One Mom's Teen Solution

One like you in every crowd isn't there.....

They were more than likely having intercourse and exploration

Masturbating and having sexual is natural

Masturbating is sexual relief and normal

My God I hope this is a troll. Conciously allowing, even encouraging sexual acts between family members, no less siblings is morally questionable at best. While not everyone shares the same moral compass, I think it's pretty well established in the western world that incest (which is what this essentially is, despite not actually involving penetration) is completely and utterly wrong.

Generally I'm not one to criticize parenting as there's no defined "correct method", but if there was, this would be far outside it's bounds.

As written by Kate Smith, studies have been done regarding attraction between unrelated teens in the Israeli Kibbutz. Now, they aren't even related and they're still found to not be attracted to one another. The communal dynamic does enough emulating of a family dynamic that it renders teens unattracted to one another. In more extreme relationships whereas the teens are actually related by blood, it is clear that there should not be mutual attraction there.

Secondly, you're not only encouraging family to engage in sexual activities, but these are minors we're talking about! You, as an adult, are encouraging children to perform sexual favors, which is screwed up alone, then they're related, which is another big no no, and then you write about your fantasy of watching them performing such action. I think you're mistaking being a pedophile with being a caring mother.

Having your kids engage in sexual activities with one another is highly illegal and could very much result in child protective services showing up to your door and putting them on the foster care program.

Just because they enjoy it does not mean it's right. It's masturbating, everybody enjoys it and everybody prefers doing it with a partner, but there are appropriate and inappropriate scenarios for this to take place;asturbating with a sibling is an inappropriate scenario. As an adult you should be able to discern the difference between the correct and incorrect desicions regarding sexuality, far more so than your children. Despite this, your kids were far more aware of this boundary than you, hence why they weren't engaging in the activity amd rather trying to sneak peeks as curious kids do prior to you telling them to go all out. This shows a much greater level of maturity in your children than yourself, and you telling them to explore each other completely steered them in the wrong direction.

Relationships that are sexual in nature bring with them complex intricacies and emotions, and the primary reason the age of consent is 18 is because children, especially at their age are not emotionally ready to handle a sexual relationship. On top of this is the fact that they're siblings. There's the saying "you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family", and that is true. If complications arise with a partner, they can be seperated or "break up", but you can't simply break up with family. If things don't last, as they surely will for siblings, they may sever connections, permanently damaging their relationship for the rest of their adult life. You're setting them up for failure, not success.

Finally, the fact that you state "yes, I would love to know if my cute kids are masturbating together and would even love to see them doing it together" is incredibly troubling. You clearly need to get mental help or see a therapist if you're having fantasies about watching your children masturbate together. It's not so much a telltale sign as it is a direct ommitence of pedophilia.

You should seriously cease this behavior and make it clesr to your children that you were wrong. Of course you can't reverse the harm you've already done, and they may go and do this on their own because it's something you established as okay. You need to be clear it must stop but also explain why, your decision was only in the interest of the short run. They have school taught sexual education to teach them these things and will hopefully be able to create real relationships with those outside their family without being tempted by just going back to what's easiest, that is being with their sibling. Sex is for them to learn about as they develop, both alone and with their partners, not with their family beyond "the talk".

While I agree with you to a certain extent I do believe there are instances where sexual behavior withing the family at a younger age may be beneficial. More often than not it does more harm than good, but sometimes certain people need a safe place to do a little exploring in order to get over sexual anxieties. I for example was uncomfortable with masturbation, nudity and sexuality growing up. It was an irrational fear I had which was making it impossible for me to have a relationship with a boy. Everyone always told me how pretty I was but I never believed them. When I was in ny teen my parents thought I should talk to someone so I began seeing a therapist. My therapist told me that I developed an very negative body image due to completely shunning any sexual part of me growing-up which in turn made me not trust boys at all. She said I needed to figure out a way to explore my sexuality in a safe and supportive environment or I might never get over it. She said that she has patients in their 50's who have never been in a relationship because they had the same thing I had. She even sat my parents down and explained to them exactly what is going on. What they decided on was allowing me to be nude when I'm at home and masturbate openly if I so choose. It took months to slowly build up to that point but eventually I got there and it worked. Within a few moths I was able to talk to boys and get my first boyfriend. All I needed was to have a positive body image and to know that sexual stuff is ok. That my family would still love and support me after seeing that side of me. I finally felt safe, confident and comfortable with myself and never needed to do anything like that again.

I would like an update from the original author of the post. Would be interesting to see what is happening inside the family now and what is allowed.

I agree, this story has been a huge inspiration to me. It saddens me to hear some of the judgmental, reactionary responses from immoral crusaders on here, considered about things like age and relation, freaking out that a parent might actually positively enjoy seeing something. But it's nice that they're in the minority, and most people are in support.

How about for ten years olds? Some of us women including myself were already growing our busts pr tits at age 9.