Divorce because of husband's computer games addiction

Hi I left my husband for the same reason after 30 years of marriage.. It was computer every day no attention no going out with me. He was in his own world on till I say this is to much so I left. End I found out that is not just computers is porn end weed. I love him but not like that.. I do pray to God to help him get better. What can I do I try to remember the happy things an I only remember 5 or 6 first years an the rest is depressed how I was living my life.

I've been married 15 years and the gaming has gotten worse. He now goes on Second Life and has sex with other avatars aside his other gaming sites. I have 2 young kids, pregnant and work. He waits until we all go to sleep to get on that computer. We should have a happier life with all our blessings, but he chooses this. It's disturbing and evil.

Second Life? That's a new one. I swear I hate what technology does to marriages. I really do.

Hi I am dealing with the same thing but I feel guilty wanting out. I mean I really can't go any where right now due to finacial issues but once things are better for me I think if he hasn't changed I am out. We have two kids 3 and 8 months. I have tried and talked to him you name it he does right for a week and then falls back into routine with no guilt. I have even wanted to reach out to other men because I am starving for attention but I didn't . I don't desire to disrespect my marriage but something has to give.

Hello, I am in a similar situation. My boyfriend and I have 3 kids together ages 3, 1, and 5 months. I work full time and he stays with the kids because he says he wants a job but when given the chance he will make up every excuse not to find work. So he sits at home playing online phone games 24/7. The phone is only out of his hand when charging or in his pocket. Btw we are supposed to be sharing this phone because my mom bought it for ME. Anyways, we've been together 6 years and it doesn't matter what I do he won't stop. He doesn't clean or cook, occasionally feeds the kids or changes a diaper, but if I bring up the fact I need help or get mad he gets distracted, frustrated, and ultimately explosive temper. If I let him play he's fine, but I need the help! I have 2 older children, 12 and 8 who hate him because he's always making them do stuff for him he treats them like servants but I am always working to pay bills daycare is too expensive. He says he will leave me, which by this point is moot, but then he refuses to actually go and says he will take my kids away from me. I still love him but he is seriously addicted. Is there anything I can do to save my family? The babies adore him.

WoW does ruin lives. I've just kicked my husband out today ( 7 years together, 4 of marriage) due to his gaming addiction ( WoW). I'm done having to split his affection with a computer. We have three children and I honestly tell you, if there was ever a fire he would run in to save is beloved computer but wouldn't piss on fire to put us out...he still reckons he's not addicted..when I kicked him out this morning I asked him : Where are all your imaginary friends now? can you call them up and ask them for a place to stay? his answer "no, I can't".....guess the very first thing he packed in his car..his computer! have a happy life wit your machine buddy! don't let the door hit you on the ass, the kids and I deserve much better. It is really shame. He was waking up an hour earlier just to get on there to " see his mates" ( this is a 34 year old man) and would stay up all night playing. 99% of our arguments were about his computer....Once we ahd an argument about it and I asked him If he could give it up to be with me..his reply: " i'll never give it up, I'd rather move out"..well his wish came true. a big thank you to world of warcraft, ruining lives since it started.

I doo not know if anyone accesses this thread of game addiction / obsession but it was there 12 years ago hard core with ever quest and now...destiny. nice husband I married, but this is his only life away from work. He might do something with me once a week but not near the hours spent towards that game each week. I go to Alanon even though he is a gamer not an alcoholic but he is a child of alcoholics and his responsibility level vs what my tasks are....I make 75,000 a year, he might clear 35,000, maybe but I do not know where his money goes but I pay for 85% of everything and NEVER get a foot massage. If you saw me, you would think my husband would want to go to bed with me. Only when HE wants to. I hate him right now

I read a lot of these posts and a lot describe my life. It would be nice if there was a more recent place to go to talk to others that are in the same situation as me. I've tried to Google message boards just to talk to other wives/girl friends/significant others but they are all from years ago. I debate different thoughts of what do you do? How do I get him back? What did I do wrong? If there is such a forum or something that helps with advice, I would love to know. Thank you!

