Wow.. I'm so glad to be here in this page. I was actually about to mentally break down because I felt so abnormal to masturbate, as a female.. I do feel guilty after that.. But yet makes me wanna do it again. When I masturbate, I would insert my deodorant bottle inside, slowly, as it is slightly big. I'm a virgin. By inserting the bottle, does it break my.. what do you call that.. Hymen? How do I know if my hymen is broken? I'm 21 this year.. But has been doing it since.. 11.... Kinda shameful of myself.. :-(
Your hymen is a membrane that normally almost covers the vaginal entrance.
http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/sites/default/files/files/styles/large/public/field/image/hymen_virginal.jpg
The shape of the hymen varies from female to female. Usually, a female who has not had sexual intercourse can still menstruate and insert a tampon through an opening in the hymen (there may be one or multiple openings). When a female engages in sexual intercourse for the first time, the hymen usually stretches or tears to accommodate the penis. Although some of the hymen may remain after a woman has had intercourse after childbirth, there is little left of the hymen.
To find out what your hymen looks like, use a hand-mirror to see inside your vaginal canal. Put the mirror in between your legs so you can see your vaginal area, and slowly spread the lips (labia minora and labia majora) of your vulva. If you can see a thin layer of skin with a small hole (or holes), your hymen is probably intact. If you observe small bits of broken skin surrounding your vaginal canal, you probably have already stretched or broken your hymen.
I hope this helps. If you want more help, please ask.
Hi, thanks so much.. It really does help me a lot.. Another thing I would like to know is, if my hymen is broken (I used if, because I have not checked.), does that mean that I am no longer a virgin? I've never had sex before though..
Sorry for the late reply - I didn't get notification!
If you have not had sex, even though you may not have a hymen, you are a virgin. You remain a virgin until you have sexual intercourse. Once a penis penetrates your vagina, you are no longer a virgin, whether or not your hymen is intact.
However, some people refer to your hymen as your virginity, and some refer to breaking the hymen as losing your virginity. Indeed, some look for the presence of the hymen as evidence (or otherwise) of virginity.
I hope this helps.
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Thanks so much! It really helps me a lot.. Thank you.. :-)
Pleased to help
Hey Grace
you sound like your a professional in this
I'm a 16 year old female and when I finger myself it feels like I'm going to pee but when it gets to that point, it feels too hard to carry on and wondered is this an orgasm or is it something else. eh
What do you mean by "it feels too hard to carry on"? Please explain a bit more.
Dear members of stadyhealth, Do not have this masturbation practice when you are at teenage level.You can enjoy masturbation when you bacme grown ups.Leave this.
everytime you masturbate think of me put my penis inside you, like a piston-in and out ,up and down. and you are yelling for more
Don't be afraid of tearing your hymen. It will wear down on it's own from tampon usage, normal movement, and if you masterbate yes it will wear down. It hurts for a little bit but then it doesn't ever bother you again.
But my suggestion is that you used a COLD curling iron. Make sure it isn't plugged in or hot because, OUCH that would hurt! But yeah, put that into your vagina and just pump it in and out at a speed you feel comfortable with. It feels so good and the coldness will turn you on even more.
Please be sensitive. Some women do NOT want their hymens torn until marriage. Indeed, in some cultures it is extremely important. The hymen does not have to wear down by the activities you mention for most women. Curling tongs would be inappropriate for women who wish to retain their hymen intact. Other forms of masturbation can be employed.