Thanks for listening!
My parents never told me too either. And they never had the "talk" with me, or talked about purberty, or anything. And if I ever asked questions as a kid, they would brush it off or change the subject or not give me the full truth. And normally when I need their help with things, they never do help. And I know your saying they would for this, but like I said, I don't want to hurt anyone.
Is that lady with the dogs you!? ;-)
Before you kept saying I needed to take back me, how do you do that!?
I do somewhat feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my sholders.
My parents never told me too either. And they never had the "talk" with me, or talked about purberty, or anything. And if I ever asked questions as a kid, they would brush it off or change the subject or not give me the full truth. And normally when I need their help with things, they never do help. And I know your saying they would for this, but like I said, I don't want to hurt anyone.
Is that lady with the dogs you!? ;-)
Before you kept saying I needed to take back me, how do you do that!?
I do somewhat feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my sholders.
I have 3 dogs and 1 cat! IF we had a bigger house, I think I would be on animal planet! ;-) The other lady is a child psychologist
As far as taking back "YOU" you have already started by talking about it, instead of letting it fester! I understand about your parents, and I'm surprised that in this day and age, parents HAVEN'T talked to their kids! ESPECIALLY in Canada - with Paul Bernardo and Carla Homolka! BUT that is your parents, and they were probably treated the same!
How's the "itch" by the way?
As far as taking back "YOU" you have already started by talking about it, instead of letting it fester! I understand about your parents, and I'm surprised that in this day and age, parents HAVEN'T talked to their kids! ESPECIALLY in Canada - with Paul Bernardo and Carla Homolka! BUT that is your parents, and they were probably treated the same!
How's the "itch" by the way?
How did your son make out!?
Lol...I love animals too, I always dream of having like a mini farm...with a horse, a pig, a goat, and a brown duck, random but thats what I want XD and of course dogs and cats.
Did those people do anything to you!? And ya, I can't see my grandparents having the talk with my parents.
The 'itch' comes and goes. Not as bad as before, when it happened, thats all I could think about! But I never did anything, and then when I told you, I almost did it! But I looked at myself and my scars (which thankfully are in a place no one can see) and cried and scream inside but then I broke what I was going to use and threw it out! When I see him at school, which thankfully is almost over! One exam down and three more to go! But he makes me sick and I feel disgusting. Sometimes he will look at me, but sometimes he doesn't. I want to know what goes on in his head, like is he guilty at all!? or does he think its funny!? is he scared!? >:(
Lol...I love animals too, I always dream of having like a mini farm...with a horse, a pig, a goat, and a brown duck, random but thats what I want XD and of course dogs and cats.
Did those people do anything to you!? And ya, I can't see my grandparents having the talk with my parents.
The 'itch' comes and goes. Not as bad as before, when it happened, thats all I could think about! But I never did anything, and then when I told you, I almost did it! But I looked at myself and my scars (which thankfully are in a place no one can see) and cried and scream inside but then I broke what I was going to use and threw it out! When I see him at school, which thankfully is almost over! One exam down and three more to go! But he makes me sick and I feel disgusting. Sometimes he will look at me, but sometimes he doesn't. I want to know what goes on in his head, like is he guilty at all!? or does he think its funny!? is he scared!? >:(
Do you think you could go up to him and say "IF you keep looking at me I WILL tell everyone what you did!"?
No I had NOTHING to do with Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka! Just they are PURE evil, and after what they did, parents started talking to their kids more about what to do!
Honestly honey, use the 3 day pac and you will feel SO much better! You CANT feel it I promise! It's like a pencil! Because if you don't get rid of it, it comes back worse!
My son did REALLY well thankyou, my husband is staying there tonight and I trade off with him in the day! He was SO brave! And now has his own room, with ALL the channels, so he is happy! He's on morphoine, so he is pretty "happy" right now!
No I had NOTHING to do with Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka! Just they are PURE evil, and after what they did, parents started talking to their kids more about what to do!
Honestly honey, use the 3 day pac and you will feel SO much better! You CANT feel it I promise! It's like a pencil! Because if you don't get rid of it, it comes back worse!
