My experience:
We lost our first child at 7 weeks and we weren't ready to try again for a while so I decided to get the Mirena implanted in July.
On top of the general cramping and bleeding following the D&C, I found that the Mirena sorted out my period quite well i.e. For the first time in 15 years I finally had a period at bang on 28 days! (I'm normally all over the place so I never know when to expect it). I can actually mark a calendar now and it's usually within 2 days of that date.
My partner and I didn't have sex for about 6 weeks after it was inserted (which was done during my D&C) so my body was given plenty of time to heal and settle, but despite this, during that time I still had a lot of pain and cramping well after the bleeding stopped. My Dr checked and said it was in place, then gave me antibiotics which totally fixed the pain, but only for about a month or two.
Now in November it seems every time my partner and I have sex - which isn't rough sex as some have suggested is the cause - usually within 6-12 hrs I get a lot of cramping to the point I take a very strong painkiller to combat it.
We had sex this morning and just now (5hrs later) I was standing at the kitchen sink and it felt like something moved in my uterus. I wasn't moving when it happened! I was holding a glass of water looking out the window! It was like a quick stinging pain and that was it.
Despite having a month or so of no sex in October, during that time I still got cramping and pain, so the whole explanation that sex causes the pain isn't necessarily true.
In terms of the other symptoms I don't have constant bleeding - I don't bleed during the random cramping either - and my moods are normal, I can feel the threads and only once has my partner commented he could feel them during sex though he didn't say they were hurting him, he was just a little surprised. I am also finding my sex drive is still in tact i.e. despite my concerns of knowing it will be painful afterward I'm the one initiating... but I do worry about the long term effects of having to take painkillers nearly every day because of this.
I don't know whether to give it a bit longer to settle (I'm disgustingly slow to heal when it comes to scars etc) or just have it removed.
We lost our first child at 7 weeks and we weren't ready to try again for a while so I decided to get the Mirena implanted in July.
On top of the general cramping and bleeding following the D&C, I found that the Mirena sorted out my period quite well i.e. For the first time in 15 years I finally had a period at bang on 28 days! (I'm normally all over the place so I never know when to expect it). I can actually mark a calendar now and it's usually within 2 days of that date.
My partner and I didn't have sex for about 6 weeks after it was inserted (which was done during my D&C) so my body was given plenty of time to heal and settle, but despite this, during that time I still had a lot of pain and cramping well after the bleeding stopped. My Dr checked and said it was in place, then gave me antibiotics which totally fixed the pain, but only for about a month or two.
Now in November it seems every time my partner and I have sex - which isn't rough sex as some have suggested is the cause - usually within 6-12 hrs I get a lot of cramping to the point I take a very strong painkiller to combat it.
We had sex this morning and just now (5hrs later) I was standing at the kitchen sink and it felt like something moved in my uterus. I wasn't moving when it happened! I was holding a glass of water looking out the window! It was like a quick stinging pain and that was it.
Despite having a month or so of no sex in October, during that time I still got cramping and pain, so the whole explanation that sex causes the pain isn't necessarily true.
In terms of the other symptoms I don't have constant bleeding - I don't bleed during the random cramping either - and my moods are normal, I can feel the threads and only once has my partner commented he could feel them during sex though he didn't say they were hurting him, he was just a little surprised. I am also finding my sex drive is still in tact i.e. despite my concerns of knowing it will be painful afterward I'm the one initiating... but I do worry about the long term effects of having to take painkillers nearly every day because of this.
I don't know whether to give it a bit longer to settle (I'm disgustingly slow to heal when it comes to scars etc) or just have it removed.
It is VERY VERY VERY common for women to get infections in the uterus with the IUD. (Logical right? You are breaking the natural mucus barrier that your cervix makes, allowing all kinds of bacteria right into your womb which is supposed to be one of the most sterile parts of your body.)
The infection in the uterus can cause sensitivity, pain after sex, excess bleeding, etc. So, that is another possible reason for your pain.
