how over selfpleasuring ruined my sex life causing premature ejaculation n how i treated it .

thank you for this its good and usefull .

hey Toboy ..

Your welcome bro ... Trust me, i know how difficult it is to share your sexual health with even a medical professional, especially something like premature ejaculation. You are very right about these numbing and desenticising creams n stuff... Those things are the worst, trust me, coz they  not only decenticise you, but they also do the same to the woman you are making love to, and she ends up getting a burning sensation .. its really nasty, trust me. and the worst thing is that it doesnt even cure anything at all ... 

as i said earlier, the first step to treatment is stopping masturbation all together.. it will take a while before your body comes back to its normal state, but keep on.. Next, start exercising your PC musles, this will really help.. I also talked of a herbal energy drink called ENZOY, its not normally found here, but you can buy it off the internet. i can also help you get it , if you are willing.. This herbal drink comes in sachet form. it has a mix of ashwaganda, dextrose, sucrose etc. What this herbal drink does, is it gives you a firm erection, and even for someone who is a premature ejaculator, who ejaculates 5-10 seconds after entering a woman, your penis will remain firm, and you can continue thrusting. Therefore your penis doesnt go soft, even after ejaculating. I found this hepful, since it makes your penis glands start getting used to the vaginal enviroment, and most often, you will find youself ejaculating about 30 minutes later..

The good thing with this herbal vitality drink, is that after you drink it, your penis only gets hard when aroused, and the energy lasts inside your system for upto 4 to 5 hours .. So with using enzoy, i found out that i was gradually gaining control of my ejaculation, since i was able to thrust into a woman for upto 4 minutes, without my first ejaculation...

 

I'll tell you another secret .. : " WOMEN'S SEXUAL ORGANS ARE INTERNAL, UNLIKE OURS, AND THATS WHY IT TAKES THEM LONG TO GET AROUSED. SO THE KEY IS, DONT RUSH INTO GETTING INSIDE HER, BUT *FOREPLAY* IS THE GAME BRO!!! CARESS HER BREASTS, SQUEEZE AND SUUCK BOTH HER NIPPLES IF YOU CAN, TOUCH HER DOWN THERE, KISS HER NECK, EARS , SUCK HER TONGUE, AND IF YOU'RE OKAY WITH IT, GO DOWN ON HER, LICKING HER CLITORIS WHILE STROKING HER BREASTS. " ALL THESE WILL GET HER SO AROUSED, AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT, SHE WILL START BEGGING YOU TO ENTER HER. ! AND THATS WHERE YOU GAIN CONTROL. KEEP PLAYING AROUND WITH HER BODY, AND ALSO YOU CAN FINGER HER GENTLY BUT ROMANTICALLY, WHILE RUBBING HER CLIT WITH YOUR TONGUE. TRUST ME, NOTHING AROUSES A WOMAN MORE THAN THIS. !!! SHE WILL GET SO WET, AND BEG YOU LITERALLY, TO SCREW HER. CHANCES ARE VERY HIGH, THAT SHE WILL EVEN EJACULATE WHILE YOU ARE DOING ALL THESE TO HER.!! SEE ?, YOU WILL HAVE ALREADY SCORED MORE POINTS THAT ANYONE RIGHT THURR.!  NOW THE NEXT PHASE OF TEASING HER IS "WHILE HER LEGS ARE NOW WIDE OPEN AND SHE IS TREMBLING AND EAGERLY WAITING FOR YOU TO GO INTO HER, JUST PLACE THE TIP OF YOUR PENIS AT THE MOUTH OF HER VAGINA, BUT DONT GO IN.. SHE WILL LITERALLY START TREMBLING, SINCE SHE NOW REALLY WANTS YOU..! NOW, JUST INSERT THE TIP OF YOUR PENIS INTO HER. AND TAKE IT IN AND OUT. DONT GO DEEP, COZ THE DEEPER YOU GO, THE MORE SENSITIVE IT GETS.. THEREFORE, JUST INSERT THE TIP OF YOUR PENIS IN AND OUT, AGAIN AND AGAIN, AND TRUST ME, YOU CAN DO THIS FOR EVEN UPTO 20 MINUTES NO JOKE. 1 NOW WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE EJACULATING, THEN DIVE DEEP INTO HER WHILE THRUSTING, AND RELEASE YOUR LOAD, AND SHE WONT CARE IF YOUR PENIS GOES SOFT OR NOT, COZ WHAT YOU WILL HAVE TAKEN HER THROUGH, IS MORE THAN SHE CAN HANDLE..

i'm not writing this from theory, its something i have done before, so i know wat m talking about ... Just to let you know, there are men out there who cannot even last 3 seconds in a woman, but have women dying for their love, since they focus on foreplay, and use their tongue like a sharp sword on womens clitoris, and only enter the woman when he feels like ejaculating.. and just with that, they are adored ...! its not rocket science bro, you can do it, even better than me,,! Trust me.

Let me know how it goes ..! anyway, let me know how it goes, and if anyone has any questions, you can holla at me at "letmepractise" at yaahoo dot com .  thanks guys .. lets keep this spirit on, for everyone to benefit..

Peace out .

i'm sorry fellaz .. i made a small misprint in my address, its " letmepractise1 " Thanks n hope to hear from y'all
Peace .!

THANKS BUDDY. I WAS WORRIED ABT TIS THING. NOW I CAME @ KNOW :)

that was a very long but informative post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

U are Insane masturbation is the most normal think us humans do!

