I had an*l sex twice today & normal sex twice today, yes im very young energetic couple!
An*l xxx feels great and infact i wont orgasm with normal vaginal xxx but an*l does the job (Moan like crazy/orgasm etc - but where all differnert) The guy im with now was my first because i wanted to try it, i love trying new things & hey dont knock it before you try.
Anyway here is my method:
Go to the toilet first to avoid getting total messy (This was one thing i was worried about- but never had a mess EVER)
Hop in a nice hot shower by yourself or with your other half
Begin massaging your anus with one finger to lube up i use soap, sorry to get graphic but if poop is still in there get it out with your fingers i know gross but your in the shower and can wash your hands after doing so.
Inscrease to two fingers circuling around, which haha you may enjoy!
if your guy is doing it for you forplay is good whilst doing this.
Depending on the size of your fingers only go up to 3fingers no more, mine happen to be slim to 3 is my max.
Dry off then lay on the bed flat on your stomach, spread your legs alittle.
Let him tease you with the head off his pe**s then slowly insert it in.
Ultimatly moaning sensation... play with your cl!t whilst he is behind you
i even tilt my butt up to him sometimes, means its easier to get in.
BUT IF IT HURTS DONT GO ALL THE WAY... OOOOUUUUCHHH!
An*l xxx feels great and infact i wont orgasm with normal vaginal xxx but an*l does the job (Moan like crazy/orgasm etc - but where all differnert) The guy im with now was my first because i wanted to try it, i love trying new things & hey dont knock it before you try.
Anyway here is my method:
Go to the toilet first to avoid getting total messy (This was one thing i was worried about- but never had a mess EVER)
Hop in a nice hot shower by yourself or with your other half
Begin massaging your anus with one finger to lube up i use soap, sorry to get graphic but if poop is still in there get it out with your fingers i know gross but your in the shower and can wash your hands after doing so.
Inscrease to two fingers circuling around, which haha you may enjoy!
if your guy is doing it for you forplay is good whilst doing this.
Depending on the size of your fingers only go up to 3fingers no more, mine happen to be slim to 3 is my max.
Dry off then lay on the bed flat on your stomach, spread your legs alittle.
Let him tease you with the head off his pe**s then slowly insert it in.
Ultimatly moaning sensation... play with your cl!t whilst he is behind you
i even tilt my butt up to him sometimes, means its easier to get in.
BUT IF IT HURTS DONT GO ALL THE WAY... OOOOUUUUCHHH!
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That did nothing to answer any question. And if you are against this why the hell are you even reading this stuff. Go back to your religion on your knees and blow something else. with that being said, everyone else who has answered the question or given their opinions thank you, you all (who isn't the reject who wants to preach his religious beliefs) have been very helpful.
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Absolute rubbish - "hate it or fake it" "tolerate or dread it"? Well, if you're faking it you're an id**t.
I was married for twenty years to a woman who refused anal sex point-blank. And I respected that. Her loss though! Since then I've had two girlfriends who LOVE anal sex - and both asked me to do it. I married the second!
Just a couple of tips for the novice: Do your research. NEVER copy the stupid 'porn' phenomenon of ass to vaginal or ass to mouth - she will get a horrible, horrible infection.
Get a life-size silicone penis, and try it on yourself first. It gives you an idea of the potential discomfort AND of the immense pleasure she will feel. As a plus, it'll also give you the most intense prostate stimulated orgasm you've ever had when you're pumping it in and out while you masturbate.
My wife loves anal so much that I stumbled across this forum trying to learn more about WHY!!!? I know from a guys perspective I love the prostate stimulation. She prefers no lube too - doesn't like the sticky lube mess after (loves the cum in her ass though!), or the decreased sensation during - but that's for the experienced. Don't ever force anyone. I'd just say, if you're a woman who hasn't tried it, you seriously don't know what you're missing. Same for the guys - one thing though - I can handle a 9" dildo up my ass when when I'm doing it MYSELF but NOT when she f**ks me with it. There's a big lesson in that for when you're a novice trying it with your GF or wife!
Last Sunday morning she grabbed my penis and thrust it in her ass while we were 'spooning' - 30 secs of discomfort - then 20mins of sheer bliss for both parties.
Enjoy!
PS: Religious objections are a whole other issue - but Catholics never f**k just for pleasure, right????.....right.... :P
I was married for twenty years to a woman who refused anal sex point-blank. And I respected that. Her loss though! Since then I've had two girlfriends who LOVE anal sex - and both asked me to do it. I married the second!
Just a couple of tips for the novice: Do your research. NEVER copy the stupid 'porn' phenomenon of ass to vaginal or ass to mouth - she will get a horrible, horrible infection.