I had the Mirena for 6 months, and was in pain the entire time. After having the Mirena removed, it took another 6 months to fully recover.
The infection in the uterus can cause sensitivity, pain after sex, excess bleeding, etc. So, that is another possible reason for your pain.
I had the Mirena for 6 months, and was in pain the entire time. After having the Mirena removed, it took another 6 months to fully recover.
Had mirena inserted about 20 days ago, got it to control heavy periods not as contraception, not had any type of sex at all so my problems arent caused by sex rough or otherwise which is why I tohught I'd write here after reading all your post.
The last 5 days I've had a period which is defintely lighter than usual but for past two days i can feel poking stabbing pain inside vagina this has got steadily worse. I hadn't tried to feel strings before but the pain spurred me on and they seem to be hanging down feel knotted at end and feel very rough even to fingers, I can imagine that the guys feeling them are indeed getting alot of pain am sure its the strings that are causing my pain but am not sure what to do at the moment. I'm bit scared to move and am constantly readjusting sitting position to try and get some comfort, here on pc chair sitting quiet upright is most comfortable I've been all day. Also last week did get stomach cramps before start of period and realise looking back on the week was very emotional even more so than I have been since the heavy period problem started about 9 months ago I'm usual quite anxious so this is not helping at all. I wish I'd known more about side affects before getting it inserted anyone reading these please consider alternatives.
Thing that puzzles me the most is it has been fine up til now its like my body is perhaps trying to push it out along with the period, I read it can be expelled am slightly worried incase its not strings and has partially come out but I can only feel strings so far, I think I have to wait til period ends and see if pain goes away with that then I'll perhaps persevere for a few months and see if it improves , if not my alternatives are like a surgery to womb ablation or soemthing which seemed much worse alternative but now perhaps wouldve been better going straight to that instead of this after reading all the accounts in the internet.
The last 5 days I've had a period which is defintely lighter than usual but for past two days i can feel poking stabbing pain inside vagina this has got steadily worse. I hadn't tried to feel strings before but the pain spurred me on and they seem to be hanging down feel knotted at end and feel very rough even to fingers, I can imagine that the guys feeling them are indeed getting alot of pain am sure its the strings that are causing my pain but am not sure what to do at the moment. I'm bit scared to move and am constantly readjusting sitting position to try and get some comfort, here on pc chair sitting quiet upright is most comfortable I've been all day. Also last week did get stomach cramps before start of period and realise looking back on the week was very emotional even more so than I have been since the heavy period problem started about 9 months ago I'm usual quite anxious so this is not helping at all. I wish I'd known more about side affects before getting it inserted anyone reading these please consider alternatives.
Thing that puzzles me the most is it has been fine up til now its like my body is perhaps trying to push it out along with the period, I read it can be expelled am slightly worried incase its not strings and has partially come out but I can only feel strings so far, I think I have to wait til period ends and see if pain goes away with that then I'll perhaps persevere for a few months and see if it improves , if not my alternatives are like a surgery to womb ablation or soemthing which seemed much worse alternative but now perhaps wouldve been better going straight to that instead of this after reading all the accounts in the internet.
Found this site way too late! I had the Paragaurd for 7 years (MIRENA users, please know that the copper IUD is approved for 10 years). After insertion my husband (then BF) swore he could feel it- this seems to have gone away since the strings softened over time. I felt pain having sex almost immediately. It has since gotten worse, mid cycle cramping worse, spotting worse. I would have sworn I had PID or endometriosis, or who knows what else. Constantly in some sort of pain, and only worsening over time!!! After several trips to the doctor and them telling me it had nothing to do with the IUD- and for that matter nothing was wrong with me- (must be all in my head or something), I finally had it removed yesterday. As always, the doctor was resistant, because they are soooooo sure that an IUD couldn't cause this type of pain. Hallelujah!! IT"S NOT WORTH THE PAIN AND I AM SORRY I DID NOT GET IT OUT SOONER! The relief I felt was almost immediate... LOL I can't wait to have sex & not be in pain!!!!
