hi. im young & in trouble! i had an aboration 2 and a half months ago and now i am a day or 2 late with my period. i AM on birth control and i have NOT missed any pills. am i pregnant?????? or could this be becaause im stressing about being late. PLEASE HELPPPPPPP!!!!
When a woman is on BC, her period can come ANY DAY IN the placebo week.
KEEP taking your pills as usual.
It is normal for BC to make a womans period late sometimes, usually it is because of the hormones.
KEEP taking your pills as usual.
It is normal for BC to make a womans period late sometimes, usually it is because of the hormones.
Hi, I had an abortion in march this year. I was really pressured from my boyfriend and as i was frightened to lose him and confused and panicking ar what i really wanted, i went thru with it. Ever since that day i have cried and regretted it. I go to see a councillor every week and im getting worse by the day. I just want my baby back so much, i am even consideirng getting pregnant again, and stop using birth control and dont tell my boyfriend. I really am serious about this, my maternal instinct is SO strong and i feel i cant survive without my baby. I really do feel ready to have a child. Please reply back with any suggestions - would be greatly appreciated. xxx
Hi Guest,
I read your post, and my heart aches for you. Are things still going pretty bad with your counselor? Has your counselor suggested anything in the realm of Post Abortion Syndrome? There some that say PAS does not exist and others that do. I would suggest researching BOTH Pro-Life and Pro-Choice websites (reputable sites) and read up on the information as best you can, to see what is going on.
If you are going to a counselor and you are not recieving any "help"... research other counselors who might specialize in issues regarding abortion. They are out there. But with anything, be educated, ok? It sounds like you are pretty young. In my humble opinion, I dont think getting pregnant and having another baby is going to help you with getting past these issues, and again in my opinion, I dont think that it will be very helpful to your relationship either.
Was your boyfriend pressuring you to abort? Was he being "standoffish" of treating you unkindly before you aborted? How long have you been experiencing these things? When are your symptoms stronger? If you feel comfortable with answering these questions, please write back. Any help I can offer further, please dont hesitate to ask.
Hizgrace
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I read your post, and my heart aches for you. Are things still going pretty bad with your counselor? Has your counselor suggested anything in the realm of Post Abortion Syndrome? There some that say PAS does not exist and others that do. I would suggest researching BOTH Pro-Life and Pro-Choice websites (reputable sites) and read up on the information as best you can, to see what is going on.
If you are going to a counselor and you are not recieving any "help"... research other counselors who might specialize in issues regarding abortion. They are out there. But with anything, be educated, ok? It sounds like you are pretty young. In my humble opinion, I dont think getting pregnant and having another baby is going to help you with getting past these issues, and again in my opinion, I dont think that it will be very helpful to your relationship either.
Was your boyfriend pressuring you to abort? Was he being "standoffish" of treating you unkindly before you aborted? How long have you been experiencing these things? When are your symptoms stronger? If you feel comfortable with answering these questions, please write back. Any help I can offer further, please dont hesitate to ask.
Hizgrace
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I came across this post while I was searching for answers regarding pregnancy after abortion. I know it is an old post, but feel I must add my own remarks. I am a 37 year old single mother of 2. I have a 15 year old and an 12 year old. I have a professional career and am the typical PTA, soccer mom, volunteer and have really enjoy every moment of parenthood. I was married to my childrens father for 15 years and have been on my own with my children for the last 9. Honestly during the time of divorce until two years I dated no one. I refused to have my children become sterotypical products of a divorced family. So I dove in and put my personal life on hold. Until 3 years ago. I started just sleeping with someone, we all have needs and I realized I was neglecting mine. I got pregnant and the bottom line is that I was not in the situation then to have another child and abortion was the only option that came into mind. I never told the guy I was pregnant and self induced the abortion using misoprostol. I never looked back and from that point on stopped seeing him. My body rejects most B/C pills so I cannot take them. I use the old fashioned method to know when I am ovaluting, sometimes I'm a little off. A year and a half ago, a new man came into my life that I have grown to love. We share a wonderful life together and he's great with my two children. I feel my body recently defied nature and I ended up pregnant. I figure I was only a month along, he was excited more than I. All I could think of was the fact that I am a 37 year old single parent and I live a comfortable life, but to bring another child into that would disrupt the balance I have created for us. All I could think of was that I'd be left alone to raise another child by myself and could not imagine being a struggling 40 year old single parent with a child in diapers. So I did the unthinkable and whipped out the misoprost once again. I did it so consciencously without remorse and was quit happy to have it over. Until now... my partner is very saddened over what he thinks was a miscarriage and now I find myself wondering what it was all for? I also find myself reading these articles about possible pregnancy after abortion. I was shocked to find myself agreeing with him to start trying to have another. What is wrong with me???? Mainly I just needed to vent here.... but I agree with whomever wrote about the mental issues. I am nowhere near crazy or ever thought, until now. It's only been a week since I aborted, but here I sit ready to do it all again. Am I really? Or am I just feeling quilty that I took something from him he desparately wanted. The saddest part is that he doesn't even know the truth. I do love him, he is my life and though we've not talked marriage, we have talked life together until we're old an grey. Deep down inside I do not want to start over with a baby at my age, but I would love to have a piece of us to share. If I were to have a baby I am really concerned over the two abortions I have had, both were self induced with no complications. But I am afraid that having them along with my age puts me at risks for low birth weight or god forbid defects... which I guess would be "karma" for my actions.