Get a life-size silicone penis, and try it on yourself first. It gives you an idea of the potential discomfort AND of the immense pleasure she will feel. As a plus, it'll also give you the most intense prostate stimulated orgasm you've ever had when you're pumping it in and out while you masturbate.
My wife loves anal so much that I stumbled across this forum trying to learn more about WHY!!!? I know from a guys perspective I love the prostate stimulation. She prefers no lube too - doesn't like the sticky lube mess after (loves the cum in her ass though!), or the decreased sensation during - but that's for the experienced. Don't ever force anyone. I'd just say, if you're a woman who hasn't tried it, you seriously don't know what you're missing. Same for the guys - one thing though - I can handle a 9" dildo up my ass when when I'm doing it MYSELF but NOT when she f**ks me with it. There's a big lesson in that for when you're a novice trying it with your GF or wife!
Last Sunday morning she grabbed my penis and thrust it in her ass while we were 'spooning' - 30 secs of discomfort - then 20mins of sheer bliss for both parties.
Enjoy!
PS: Religious objections are a whole other issue - but Catholics never f**k just for pleasure, right????.....right.... :P
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My fiance wanted to know if I would try it and at first I was highly hesitant as the day progressed when we were alone he would smack my butt and finger my annual for a split second through my underwear or pants, this eventually got me to the point of interest. When we did have anal I actually found it pleasing, though i liked it when he rubbed my vagina as well. It only hurt when he tried to go more than halfway in.
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Anal sex shouldn't hurt at all if it's done properly. I'm not a girl, but I have experience with anal sex, and the only reason it would hurt is if not enough/or no lubricant was used or if she was tense. In order for it to be pleasurable for her you need to use lubricant - as much as she likes - and she needs to try to relax. The anal sphincter is just a muscle and if she tenses up, she'll tighten the muscle (without even knowing it probably). The best way to get around this is to be very gentle. If she trusts you and knows you wouldn't hurt her, then she's much more likely to relax. If it's her first time though, you have to be patient. Shoving it all in in one go is a very bad idea. I'd recommend going very slowly and once you're all the way in, staying like that for a few minutes until she gets accustomed to you being there. However, if she's tense and doesn't want to do it, you should not force it - it'll only serve to make her more tense and you will hurt her. A lot of foreplay beforehand, including anal foreplay will help. Also, she may be paranoid about not being clean - this is common. She may want to have a bath or even douche beforehand.
You can buy cheap but effective anal douches online. You must only use clean, water though - chemicals of any kind can irritate the lining of the rectum. The water should be lukewarm/room temperature as too hot would obviously cause damage and too cold can cause cramping. There needs to be a 2 hour gap between douching and anal at least as all the water will not come out in one go. You feel the need to expell water sometimes 5-20mins after you think it's all gone. You need to wait till it's all gone/until your body absorbs some of it before sex as douching immediately before anal sex will most likely be messy - water (possibly dirty) may come out during sex if you don't wait. Also douching should be done no more than 3 times a week, otherwise you can upset the bacterial balance of your rectum and cause infections.
And by the way, I doubt every single one of your friends has actually done this. It's very common for guys amongst other guys to brag and exagerate their sexual conquests. You may in fact be the only one out of your friends who's tried it even though they all talk about it.
Good luck.
You can buy cheap but effective anal douches online. You must only use clean, water though - chemicals of any kind can irritate the lining of the rectum. The water should be lukewarm/room temperature as too hot would obviously cause damage and too cold can cause cramping. There needs to be a 2 hour gap between douching and anal at least as all the water will not come out in one go. You feel the need to expell water sometimes 5-20mins after you think it's all gone. You need to wait till it's all gone/until your body absorbs some of it before sex as douching immediately before anal sex will most likely be messy - water (possibly dirty) may come out during sex if you don't wait. Also douching should be done no more than 3 times a week, otherwise you can upset the bacterial balance of your rectum and cause infections.
And by the way, I doubt every single one of your friends has actually done this. It's very common for guys amongst other guys to brag and exagerate their sexual conquests. You may in fact be the only one out of your friends who's tried it even though they all talk about it.
Good luck.
