don't like nipples to be touched

Yes, nipples are sensual, just calm down, touch ur nipples softly, apply some vitamin E, slowly massage ur breasts, papmer ur nipples, n c u where u land , nothing wrong to masturbate

Wow I can't believe this! I never thought so many people would have the same problem that i do! I'm 26. No kids. And my nipples being touched makes me feel disgusting. Even If something brushes up against them. It makes me want to cry. The few times it's happened in bed with my boyfriend we had to stop and I just curled up in bed waiting for the feeling to go away. It's so awful! He suggested the abuse thing too but honestly I've never been abused. My family is loving and wonderful! Sometimes I can tolerate it if I'm stimulated sexually at the same time and it actually enhances the feeling. But the second the stimulation stops... If the nipple touching doesn't. Then the feelings come flooding back. It makes me feel like disgusting and sick and depressed. Why is this happening????? I really wish someone would answer! But I'm so glad I'm not alone!

I am the mother of FOUR children and I nursed all of them. I do not remember having problems with my husband touching my nipples previous to the kids and with each kid I believe it has gotten worse. I don't mind if he grabs the whole breast but any type of friction on the nipple sends me through the roof and spoils the mood. Now, in part I believe I am jumpy because I've tried to tell him what I don't like and he doesn't always listen and it hurts me so i am always skittish when he gets near them. I don't trust him near them. He gets 'carried away'. Problem is my husband has always been practically obsessed with the damn things. I could easily have sex without my breasts coming into play and as I said, I don't mind him touching the WHOLE breast just really dislike the friction or 'special attention' on the nipple. It's unpleasant!! They seem almost numb except when handle wrong and then it's irritating at best!!

I am right with you. The rage I feel when a man touches or licks them, I feel like I could literally kill them, I don't know why, first it doesn't feel good at all, I do have a large chest but I don't think it matters, I sometimes think there is something wrong with me because of the rage I feel, usually if someone does that I will never speak or see them again, I told one boyfriend how I felt and it was like he was deaf and he continued to do it on different occasions, until I just stopped seeing him, it's like I could be in the best mood and that happens I feel like I am insane for that moment and it's scary. I have always been like that. I just know it's to me nasty and makes no sense what is so erotic about it to men. They don't listen. I am glad I am not alone. I now know what being insane feels like, total uncontrollable and nothing you can do. But this does help to know I'm not the only one. Thank God

Wow. Its so great that I found this site. For such a long time I thought that I was some kind of super freak for hating having my nipples touched. And i mean I really really hate it. To the point I've started to consider having them removed. Touching them myself is already unpleasant, but when my boyfriend touches them I feel like cutting his hand off. The worst part is he just doesnt seem to get it. I keep swatting his hand away and telling him to stop, but he just keeps going for them. And the second he touches my nipples any desire for sex that I had is immediatley gone. He uses this delicate touch, as if my nipple would disintegrate if too much force is used, and it turns into a half tickle- half horrible feeling. Ick, I feel sick just thinking about it. And I can't bring myself to tell him about this outwardly because I'm afraid he'll become scared to touch me at all.
But its a great relief to find that I am not the only one with nipple touching problems.

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My wife hates to have her nipples touched. This situation developed after our first baby. It's been six years and I really miss them during love making. She just hated the breast feeding and actually gave up on it after a few months. I've been looking for an explanation ever since. She will just not talk about it and it was great to find this topic. I agree this is emotional. She does associate breasts with over-dependence and just does not tolerate people hanging on to her. I ask all of you, will this go away some day? Lets play the shrink a little bit, what do all of you have in common? How many of you want to get past it and how many of you wish your partner would forget them? She is great mom, she's sexy, but a chasm has developed between us. I associate the beginning of the distancing with the onset of nipple touch aversion. She ceased being warm and cuddling towards me. Actually child birth made her reinterpret our roles in our marriage. We did take care of each other before the kids and all of a sudden she is saying, "time to grow up and become father and mother, I have kids now and things are different". The thing is men have grown-up as much as they ever will a long time ago, when they decided to share a life with an affectionate partner, moving into a relationship. When I married, I knew I was gone have kids, so having them didn't change the way I saw myself. When dating my wife would tell me she planned never to have kids, when she did, she totally de-eroticized the relationship, where did all the warmth go???