I'm 20 years old and i recently recognized this as a problem for me. It is good to know that there may be hope.

Hello and thank u for this honest experience. I am an addicted masturbator myself who started from age 15 and now am 28...is been hard dropping it. As I am writing this, I ejaculated yesterday after masturbating for just 4 seconds prior to porn video I was watching on my mobile phone. I recalled the very first day I started masturbating (friend evil advice), it was so long for me to ejaculate and so, I keep thrusting my penis up/down for more than 4 hours until I started feeling I want to urinate then being that it was my first artificial sexual experience. Finally, the sperm/fluid gush out which honestly if I have had sex with a woman/girl at 15, she would have got pregrant of set of twin(s) lol. The worst part of this habit is that I ejaculate at the palm of my hand and swallowed my own semen After my first ejaculation at age 15, immidiately I went to urinate and notice my urine was so purified like spring water but after ward, the opposite. My greatest challenge in life is that , I find it difficult to memorise a sentence of an article 3 minutes after reading which in turn has truncate my academic life. I am in a state of oblivion which I believe is an effect from masturbation since I was extremely intelligent before it. As I talk to u now, I am not in school due to repeated falling grade. Lastly, I am easily around when having conversation with girls, watching movies (non sensual), looking at girls, sitting close to one in a car e.t.c, my penis is strongly erected even when I am not thinking of sex. I experienced more than 120 wet dreams sometimes followed by masturbation which always leads to ejaculation. I have never had sex with a woman in my life. Please HOW DO I GET OUT. Thanks

yo i'm 20 and need cum and i'm by my self what should i do?????????????????????

Thanks so mutch because im 12 and i started to have an addiction to masturbating myself and i got a little woried so u probably changed my future sex and social life alot and also all porn addicted people, it makes you less social and depressed and if i was one, i would buy prental controls on my divice and put a complete randome passwird like close ur eyes and slap ur hand on the computer and then no more porn. Thanks for the great article

Guys, you are all on the wrong track!! There is NO problem with masturbation, it's natural and there are no side effects if it's typically done once or twice a day.

That being said, here's WHY premature ejaculation happens: you have been using masturbation as a substitute for sex with another person. You are comfortable in your environment and you are the best at pleasing yourself - simple. But when you are put into a sexual situation, the emotions are so strong that you pop off quickly with the slightest stimulation. You DON'T need creams and supplements - you need to get used to sex with people, that's all.

There is nothing "wrong" with you and you didn't damage anything PHYSICALLY - but you may have caused damage emotionally. As soon as you have any sort of problem with your performance, men panic and worry about how others will see them. Men's believe that their entire life centers around their penis, so the slightest hint of something wrong puts you into a tails spin. Then it gets worse, because the more you worry about it, the more you panic and freak out...making it worse still, drawing you down into a rut that's tough to get out of.

This is ALL in your mind, that's all, it has nothing to do with masturbation - but it's the link that most assume to be the cause. Skip pills and creams and junk like that, your brain is controlling your machine, and it needs reprogramming. Once you accept this explanation to be your cause (I'd guess 95% of you on here), you have several options.

-speak to your doctor and chat with a sex counselor, they are trained to help in ways you'd never think of

-discuss it with a willing partner so she/he will understand and offer support and work with you in ways to assure you that it isn't nearly the problem you believe it to be for them

-limit your masturbation and porn and seek your relief from the warmth and energy from another human

-a very successful method is to masturbate prior to sexual activity either privately or as part of sex - this will minimise arousal temporarily and allow time to have sex without climaxing immediately. This also has the benefit that it will subconsciously increase your self-confidence and help recovery

-some men (straight with few hangups) have found it very helpful to have an understanding buddy to help get you used to being stimulated (hand job) by a hand other than your own to make you less sensitive to being touched. Before you freak out, this method is NOT a sexual situation, it is basically not much more than getting a shoulder massage. Although it's not for everyone, this method works very well because there is no attraction to act as a stimulation, and no worry about how your girlfriend may judge your performance

-stay away from people that tell you masturbation is a sin, or that it's dirty - it isn't.

There are many options you can use once you understand that your subconscious is causing the difficulty, not masturbation. In this day and age when you can sit at home with a computer for everything from banking, shopping, porn, there's no requirement to leave the house and people are becoming less social and unable to relate with others. This is a perfect example of that.

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Think about this, and good luck. I hope it helps at least one person.

Peace

hey buddy..., thank u for the article.

My name is Sudesh from India.
Thank u for sharing your views...its an eye-opner for me...
I do mastrubate 2-3 times a day, not daily within an interval of 2-3 days...
but buddy i can feel the effect of it..as i'm losing my concentration power. But your article was so informative that it cleared my whole doubts.
thank u once again.
take care.

thank u now_wat, my problem is, aside premature ejaculation, it takes me more than 3hrs to erect again, and my second erection has no strenght. any way i've stoped masturbation, how can i cure my problem? i will be greatful if u help me out.

thanks alot for the long detailed research methods given. I just got married and having the same problem. every time my penis grows big and im about to push it inside....... sadly it will become smaller....... its been a hard 6 months for me . shamely we had no sex relationship. its all because i used to masturbate alot when im young. The first step stated is working for me but i cant really get / understand the other two. kindly help

Well Yeah Thanks for the post, really effective. am facing with same problem but wondering if you could tell how long its taking to get back to the first situation or at least any other way or tricks not being premature ejaculator.