I'm a prime example of one of these many guys. I was addicted to online games and went through some of the same situations with my wife. I noticed how it affected our relationship, and I knew I would lose her and my toddler son. I realized I was wasting valuable time in my life that I could be spending with my family. I understand how many of you women feel from what I put my wife through, and just wanted to let you know there could be hope.
LOok up a support group. Addiction is addiction and there are steps, and therapists who can help you. I think there is a support group, like AA, for technology addiction. There is also a group for friends and family of the addict.
Good for you for recognizing the problem and trying to get ahead of it. That's amazing!
I hope you and your loved ones are doing well!
Good for you for recognizing the problem and trying to get ahead of it. That's amazing!
I hope you and your loved ones are doing well!
LOok up a support group. Addiction is addiction and there are steps, and therapists who can help you. I think there is a support group, like AA, for technology addiction. There is also a group for friends and family of the addict.
Good for you for recognizing the problem and trying to get ahead of it. That's amazing!
I hope you and your loved ones are doing well!
Good for you for recognizing the problem and trying to get ahead of it. That's amazing!
I hope you and your loved ones are doing well!
Thank you so much for sharing this. So happy you found your way out! It gives me hope for my relationship
Wow- thank you for this! If there's a way through, I think it's this way. I didn't think to look at this like any other addiction but it totally is.
Hi! Im in the same situation like you. Do you know what type of evidences I need to collect in order to win custody and alimoni at court. Thanks! Wish you the best!
OH MY GOSH, when you say the part "he won't hang out with me because he's told some guy he's never seen before that he would play a game with him"..... I can relate to this so much its not even funny. They get multiple players in these, like, shooter games, and they are from all over the world...and if I ask him something, his mic picks me up and all the players are like "Who was that? Do you have a wife? Where do you guys live?" and he starts tellin gthem all about our life, and about ME, and about HOW COOL I AM, etc. I'm thinking "If I was so darn cool, you wouldnt blow me off for your stupid games and friends who aren't real friends, now would you? So stop saying that to your so called buddies." and honestly, I bet his gamer buddies are wondering, "If his wife is SO COOL, why is he spending all of his time here with us, for hours on end?" Or maybe not. Because I really don't understand the mind of a gamer. I guess they are like addicts, pretty much, when they get to this point :( I also have to mention, others have said in this thread, that when the husband actually DOES hang out with them, its like he is doing you a favor.... well, same here. He'll actually say "See, you say Inever hang out with you but here we are, hanging out." ..... as we drive to the grocery store. *humongous eye roll*. Don't know what I'm going to do but I"m getting sick of it.
I feel the exact same way. I am 36 years old and my husband spends all day on the god dam computer. We don't talk except when hes having a cigarette break. i work all day and come home to take care of the house and the kids and the pets. I come up with ideas for date night and he wastes the time on the computer and then its too late to go anywhere. He works all the time and when he is off he will spend all of his spare time playing those games. he makes friends online and talks to them but not to me not to mention our sex life is down the crapper. I also want a divorce but not sure how to bring it up.
I really hope you were able to end that relationship. You deserve SO much more! No one deserves to be cheated on and on top of that he neglects the fact that he's even in a relationship with you.
Best of luck
Best of luck
My first husband beat me and my second husband cheated on me with multiple women, I am so glad I found a gamer, he only beats up virtual people and I know were his penis is 99% of the time, he don't help much around the house but the couple things he does each week are a godsend after doing it ALL alone for the four years I was single. Ironically my 11 year old son has a better relationship with my boyfriend then he does with his own father because they game together a couple hours per day.
Thank you for this post! I'm struggling now with a new marriage and a 40 year old husband that won't work. He said he is trying to make gaming a career. He plays Destiny and Neverwinter. This has been going on for almost two years now. I used to be very active but have become very introverted because every time I go out I get the constant questions about him getting a job etc. and I'm tired of making up excuses. I don't like the person I'm becoming. I sit home alone while he games. I'm all for people doing what they love as a career, but how long will you go without a paycheck? I don't understand this whole gaming world. I have been diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and I'm not going to be able to work as many hours as before. I'm a hairstylist and my job consists of standing for hours. I need a partner. I have expressed my resentment. I did not get married to be alone!
Hi everyone
I'm in the same situation as many of you. My husband and I have been married almost 6 years and he loves video games. He can usually control himself with any game except Counter-Strike. He has uninstalled it multiple times (to keep himself from not playing) but always goes back. I've tried talking to him about it but I'm "nagging". Its like a second full time job. He also gets very competitive and angry with the game. He plays with friends and will not make time for me. I never thought this would be a problem and that I would be this lonely in my marriage. I'm losing hope.
I'm in the same situation as many of you. My husband and I have been married almost 6 years and he loves video games. He can usually control himself with any game except Counter-Strike. He has uninstalled it multiple times (to keep himself from not playing) but always goes back. I've tried talking to him about it but I'm "nagging". Its like a second full time job. He also gets very competitive and angry with the game. He plays with friends and will not make time for me. I never thought this would be a problem and that I would be this lonely in my marriage. I'm losing hope.
I completely agree! I tell my husband I didn't get married to be alone and nothing. It feels like we are just roommates.
I understand what everyone is going through, ive been dealing with my husband and gaming addiction for 14 years. We will talk and it will get better, maybe 2 weeks, then goes back to normal. He says it is his way to release steam from work. I dont want to take him away from something he likes and i still want my alone time but this computer addiction is nuts. We did come up with an agreement, on our day off, one day a week, we spend the day together doing whatever i want. That lasted 2 weeks, he knows how to turn it around so it comes back on me good or bad, so we stay home and he can game. And for the guy that said sit next to your husband, talk to him about it....done it more then i can count. It does not change a thing but get them more excited about the game because they think now we care, and you stay on longer. This is an extreme addiction and these people on computers need help. I am almost at the end of my rope, and i can relate to every women on here.
I wrote a reply earlier. I seen where female was happy because relationship was great with son. I thought the same way, he doesnt beat me like the others. He doesnt drink or do drugs or cheat on me like others. Guess what my husband without my knowledge was talking to a female for a year one-half, telling her our problems. I know he met her once dont know if anything happened sexually. All i am is saying is just keep an eye on everything.