Hi!, the only path to sucess will be a lot of patience,while stimulating, rubing try focus on the warm feeling, and the pressuree feeling, it sometimes comes faster the same way you feel when you are just about to have the big O.
start with slow movements.
try to penetrate a little bit, then push out, try it again a little more deep, combine that with your breathing you will be amazed how easy can become synchronizing the penetration when you inhale and also keep your pelvic muscules tensed exactly the same as if you were about to pee, all that helps at the same time to relax the sphincters and makes a kind of suction that suddently you will notice it will go in and you won´t have even chance to think on the wave of wonderfull feelings ehehe, every time you do it is a different story but the moment in my particular point of view when you achieve to go more deep than the spinchter is unveliebably hot!, it´s just about practice.
start with slow movements.
try to penetrate a little bit, then push out, try it again a little more deep, combine that with your breathing you will be amazed how easy can become synchronizing the penetration when you inhale and also keep your pelvic muscules tensed exactly the same as if you were about to pee, all that helps at the same time to relax the sphincters and makes a kind of suction that suddently you will notice it will go in and you won´t have even chance to think on the wave of wonderfull feelings ehehe, every time you do it is a different story but the moment in my particular point of view when you achieve to go more deep than the spinchter is unveliebably hot!, it´s just about practice.
well it's best too start out small with something like the tip of a plasic plunger or golfballs (depends on the size u want to reach)
Your anus will naturally stretch more and more over time
Well you should definitely take it slow and start wit small house hold objects like a slim lotion bottle or buy a bag of large marsh mallows and leave them in your butt to stretch it out(I imagine using marsh mallows after your used to the size of his penis during sex would be fun) as for him being a bit shy I like anal both for me And on a girl but I am still a 100% heterosexual man and anal sex only means your gay if your of the same sex and that he won't get hurt if he follows the same instructions
You two seem like you know what your doing. Just lub it up and have fun :]
Okay... I f*****g hate Anal sex, One. Twoooo.. It hurts so bad and its so stupid. I dont want cum in my ass. Like okay asking for it to like give me and infection..... No. Thats so stupid. Why would i wanna do it and let him cum in me... Imma get sick.
I really enjoy giving and receiving anal sex. I'm always looking for a guy to put his penis in me. On New Years, a neighbor asked me to have sex with his wife, as he hasn't been able to get a hard on for several years. He watched me stroking into her vagina, and my penis then came out, and slid easily into her ass. I was surprised how loose she was. She later told me she uses toys in her ass all the time, but enjoys a penis better.
Dear LauraSmith,XD
There really is not anything as too much anal sex. As long as you both use lots of lubricant (water soluable), good personal hygiene, patience, and good sense. His ejaculations inside your rectum will come out with a bowel movement or be absorbed through your large bowel depending how far into your anus he is ejaculating. This of course will not make you pregnant. It would be as though you had an enema with water which comes right out while some is absorbed through your large bowel. An excercise you can do to strengthen and tighten your spincter muscle which makes up the anus are Kegel Excersices. This an excercise where you tighen the muscles in your groin as though you are trying to stop a stream of urine or a bowel movement. I personally do at least 100 a day. You may do them in the car, watching TV, anywhere. The excercises wil return tone to the muscles in your anus and also give you some sexual control during sex where you can tighten around your partner's penis for more pleasure. Try it you will like it. Finally, assuming you see a doctor once a year for a pap smear, have your physician check your anus for small tears or cracks. Ordinarily if you do have any of those you will burn or itch around your anus better know as your hemirhoids. Just another personal health activity so you do not run into any unforseen trouble. Good luck.
I find it interesting how much better a penis feels in my ass, than any of my toys. I suspect it is because of the skin of the penis sliding over the shaft, allowing me to feel the texture of the veins and head sliding into me. I don't mind my friends cumming in my ass, but if a stranger is screwing me, I always have him use a condum. I can comfortably take eight inches of penis in my ass, and really enjoy the sensation of it getting harder and harder, and the pulsing as the load is dumped inside of me. I have let four of my friends do me in one session, and each one was better than the last, as my anus became more and more relaxed.
Hi lube.. sex stores onlione have them or you can find them in local stores.. minus thatl tons of vaseline.... no lube it will hurt... yes once a woman has a man that can do it right and slow the firist time andyou learn what positins work best... oddly enough fo rme it is layiding on my back. not my elbows... he got a sex toy and insted it in me then he went at me...omg.. had anal before but not this way.... orgams heaven. no, ppl are not sick for doing this.. i prefer this way in pregancy and yes no dripping the vagina if not on bcontrol. i prefer an iud.
I really hope all the stories about anal sex posted here are correct.
Having anal sex 7 times a week & still wanting to have more....well that sure needs stamina!
