I want a baby, but my husband "isnt ready"

Guest over a year ago

I know this is a fairly older posting and all but I feel as if I fit in with most of these stories. My husband and I were high school sweethearts. We dated for five years before we got married in 2014. We have been married for going on two years and I've been really wanting a baby for a very long time. We had always discussed wanting to wait at least a year before trying to have a baby. But, now there seems to always be an excuse. Examples are we want to buy a house first, he wants a garage, we should have stable cars. We both have had decently paying jobs he's had his for five years and I've had mine for almost two. My job has maternity leave so I'm not understanding. I've longed to be a mother my whole life. That's always been my biggest dream to get married and have a family. I'm just not so sure it's going to happen. And like everyone has posted everyone tells me y'all are so young you don't need to have a baby right now. Your just 23 you don't know what your getting yourself into. Well I know that I can handle it. I know that's what I want. And I know we can support a child. It breaks my heart everyday.

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Guest over a year ago

I suggested we go see a counselor today. Thank you.

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Guest over a year ago

I'm in the same boat as u . I have been with my husband for 5 1/2 years in June we got married in October and I have always told him I want to try for a baby after we got married. But still it's a no go he never forgets the condoms. And he get totally upset if he even thinks I'm pregnant. I have wanted a baby since we got together. We have our own house we own our own car . We have a great married life but I'm afraid that I might be getting a little obsessed with getting pregnant. If something doesn't give I might not be a happy wife for long. Good luck just know ur not alone.

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Guest over a year ago

I guess I came looking for reassurance that i wasn't alone in this longing but what really REALLY hurts is to see that the vast majority of you ladies writing here who are pining to have a child, you are under 30. I am at my wits end. I will be 40 this summer and have been ready for a baby for the past 12 years. He is 44. I have lived through depression and am coming out the other side. We have been together nearly 18 years, married for 15. And it has always been "Later...", "We can't afford it...", "We need to fix our life first...". Our marriage has been falling apart for more than 10 years although we are soul mates and it is our love for each other that has kept us going all these years. But I resent him, more and more. My time is running out. I have lost all interest in sex for years, which we put down to depression and meds, but I am beginning to wonder if my depression isn't also caused by this visceral need inside me which is being denied. I feel like my animal instinct says "What's the point in sex anymore?". And he just won't understand that our marriage problems might be related to this issue. Even our male friends and therapist say I should "make things happen" and that it would probably be a great thing for him. Seeing him so fantastic at playing with other people's kids makes it even more painful. And when I found out my sister, who is 13 years younger than me, is pregnant (she is due in a few months), I sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. Is anyone else's time running?

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Guest over a year ago

Hey I totally understand I am going through the same thing right now. Thinking positive thoughts!

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Guest over a year ago

You stole the words right out of my mouth. Exactly how I am feeling. They sure do have that control and even they they don't think of it that way, I can't help but feel that way.. Gut wrenching...

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Guest over a year ago

I have been with my husband 4 years and during the 2nd year we tried and within a years time I had 3 miscarriages

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Guest over a year ago

I know how you feel I am 36, my husband is almost 40. He makes the same excuses about money or timing. Makes me feel unloved, unfulfilled, like I'm not good enough and resentful. I see everyone around me with growing families, yet I am here standing on the sidelines waiting for my day. This is an awful feeling and I hate it.

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Guest over a year ago

Omg I am in this exact position. I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 30 and i've wanted a baby for the last 2 years at least. Were 5 and a half years together and i feel like i've waited long enough now at this stage. He keeps saying oh we'll try soon enough but like when exactly is soon enough?? I kind of resent him for this too and i really don't want to because i love him with all my heart. To make matters worse his brother who's only 24 and his girlfriend is having a baby in July. I can't even be around them I always feel like i'm going to break down and cry. I know sometimes i seem a bit selfish as i understand there are people who cannot conceive at all. I don't know what to do...

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Guest over a year ago

I got married at 18 and I'm 27 years old now. I told my husband when we got married that I wanted kids nut it seems like he always finds a reason to push it back. I honestly feel incomplete without a child and he doesn't understand that. Money isn't a issue since we make pretty good. We have a 3 bedroom house so space isn't a issue either. Waiting for him to be ready to have a kid is literally breaking my heart. I have thought about giving up and getting my tubs tied and say forget a family. I have decided if we don't have a kid in the next year I'll either divorce him or get my tubes tied and feel incomplete. I really don't know what else to do.

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Guest over a year ago

I am 35 this year and really want a baby married but husband change his mind we have a child next door who is always screaming and crying all the time kept telling husband it not always like that I put it down to bad parenting but 3 years been married this year and 6 year together and child is over 3 should not happen but love my hubby but can't imagine life without children they make life for me confused what I do. Next as love my husband so much xxx

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Guest over a year ago

Any advice for me

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Guest over a year ago

Just had some replies one thing I would never do if trick my husband I love him with all my heart and never ever would lie to him or trick him I would never do that it has to be 100 per cent both ways and has been for 6 years you have to have trust to a good marriage and I always have had that x

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Guest over a year ago

Please give advice as love husband but children mean the world to me what should you do when you love your husband but I do want to have children

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Guest over a year ago

I told my husband I wanted to have children I am turning 35 now now been together nearly 6 years and married 3 but have a 3 year old screaming all the time downstairs so keep putting it off but getting older but I love my husband and really want a child but got to be 100 per cent agreement but having a child means the world to me and i have no one to talk too as all my friends have family and don't understand how I feel but you stick in their like me and fingers crossed you said you have money which is fab I don't have a lot but we both work full time and like my mum said if you save for child you never would have them bless my mum she passed away at 56 but had 4 loverly children and I know I want a family too x

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