I recently had my yearly exam with my doctor and was interested in possibly trying an IUD. My best friend has had one for a few years now and loves it. While talking it over with my partner, he and I both were wondering what sex would be like for him with the stings. My doctor said he wouldn't feel them, but he is bigger than average and we wanted to do some research. We don't have children but do want some in the future and I wanted to make sure that an IUD was safe. After reading just a few of the posting we both were turned off by the idea. Thank-you to everyone for saving us the trouble and pain. I will not get an IUD or ever recommend one.
I got my IUD after the birth of my first child about a year ago. I never had a problem with it until recently. It is poking my boyfriend during sex and i can sometimes feel it too. Not too unbearable (i have a high pain tolerance) so I still like the sex :O). One thing that i have noticed though is that my cycle is lighter, but it lasts longer. Last month I had 2 cycles in one month. I have a dr's appt in two days to see what's up. I don't want to get it removed as of yet. Has anyone else had the problem of a longer cycle?
I had a Mirena IUD following the birth of my second child at 27. For the most part I loved it. I had a period for about the first year, then nothing for four years. The last year before I had it replaced I started to get light periods again. I had no hormonal or mood changes. The thing I HATED was with my ex-boyfriend, almost everytime we had sex, after a few minutes, it was excruitingly painful. Sometimes I could bare through only to be left on the bed, doubled over crying in pain. I almost always bled for two to four hours afterwards. I went to my Gyno and he did an exam said everything was fine and did an ultrasound and it was right were it should have been. My ex used to tell me that not only could he feel the wires, but due to his size (which was signifigant) he could actually feel the plastic. It got to the point I couldnt get wet anymore no matter how turned on I was. I think it was my bodies way of saying no. After five years I had it removed and replaced because I was very limited to what worked for me (birth control pills do not). My ex and I broke up and I am now with a wonderful man who is not as well endowed. There was slight pain but only in certain positions and if we were very rough. After having the new one for year and just had it removed because my new fiance and I are going to start trying to have a child. I am worried that all the prior pain and bleeding means I may have scarring which could prevent me from getting pregnant. Does anyone have any knowledge of this happening?
I came to this site to determine whether or not the little incisions and abrasion that my BF gets after we have sex are due to the IUD (paragard) and it looks like many other couples have this problem. Yes, cream helps to heal the wound afterwards but the best way to make it heal is to not have sex for a couple days. And if you are doing that then what's the point of an IUD as "contraception" anyway? So, to all the couples out there where the guy experiences the poking, what did you do to solve the problem??? Is getting it removed the only option? I don't know what this is about the wires "softening" but my obgyn let me feel a sample Paragard before it was put in, and I have checked it with my fingers, and I can tell all you non-believers out here that the "strings" are actually clear, plastic wire which is fairly stiff, like a thin fishing line, and I don't see how something that is plastic can soften. Advice on how to solve the poking problem, please???
:? I am very interested to find out the out come of your dr's appointment. I just got a mirena at the end of december, had sex New Year's weekend, and have been bleeding since January 10. I also have an appointment coming up in a couple of weeks. Although my sex wasn't painful during the "act" I did have discomfort for a couple of days afterwards. I was assuming it was because of his size also... Now I'm not so sure......
I would like to find out if everything went back to normal after having mirena taken out. I too am suffering from painful sex (really painful) and bad cramps - which I had never suffered from before. I was thinking that sex was painful because I tore with my son, but that was 9 months ago and I had the iud inserted 7 weeks after the birth of my son. I am really frustrated and I am thinking of having it removed and going with another type of contraception. Any insight would be appreciated.
for all the guys who are having a problem feeling the strings during sex... it is probably because the doctor cut the strings to short!! before i got my put in i asked a lot of questions and that was one of them (if my man would beable to feel it during sex) and he said as long as the strings are cut long enough then they will curl up around the hole and the guy should not be able to feel the strings.
