Spoons is good. The muscles relax when on your side without needing to support the body. For even deeper penetration the girl just needs to draw her knees up to her chest.
he was very.cooperative...and that reallyyyy helps
The first time anal really begins with being opened enough to take in your partner all the way. the ''receiver'' has to be the one to get it in past the tight spot. Once passed that ,the pain becomes convertible to pleasure and challenge very quickly and then you WANT to go wider and deeper and add twists to your love playing. But until you reach for and achieve this first hurdle I fear that many people are going reject their partner's well placed intentions towards a more forefilling sex life for both partners. And never forget that turn about is fair play and If your man is just greedy and ignorantly macho to share the booty ,THIS will yet be another opportunity for communication lost. P-spot is every bit as enjoyable as the G-spot
The feeling of having to poop is only a fear reflex and again convertible into a positive as you, having ventured into taboo busting territory will now learn more about pleasure and yourself for that matter. #1 just learn to relax
Cleaning your new found toy is a must same as the first one you played with. The ass needs to taken care of so you don't give yourself or your partner a possible infection. You can find information on the web HOW TO do this and IT will be something you will want to know if you plan on having a promiscuous lifestyle beyond your immediate partner.
i love anal, my best postions is dogy satyle
1st: My educational background is in human sexuality and human sexual deviant behaviors... so my information is accurate and up to date.
2nd: I have the experience. The women I have dated through the years have all come to love anal, most craved it for the intense orgasms they enjoyed from it. If I were to guess, I would say I have introduced 15-18 women to anal sex for the very first time.
Here are some of the most valid points that come to mind:
1: lube? Yes, at least initially. Silicone is best as it doesn't wash away with her normal fluids. It's critical to note too much is as bad as too little. Be careful not to allow lubricant to run down into contact with her vagina or infection will result. Keep a towel or wipes on hand for spot clean ups before excess lube runs away from you.
2: warm up! You don't hop out of bed and run a marathon, you warm up. Same for anal sex. Use your finger to apply lube to her anus and work it around the entire diameter. When she's relaxed enough, slip 1 finger in and add lube as needed to lubricate the inside walls of her passage. This is where most people are experiencing their pain, no lube on the inner walls, just on the outside opening. Once 1 finger works in and out comfortably, add a second and more lube as needed. Again, wipe away any excess lubricant. After that replace your fingers with your penis, go slowly and allow her to set the pace if she wants to.
3: communicate! Talk to one another during the entire process. She may not want to talk, in that case ask yes/no questions and she will respond as needed. Check in with one another, are you okay? how's that? how does that feel? ready for more? talk through it, this helps to make you both more comfortable and feel closer for the shared experience.
4: orgasm? Absolutely! Doggie style, head down allows THE most direct access to her g-spot. Slow steady strokes will drive her to amazing climax. Watch your partner's reactions... if you are in tune you will know when you're hitting her right spot :)
5: it's not a race, take your time! You'd be amazed how many of my past partners have actually begged me to speed up the process because they were ready before I was done playing and warming them up ;)
BEST OF LUCK!!! Hope I helped :)~
the best position for my experience with my wife was she in the top riding me, she control penetration and pace , please gentlemen stay quiet, don't move, the ladies do the job in the measurement they can , don't force it. If you want that anal sex will be in the menu every night you have to do this. Use a lot lubricant and play with her a lot before she try to do penetration, use delicate fingers and maybe a good toy for first timers. After she go through all penis she will have some pain but this will be reduced with the time, only if you guys keep a elevated excitation on her, love is important. I advice after the two first times in this position try doggie stile then you could ride at speed you want . Good luck and please be gentle.
My husband has always wanted to have anal sex and, many moons ago, I did try it and we went about it the completely wrong way. Back to the present, we bought some amazing water based lube and do not skimp on it, we started out in a spooning position with him just resting the tip at the entrance and I would rock, really, really slowly until, much to my surprise, he was fully in. This worked because it was completely in my control, how deep and how fast we went. Even more to my surprise was that I really enjoyed it. We always start off in the spooning position but after that lube has gone right in off his penis, we can mix it up a bit then and do any position. Important thing to remember, relax, relax, relax, it will always hurt if you are tense.
I wish everone to have a girlfriend like you =)
this will likely be a personal preference answer for most people but what works for us is missionary with the legs behind the shoulders allowing for deep penetration. Take it easy, clean yourself out good and use lots of lube. Have been doing it for years and the anal orgasm is far more intense that the clit orgasm.
im going to have to dis-agree because cowgirl would be better so you could communicate better and re-assure or "grimace" and he'll know when to stop
For me anal sex was a little uncomfortable at first, didn't hurt though. But than once i started to relax my boyfriend was able to start going faster and it felt amazing! It's been like that every time, just gotta get through the first part.