I have hated my nipples being touched sence I had my first child. I am 23 years old with 3 kids. My husband loves to touch my nipples he says it's the best part of my boobs lol. Anyways I almost want to scream at him and I have before for touching them. I do like it when we are having sex though it helps me get there a lot faster but after I have came I will start hating it again. It;s almost as if it sets off a bad hormone that sets through my whole body...weird.. and bu the way I breast fed 2 of my kids and that was fine

I didn't have any issues with my nipples until I tried unsuccessfully to breastfeed my first baby, and moved in with my husband. The breastfeeding hurt my nipples so much, I stopped after 10 days and maybe I've remained psychologically affected by this experience. And of course I love my baby and love to hold her and take care of her, but she's often against my chest, squirming, hitting, fighting, and the brushing against my nipples in this non-sexual context makes me feel irritated and makes me want to cry. It seems my breasts are always in the way. My husband contributes to this feeling because he wants to touch them at any time during the day just to play, completely outside of a sexual context, at least for me. It's extremely irritating and it makes me feel like a sex object. All these unnessessary contacts with my nipples all day long make me more aware of them than I need to be, and I feel depressed about that. I just want to stop feeling them. I wear thick padded bras when I can't stand it anymore, but I feel bad because I heard they contribute to breast cancer (by making the breasts too hot and the fluids circulation abnormal).

I'm the same way. I absolutely cannot bare to have them touched. Not by boyfriends. Not by Doctors. I can't even bare to touch them myself. I've slapped every man I've ever dated (and a couple of gynos) for not heeding my warning that that is a serious no go area. And it's not malicious. I'm just swinging in defense before my brain can fully engage. I've never been abused.  I wouldn't say it hurts. It just completely freaks me out. My skin is crawling and I'm all sorts of uncomfortable and distressed just thinking about it.

I'm the same way, drives me nuts.

I have the same problem! Im usually fine if its my partner licking or sucking during sex but if i touch them myself i get this nervous feeling in the pit of my stomach and i feel dirty and sick like ive done something really wrong by touching them. It makes me feel like ive just been abused! Not a nice feeling at all. At least we're not alone!

You women all seem to missing the point. You're making a mountain out of a mole hill (no pun intended.) First off, you live with your breasts and nipples everyday, all day, 24/7, 365. You wash them. You buy outfits and bras that will accommodate them. You have them passively "touched" everytime you are in an elevator or a crowded hallway, or just in any crowd in general. They are there when you go to sleep, rubbing against what you're wearing and the bed. They are there when you wake in the morning, waiting to be showered and dressed. Hell, I have had women tell me if they could remove their breasts, in a good way, like a hat, at the end of the day, they would do it everyday. To be facetious, if every single day a little dog ran up to you and humped your leg, at work, in the shower, in a crowd, at the mall, while you're trying on clothes, carrying stuff, etc, just everywhere, and every other women was like "yeah, that little dog. Just have to deal with it." And then you get home and your husband wants to be that little dog, humping your leg, grabbing on, going for a ride. And he wonders why you don't enjoy it? And you wonder the same thing? Wouldn't you kind of look back across the day and go "Oh. Yeah. That little dog. That's why I don't enjoy this." Hell, if every person  I passed in tight quarters reached out and rubbed the tip of my penis through tight business pants, everyday, all day, and then I got home and my wife offered some manual stimulation, I would probably opt for a lot of nice kisses on the mouth and re-direct her hands to my chest and shoulders after a while. You don't like your breasts and nipples touched in a sexual way? Jeepers, they've only been touched passively everyday since you were what like, 13? I wonder what the problem could be!!!! Please stop punishing yourselves for not wanting parts of your anatomy to be sexually stimulated and looking for deep, serious meanings as to why. Some women like a playful slap on the bum, some don't. It isn't a major cause of sexual let down though, is it?

This guy ^^
Thanks for putting things in perspective

I remember touching them as a child and getting the same reactioN. I found I was able to recreate that feeling by laying on a swing with my stomach. It didn't start feeling good until I dated my second boyfriend and explored my sexuality more. With my current boyfriend it still happens, but only if he touches them a certain way/at the wrong time. Then I just tell him to stop and we work back up to turning me on again.

It haSn't gone away, but for me it was a physical thing causing that weird invasive, nauseating feeling.

Good to know you're not alone, huh? I REALLY dislike nipple stimulation, too. Always have. I remember the first time I let a boy touch them in high school. I was SO excited, and then...I was like,,,'Hmmm...really? I thought this was supposed to feel good. I would really like him to stop this now." lol It's never improved. Just NOT an erogenous zone for me. I wonder if those of us who dislike it also have anything else in common. For example...I'm also not a fan of clitoral stimulation unless I'm already very aroused. As a means of arousal, it will never work. Feels as annoying as nipple-sucking.

I dont mind having my nipples played with during heated sex, but any other time they are stimulated I get this tickly itch just under my jaw and i get this angry "grey" feeling, and it pisses me off. what is up with that? are my nerve wires crossed? why does my jaw/throat itch?

I have this "angry nipple" thing and OCD too. I was mildly molested as a young child but also the breasts werent touched. There are other sensations that make me unexplainably enraged as well.. the sound of eating, slippers shuffling, someone wagging their foot while sitting. This feeling of violation and disgust followed by furious rage