When I read that you had an abortion just recently and are having sex a week later to try to get pregnant again, I shock my head in anger towards you, it doesn't seem there is sad emotions there or heart. Why don't you take a few months to think about if you really want to get pregnant again immediately. It sounds like you had the abortion out of an inconvenience and then right away maybe regret and trying to make up for what you did, but that is only what I can assume, you did say much. There is nothing in your message to state your emotions or feelings. If it was health related issued for the abortion, most people would probably be emotional enough to admit that and everyone else could understand. But all of us can not read what you are feeling, you just came off sounding very selfish and I admit I don't want to be a person to help you. If I am getting your message read wrong then I apologize.
I had an abortion 21 years ago, it's not something that I have forgotten about. I was taken advantage of at a very young age. I had my appendix taken out 3 weeks after getting pregnant (I had no idea I was pregnant). Then a few months later, I found out I was pregnant. I was told the best thing I could do is have an abortion due to having my appendix out and at the age of 17 years old, I listen to those health clinic people. I have regretted my decision ever since. I took away a life that was inside of me. That life didn't have a voice for itself, because of me. I will always deeply regret what I have done, why I listen to my elders. I was just too young to know better and by listening, I thought it was the best thing, but for myself, it wasn't.
I just can't give anyone advice who had an abortion with no regrets.
I had an abortion 21 years ago, it's not something that I have forgotten about. I was taken advantage of at a very young age. I had my appendix taken out 3 weeks after getting pregnant (I had no idea I was pregnant). Then a few months later, I found out I was pregnant. I was told the best thing I could do is have an abortion due to having my appendix out and at the age of 17 years old, I listen to those health clinic people. I have regretted my decision ever since. I took away a life that was inside of me. That life didn't have a voice for itself, because of me. I will always deeply regret what I have done, why I listen to my elders. I was just too young to know better and by listening, I thought it was the best thing, but for myself, it wasn't.
I just can't give anyone advice who had an abortion with no regrets.
What is wrong with people today? A baby is a HUMAN LIFE NOT A CLUMP OF CELLS that you can just disregard and forget about and go on with your day. IT'S NOT A CHOICE. You made your CHOICE when you CHOSE to have unprotected sex. IT'S MURDER and it should be AGAINST THE LAW. God blessed you with a child already and you killed it. You don't deserve to have anymore children. May God have mercy on your soul.
For all the people responding on here in a negative way...ask yourself this shall you cast the first stone in a house of glass?
You need to remember your choices compared to other women are just that YOUR choice! And to refrain from your verbal abuse that you should use a filter when speaking to others. Treat others as you would want to be treated! Who are you to condemn another person for the state of her mental, physical or emotional state at the time of abortion? And if she chooses to have another baby right away then that should make her mentally unstable? Let her be the judge of herself not you! If you have so much negative rage within yourself maybe you should seek help for this. We don't need more negative energy in this world we need forgiveness and love. Swallow your tongue before speaking next time!
You need to remember your choices compared to other women are just that YOUR choice! And to refrain from your verbal abuse that you should use a filter when speaking to others. Treat others as you would want to be treated! Who are you to condemn another person for the state of her mental, physical or emotional state at the time of abortion? And if she chooses to have another baby right away then that should make her mentally unstable? Let her be the judge of herself not you! If you have so much negative rage within yourself maybe you should seek help for this. We don't need more negative energy in this world we need forgiveness and love. Swallow your tongue before speaking next time!
I had an abortion because I felt I was not ready for another child. My boyfriend and I have 3 already and I got scared and terminated the pregnancy. It was a horrible experience and I regret it and am now desperate to get pregnant again. Any advice. It has been two months with no luck. I feel empty all the time because abortion was something I never agreed with.