My son did REALLY well thankyou, my husband is staying there tonight and I trade off with him in the day! He was SO brave! And now has his own room, with ALL the channels, so he is happy! He's on morphoine, so he is pretty "happy" right now!
umm...ya maybe I can say that too him. I never thought he was like that at all!! He WAS so sweet and nice and so funny, and then he turned into a scary creep!
Okay good! You just talked about them a lot so then I wondered 8-|
Okay i'm really confused right now %-) What 'itch'!? I thought it was code for like cutting lol %-)
Thats good :-D I'm glad everything went well!
Okay good! You just talked about them a lot so then I wondered 8-|
Okay i'm really confused right now %-) What 'itch'!? I thought it was code for like cutting lol %-)
Thats good :-D I'm glad everything went well!
I'm SO sorry! I got TOTALLY confused there was this other girl I've been talking too and you'll never guess what we were talking about!!!! ;-) 8-| XD XD Do you still feel nauseous or are the pills settling down now?
Even though I would NEVER come to the defense of a sex feind! BUT just like you weren't told I bet you dollars too donuts that he wasn't told either that even if he is in the middle that STOP means STOP! I have DRILLED that into my boys heads! BUT their friends aren't talked too like I do! So just like the videos etc, you NEVER see a boy stopping, it is ALL a bout "friends with benefits" etc etc. And he KNOWS he did bad! BUT might not understand just HOW bad it was! Do you understand? Just listen to rap c**p, it is FILLED with guys talking about their H*%S and EVERYTHING they do! And these boys are listening to it and thinking it is NORMAL to use a woman sexually and then walk away! It's disgusting!
Maybe go up to him and say "Do you even know that what you did to me was SO bad?" See if he understands! IF he did, THEN tell him that "If you ever talk to me again or even look my way, I WILL tell ALL the girls in this school what you did!" Because you know as well as I do honey, ALL it takes is 1 blabber mouth and Facebook, Twitter, Texting, Myspace and WHAM his life is done!
Even though I would NEVER come to the defense of a sex feind! BUT just like you weren't told I bet you dollars too donuts that he wasn't told either that even if he is in the middle that STOP means STOP! I have DRILLED that into my boys heads! BUT their friends aren't talked too like I do! So just like the videos etc, you NEVER see a boy stopping, it is ALL a bout "friends with benefits" etc etc. And he KNOWS he did bad! BUT might not understand just HOW bad it was! Do you understand? Just listen to rap c**p, it is FILLED with guys talking about their H*%S and EVERYTHING they do! And these boys are listening to it and thinking it is NORMAL to use a woman sexually and then walk away! It's disgusting!
Maybe go up to him and say "Do you even know that what you did to me was SO bad?" See if he understands! IF he did, THEN tell him that "If you ever talk to me again or even look my way, I WILL tell ALL the girls in this school what you did!" Because you know as well as I do honey, ALL it takes is 1 blabber mouth and Facebook, Twitter, Texting, Myspace and WHAM his life is done!
LOL...I was like wait, what 'itch' and what is this pencil thing you can't feel!? XD %-) Seriously, what were you talking about? %-) lol
I only felt nauseous for like the first week and then it went away, which was good because I couldn't eat feeling that way. Do you know when you get your period on it? Like is it as soon as you stop taking the active pills?
Ya music is bad! Like every song that comes on the radio is about sex or violence, its crazy! I'm pretty sure he knows what he did was wrong. In grade 9 and 10, our gym class is spilt into part gym part health class stuff and they talk all about puberty, hows babies are made, STI's and STD's and rape stuff. So he has to know! I knew! I get what you mean that he might not realize how bad it is or how bad it affected me, but he knows.
I was going to write him an e-mail or something but i'm always so scared he will tell someone, or that he did tell them about our experience. And it sickens me that I gave him the privilege to see me :'( I feel so gross!
I only felt nauseous for like the first week and then it went away, which was good because I couldn't eat feeling that way. Do you know when you get your period on it? Like is it as soon as you stop taking the active pills?
