Men...what is better to you? Large or small labia?

I love long,large labia. They look like moist flower petals, and I am a man. Flower power indeed.

Smaller. Don't like beef curtains. But then, how many women prefer cut men? The difference is that we don't mutilate female sex organs when they are infants because one way is more aesthetically appealing.

I very much prefer uncut men, It's ok to like smaller labia, but "beef curtains" is a derogatory way to refer to labia, and just makes women feel worse about something they are already insecure about. I don't have large labia, but my bf has confessed that he gets very turned on by large labia, and he has no reason to lie about it. I really can't understand a healthy, heterosexual man who is not turned on by his partner's labia. It never occurred to me that such a thing was possible. 'There is no way that a man that doesn't love and get turned on by looking at pussies could be a good lover, in my opinion. Just like a woman that hates giving bjs is not going to be good at it.

Yes!!! I love either. Love to bury my face in a sweet smelling woman...all wet and juicy! Do not change yourself, however you are!!!

Okay I'm pretty sure no one will be expecting this but I am a teenage girl and I never really cared about my labia to be honest, but now I do... My self esteem really has taken a hit now. But here is the unexpected bit - I don't have large labia, but small. I literally have a p*ssy like a porn star, just by nature, and now I HATE IT because I see most find this unattractive... Oh well, at least I have big boobs I guess. It's just when people say girls with smaller labia look like ten year olds and oral will be rubbish- my confidence is just disappearing down a black hole! Oh well :(

To the guest above me: I agree. I also have small labia minora and after reading these responses, I'm a little self conscious.I understand that people want to make the OP feel better but bringing down other women and comparing small labia to "12 year old crotches" is horribly ignorant and immature -- especially considering that a woman made that comment. Also, suggesting that women with large labia are more promiscuous signifies that you're not mature enough to look at labias.

@Amused

Thank you for being a voice of reason here!  I too have seen this all too often.  People don't want someone trash talking the way they look yet they are the first to do that to someone else.  From my observations, people who do this still hold deep insecurities about themselves but instead of dealing with these insecurities and acknowledging them, they prefer to project them onto others as a way of blaming the other person rather then dealing with this issues themselves.  It's really quite sad to say the least.

All of the people here(the women AND the men) who either put down large or small labia are still children themselves because mature adults know better than to insult others not only for looking different(we are not all the same) but to try to boost someone's confidence at the expense of another.  Only children do that.

 Anyone who does a search on small labia will find that not a whole lot comes up in the search compared to large labia so I honestly don't understand why women with large labia feel the need to post such questions.  My guess is that they want compliments and nothing else.  Truly confident women and men don't need reassurance from others because they are content with who they are and how they look.

 

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screw that guy he's obviously just mad he lost you! any guy/girl who talks sh*t about an ex to their friends (especially about intimate things) isn't very nice. im also a girl with larger lips im 18 and am too scared to be intimate with a guy for those exact reasons that they might tell people.. but im glad to see real men on this site who are smart enough to know that a lot of women have longer lips and that most pornstars don't actually resemble the normal women.. personally I don't expect a guy to have a 12 in. monster penis like most male pornstars & I wouldn't insult a guy if he didn't have a monster penis, I wouldn't give a c**p, so I don't get why men would think all women have short lips like female pornstars.

don't feel bad!! im a girl with naturally longer lips and ive always wanted short ones. the thing is, girls who are gorgeous and famous for having great sex (pornstars/models/celebritys) all have a vagina like yours. so girls like me feel weird if we don't look like that! we have nothing against women with shorter lips a lot of us envy you!! and you should feel lucky that you'll never be called "beef curtains" or loose or something like that.

This has got to be one of the most condescending and irritating replies on this entire thread. Of course the OP is not confident in her appearance, that's why she's posting. Most people have some level of insecurity about their bodies, and yes, need reassurance. That's the whole purpose of this thread. If you don't think this is a valid concern, maybe you should watch the documentary "A Perfect vagina".

We shouldn't be suggesting that large labia are preferable to small ones either. I think we see some of that in reaction to the the horrible idea that labia MUST be small to be attractive. The point we should be getting across is that an unmutilated vagina is preferable, and that men don't really care if your lips are large or small, they are just happy to be there!

To the poster above me.

Did you even read any of the other posts in this thread?  If you did you would not just target me and not the many other men and women who feel the need to put down other people for naturally having small(or no) labia in order to make others feel better about themselves.  Are you saying that you agree with that?  That it's okay to do that to others?  You may say 'no' but your post tells me differently.  Look at some of the posts where men say that while they have been with all types of women, they prefer smaller labia.  Those men get trashed on left, right and center but it's absolutely acceptable for a man to come on here and say that small labia is gross and that adult women look like small girls all because of what their genetics gave them and that they would actually dump a woman who doesn't have large labia.  That is acceptable?!  That type of behaviour is not "irritating" to you?

Not being confident with something about your body is normal.  We all go through it.  The only problem is that a lot of people take that feeling to the extreme by making themselves feel good at the expense of others because they don't want to deal with they way they feel about them-self.  It's easier to poke fun at others than it is to face what you don't like about yourself and learn to accept it.  For example, I'm short.  I would love to be a few inches taller but that's not going to happen so I'm learning to accept my height.  It's not easy but it is getting better.  While I don't like being short, I'm not going to insult and make fun of tall people because I don't like my height.  If I started talking c**p about others for reassurance than I would be no better than those who feel the need to yell out derogatory comments like "beefcurtains" or "prepubescent girl" all because I don't want to acknowledge the fact that I don't like something about my body and don't want to learn to overcome that on my own.

Again, do a search on small labia and compare the amount of results you get when you do a search on large labia and you will see what I'm talking about.  You find topics on large labia everywhere compared to the few on small labia so personally, I think some threads like this is just started by women who crave compliments, especially at the expense of others because if they can take the time to ask a question like this then they can take that same amount of time to just do a simple search(even if it's only within this site) to get the answers they are looking for.

"and that men don't really care if your lips are large or small, they are just happy to be there!"

This is true for some men but not for many.  Again, read through this thread and others like it to see what I mean.  Dumping someone because their crotch doesn't look a specific way or thinking about other women that look differently down there than the person you claim to love just to blow your load is the lowest of the low in my book.  I would like to think that you to, would agree with that.

There's my 2¢ on the topic.

Over and out.:-)

I had large labia and was always embarrassed. I found a doctor who did the procedure with local. Now my labia fit in my vaginia and look pretty. I'm never embarrassed anymore. Do it for yourself. It's worth it. Recovery is about a month but I had no problems.

I think Larger is better, because it helps intensifies the woman's pleasure and once a man know how to use them for the woman's pleasure... It is going to create sex in a heighten level of pleasure.....

How old are you by the way ;P

Im 21 years old and Im really unsure on what to do, they are annoying when wearing jeans or a bikini, its embarrassing to have a little lump when the water wets the bikini and everything is shown. I havent had one partner that said he has loved them one even said it sort of looks like a little willy :( NOT something a girl ever wants to hear. I use to love getting eaten out before I heard this and not I am too ashamed and pull a guys head back up. I want to know if mine are quite large in most guys opinion they are. This is my biggest insecurity when getting to know a man and it makes me sad. I feel like the only guys that do like large labia are on this site and not nearly as many out there the majority of guys prefer small labia. I have taken pictures and want guys who havent seen large labia to tell me if they would reject a girl that looks like this down there ... 

http://www.makemeheal.com/pictures/vaginoplasty-labiaplasty/my-current-vagina-pre-op-p162216