I hope it helps!
I hope it helps!
OK Fellas, I'm going to lay it on the table. Too long or too short, you WILL feel the strings, and it WILL suck unless you have an unusually short penis. Hate to say it, but I'm going to have to ask the GF about getting it removed, or no more nookie for her.
I had my IUD put in January of last year and It's been fine until recently. The other day I was having sex with my BF and it was the first time since I got it put in that he said he felt it.
I got mine put in January and it's been fine up til now. My man didn't feel it until yesterday.
Slightly off topic but still relevant, my wife has the Paragard IUD because she wanted something non-hormonal (we'd never had sex without hormonal contraception for almost 10 years). We were both bothered by how uncomfortable she was after the insertion, almost two weeks of bad cramps and spotting. When she gets her period now it is significantly longer and heavier than it ever was with the pill or before she went on birth control. This could be a function of the non-hormonal IUD and/or her body's way of dealing with it being inside of her. We've not had children yet.
Sex hasn't been the same since she had it put in. On the one hand we are more relaxed because I'm not worried about her forgetting her pill but she is nervous that it is going to hurt. She is smaller "down there" and has noticed that her cervix is a lot more sensitive to bumps and pressure than it used to be. Also, she is more sensitive to any abdominal pressure. We used to enjoy some cervical contact, nothing heavy but some pressure and gentle rubbing would get her excited. Now that is totally off limits because she is afraid it will hurt. She also complains or tenses up when I penetrating her because I can bump her cervix, I'm not too large but large enough apparently. Her strings are untrimmed but I have been poked by them a couple of times although usually this isn't an issue. That is a feeling that sticks with me and is very uncomfortable.
Overall I would say we are happy with the effectiveness of the IUD but really unhappy with the side-effects. She constantly seems anxious and warns me to be gentle when I am just doing what we always used to do. Her periods have gotten to be more moderate, but still heavier and a lot longer than on the pill. She used to bleed for 4 to 5 days, max. Now it will go at least 7-8 days. I think once we have children in the next couple of years, I'll probably get clipped. I'm not sure if she'd be comfortable with getting her tubes tied.
We talked about her having it removed within two months of getting it put in. Since then (7 months ago) the side effects have improved but not to the point where they are not an recurring problem. I think that by the end of the year, she will probably have it taken out. I wish there were more options for men to take a more active role in preventing pregnancy besides condoms and pulling out.
Sex hasn't been the same since she had it put in. On the one hand we are more relaxed because I'm not worried about her forgetting her pill but she is nervous that it is going to hurt. She is smaller "down there" and has noticed that her cervix is a lot more sensitive to bumps and pressure than it used to be. Also, she is more sensitive to any abdominal pressure. We used to enjoy some cervical contact, nothing heavy but some pressure and gentle rubbing would get her excited. Now that is totally off limits because she is afraid it will hurt. She also complains or tenses up when I penetrating her because I can bump her cervix, I'm not too large but large enough apparently. Her strings are untrimmed but I have been poked by them a couple of times although usually this isn't an issue. That is a feeling that sticks with me and is very uncomfortable.
Overall I would say we are happy with the effectiveness of the IUD but really unhappy with the side-effects. She constantly seems anxious and warns me to be gentle when I am just doing what we always used to do. Her periods have gotten to be more moderate, but still heavier and a lot longer than on the pill. She used to bleed for 4 to 5 days, max. Now it will go at least 7-8 days. I think once we have children in the next couple of years, I'll probably get clipped. I'm not sure if she'd be comfortable with getting her tubes tied.
We talked about her having it removed within two months of getting it put in. Since then (7 months ago) the side effects have improved but not to the point where they are not an recurring problem. I think that by the end of the year, she will probably have it taken out. I wish there were more options for men to take a more active role in preventing pregnancy besides condoms and pulling out.