Ya music is bad! Like every song that comes on the radio is about sex or violence, its crazy! I'm pretty sure he knows what he did was wrong. In grade 9 and 10, our gym class is spilt into part gym part health class stuff and they talk all about puberty, hows babies are made, STI's and STD's and rape stuff. So he has to know! I knew! I get what you mean that he might not realize how bad it is or how bad it affected me, but he knows.
I was going to write him an e-mail or something but i'm always so scared he will tell someone, or that he did tell them about our experience. And it sickens me that I gave him the privilege to see me :'( I feel so gross!
Beat him to the punch! When you show your force, I promise you he will NOT want to mess with you! As I have tod my boys, Girls ARE believed! Have you told your dearest friend? I think it is good to force them to look away! Like when dogs stare at each other, the first one that looks away is the submissive one! When I told my BF dad, I was TERRIFIED but THAT look of fear in his eyes, made me feel SO good and gave me back some of my dignity and strength!
I was talking about a yeast infection! On one of my counselling sites, I have 4 ladies who are pregnant, I can't keep track of who is who and what questions each asked!!! ;-) XD
Usually within about 2 days you will get the vaginal bleeding - it's not REALLY a period as such, it is just shedding of the lining! It MIGHT be a little wonky, but after the 1st month you will notice regularity to the moment! I used to be on a Saturday around 2pm HONEST! I was great!
I know he knows it was bad, BUT how many of you teenagers really take what adults and teachers say to heart? You listen more to others and to music and tabloids! Look at Lady Gaga with her lastest video! o.O I am a pretty hip person but THAT is just filth! And what message does that send out to young people - girls and boys!? That's ALL I'm saying about him! that's your call, and you WILL eventually be able to pull that out - it is VERY freeing!
I have to come clean about something, about a year after I threatened my friends dad, another dear friend of mines dad went further than ALL of them! I was my GF's maid of honor! Her dad was like my dad I ADORED him! BUT he was a terrible alocholic! VERY violent etc. So at her wedding he was SO disgustingly drunk - for DAYS! So the next day was the gift opening, and he was PLASTERED! I was sitting in the living room with 2 of my good guy friends, then my friends dad came and sat next to me! He gave me a hug told me he loved me - which he did all the time! And then proceded to bring his hand up my leg and whispered that he wanted to take me in the bedroom! :'( :$ I FROZE! I was DEVESTATED and felt that "I must be putting something out there" I didn't know what to do, IF I punched him, my friend and her family would know! THEN my knight in shining armour - my best guy friend - leant over (after seeing EVERYTHING) and said "Heh *&*&*$%!, You know what buddy? If you don't get your hand off of my girl I will break your $%^&*(# neck!, do you understand me *&(&($%? He stood up and fell over and eventually they got him out of the house and sent hom in a cab! I was BAWLING and my buddy came out to me on the patio, and just sat there and held me while I cried! So my point is this! EVEN though I had the strength to threaten a slime bucket that I couldn't stand, I DIDNT have that same "voice" to do the same to this man I considered my father! And THAT is how perverts terrorize their needy! Just like Teachers, Priests, Parents, Cousins etc. You TRUST them and they they violate that trust, and you question EVERYTHING! And what can you say or do, without bringing a WHOLE bunch of people down and decimate them too! As I said before I will NEVER reveal ANY of the abuse to my GF's! So I understand your not wanting too! BUT you CAN let it go! After years of silence between myself and my "dad" he evenutally stopped ALL drinking and became a great guy! He danced with me at my wedding, and when he died I cried like a daughter! So even though there IS violation you CAN still have forgiveness for them being SO weak and torn! BUT that's only after being repentent!
I was talking about a yeast infection! On one of my counselling sites, I have 4 ladies who are pregnant, I can't keep track of who is who and what questions each asked!!! ;-) XD
Usually within about 2 days you will get the vaginal bleeding - it's not REALLY a period as such, it is just shedding of the lining! It MIGHT be a little wonky, but after the 1st month you will notice regularity to the moment! I used to be on a Saturday around 2pm HONEST! I was great!
