it’s so great I masturbate everyday now but before I used my fingers. Try watching porn that’s what I do. If I’m bored I’ll do it at least 1 a day but if I’m super turned on I’ll do it 4-6 times a day. Try to get risky too. I’m open to talk about anything
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I've been trying to masturbate, but can't seem to come or orgasm. I've tried pillow jumping, fingering myself, just rubbing around my clit, and penetration, but nothing seems to work. Can anyone help me?
Also, I can't buy anything cause I live with 3 siblings and parents
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The first thing is to have privacy and you will need time to explore and progress.
I think the issue you have is the fact you have 3 nosey siblings and you probably share a room, which is normal.
Because of the lack of privacy you are probably hurried and trying to achieve and orgasm quickly. That doesnt happen so easily. It takes time to get in the mood and to over come your anxiety and to build up the tempo till you are relaxed and can achieve an orgasm. All this needs privacy and time.
You can try doing it in the shower BUT even there if you seem to be taking an extra long time for a shower you are bound to get knocks on the door asking to finish your "shower" quickly.
These are the problems.
So privacy and time with no disturbance is the key.
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You dont need to stick anything in. Just gently rub your clitoris and work your way around till you reach an orgasm. It is a matter of building up your confidence and once you achieve that you will start exploring more. It is fun and extremely gratifying and very very pleasureable. Absolutely no bad consequences - ONLY pleasure LOLOLOL
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I know you are older now, and hope you have found some answers, but...
No pun intended, but if you stick with it, these things come in time. The brain is really good at figuring out what feels good, and losing what doesn't work so well. Sex feels good for a reason; we are SUPPOSED to like it. So, like anything that we are driven to do again and again, we LEARN how to make it work better over time. You might consider shifting your focus away from your clitoris though, and onto somewhere else beyond the obvious -- nipples, belly, inner thighs. Have you slipped a finger or two inside yourself to massage your G-Spot? It is the rough-feeling place on the upper inside of your vagina, kind of just "behind" your clitoris. It sort of feels like the roof of your mouth. This rough spot is meant to excite both you and your lover (Nature is assuming it's a male here) by stimulating the coronal ridge of his penis to bring him to orgasm (to ejaculate his sperm) inside you. But you can massage it yourself to lovely, intense effect, and bring yourself to orgasm from this alone. In concert with your clit and nipples etc., you should be able to get there on a regular basis.
As for squirting, not all females ejaculate to that degree or in that way. If your body IS capable of that, it will likely happen as you achieve your orgasm. That fluid serves to lubricate the area (and the penis that might be entering you) to make things go a little smoother. But it is not absolutely necessary, as the vagina manages to lubricate itself without that, and not doing so is not a failing or a shortcoming in any way.
But remember, your orgasm is not just driven by your clit (or your nipples, your belly button, your anus, your mouth -- whatever). In short, the physical sensations you create with your fingers are only a PART of what goes into your orgasm. Most of it is actually in your head. Your BRAIN, your MIND really drives your body when it comes to orgasms. The brain takes the sensations you create and mixes them with memories, fantasies, images and other stuff in your mind to begin the process that culminates in orgasm. A lot has been written about that, here and elsewhere, but it bears repeating. Orgasm is a delicate dance you do with yourself. Lots of things go into making it happen, including strong feelings of love for a partner. Lots of things can also get in the way -- subconscious fear of punishment, thoughts of being "bad", etc., even desires for a particular, absent partner can distract you or detract from the pleasure you want and deserve. You might need to give yourself PERMISSION -- the freedom -- to have and enjoy the orgasm(s) you deserve.
So, keep exploring the sensations you can create, and Good Luck!
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