Men...what is better to you? Large or small labia?

To the poster with the gigantic tldr a couple posts above me, since you posted in detail, I will respond in detail.

I respectfully disagree. I do agree that we shouldn't make women with small labia bad. There isn't a thing wrong with small labia, large labia, lopsided labia. Someone in this thread pointed out the we don't expect men to have symmetrical testicles, they always have one that is lower.

What is wrong is that many, many young women are feeling like they need to have a mutilating surgery in order to be accepted. No one can know how the OP actually feels, but we can do the research and discover that this is a very serious topic, not to be taken lightly, not to be blown off as attention seeking. A woman that is willing to have a part of her body removed to be accepted needs help, and I have been posting in this thread trying to give my little bit of help that I can to both the OP and to other women who are wondering if their bodies are ok. This is actually the only issue that I take with you, that you have belittled the OP. Don't you realize that women are cutting off their labia because they are ashamed?

My personal experience, for what it's worth, is that the lovers I have had did not appear to notice or care what my labia looked like. I happen to be very lopsided. The men I've been with liked to look at my vulva to get turned on, and liked to give oral sex, and never mentioned they liked or disliked my labia. If they had a preference, they didn't say. I've dated men in their 20's, 30's and 40's, and all were the same about this issue.

Personally, being somewhat bisexual, I think I have an idea of what turns me on about a vulva. My labia don't show unless I'm aroused, and then they protrude, and I think that looks extremely inviting. I do think the larger labia is much more sensitive, but so what? If both my labia were small, I'd want more attention somewhere else.

Now, of my friends that I've talked to about this issue, most have said they find large labia arousing, but don't really care. Large, small, whatever, they are all nice to play with. It's just so irrelevant! Maybe I know a lot of porn addicts or something, but I do seem to know a lot of men that like to look at pics of large labia. That's not to say that some don't prefer small. As a kind of p***y connoisseur myself, I can say that there are things about both that turn me on, just as hairless and hairy both turn me on in different ways.

Incidentally, I'm 5.2 and have always seriously loved being short. One of my boyfriends was 6'4 and simply loved to date tiny girls. Another was 5'6 and was happy that he still towered over me. Yes, tall girls have nice legs. But short is cute and feminine, and definitely my preference if I was going to choose a woman. Think, that blond chick from Game of Thrones. She's so tiny and cute. Yum!

So, just stop with the "most men prefer blah blah blah" stuff. That's not my personal experience, I think you are quite wrong, but you are entitled to your own opinion. But it has no place in this thread which should be about helping women love themselves.

And to Acat:

If that was not written by someone trying to make some money off of women's insecurities, I'd be surprised.

TLDR: Stop belittling the OP and go do some research on this issue, if you want to know if it's a serious topic or not.

Willowflower, your partner that said that to you is an id**t. Good riddance. I'm not sure about the bathing suit thing, never having had that problem, there must be a solution that doesn't involve mutilating yourself. I personally would be turned on by seeing the outline of a pretty girl's lips thru her bathing suit, but I understand not wanting to be that revealing. It's kinda like the issue of your nipples showing thru your tshirt.

As for your pic, whoa. I have a pretty good idea that a number of guys reading this thread have downloaded that pic to their porn folder, and are probably using it as masturbation material right now. I'm going to assume you are serious, even tho that pic makes me wonder if someone could actually not be proud to look like that. That pic is of a very pretty and sexy vulva.

How did you find a picture?
I figured out a way to copy that url but when I paste it in and hit search all I get is the Make Me Heal website.
It may be my new W7 that's doing this but it doesn't even want to let me copy that url. When I highlight it it wants me to use it in a reply but it will let me search for it using Bing which gets me to the same place. Seems to be nothing but a commercial before/after picture of your choice if you go looking for what they have.

I was born without inner labia. Never had them, nope none at all. I may look like I had reduction surgery, but that's the way nature made me. I have never had a man complain before, but recently found out that my husband of 30 yrs prefers larger labia. I asked and he told me. I wish I didn't ask though because now all I do is cry & feel self conscious. I don't even want him to see me down there because I feel like he is not attracted to how I look. Every guy on here said they prefer large labia. Not one said small. I feel like a freak now & wish I could fix myself.

Jeanie,

There were a number of guys in this thread that said they prefer smaller labia, and to be honest, I think there are a lot that do. Others prefer larger labia. However, just because they have that preference doesn't mean they don't find your vulva beautiful. I prefer brown eyes, but I still find blue eyes beautiful. I am very lopsided down there, and have one side much like you describe and the other large enough to poke out a bit when I'm turned on. My boyfriend recently told me I have such an amazing looking vulva, go figure. Your vulva is beautiful, and your husband is inconsiderate. Do you go around telling him his penis is not just like your preference? I very much prefer uncut guys, but if my man was cut, I would love his penis because I love him, and I definitely would not say anything to hurt his feelings.

Oh my Ladies you are ALL STUNNING down there , I'm 56 trust me , in fact I personally very attracted to large labia lips , did you ever hear of a guy having penis size reduction? Leave your gorgeous lips alone they are perfect !!!

 

I have large labias & my boyfriend doesn't mind them at all I was so scared to first tell him because my ex made fun of me for it before but he said he still loves me & finds it sexy ... I don't know how I hate them :(!

I am self conscious about my labia, they are darker red and soooo not what I would consider attractive if I were a man. However, I have never had a man complain, let alone comment Or acknowledge it. I think that as women we are always comparing ourselves to others, but how many labia has the average woman seen in person up close! 

Dont change them!  I can tell you from experience that large labia are preferred and way more enjoyable.  I love looking at them hug my penis and feeling those gorgeous lips around my shaft. As far as oral sex goes they are great.  Nice to have a mouthful of wet p***y to munch on. Kind of like the meat with the potatoes....Youre lucky to have large labia they make sexx all the more sensual. 

My g/f has big labia, at first it seemed strange but only after having a very long term relationship with someone with tiny labia. tbh I love her and her bits what ever she looks like down there.

I know she found my circumcised penis odd at at first...having been used to the other variety...

After all mens penises are all sorts of shapes and sizes and our nuts are pretty silly looking :-) 

I wouldn't change my bits and would never want anyone to do the same for vanity or being made to feel inadequate by the media and bloodsucking cosmetic companies.. 

Bigger definitely sexy! Small seems unnatural.

Large all the way for me

Love them large!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I prefer larger labias! Love to chew and suck on a big p***y,! How can you not enjoy a burger with the lot!

I have been struggling with this since I was a little girl. I was so embarrassed by my body that I didnt become sexually active till I met my now husband and I wouldn't have became sexually active with him but he over heard my father telling his mom ab me have a groth is what he called it down there and my husband asked to see it and I balled mt eyes out bc I was scared of what he would think after hours of nagging me to see it I showed him and after that I knew he was the one bc he had no rude remarks and was very interested and liked the way I looked. im now 24 and im still insecure ab the way it looks I get very embarrassed when I have to visit the obgyn or any visit where I have to show my self down there. it nice to see that most guys dont actually like it and enjoy it more :) thanks for giving us girls that think were different a nicer view on what men really think