Wild Orchid wrote:
I have been doing some research and it perfectly normal to want to become prgnant after a abortion, sometimes you do not realize what you have until it is gone. Unfortunatly we are all human and are going to continue to make mistakes. Wanting another another child after a abortion is part of the grieving process. My suggestion would be to wait a month or so longer to make sure that it is what indeed you really want.:)
Mshellface wrote:
I had an abortion on Jan 12 of this year. My husband and I started having sex again a week later. We want to get pregnant again. When would I be able to take a pregnancy test to find out if I'm pregnant? I was told a test would be positive at least 6 weeks after the abortion.
Why would you have an abortion and then decide immediately that you want to conceive again...?
Theres something very wrong with that, you dont seem to have the proper appreciation for human life!!
I have been doing some research and it perfectly normal to want to become prgnant after a abortion, sometimes you do not realize what you have until it is gone. Unfortunatly we are all human and are going to continue to make mistakes. Wanting another another child after a abortion is part of the grieving process. My suggestion would be to wait a month or so longer to make sure that it is what indeed you really want.:)
This is concerning the same topic. I as well are in the same boat as the lady with the question. I had an abortion because I was forced to make a decision. Being 22 with dreams didn't look good to friends and family I took advise from. Because of my up and down hormones, my boyfriend and I couldn't get along. I was pretty evil to him. Anyway, after the abortion I became a little depressed because I didn't really want to do it. Two weeks later me and my boyfriend made up and thought about what we did and decided to try again. This time we are focused. The key is never listen to what everyone thinks because its your life. Its ok to make mistakes sometimes, but u have to be smart and let God handle the rest. He's a God of a second chance. Be blessed!
Everyone wants to be a critic. Speaking as a woman who had an abortion and didn't want to do it, I promise you that everyday that I wake up without my child is my penance.
My boyfriend at the time told me he would kill himself if I chose to have the child. I see now I chose the wrong life.
My current boyfriend is 35 and I'm 20. He wants kids. He wants kids with me. I fear the reason we don't have them is because he thinks I'm looking for a replacement child. Honestly, I can't tell you different.
So thanks you Jesus freaks that want to preach to me about what a sinner I am and how I don't deserve children. Thanks for rubbing salt into a wound I can't close. I'm not looking for forgiveness: simply a steady hand to hold. You all want to act like you're so close to god. Like you've never done anything wrong. f**k you all. The point in God and Christianity is to promote hope of a better existence. It's the holier than thou that ruin it for the Christians that really mean well.
My boyfriend at the time told me he would kill himself if I chose to have the child. I see now I chose the wrong life.
My current boyfriend is 35 and I'm 20. He wants kids. He wants kids with me. I fear the reason we don't have them is because he thinks I'm looking for a replacement child. Honestly, I can't tell you different.
So thanks you Jesus freaks that want to preach to me about what a sinner I am and how I don't deserve children. Thanks for rubbing salt into a wound I can't close. I'm not looking for forgiveness: simply a steady hand to hold. You all want to act like you're so close to god. Like you've never done anything wrong. f**k you all. The point in God and Christianity is to promote hope of a better existence. It's the holier than thou that ruin it for the Christians that really mean well.
I agree with carifairy-there is a such thing as having an abortion and then changing your mind after and deciding to want another pregnancy. Abortion is a stressful situation and everyone is different. It is typical to regret the decision and wanting another chance at a baby very soon after. It happened to me quite recently....
o thanks you Jesus freaks that want to preach to me about what a sinner I am and how I don't deserve children. Thanks for rubbing salt into a wound I can't close. I'm not looking for forgiveness: simply a steady hand to hold. You all want to act like you're so close to god. Like you've never done anything wrong. f*** you all. The point in God and Christianity is to promote hope of a better existence. It's the holier than thou that ruin it for the Christians that really mean well. Quote:
As a Christian myself, this comment is disturbing. NO ONE has the right to take away a life but God. If you are such a good Christian, you would know this. And people do make mistakes, but it isn't a mistake when you know exactly what you are doing at that time. Then it becomes a sin. If I were you, I would get right with God first before I ever considered even thinking about trying to conceive one of His precious children.
People that are Christians would also know that "Thor shall not Judge". It is the lords job to judge, judgment is just as much a sin as murder in the lords eyes. I am no way for abortion but I'm not going to judge someone that has had one. I'm not in their situation so I do no know what is truly going on. If you have study anything about psychology, which I have, you would know that some women have severe mental breakdowns after abortion and can not deal with their guilt. Some woman think they will never want to have an abortion until they are actually in that situation. Why hurt someone with your words and possible push them over the edge for something that doesn't even affect you.