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hi, i love doing anal , ummm .... the first couple of times it hurt alot though just trying to figure out what position to be in when it went down was the key. some lube so itll go in smoother , and wont hurt so much. my husband also gets my front when hes getting the back just makes it so much more enjoyable. kisses also takes the mind off the pain. it some times takes my husband a mintue or two to get in but once hes in its on , and i dont want him to stop. so some may like it , and some may not just try to find ways that doesnt hurt so much , and see if that works ... :-P
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I am now 26 and have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now. She is now 23 During our first year of dating I asked her if she wanted to try anal sex. She said no. So I didn't push it on her. Somewhere around our out second year of dating I asked her again and she said no. After a few days I had asked her why she didn't want to try it. She said when she was younger around 15, she had a boyfriend, and when they were having sex he just rammed it in her butt. No lube, no warning and not even asking. A few days later we talked about it again and she said she would like to try it with me only when she was ready. A few months later while making love with my girlfriend (me on top her on bottom) she took me penis and put it on her ass-hole and told me to go very slow. I told her that it wouldnt be a good idea to do it just like that because it would hurt with no lube. She said okay. A few days later while I was eating her out, I made it a point to lick her ass at the same time for a while, which she just loved and i started with a finger. I did this to her for a few weeks. One afternoon when she was bent over the bed while i was doing her, my penis came out of her p***y. She took my penis and put it in her ass and told me to go slow. Now we are 6 years into our relationship and having anal sex about 3 o 4 times a month. She loves it now. We even went out and bought some anal toys together so she can be penatrated in both holes at the same time.. So guys, just go slow, talk to your girl about it every once in a while and wait till she is ready. If she loves you as much as she says she does, she will end up trying it with you sooner or later, so don't pressur her and wait. Sometime the best things in life are worth wating for.
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anal sex is a sin, but let me admit I as a man love it so much so that I enjoy watching anal sex video even I dont watch nothing but anal, it makes me so excited, amazingly just mention of anal makes me turned on n hot, I do agree with that woman who says (ther s nothing like it) I got her feeling x
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I reckon the best lube to use is silicon based (Pjur bodyglide). Go very slowly. Only insert the tip of your penis into her until she get used to the feeling.
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Hi!
Replying to heddi, I can tell you that anal sex can be very pleasurable for women, but only if you know exactly what you are doing.
Reading you you reminded me my first anal sex time: simply awful! Yes, it was very painful because the guy didn't have any experience at all, and he was rushing his way to stuff his equipment all at once. Unfortunately once he had done it I never wanted to repeat such an experience with him.
But some months later, I agreed with another guy who really had a long and thick equipment. I was in horror, but for my surprise, he used a lot of lubrication, was always comforting me and was always stopping when I was telling him that it was hurting me. He used his equipment as a very gentle drill, just thrusting very slowly and gently every time. Also he was changing his position as he was going deeper and deeper inside me.
I understand some gentlemen simply can't figure it out how painful is to be penetrated at the back door, simply because they never had done this. Maybe if you let your girlfriend giving you the same experience she went through, you could understand better why she is refussing to have anal sex.
My personal advice: if you are willing to try anal sex again, use lots of lubrication and use your fingers firts. As the tissue in that area is not as flexible as in the vagina is, you will need to lubricate your fingers and her back door throughly, then start circling the entrance very smoothly and slowly. Wait until she tells you she is ready and then stick only the tip of your finger inside. Repeat the circling motion once again until she tells you she is ready and carry on like that. The tricky and painful part is at the end of the passage, where the tissue is more tighten. Please don't rush yourself.
Hope this can help you and my best wishes that you could convince your girlfriend to experience this hot way of sex.
All the best!
Anne
Replying to heddi, I can tell you that anal sex can be very pleasurable for women, but only if you know exactly what you are doing.
Reading you you reminded me my first anal sex time: simply awful! Yes, it was very painful because the guy didn't have any experience at all, and he was rushing his way to stuff his equipment all at once. Unfortunately once he had done it I never wanted to repeat such an experience with him.
But some months later, I agreed with another guy who really had a long and thick equipment. I was in horror, but for my surprise, he used a lot of lubrication, was always comforting me and was always stopping when I was telling him that it was hurting me. He used his equipment as a very gentle drill, just thrusting very slowly and gently every time. Also he was changing his position as he was going deeper and deeper inside me.
I understand some gentlemen simply can't figure it out how painful is to be penetrated at the back door, simply because they never had done this. Maybe if you let your girlfriend giving you the same experience she went through, you could understand better why she is refussing to have anal sex.
My personal advice: if you are willing to try anal sex again, use lots of lubrication and use your fingers firts. As the tissue in that area is not as flexible as in the vagina is, you will need to lubricate your fingers and her back door throughly, then start circling the entrance very smoothly and slowly. Wait until she tells you she is ready and then stick only the tip of your finger inside. Repeat the circling motion once again until she tells you she is ready and carry on like that. The tricky and painful part is at the end of the passage, where the tissue is more tighten. Please don't rush yourself.
Hope this can help you and my best wishes that you could convince your girlfriend to experience this hot way of sex.
All the best!
