don't like nipples to be touched

I've noticed this problem since my breasts began developing at age 11. I am now 38I and like everyone else I've read with this issue I thought I was alone. Shower, intimacy, foreplay...you name it I hate it all. I always assumed it had much to do with the fact that I was the only girl who grew up as a tomboy with my 3 brothers and all of their friends. Like most people I've listened to thus far I thought about molestation and it all but I know that didn't happen and my heart goes out to everyone it has happened to. For those that it has happened have enough to cope with despite your own body betraying you. Like someone I've read here tonight I've thought about having them cut off or removed but I could NEVER do something so drastic. After reading so many different accounts I am convinced this issue is physical, emotional, and psychological and there is NO answer. Like we hear all of the time "it is, what it is." To all of my fellow "Irritated Nipple" sufferers I say hang in there. I NEVER knew there were so many of us and perhaps one day we'll have the answers to this perplexing mystery at last.

i do have this prob. but for me my husband is likes to joke around and most of the time he would just touch my breast or my nipples and i really hate it its really annoying and i dont know why, i have this feeling ever since i started to have interest in men, i do let him touch it while having sex but not so much coz it will just irritate me and loose my interest, and just this afternoon he wanted to touch it and i get really pist off, i dont know whats really wrong with me... i hope that someone would have the answer soon...

I wouldn't worry too much about it.  Just $#!t on him every chance you get so he finally falls for some other woman's charms who enjoys knowing a man is interested in her, if only for selfish reasons.

same here my boyfriend and I are having an argument about it right now. Unless Im really turned on I can't stand it. Especially in the shower. It almost pisses me off, glad I guess I'm not the only one..... I wish I knew what caused it.

i totaly agree with you FINALY someone just like me :D

omg your just like me i hate it to:D

Same here, I was never molested and I don't like my nipples touched. I remember this my whole life. SOMETIMES it's sexually arousing but only briefly, but not always. When I had my babies, I flat out refused to breastfeed and I was very comfortable with that decision. But you can't explain "Angry nipple syndrome" to a lacto-nurse or a gff who is force feeding the breastfeeding issue down your throat. I too just go rigid when mine are touched. I absolutely hate it. I'm 40 years old and finally feel "normal" after reading these threads.

Omg! Me too! Maybe they're very sensitive! I can get aroused if its for that purpose! But for other times, I get a weird list feeling when it's rubbed!!!! Why???

Omg! Me too! Maybe they're very sensitive! I can get aroused if its for that purpose! But for other times, I get a weird lost depressing feeling when it's rubbed!!!! Why???

I get angry most of the time. I can't figure it out and it frustrates me. When my husband touches or licks my nipples, I get the urge to punch him. I find myself gritting my teeth and have to push him away so I don't end up punching him. If we've already gotten to sex, it's an amazing sensation. Usually. Sometimes even then, it STILL pisses me off. My husband knows and I've noticed him "testing the waters" before he starts, because he's amazing and our relationship is about pleasing and loving each other. (Ahem...as****e who posted his angry rant about how we don't want to "fix it". Who's not compromising? Your wife? Or you?)

I've been trying to figure out recently what exactly angers me about it. I can't stand them to be touched so much that I worry about breastfeeding my kids in the future. It's a completely unexplainable anger. I haven't been molested any more than most women (some drunk guy sticking his hand up my skirt).

I'm not sure if this is the reason or not, but nipple stimulation is associated with the release of oxytocin, a hormon that is very important in bonding with infants.  The same hormone is released during orgasm and influences bondong with your sexual partner.  Maybe it has something to do with that.....

I'm a Mom, and unfortunatly I can tell you its at its worst while breast feeding for me. I think that it is something chemical, because it happens immediatly when my baby latches or when i feel my milk drop. after a few minutes it does lessen and just kinda gets numb. But it is very depressing to work through. It gives me a totally doomsday kinda of feeling. Sad, I know. I have the same issues with my husband. he one thing I do notice though, is that when I am sleeping I can be woken by his touch and it usually feels good. So maybe it can be lessened by some chemical produced during sleep???

I doesn't put a strain between you and the baby. It starts to feel that way just at first, but if the baby latches on the right way, your nipple actually goes numb. I would sit, know the depression was coming, but also knowing it would pass and I'd be fine. I know it's a chemical thing. love my babies like crazy!

i read about oxytocin too, what i dont get is if it's a "bonding" horomone, why do we feel the complete opposite? distant, angry, and depressed? it seems that this is quite a widespread problem, yet there are no difinative answers. A scientist should really look into this, (it would probably make a great theasis) because there are so many of us suffering from this unexplained oddity, and as if it isnt frustrating enough, no one knows what it really is!

This cannot possibly be psychological... I have felt the same way on many occasions. I cannot sleep without a bra on because the sheer feeling of my shirt rubbing against my breast turns the pit of my stomach and nearly instantaneously pisses me off! If my husband touches me too lightly it grosses me out. I have literally pushed his hands off of me on occasion because it didn't feel good. It felt dirty and made me nauseated. I haven't banned him from touching me, but I have corrected him and showed him how to touch me in a way that wont totally turn me off. It must be hormonal or something cause I can remember feeling like this since I have grown breast. This is the weirdest thing, now that I am pregnant it is even worse! A sports bra over a regular bra has been my thing for a long time...Keeps my breast in place.