Have you had any change? I'm in the exact same boat. I want it so bad and can't stop the feeling.
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I am 31 this year, and my husband is 30. My husband and I have been together since He was 10 and I was 11 we met in junior school and we have recently gotten married in August 2016, we were expecting in 2015 but unfortunately we had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, I really want a baby but my husband keeps saying we can't afford it, I am really struggling to cope as I feel empty I see babies on tv and when I am out and about and upsets me and sometimes I cry it's so frustrating
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I'm in the same boat. I'm 21 and my husband is 23 and we've been married for almost 6 months but together for 5 years. We had decided we were gonna wait a few years but all of a sudden I'm so ready now. I don't have a job and it looks like the only one I'll get is at a local grocery store. We don't need the money, his job is steady and great. So I just feel like I'm at home all the time anyway so why not start our family. My heart just yearns for a baby. He still wants to wait. I'm just so ready to be a mom. And both families tell me to wait all the time too. I just feel stuck in this place and I don't want to wait years. My heart hurts so bad I can't imagine waiting that long.
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Wow I thought I was the only one Going through this. My husband is and I both have one kid with other people. We have been married for almost 2 years. Last year I had a miscarriage in April and I was devastated but I hopeful that I was going to have my baby someday it's been year now and my husband doesn't want to talk about having kids. I'm afraid it will be too late. I'm having several problems already in the female department so I feel the later it gets the harder is going to get.
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I understand how you feel. My husband said he wants to wait a couple years for us to have kids and I just wish all the baby videos and clothes would disappear until he is ready to have a baby. My husband at first was on board and got my hopes up for a baby and then he changed his mind. It's been hard to mask the hurt I feel. Especially since we have told our parents we were going to start trying. I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I can only imagine how that must feel.
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Please listen to this. I got married at 21 and have been married 9.5 years. It was always "let's be married 5 years." I don't regret waiting until my late 20's at all, we had great adventures, but now being 32 and still hearing: "2 more years, I'm just not ready." Is very hurtful. Leave him before you resent everything he does. Other men - that are just as good for you - want the same things you want. Don't wait for someone that will never share your ideals and want a family with you.
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You are exactly where I am right now. He is doing the same thing to me. I have lost confidence because of that. I am at a point where I don't feel anything. Arguing with him is pointless. He just says that I get jealous and emotional when I see other people having kids. He says I have to complete my bachelors and that we are not financially strong. I work part-time and study too. I help him as much as I can and yet it is not enough. Why are man such a**. I told him that now you don't want kids but when you will, it will not happen and then you will regret. He is 29 years old and I am 23. He keeps saying I am too young. 4 years of marriage and this is what I get. He also does not want to be sexual because he thinks I might get pregnant.
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I've been where you are. I waited for him to be ready for 7 years. His reasons were money even though he spent $100k on big boy toys. I had the baby after year 7. He was pissed. Baby is now 3 years old. My advice to you and all women: Have the baby and don't wait. Trust in God more than the two of you. Don't be like me and wait to satisfy yourself with a basic female desire: motherhood. The waiting brings on selfishness, manipulation and control in him. It brings out patience, long suffering and whole lotta pain on the woman. I wish I could turn back time and have my son sooner. Even my husband regrets his stupidity in waiting. Men grow up slower than women. Take charge women! If your man up and leaves due to pregnancy, he was never worth it. Don't bother squeezing out a tear for him- you've got to get busy nesting and preparing for that baby to come. Prepare, prepare, prepare before taking this leap if their is a possibility he may leave you and the baby. Have an education, a solid job or one you can fall back on when you need it. Have a support system in place. Be ready! Men who don't want kids because they wanna wait even though you've waited for years are not ever going to learn until you stir that pot.
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This woman is right. Listen to her! Leave the man if he's not on board. Be open to the possibility that another man will love you. Don't worry about your appearance right now- if that's your worry. Appearance can be fixed. Don't fall into the abusive, manipulative, control that is likely happening to you. I had my first baby at 33 yrs old because I waited for him. Then I got cancer and couldn't have kids anymore. Don't be a push over like I was. Take charge of your life NOW!
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Your situation is different. Wait. Get your education while he works. Make that your priority. After finishing school, have the baby.
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I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you are fine now. I have told him that I am getting my bachelors degree next year and if by that time he is not ready then I am done. He calls me emotional and says he doesny get me but i m sure he does. He just acts stupid. He tells me i have baby fever.
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I thank you for share your story, it makes me feel that I am not alone in this situation, long story short: I am 34 years old , my husband 39 years old, we have been together since 2010, married on 2011.
He didn't want children from the begining of our relationship, one of the reasons he said was because of the planet overpopulation ....I thought someday maybe he will be willing to chance, then I had the chance to asked him twice during our good years together, I did asked him about start a family together, he replied that he's wasn't ready yet and because of our financial situation it's won't be possible to start a family.....his family and him never asked me ever if I want a baby someday, just my family did asked me before, but my family lives in another country so I don't have them close.
So I started thinking that divorce is the step to follow in the future, trying to balance the idea of a childless marriage and don't even have the chance of even trying because of the negative input from my husband ( he told me that I am an impulsive person , plus I could not handle a baby, work and study at the same time ) I am myself an immigrant in the US by the way ....but in the other hand have the possibility of be a single mom in the future, it makes me feel that this possibility will fill my heart with love and happiness.
Sometimes the guy/relationship is not the right person to parent a child, or vice versa.
He didn't want children from the begining of our relationship, one of the reasons he said was because of the planet overpopulation ....I thought someday maybe he will be willing to chance, then I had the chance to asked him twice during our good years together, I did asked him about start a family together, he replied that he's wasn't ready yet and because of our financial situation it's won't be possible to start a family.....his family and him never asked me ever if I want a baby someday, just my family did asked me before, but my family lives in another country so I don't have them close.
So I started thinking that divorce is the step to follow in the future, trying to balance the idea of a childless marriage and don't even have the chance of even trying because of the negative input from my husband ( he told me that I am an impulsive person , plus I could not handle a baby, work and study at the same time ) I am myself an immigrant in the US by the way ....but in the other hand have the possibility of be a single mom in the future, it makes me feel that this possibility will fill my heart with love and happiness.
Sometimes the guy/relationship is not the right person to parent a child, or vice versa.
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