Wanting to get pregnant immediately after abortion

Your story is just like mine. I know it has been a long time, but did you get the baby you wanted?

I'm in the same boat as you. Has having another child helped with some of the guilt & loss?

I'm in the same boat as you. Did you ever have another baby & how do you feel about it if so? Was it difficult to bond?

If you are feeling any kind of guilt, please call this number for a post abortion healing hotline (whatever you do, don't kill yourself and call the number) 888-456-4673 also, here's a number for a suicide help group 1-800-273-8255

Time helped heal the guilt. I realized that I never knew I would feel this way and didn't know what I would feel. I was doing what I thought I needed to do.

I ended up getting pregnant. Part of me wishes I would have waited. It helped with the feeling of wanting another child, but when I got pregnant I realized maybe I really didn't want this. Almost did another abortion. It's very confusing. I think I wanted this because of the loss. I waited a year and thought that was enough. I wish I would have waited a year and a half or two.

I did end up doing EMDR to help. I had PTSD after the abortion. It was very traumitizing. I couldn't walk into a daycare without feeling a body of stress and anxiety. Couldn't look at a pregnant girl.

This new baby will never replace the child I lost. It is a new baby. I still wonder what that baby would be like. But I know I will see it someday in heaven and I know I'm forgiven and don't need to deal with the stress and guilt. I think shame was the hardest to get over. Like how could I do sigh an aweful thing.

I came to realize that I was scared so very scared that it was the o my thing I knew. I also had to think would I want my daughter or friend to feel guilt for their entire life for making what they felt as a mistake? No! So I had to find peace too.

You don't need to feel guilt or shame. We all make mistakes. I believe those mistakes or events in our lives truly help us grow.

I bet you now have a different perception on others pain. Maybe a better understanding for feelings? Overall, you feel weak but you are so much stronger!

Rad my response below and please take some time to decide. Time heals!

If you are feeling any kind of guilt, please call this number for a post abortion healing hotline (whatever you do, don't kill yourself and call the number) 888-456-4673 also, here's a number for a suicide help group 1-800-273-8255

If you are feeling any kind of guilt, please call this number for a post abortion healing hotline (whatever you do, don't kill yourself and call the number) 888-456-4673 also, here's a number for a suicide help group 1-800-273-8255

This is exactly what happened to me. Had a pregnancy scare in June we talked about what we would do. My be has a 14 yr old already. He said he'd support whatever I decided and even if we didn't stay together he'd always be there for the baby. Well flash forward to end of September I find out I am. He tells me he has a 8 yr old son he forgot to mention and I should call a clinic. I was told by Drs for years due to a pre existing condition getting and staying pregnant would be difficult. I was scared but happy it happened and I was 8 weeks before I found out. When I told him and he told me about his hidden child and call a clini. I was devastated. This was a complete 180 from the discussion we had a few months prior. I didn't know what to do and never cared if others got an abortion but I never would. I'm 27 knew what we were doing and was willing to face the consequences. After talking to my mom and best friend I knew I didn't and should t have to face the consequences alone and limit my life goals because of a guy that lied to me. I didn't want a hidden child. I wanted a baby yes but one that came into a relationship where both parents were excited and proud to have them. So I made an appointment the next day oct 6 at a clinic. I cried every night for the 2 weeks I knew and was deciding what to do. I regret getting into the situation but not what I did. I wish I was never put in the position to have to make the decision I did. And because of what I did I do question whether I should have children in the future because if I can harm one I never met what possibly could I do to one I have. I know that sounds crazy but I don't know how to change that. I feel as though a killed someone and that's a not a good feeling I would never wish the situation of having to choose whether a life is given or taken on anyone. But I had a great dr who told me only God knows what is in your heart. And that has given me some relief because I do know how guilty I feel and that has to mean something.

I think you should google Project Rachel. They're a group that I think can help you with whatever it is you are feeling

You are so right, I just had an abortion two days ago and I feel like I deserve to be dead I don't deserve to be here. I feel so bad for what I did. The father of the child now hates me and quite frankly I hate myself and just wish I wasn't selfish in that moment because like you said it would have worked out.

Please get counseling or look up support groups in your area. It would help if you looked up project Rachel. It's a group that helps post abortive women find healing after the procedure

I feel the same exact way.. I really don't think its right for me to feel the way I do. I just had an abortion 4 days ago because I care about how people think of me. I'm 19 years old, I figured people wouldn't look at me the same and think of me as a s*** for having a baby at such a young age. I already have a super depressive personality after this happened I can't even find it in me to do anything or think of myself as the same. the plan was to keep it because it wasn't my poor babies fault it was conceived the fact that I just took it out of this world and I wanted to back out the whole entire time really shows how much of a coward I am. I shouldn't have listened to what my dad thought was best for me I should've thought about what was best for me and my life because its not anyone elses life. I sincerely regret what I did to my child, the only thing getting me through with my decision is the thought that It will never suffer again and its in heaven looking after me. ill always be a mother no matter what happened I need to find a way to try and forgive myself before anything. I feel horrible because of the fact I want to try and have another baby again to replace the one that I let someone else decide for me what to do with it. I want to love and protect it with my whole entire heart, and I'm sure that it will help my decision.

Love, if you need help with what you are feeling, please get counciling or look up support groups in your area. Please don't keep your emotions bottled up. Also, look up Project Rachel. They are a group that helps women who regret their abortions.

Ladies, if any of you are suffering, please get counciling or talk to someone about how you feel. It you keep things bottled up for too long, nothing will ever get better. I recommend looking up Project Rachel. They are a group that helps post abortive women.