I know he knows it was bad, BUT how many of you teenagers really take what adults and teachers say to heart? You listen more to others and to music and tabloids! Look at Lady Gaga with her lastest video! o.O I am a pretty hip person but THAT is just filth! And what message does that send out to young people - girls and boys!? That's ALL I'm saying about him! that's your call, and you WILL eventually be able to pull that out - it is VERY freeing!
I have to come clean about something, about a year after I threatened my friends dad, another dear friend of mines dad went further than ALL of them! I was my GF's maid of honor! Her dad was like my dad I ADORED him! BUT he was a terrible alocholic! VERY violent etc. So at her wedding he was SO disgustingly drunk - for DAYS! So the next day was the gift opening, and he was PLASTERED! I was sitting in the living room with 2 of my good guy friends, then my friends dad came and sat next to me! He gave me a hug told me he loved me - which he did all the time! And then proceded to bring his hand up my leg and whispered that he wanted to take me in the bedroom! :'( :$ I FROZE! I was DEVESTATED and felt that "I must be putting something out there" I didn't know what to do, IF I punched him, my friend and her family would know! THEN my knight in shining armour - my best guy friend - leant over (after seeing EVERYTHING) and said "Heh *&*&*$%!, You know what buddy? If you don't get your hand off of my girl I will break your $%^&*(# neck!, do you understand me *&(&($%? He stood up and fell over and eventually they got him out of the house and sent hom in a cab! I was BAWLING and my buddy came out to me on the patio, and just sat there and held me while I cried! So my point is this! EVEN though I had the strength to threaten a slime bucket that I couldn't stand, I DIDNT have that same "voice" to do the same to this man I considered my father! And THAT is how perverts terrorize their needy! Just like Teachers, Priests, Parents, Cousins etc. You TRUST them and they they violate that trust, and you question EVERYTHING! And what can you say or do, without bringing a WHOLE bunch of people down and decimate them too! As I said before I will NEVER reveal ANY of the abuse to my GF's! So I understand your not wanting too! BUT you CAN let it go! After years of silence between myself and my "dad" he evenutally stopped ALL drinking and became a great guy! He danced with me at my wedding, and when he died I cried like a daughter! So even though there IS violation you CAN still have forgiveness for them being SO weak and torn! BUT that's only after being repentent!
No, I haven't told anyone but you. And its hard because he's friends with my friends, and they all love him. I might say something to him when school is done.
Okay cool. Can't wait for it not to hurt and have everyone know when i'm getting it because i'm like dying half the time.
Wow! Infront of everyone! Good thing you friend protected you!
So the only way to 'heal' is to accept it, understand it, fight it, and forgive?
Okay cool. Can't wait for it not to hurt and have everyone know when i'm getting it because i'm like dying half the time.
Wow! Infront of everyone! Good thing you friend protected you!
So the only way to 'heal' is to accept it, understand it, fight it, and forgive?
IF there is forgiveness somewhere then so be it! IF there is betryal and being TOTALLY souless, then NO! BUT what you have to do - when you are ready - is FORGIVE yourself! You know in your head that it's not your fault, BUT your emotional side, doesn't get that yet! You still question everything! "What IF?, Should've Could've Would've! etcetc " the sooner you know and believe that they are NOTHING to you - with regards to your future and your recovery, the sooner you CAN!
I cannot believe how similar you and I are! I have found this with others on here! And my conculusion is that we are ALL hurt little children in some way or another! and this manifests itself in many ways throughout our lives! ALL I know is that keeping it in and letting it fester WILL destroy you! So either confront them and get your power back, OR Forgive yourself and get your power back! And KNOW that this will NEVER happen again - I PROMISE you that it will NEVER happen again! It has been tried MANY times since my experiences, BUT these pigs have NO idea what I'm capable of with my words and actions!