Anne
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Me too. I'm female (duh) and I love anal sex. I've never managed to orgasm from vaginal sex or clitoral stimulation (admittedly my clit is incredibly small/barely there) but anal makes me squirm with pleasure - my girl has learned that if anal sex is offered, I can be made to do an interesting variety of things...
In all seriousness, it probably varies from person to person. Some people like it, some don't - personal preference really.
However, most people will need lots of building up to it, and lots of lube - others just drop their pants and are ready for it. (I'm one of the latter myself, but I am into BDSM, so the slight friction and pressure/pain is a turn-on rather than a turn-off...plus my lady pinning me down to the bed and uh..I'll cut off there.)
If you're going for it the first time though, rock, don't thrust. Thrusting feels AWESOME if you do it - but it'll need time to get there, and you definitely need lube for that. Rocking can make you orgasm anyway though, and sometimes is even more satisfying, especially if the man in question is shorter than usual. I had some of the best sex with this guy who had a relatively small penis but oh my god he could use it.
So basically, try it out, keep it slow and safe at first.
In all seriousness, it probably varies from person to person. Some people like it, some don't - personal preference really.
However, most people will need lots of building up to it, and lots of lube - others just drop their pants and are ready for it. (I'm one of the latter myself, but I am into BDSM, so the slight friction and pressure/pain is a turn-on rather than a turn-off...plus my lady pinning me down to the bed and uh..I'll cut off there.)
If you're going for it the first time though, rock, don't thrust. Thrusting feels AWESOME if you do it - but it'll need time to get there, and you definitely need lube for that. Rocking can make you orgasm anyway though, and sometimes is even more satisfying, especially if the man in question is shorter than usual. I had some of the best sex with this guy who had a relatively small penis but oh my god he could use it.
So basically, try it out, keep it slow and safe at first.
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Hi there. I'm a 36 year old woman and have an extremely healthy, sexual relationship with my 34 year old husband. And we are both quite impressed by what the human body is capable of. About a year ago, I asked my husband if we could try some anal foreplay and we agreed to take it slow and easy... which didn't work out. He was very gentle with me through the entire session... but the foreplay alone was so amazing and felt sooo good that I tried to force the issue. It hurt alot!!! So over the next couple months we just added anal play to our playlist. XD
One day about 5 months ago, I was at my favorite adult store (and I am FAR from shy) when I walked right up to the girl behind the counter, bold as you please with a store full of people and said in a not-so quiet voice, "Hi, I want to have anal sex with my hubby and I really don't want it to hurt... what do you suggest?" I figured if she couldn't help me, someone else that heard me might be able to. Let me tell you, she was like a wikipedia with so much info I thought I was gonna explode. And later that night.... I did.... multiple times.
First, both of you need to be patient (trust me, it's sooo worth it). The most important thing is the lube. We used a silicone based lube (non sticky, stays where you want it and feels the most natural), then 1 by 1, after she's comfortable with each one, insert a finger and slowly tease. If she's truly relaxed and comfortable... you'll be able to feel the anus muscles relax and stretch. We also tried a "plug" during foreplay (remember the lube, don't let her dry up). Communicate with eachother the entire time. Then just before you remove the "plug", apply some of the lube to your penis, remove the "plug" and slowly replace it with you.
So, to answer your question.... I enjoy anal sex IMMENSELY!!!
One day about 5 months ago, I was at my favorite adult store (and I am FAR from shy) when I walked right up to the girl behind the counter, bold as you please with a store full of people and said in a not-so quiet voice, "Hi, I want to have anal sex with my hubby and I really don't want it to hurt... what do you suggest?" I figured if she couldn't help me, someone else that heard me might be able to. Let me tell you, she was like a wikipedia with so much info I thought I was gonna explode. And later that night.... I did.... multiple times.
First, both of you need to be patient (trust me, it's sooo worth it). The most important thing is the lube. We used a silicone based lube (non sticky, stays where you want it and feels the most natural), then 1 by 1, after she's comfortable with each one, insert a finger and slowly tease. If she's truly relaxed and comfortable... you'll be able to feel the anus muscles relax and stretch. We also tried a "plug" during foreplay (remember the lube, don't let her dry up). Communicate with eachother the entire time. Then just before you remove the "plug", apply some of the lube to your penis, remove the "plug" and slowly replace it with you.
So, to answer your question.... I enjoy anal sex IMMENSELY!!!
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I am a big supporter of using a dildo/vibrator about the same size as the husband so that during sex play the woman may use it on the man until he has an orgasm from anal play. Then the male, given his recent experience, may be quite a bit more patient on the woman with the dildo/vibrator. The woman can also purchase a strap on device so that she can wear the dildo/vibrator as a "penis" to take the man in his anus. It is called "pegging."
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