I see that these posts are from over a year ago but I am helpless, hopeless and depressed so I'll just vent here. I've been with my husband for 6 and a half years- 2 1/2 of which we've been married. I love him so much but am contemplating leaving. we have no kids, thank god. but he plays his game from the time he gets home (from work obv) until the time he goes to bed. I'll bring him food and drinks but am not going to anymore....I'm so frikin sick of this...I'm so lonely and irritable bc of his addiction. I even cheated on him 3 years ago because I was lonely and wanted some attention. I take responsibility for what I did- you should never cheat but I see now that his incessant gaming made me feel so alone and undesirable. (I told him about the infidelity by the way- 6 months before our wedding...he still wanted to get married though because he forgave me) I'm to the point where I'm losing all feelings for my husband- I just want him to put me first for once. what the hell do I do!?? how long do I put up with being ignored!!?? I'm alone ALL. THE. TIME. advice is appreciated and thanks for reading.

This is the only online platform that I have found useful. My husband has been addicted to Game of War for almost 2 years. He's literally played it EVERY SINGLE DAY for 21 months. He's hidden purchases through the game, lied to me, taken away time from me and our family to play this stupid game. 2 years ago I threatened to leave, but I didn't. I guess I'm not strong enough.

I'm not sure I'd be putting up with this if I didn't have kids. What's holding you there?

After reading your experiences I realized this is a serious problem in my own relationship. I somehow alway have been neglecting it. My boyfriend plays the WOW since we met seven years ago (and he played it before). He rarely does any housework or works around the house- so I began to feel like a man rather than a woman. He explains this with my "feminist nature". There were pauses in playing WOW, but honestly I am sick of being patrol who peeks to his computer screen every time he's in front of it. Despite all of this I love him because he is kind, handsome, very smart, talented and generous person. We never go to bed at the same time - he goes to bed when I wake up. We rarely do things together, we go out together every few months (he spent this summer on the bed playing WOW). The sad things is we are both very talented and If he could concentrate on reality we could get involved in many projects together but he doesn't have real interests for anything. I need to beg him for 5-minute help with my website.
We don't have babies. I just don't feel comfortable having a baby with a person that I have to beg to wake up every morning. It's just a too clumsy life for having a kid.
Now we are a few days away from moving to another country and he plays WOW while I am taking care of all practical things. Not to mention I organized the whole thing (funds and two movings cause we had to stay with my parents for a while to save money). It has always been like that- I have to be the one in charge of everything + managing his own responsibilities (projects deadlines, his family..) I thought I had a problem with controlling or was suspicious that he is bit autistic (he is shy by his nature) - but seems that I am in relationship with Blizzard entertainment.
I used to complain a lot because of WOW or feeling like a beggar always begging for something, but lately I realized I have to accept this and live my own life. Which is nonsense, because it's hardly a relationship (somehow turns out that I just can't give up on him)
I tried to talk about this lot of times but ends up with both screaming and his aggressive behavior every time WOW is mentioned. I really don't know what to do. Seems too immature to me to accuse Blizzard for ruining the relationship of two grown-up persons but somehow it's true.


Another WOW addict's partner.

I thought it was just me. Going through the same situation. However, my husband plays multiple games, one in particular on his phone playing chess and some other games. He a son, that also likes to play games excessively, on phone and computer. They both like to play a card game called 'Magic'. I first I thought I'm not going make a big deal of this card game. I figure this something that the like to do together, however this is constantly. Almost everyday, if their not playing, they are on phone. My husband rarely go to bed together. When we have dinner either at home or out, his on the phone playing games, when we are socializing with friends or family, his on the phone playing a game. We can't even have a normal conversation. I this point I feel like roomates. I've talked to him about this issue numerous times and sometimes he tells me I'm making a big deal.There's been a few time that his accommodates and stops for like a day, but then goes back to the gaming. This is literally ruining our relationship. I love dearly and would love to makeil it work,but this has been going for a long time and not sure how long I can take this.

I posted on here a couple weeks ago about the stupid game and how I'm turning into a widow because of WOW. I've looked online to see if there are any forums where people could help support each other and so far no luck. Here just tonight had a band concert at school and my daughter wanted to go to dinner after. He gets pissed because it's a raid night. Really....umm hello family should be priority. We got into an argument and guess what he's doing now. Playing WOW while I did my thing with my daughter and now watching TV alone. I'm throwing it out there for anyone in my situation and has advice or guidance or anything. He's my life and so are our kids, but I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I just make it worse the more I am hurting.

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I'm in the same boat. It is useful my husband hasn't worked steadily for a year. All he does is play video games. He plays ark and will play it from the time he wakes up to the time he goes to bed. He sleeps about two hours and sets an alarm to wake up and play again. It is disgusting I can't take it!