I am 38 & have tried anal sex with my wife of 8 years at least 4-5 times so far....each time unsuccessfully.
We tried in doggy position with her resting herself on a chair...unfortunately , my wife's as****e seems to be very tight & rather unfit to take my penis in. I've tried to use lube as well.Could anyone guide how to go about it?
Just want to add a piece of warning: Rushing through or not doing it the correct way can be very painful for both the partners, recieving partner in particular....so please be extra careful while trying it out.
To get relaxed and accustomed to a penis in your ass, I recommend various size butt plugs. I will put one in, and wear it pretty much all day. I like to put a condum on it, both for easy clean up, and in case there is an allergic reaction to the material. Keep increasing the size, until you have one as big, or a bit bigger than the cocks you will be taking in your ass. I use one that is about two inches in diameter, that covers most of the cocks I take, and if a bigger one comes along, a bit more pushing on the guys part will still get it inside my ass. I also enjoy the Feeldoe, and the Backdoor Buddy as ass toys to relax before taking the real thing, although I have taken enough cocks in me that there is usually no problem to have an easy penetration.
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Purchase a dildo/vibrator the approxiamate size of your penis. Have a sexual session where your wife uses the dildo/vibrator on you with lots of lube. A good position is with you laying on your back on pillows or at the edge of the bed with your legs up or on her shoulders. Allow her to slowly insert the dildo/vibrator into your anus. The purpose is to allow you to receive the feeling of just how it feels to have a penis entering your anus. Allow her the time to "play" with you until you have an orgasm. Afterwards change positions with her. Using the same position, insert the dildo/vibrator into her anus. In this position you can stimulate her vagina and clitoris. Go slowly! "Play" with her until she orgasms. Use this playful technique until you both feel comfortable starting actual anal sex. Good luck.
When you and your husband begin to have anal sex and assuming that you are well lubricated with a water soluable libricant, as he inserts his penis, bear down as though you are having a bowel movement. This action on your part relaxes the spincter muscles around the anus. That way you can learn to control the discomfort as you get better at accepting your husband. My biggest suggestion is to purchase a dildo/vibrator about the same size as your husband. During sex play use the dildo/vibe on him. That way he can feel the sensation of being entered and see how pleasurable anal sex really is. "What is good for the goose is good for the gander!"
this is for any one who have any questions about having anal sex for the first time or any one who wants to improve there technique on how to make in less painful and more enjoyable. if it is not enjoyable or painful then you are probably doing it wrong. you are not going to hurt yourself if you fallow the rule. i can not stress on how much you have to use A LOT OF LUBRICATION and take it SLOWLY. I highly recommend getting
a silicone-based lubricant for anal sex. Water based lubricants can dry
out and make things stickier and messier than they need to be.
Before having anal sex, the receiver should have a good, complete bowel movement (i recommend about at least an hour before). If she/he doesn't, you may be encountering more fecal matter than you might like (AKA, "packing the fudge"). Now, for some people doing this on-command might not be the easiest thing, and straining to defecate is not healthy. A high fiber diet may help things along and is good for your health in any case. Of course, if you really want to clean things out in a hurry, you can purchase an enema from any drug store. There's some controversy about this; some people feel having an enema first can actually increase the irritation during anal sex. If you're going to go the enema route, i would recommend doing it several hours before you plan to have anal sex, rather than right before the act.
Anal sex can be very special, but only with a woman who really enjoys it. If she is lying there not responding (a total turnoff), then she is tolerating it, meaning she is either not being stimulated or is in pain and not telling you.
move from one, to two, to three fingers....relaxing, relaxing, relaxing (oh, and remember to trim your finger nails). in my opinion you can never use to much lube :-). And then once she/he gets used to that, you can go on to bigger and better things. really, its all about how comfortable the receiver is, go with their speed, always listen to them, they should be able to tell you when to go, how far to go, and most importantly, when you should stop! When she/he says stop, stop right then, then the receiver will feel in control and know they can trust you. Stop doesn't mean stop forever, it means stop for the moment until she RELAXES, or for the time being.
i think it goes with emotions too, if the receiver, before hand, has it in there mind that it is going to hurt, then its going to be a lot harder for them to get used to the idea to relax and ENJOY. its much easier if you want it. it also helps to create a relaxing, non-intimidating atmosphere. the reason why i am saying this is because one bad anal incident can put her/he off for life......or for a long time anyways. and i think every one should try anal sex and give it a good chance because once you get the hang of it, it can feel amazing, as you might have read from other members of this article...
Lastly, the guy who said anal sex is a good alternative for birth control is wrong. you CAN get pregnant from semen leaving the rectum and entering/leaking into the vagina. Birth control should be used anyway, and if you choose not to use birth control, just be very careful that when you are done, you have a towel or shirt or something close by that you can grab to hold over your butt hole between the bedroom and the toilet. after expelling the sperm, remember to wipe front to back...
