Abortion,,,, Im sorry

July 2005 -- May 2007....Almost 2 years since this post has started. While searching the net this morning I came upon this post and intensly read it all waiting to find out what "randolf's" choice was. I pray she has made the right choice for her as to me every situation like this is unique. Randolf...are you out there??? If you ever find your way back to this page, maybe, if you would like, you could post how your life is now. I hope that all is going well for you. Jan

The Pill is not the only form of birth control. People looking into getting birth control should ask their gynecologist for what will work for your beliefs/body/lifestyle/etcetera, but I want to mention what I use because it seems to be often overlooked. It is called an IUD, or alternatively an IUC. I personally have Mirena, but there are other kinds out there. Mirena is an estrogen-free intrauterine contraceptive (IUC), and is more effective birth control than getting your tubes tied, plus you don't have to take a pill or get a shot. It lasts for five years, at which point you get it removed (and then either leave it out or get a new one for continued birth control). It can be removed at any time by your doctor, so you can choose to have a child. Many insurance plans cover it so you only pay copay, and you'd pay that for a regular gyn visit anyways, so next time ask your gynecologist, ladies!

I know that right now your judgement is cloudy. I know that many people do not feel that abortions are wrong or a form of murder. I just want to tell you that there is so much grief after having an abortion. Do not have an abortion. Think about adoption because you so much time to change your mind as compared to an abortion. Once you have an abortion you can not change anything. Also, many of the abortion clinics are not honest (well at least with my experience). Just because you have a positive pregnancy test it does not mean you are pregnant. You could have miscarried. Go to a private doctor to get evaluated.

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my son. My family was ultra conservative, and I felt like the world was going to end. I didn't know what to do. I was torn between facing telling my family, or going through with an abortion I didn't truly want. I ended up telling my family, and they pretty much dissowned me for the first few months. But then they saw that I was taking on this responsibility and being mature enough to back the course I took. Now I have an amazing 9 year old son. He's brilliant in school, has wonderful friends, and my life has been so amazing since his birth. It was REALLY hard. I hated the way people commented on my age, and basically had to let it "roll off of my back" But ultimately, when I stopped caring what everyone else said, and started looking at what a beautiful life was gracing mine, I realized that keeping my son was the best thing that ever happened to me. I can't speak for everyone, but I can say...DON'T LET OTHER PEOPLE BRING YOU DOWN. It's called a choice for a reason. If you CHOOSE to have an abortion, then be confident that it is the best decision you can make for yourself. If you CHOOSE to keep your child, don't let ANYONE bring you down.
I hope it all works out for you
Best wishes..

i too am facing whether to medically abort or not. im not taking any consideration to god or anyone else (because im a christian yet i dont see the scientific evidence, but it is good to believe in something).

it is my choice. its hard. but i found out early because i just randomly did a test! the worst part is i was on the birth control pill! so i am in deep shock. ive talked to the australian pregnancy hotline they were extremely lovely and said that it was my choice and noone would think bad of me if i had an abortion or if i kept it. lovely non-judgemental lady. and my mum and dad love me either way which is lovely to know :)

i will only consider abortion if it is in the next week before tiny developments take place -even though it is like small than my pinky i am a kind person at heart and could not do it any later when the brain is all linked up and can understand pain. im not a mean person. i am a realist.
the other side of this is if i decide to rear a baby, the doctor didnt even mention prenatal care. i have been think the only side of things to of keeping the baby... its all a bit surreal. how will i support it? education? clothing? food? support? career? lifestyle? friends? am i ready for all of this.

my lovely boyfriend of 3 years im certain does not want a child right now but i value his opinion but i need to work it out myself because its not a light decision to make -either way. i would love to be a mother one day but right now im 19 and i am in uni studying health getting excellent grades enjoying myself, dad bought me a new car, i see friends now and then (i want to get more involved with the holidays comin near... or so i wanted to!) and looking forward to buying a house, travel, and a job. im pretty sure my mum and dad wouldnt want me to so called 'wreck my oppurtunities' or maybe just they're simply worried about me.

i think its ignorace people say why werent u on b/c when u were havin sex... duh i was! i must have been a walking fertile machine at the time! nothing is 100% going to work unless you are a virgin for life even condoms break.

so im not going to tell anyone unless i decide to keep a fetus and have a lovely little baby in the world. wish me luck on my decision. im glad i can just write this down somwhere, i feel a bit relieved to express myself.

Guest wrote:

i had an abortion a week ago, and i regret the decision everyday, and scared i feel what goes around comes around. :(

exactly how i feel right now..i took da first pill on Friday..and did the 4 pills 2day..it hurt like a motherfu**er..but i deserved it. i really regret doing what i did. i wish i hadn't done it!

I just had an abortion and it was the worst experience of my life! However, I REALLY did not want another child (my son is only 11 months). Life goes on....but if you and your bf want this baby - keep it. I am so glad i had my son and would not have considered aborting him. But this second child I really did not want. I have no regrets about either. What I'm saying is that you should do what you want to do or else risk living in eternal regret

I just LOVE how everyone says that adoption is such an obvious choice.

I gave a baby up for adoption and have had two abortions. The adoption has been MUCH harder to deal with. I would never, EVER want to force a woman into going through with it.

But that's the beauty of choice, right?

HEy randolph

I think you need to sit down and think about what YOU really want. I was 17 when I got pregnant and my parents disliked my boyfriend, so our relationship was a secret as well. I finally got the nerve to tell my parents. My father woould not talk or even look at me for several days. I decided to keep the baby even if i was, or was not going to with my boyfriend. It was just something i was against. My dad hated my boyfriend but when that baby came out everything changed. My father instantly fell in love with our baby. It took him a year to get used to my boyfriend, now both parents absolutly love him. Now 4 years later they are asking when We are going to have another one. And we now live together and my oparents call him their son and spoil our child rotten.

So just make sure you know what YOU want. It will all work out sonner or later.

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 embryo develops its heartbeat and organs at five weeks along and at eight it becomes a fetus with a beating heart and organs. You lack knowledge rebeka, and I say this as a mother of three children you have your choices but have you ever seen a unborn fetus fight for its life as you so called ppl who can't use the proper birth control decide to get ab abortion? It's so sad, and yes it us murder. Educate yourself abortion isn't always the answer you can parent this child or adoption. And if you want to see where I'm coming from watch the silent scream look it up in YouTube and yes you too can understand that this fetus is the start of a baby us a life and deserves to have that chance shame in you!

I think of it this way: It is 9 months out of your life against the babies entire lifetime. You have all the power here, the baby has nine. My number always told me that a baby is a gift from God. Maybe this baby is meant to enrich someone else’s life, if not yours. Please allow it to experience life.