I cannot believe how similar you and I are! I have found this with others on here! And my conculusion is that we are ALL hurt little children in some way or another! and this manifests itself in many ways throughout our lives! ALL I know is that keeping it in and letting it fester WILL destroy you! So either confront them and get your power back, OR Forgive yourself and get your power back! And KNOW that this will NEVER happen again - I PROMISE you that it will NEVER happen again! It has been tried MANY times since my experiences, BUT these pigs have NO idea what I'm capable of with my words and actions!
Thanks goodness for laptops! Since its exam week my parents won't let me on the computer, because I need to be studying...but i'm suppose to be in bed now XD so the laptop comes out. And its so scary where I live right now! In the afternoon there was an earthquake, and then there were sever weather warnings, a tornado hit about an hour away from me and now rain and thunder, scary!
I know its not my fault, and I know I tried, like with my cousin, I tried to walk away but he grabbed my hand and made me do it and when he tried to touch me, I grabbed his hand so he wouldn't, but he did anyway! And I know he threatened me to never say anything, and I know I was only 10. And with jackass, I know I trusted him and never thought he would hurt me, so I gave myself to him, and I know I said no, and again tried to get away but I couldn't. I know they did this too me! :'( He's nothing to me, I know that and he's never going to be apart of my life again! And I can control that, but with my cousin its so different because he is family, so hes always going to be there, and I can't control that!
And it scares me because, you keep telling me it will never happen again, but then you keep saying all the times its happen to you after everything! Or that its been tried, I don't want it to be tired! Like what else has happened to you!? After everything!?
I know its not my fault, and I know I tried, like with my cousin, I tried to walk away but he grabbed my hand and made me do it and when he tried to touch me, I grabbed his hand so he wouldn't, but he did anyway! And I know he threatened me to never say anything, and I know I was only 10. And with jackass, I know I trusted him and never thought he would hurt me, so I gave myself to him, and I know I said no, and again tried to get away but I couldn't. I know they did this too me! :'( He's nothing to me, I know that and he's never going to be apart of my life again! And I can control that, but with my cousin its so different because he is family, so hes always going to be there, and I can't control that!
And it scares me because, you keep telling me it will never happen again, but then you keep saying all the times its happen to you after everything! Or that its been tried, I don't want it to be tired! Like what else has happened to you!? After everything!?
We've had violent weather, storms tornadoes, lightening etc. Yeah I heard about the earthquake! I would have LOVED that to happen when the G8 and G20 leaders got to ontario!!! XD ;-)
what you have to remember Claire is that ALL of this happened to me YEARS ago! The really bad stuff! And years ago, no one talked about it! We weren't empowered enough, so I had to learn that empowerment! When I threatened my friends dad I was 16/17, then with my other girlfriends dad I was 19! He was FAMILY to me, so even though he was breaking my heart, I didn't know HOW to deal with family - just like you don't with your cousin! IF I talked to him and threatened him the "family" would have found out! And that is why my guy friend talked quietly to him, as he didn't want my friends and family to hear it either! Since then there have been gross farts coming up to me, trying to back into my breasts, rubbing by me, saying disgusting things! And I tell them to you know what!? Also a few weeks ago this old GROSS guy said something about my boobs and I shouted out "What did you just say to me you dirty pig?!" and he hurried off! So When I get that "vibe" my spidey senses come alive and I'm ready! And you WILL be too! I don't mean to blow my own horn, BUT you have me to talk too, I had NO ONE! So I'm saying that, IF I can overcome this so will you!
There are pure vile s**m out there, BUT there are also VERY good people! And what you have to be aware of IS your inner voice telling you "watch THAT guy! There's something about him!" And even before the scumbag says anything you are ready! I used to stand infront of a mirror and have a saying for EVERY event! So I wasn't scrambling at the time of a slimeballs advances!
