My husband plays all of the time he acts so into it and engenict when he is playing a game but when he is looking for a job or anything I ask him to do it is a struggle when he is not playing on computer he is on his phone when he is not playing you can tell he is thinking or waiting to play he says it is just me thinking that he has no social skills anymore when I say something we fight my love and respect for him don't know what to do
Take all those electronic devices and smash the s**the out of them, drown them in the bath tub, use a bat!! Beat them until you feel better and then take back your home and family. DO NOT sit by passively and allow your family and your home to be destroyed while you are victimized. Atleast go out swinging (on the machines). Community property, hell hath no fury, and f**k that!! Worked for me!! I have mine back!!
Im going through this now. My wife has been playing wow for 9 yrs. We have 8 yr old son.we live in or. She wants to be with 28 yr old from maine. She is 42, and said we are over. She said he is willing to move to or to be with her. Im having a hard time excepting this. Its,just a fantasy world to me. She doesnt have real friends and says her friends are in her game. She missed my friends funeral for this game. Im supper depressed, as she says its all my fault for not having retirement savings. Im crushed and having a hard time dealing with this!!!
Smash that game! Break it into pieces. Man up and take YOUR family back! It is your God given right. FIGHT for what is yours.
Smashing the electronics isn't going to solve the problem. They will just go out and buy new electronics and waste even more money doing so; resent you for being "crazy"; and continue to justify their make believe, second life they live.
Im on the same boat. BF doesnt work, or learn for exams at the university. Just plays warcraft 99% of the time. Funny thing is: I was in labor - in paaaain - and just willing to go to the hospital and had to wait for him to play or what so ever. 10 months later here we are me and the baby in the kitchen while he sleeps - its 6pm!
Hi, I am a married woman to a addict, first it was alcohol and now it is a phone game called clash of clans. It is very lonely and disappointing world. I have discussed this issue with my husband many many times, have had hundreds of fights cause of it. Need less to say he always lies to me tells me he is gonna cut back and then he plays more, it's the first thing he looks at when he wakes up and last thing he looks at at night. It's a all day game and comes in between family and quality time. He works 13+ a day and we get no time together and when we do it revolves around clash of clans wars. To me it's rude that he can not even sit down with me once a week and have a dinner with me without being constantly on it or checking it. I am currently not talking to him for a week now cause I am just tired of it, I am a light sleeper and care for our 2 year old all day by myself with no help or family here, so I am tired at nights and he stays up late at night in our bedroom up late to play, I have to leave our bedroom and sleep in spare room cause of it
I had a very similar problem. Had worked for years, had a baby, no longer working, husband thought it was his perogative to spend hours and hours on WOW. He had an online affair, phone calls, pics etc. Tried to sort it out through counselling. Ended with him being violent towards me. Divorced. He continued to be a pain in the backside. Only thing that put a stop to his behaviour was to move 128 miles away. Break all contact with all friends. Followed by a section 7 order putting a stop to child contact. Started all over again with his new wife and as a result has been put on remand. Thank God I am out of it!
Hello, I am also immigrant and feel lonely and my husband playing games all the time. He has also addiction to pills. We have a son two years old. I feel miserable. And I am trying to overcome it with Nichiren Daishonin Buddhism. I am reading a mantra when he is playing. I belive in a while my situation will change for better
There is reformers unanimous that help with addictions
Hi., I have experienced the same thing with the video game for years now and its not getting any better. Been married for 10 years and he has been gaming fo at least 8. I left him once 3 years ago for about 6 months and decided to try it again still nothing. I personally feel that if gaming is that important to certain individuals then they should may be single because the other person in the relationship definitely gets neglected. I decided to leave again. I have only continued to try and work through it because of my children. However I am at my breakinh point and feeling very lonely.
I definitely know how you feel. The video gamers really make their partners feel abandoned. Its not fair at all and no one desires this treatment. I have delt with it 8 years.
My husband was laid of work for about 8 wk ,he would play from 6 am till 1 am the next day .now that he's back to work he plays from the time he gets home till he goes to bed .We have talked and he won't play for as long ....but the weekend comes and it the gaming starts all over .I too think if his gaming is more important then his wife ....I plan on leaving also at least one of us will be happier.
I have the same problem with a certain game that he is on at all times of the night. He never comes to bed at night and he will stay up all night playing. He has even talked to females on this game about meeting up with one and I don't know how many more if any he has talked to. I told him we have to get marriage counseling or he has to leave. We have been having other problems with him talking to women and he doesn't seem to get the reason that we need to see counseling. I at my wit's end. What should I do?
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what worked for me was smashing the tv, ipad, and phone!! Beat them and drowned them in the bathtub!! Community property baby and I was fighting for MY family!! it was about time he saw first hand how upset and DONE I was. Once the evil electronic distraction was out of the way I looked up marriage counseling and found Mort Fertel. I applied his principals and it took a year to rebuild but I can honestly say I have my husband back and I do not regret fighting for my family marriage and home. Good luck.
what worked for me was smashing the tv, ipad, and phone!! Beat them and drowned them in the bathtub!! Community property baby and I was fighting for MY family!! it was about time he saw first hand how upset and DONE I was. Once the evil electronic distraction was out of the way I looked up marriage counseling and found Mort Fertel. I applied his principals and it took a year to rebuild but I can honestly say I have my husband back and I do not regret fighting for my family marriage and home. Good luck.