Remember, she is in charge, and if you forget this, let her put on a strap-on and ream you sometime, stud. You'll get the picture real fast!
here are some positions you can experiment with and see which one works for you :-) :
and for any one who is wonder, i wrote this from my experience and doing lots of homework. if you have any doubt, it good to do research on the Internet.
HAVE FUN anf if you have any other quetions feel free to ask. oh and by the way, congrats to any one who has found a new love in anal sex as i have :-)
Before having anal sex, the receiver should have a good, complete bowel movement (i recommend about at least an hour before). If she/he doesn't, you may be encountering more fecal matter than you might like (AKA, "packing the fudge"). Now, for some people doing this on-command might not be the easiest thing, and straining to defecate is not healthy. A high fiber diet may help things along and is good for your health in any case. Of course, if you really want to clean things out in a hurry, you can purchase an enema from any drug store. There's some controversy about this; some people feel having an enema first can actually increase the irritation during anal sex. If you're going to go the enema route, i would recommend doing it several hours before you plan to have anal sex, rather than right before the act.
Anal sex can be very special, but only with a woman who really enjoys it. If she is lying there not responding (a total turnoff), then she is tolerating it, meaning she is either not being stimulated or is in pain and not telling you.
For those just starting out, I think getting on all fours might be a little too intense, because she/he doesn't have as much control. Lying on your side in the spooning position or missionary position are more relaxing positions. When you become more comfortable, the doggie is the easiest way for a woman to orgasm. it is good to start by using a finger or a small item (but make sure you dont "lose it") to get the anus used to the feeling of having something in there, naturally the anus is not designed for penetration. as well as small toys and your fingers, dildos are available in all shapes and sizes. Go shopping together to get one she/he thinks she can handle. Remember, though, don't put the dildo into the vagina after putting it into the anus. The safest way is to put a condom on the dildo before using it, and to wash it thoroughly immediately after.
move from one, to two, to three fingers....relaxing, relaxing, relaxing (oh, and remember to trim your finger nails). in my opinion you can never use to much lube :-). And then once she/he gets used to that, you can go on to bigger and better things. really, its all about how comfortable the receiver is, go with their speed, always listen to them, they should be able to tell you when to go, how far to go, and most importantly, when you should stop! When she/he says stop, stop right then, then the receiver will feel in control and know they can trust you. Stop doesn't mean stop forever, it means stop for the moment until she RELAXES, or for the time being.
i think it goes with emotions too, if the receiver, before hand, has it in there mind that it is going to hurt, then its going to be a lot harder for them to get used to the idea to relax and ENJOY. its much easier if you want it. it also helps to create a relaxing, non-intimidating atmosphere. the reason why i am saying this is because one bad anal incident can put her/he off for life......or for a long time anyways. and i think every one should try anal sex and give it a good chance because once you get the hang of it, it can feel amazing, as you might have read from other members of this article...
Lastly, the guy who said anal sex is a good alternative for birth control is wrong. you CAN get pregnant from semen leaving the rectum and entering/leaking into the vagina. Birth control should be used anyway, and if you choose not to use birth control, just be very careful that when you are done, you have a towel or shirt or something close by that you can grab to hold over your butt hole between the bedroom and the toilet. after expelling the sperm, remember to wipe front to back...
Remember, she is in charge, and if you forget this, let her put on a strap-on and ream you sometime, stud. You'll get the picture real fast!
here are some positions you can experiment with and see which one works for you :-) :
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there are also some things you should consider, there is more of an higher risk of getting STD/HIV as the anal sphincter is delicate tissue and the chances of a small tear occurring are much higher, which also provides more opportunity for diseases. Condoms offer protection, but condoms are more likely to break or come off during anal sex, so this form of sex is riskier unless both parties are absolutely disease free. also infections, due to the high number of infectious microorganisms not found elsewhere on the bod. so with that said, when you are having anal sex it should be some one you KNOW is disease free and you should be monogamous (meaning you should not go and have anal sex with more then one partner.and for any one who is wonder, i wrote this from my experience and doing lots of homework. if you have any doubt, it good to do research on the Internet.
HAVE FUN anf if you have any other quetions feel free to ask. oh and by the way, congrats to any one who has found a new love in anal sex as i have :-)
I have a friend and we have sex quite often, one time after we had vaginal intercourse and I ejaculated in her she wanted to try anal sex, I used my tongue on her butt to get her more excited and lubricated then put some lotion as well, and then I just entered her, it just blew her mind away it was her first time, I had had anal sex before, and I manage to cum in her as well. But the downside was that it was very messy and I had bits of her sh*t on my penis.