Next time you see your cousin, I REALLY want you to take him to the side and say "I haven't yet decided wether or not to tell the family what you did to me, BUT If you look at me, talk to me, ask about me I WILL! And IF I hear of you doing something similar to any little girl - you pedophile - I WILL tell EVERYONE, INCLUDING the Police!" I guarantee you honey he will NEVER raise his eyes to you again! This day WILL come, and you will know WHEN! And it will be YOU who is in charge this time!
what you have to remember Claire is that ALL of this happened to me YEARS ago! The really bad stuff! And years ago, no one talked about it! We weren't empowered enough, so I had to learn that empowerment! When I threatened my friends dad I was 16/17, then with my other girlfriends dad I was 19! He was FAMILY to me, so even though he was breaking my heart, I didn't know HOW to deal with family - just like you don't with your cousin! IF I talked to him and threatened him the "family" would have found out! And that is why my guy friend talked quietly to him, as he didn't want my friends and family to hear it either! Since then there have been gross farts coming up to me, trying to back into my breasts, rubbing by me, saying disgusting things! And I tell them to you know what!? Also a few weeks ago this old GROSS guy said something about my boobs and I shouted out "What did you just say to me you dirty pig?!" and he hurried off! So When I get that "vibe" my spidey senses come alive and I'm ready! And you WILL be too! I don't mean to blow my own horn, BUT you have me to talk too, I had NO ONE! So I'm saying that, IF I can overcome this so will you!
There are pure vile s**m out there, BUT there are also VERY good people! And what you have to be aware of IS your inner voice telling you "watch THAT guy! There's something about him!" And even before the scumbag says anything you are ready! I used to stand infront of a mirror and have a saying for EVERY event! So I wasn't scrambling at the time of a slimeballs advances!
Next time you see your cousin, I REALLY want you to take him to the side and say "I haven't yet decided wether or not to tell the family what you did to me, BUT If you look at me, talk to me, ask about me I WILL! And IF I hear of you doing something similar to any little girl - you pedophile - I WILL tell EVERYONE, INCLUDING the Police!" I guarantee you honey he will NEVER raise his eyes to you again! This day WILL come, and you will know WHEN! And it will be YOU who is in charge this time!
Okay know I get what your saying, I thought you meant like worse stuff still happened. So like how one day some old creepy guy followed me home from school, or when a gross man stars at me when i'm in the car next to him, kind of stuff. I get that "watch that guy" voice all the time! Now I just need to figure out how to use my voice! 8-|
Well were having family photos done soon for my grandparents thing, so maybe then I will say something to him. When he is around, I watch him all the time! Especially around my little cousins, I don't want to be around him, but I need to make sure their safe.
But thanks for empowering me and allowing me to talk about it! :-)
Well were having family photos done soon for my grandparents thing, so maybe then I will say something to him. When he is around, I watch him all the time! Especially around my little cousins, I don't want to be around him, but I need to make sure their safe.
But thanks for empowering me and allowing me to talk about it! :-)
I'm free!!! No more exams :-D
Can I ask you something and then I will leave you alone!?
Is it scary to have sex again? :$ O and how is your son still doing?
Can I ask you something and then I will leave you alone!?
Is it scary to have sex again? :$ O and how is your son still doing?
Hi honey! Ask away, you are NOT bugging me honey, I have NO life thus me being on here 24/7 ;-)
To be honest with you SEX is about trust! When you are ready again, it is on YOUR terms and IF you feel the slightest hesitant, then STOP! The problem with molestationa nd rape is that it can have a ripple effect = making the victim feel "cheep" so she or he, will "spread it around" And just feel dirty till the point they don't feel at all! So be careful OK? It is on YOUR terms1 I would deifnitely give it awhile! As the trauma can come back at different times!
My son is doing really well, he is downstairs ordering us around! ;-) 8-| He's such a TROOPER!
To be honest with you SEX is about trust! When you are ready again, it is on YOUR terms and IF you feel the slightest hesitant, then STOP! The problem with molestationa nd rape is that it can have a ripple effect = making the victim feel "cheep" so she or he, will "spread it around" And just feel dirty till the point they don't feel at all! So be careful OK? It is on YOUR terms1 I would deifnitely give it awhile! As the trauma can come back at different times!
My son is doing really well, he is downstairs ordering us around! ;-) 8-| He's such a TROOPER!