My husband is free of his game addiction now but something you said in your letter concerns me. My husband had several false memories of cruel things that I had done to him as well as having drawn away. It made it easier to game night and day. We have talked everything through and he understands that he is the one who drew away and that I was there the whole time, desperatly lonely and waiting. He still does not know where the memories came from. The first one we talked through involved my going to things and excluding him because I was ashamed of him. That memory broke down when I discussed every social group that I've every been in and how he always knew my associates. He was the one who had excluded me even telling me that he had lost control of his facebook account so that I would not meet his game friends. Being with an addict is hell and if your wife is still with you it says to me that she loves you. I should also mention now that I know what he was doing if he does it again I won't wait, I also love myself.
STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING, YOU ARE HURTING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING THAT LOVES YOU. I can not begin to tell you the harm and post traumatic experience you are causing a loved one. I suffer ptsd and night terrors from my husbands addictions. He quit cold turkey a year ago when I almost committed suicide from his game addictions. REAL people get hurt from this!! Your screwed up game fantasy is not worth the loss of a loved one. Put the computer games down and hold your loved one tight.
XxbadwolfxX wife
reason. He won't even get off while his parents are visiting. I am tired of being the one responsible for everything. We are suppose to be taking care of each other but its all on my shoulders. I hate him. I could drop dead and he wouldn't notice. The only thing saving him is he still goes to work. Barely.
My partner is really addicted to DOTA2(warcraft)
He is a good man and a good provider.. But im just so fed up of him... Almost 90% of his spare time he plays his comp game.. Im not against in it coz i understamd that they need some stress reliver like those games...
He arrives from work 11pm when he comes home he goes to his comp find food eat then play until 4 to 5am in the morning sleeps and wakes up at 9 10am plays again leaves home at 12pm..
I've always been begging for his time for me specially for our kids we barely talk.. Yes we do have sex but thats it just SEX even if i dnt want ti have sex he would get mad and insist to do it.. And if he cant really get what he wants he goes out and play his game until the sun rises...
And im even suffering from post pantrum depression he is not helping... Im so stressed and depressed i hope it wont go to a point where in we end up NOT BEING TOGETHER :( im feeling hopeless
When she first started playing, it seemed innocent enough, but quickly our marriage started to fail. I warned her that this was not good for our marriage, and she just shrugged it off like I was the dramatic one here.
After 2 years of competing for the least bit of attention, I finally broke through slightly and we went to a marriage counselor. You need to understand, I watched her manipulate Dr's to get prescription drugs she needed to help her stay up late, to fall asleep, to concentrate, these wacko's give people anything now a days.
So we go to counseling, I have kept track of her gaming time, it was in access of 80 hours a week, plus a full time job, (which she was fired from the first one), basically living on 2 to 3 hours of sleep a night during the week, and crashing on the weekend only to be up all night on those nights too. There was no time for me, but hey, I was the selfish one here, ask her.
Se denied it was a problem, claimed it was a hobby, that I had my hobbies, and I'm a control freak because I want her life to be miserable without an outside interest. Let's just say counseling didn't help, and you can't help someone who does not want to help themselves.
To make this long story short, I spent the last 2 1/2 years of my marriage alone, when I finally filed for divorce 3 years ago and left.
Since then, I have been happy once again. That's the good part, the bad part? She has lost her husband, her friends and family, cannot hold a job, is on the verge of losing her house, can't even feed her cat, (I have to send cases of cat food monthly, no reason for the poor cat to suffer).
People need to realize that video gaming is an addiction, similar to gambling. There were no studies on this 5 years ago when this started, nor much 3 years ago when I left, but now there are starting to be published studies on this, an addict is an addict.
In my opinion, an addict needs to want to help themselves. My experience watching my wife to this day, almost hitting rock bottom, but not yet.
Think about this one, we both made 6 figures each, lived comfortably, a 3600 sq ft home, vacations, luxury cars, the good life, we had it made. I now do Ok for myself, but she gave all that up for gaming. she basically gave up her friends and family too. It's real, it can happen to anyone.
Feeling the exact same way! My husband is on that stupid game ALL the time! He's good in the sense
That he takes care of our son and gets things accomplished. But any spare time he has he's on that game (till 3am most times) we've always had open communication and tomorrow I think I'm going to straight up ask to see his phone and look at it all right in front of him. I'm gonna tell him my concerns about him chatting with women through the game
(And on The line app). I think expressing my feelings and seeing for myself will help. So sorry your going through this also. p.s I have like no sex life and usually always get rejected... I've stopped trying and am
Quite fine pleasing myself and not
Putting out if he ever were to "come
Onto me"
Thankfully we don't have kids, but my husband's gaming addiction is ruining our life too. He's even been diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and yet when I got up at 5:30 this morning he still hadn't gone to bed (despite explicit instructions from his rheumatologist to have a regulated sleep hygiene schedule). Frankly I don't believe the diagnosis - I think he's been misrepresenting the situation to the doctors. He's in denial about how messed up his behaviour is.
We don't even sleep in the same room anymore. When I've talked to him about how dysfunction the situation is - and how worried I am about him - he just got all argumentative about what dysfunction even means. I love him - but he's so adamant about sticking to this self-destructive lifestyle. It's getting toxic - I feel like all my life energy is getting sucked out and used up worrying about him. He'll go on the stupid computer first thing after waking up instead of eating, and then his blood sugar is messed up and he's even more dysfunctional at basic life. I'm so angry at him, but I also feel guilty for not taking care of him. I don't want him in my life anymore - but I feel like I'd be a terrible person if I abandoned him.
Some days I wish I'd never met him.
My husband has always played on line game but not tell the Game of War came out he totally changed. Had a business but hired someone to do the work and instead of working to build it he stayed home and played that game. Started lying to me that his business is failing and I kept on taking money out of my savings to help. Then said we were way behind on CC bills because he had to use them to pay for his business needs. Being a trusting wife we sat down and looked at the CC and they were all maxed out. i took 20 k from my 401k to pay off debt. I was going to take over the finances. Weeks went by and I was so busy I didn't take over and asked him not to do anything until we talk. He always busy playing GOW, One day he was drinking and I heard the door slam and I thought he was taking off in my car to liquor store so I came out and he was on the phone talking to "someone at work" He said that persons name too many times. i asked to see his phone and it was a girl on the game that he has been chatting with personal. Face timing at 5:30am found pics she sent to him and she is married too. Then started looking all thru our finances to find out he used the 20k plus more on this GOW to be a big shot on a game. So we are separated and he has been so hateful..name calling, pushing me, mean text saying he is done etc. He moved out after I found the love note he had on his private chat room on the game when he was passed out drunk. i do love him this isn't the same man I married 17 yrs ago and he still throws money into that game . This all made me a snoopy b*****! Found emails with her and his game name. Phone passcode was her birthday. I just want him to tell me the truth because we are in marriage counselling and working on this but I know my trust in him has been broken and until the truth comes out I can't go forward. Moneys gone but she isn't and if he is talking to her I'm done. I take my vowels seriously and given him chances and now he says he has cancer and offered him to move back in so I can help him but think all we would do is argue. I want to say where is your on-line girlfriend and all your bests when you need them!!