how to stay in love with a bipolar person

please help me ! can relate to you [my girlfriend just broke up with me over writing to long of emails she gets way lost if an email is too long . I understand the oxytocin and oxycodone I take well over two hundred a month as a result of an auto accident . I guess that helps me hold all to gather is their anything - any thoughts that anyone can suggest too? so I will stick with her ?? I too go thru the great few days then its the dumps " leave me alone" stuff Might some one leave a way to get in touch so I can talk with someone find a support group I got sent an text while I was out buying her --. her Xmas gift that our relationship was over . I had already bought such [ I went way overboard had to barrow $ for and brought all sorts of xmass decorations spent a lot - we were supposed to decorate today. She does not want me to text her email her and will not answer the phone -- ? What do I do ??

please help

you all take care thank you for any help

Hit the nail on the head!

Bro. I have the exact same story as you. Breaks up once a month over something absolutely ridiculous. I am emotionally drained and think I can be much happier without her. It's too hard dealing with someone who has mood swings daily. I find myself much happier when she is not around, mainly because at least this way, she can't yell at me or infect me with her negativity.

Both me and my girlfriend are bipolar. And yet I'm always the one at fault and always the one who makes the dumb decisions

I have been down the 'BP relationship' road before.That was 15yrs, ago. One therapist(I had two. One therapist for sanity, and one therapist to help me gain a better appreciation of, what she said she had been through growing up.) told me that my ex was more likely Borderline.

The woman I am interested in now, is only BP. One she will be pleasant. The next day it sounds like she snaps at me. But, I will allow for the possibility of a bad cell phone, and/or bad phone reception.

Wow, after reading all this I can relate I am going through the same thing. I've been strong I've always been there for her. Where I messed up, is mot understanding at first so I may have accused her of things or tried to ask her what's wrong a million times. I feel like sh*t about that and feel like sh*t that she had a rough childhood but I've always taken care of her I've always been there. I pushed all those feelings aside and understood that she is depressed and had some issues. She claimed she would get better but never did, never got help, etc. it's gotten way worse latley where she is throwing things, talking down to me and saying things I would never say or anyone would ever say if you really "love" someone. I don't know what to do, it's been verbally and emotionally abusive. She had laid hands on me and had episodes acting like she really doesn't want me around or never wanted me around? She seems conscious though of saying these things. She has done similar things in the past and Crys to me that she is sorry. But then make fun of me and just tell me not to be here because she treats me so shitty. I'm at the end, I was forced to leave her Presence. Did I really do something so wrong ? Is this really a disorder people suffer from without seaking help?

Stick it out brothers, I've been doing it . The make up sex Is the best part. Just take your anger and frustration out on her p***y. You'll thank me for that advice.

Being with someone who suffers from bipolar will never be easy , things can improve in the relationship but it can take years of repeating distructive patterns of behaviour for the person to finally take a more constructive alternative path.
I have been with my partner for 13 years and it is still a one step forward two steps back kind of relationship.
I have no doubt how much she loves and appreciates me . She is very proactive in seeking out good medical advice and always takes her many meds ...it's not a simple one pill fixes all situation as hormone levels change constantly and what medication or dose worked this month may not be as effective in the future. Seeing a GP is a start but a mental health specialist is necessary (and private health insurance ) .
Alcohol really is a no go as even a casual drink interacts with the effectiveness medications and a big night out will basically send things to sh*t for weeks.
Thought processes also operate very differently almost like the middle steps that we may see as the logical part can be missing. As you can guess this leads to many WTF moments , it's not the sufferers fault , not that it makes it any less infuriating but it's something that cognitive therapy can help with. Keep in mind that refreshing courses in these helpful therapies if often require.
Bipolar is taxing on both people in the relationship and enter knowing that it often isn't easy ( my brain wants to explode daily ).
You need to make sure you both have support networks in place and are both comitted to the relationship. As the non bipolar person I am constantly questioning why am I here and want a "NORMAL" relationship but this is a part of mental processing the associated frustration. You need to be understanding ,supportive , forgiving and at times superhuman but also realistic about how you are coping and the ballance of good to bad points in the relationship.
Don't stay with someone out of pitty be with them because you really love them .
It has taken many years to work out some of the bigger humps and alot of bad stuff fidelity wise etc has happened. Some how we are still together and generally happy but the reason I am on this page is it has been a tough afternoon and even now hearing of others experiences gives me a bit of comfort.

I'm in tears as I write this.
I'm struggling what seems like every other day at least, to keep my head straight, to be open minded, too... too... to. Idk. Im on the same page mostly. I'm 25 and struggling to get my life together. I was a slob and friendless and didn't do a lot as a teen so when I lost weight and made friends.... welll, it's all an excuse basically.
Anyways, I've known this girl for almost 8 years. And barely at that. But it was that fact that brought us together and when we met again.... it was a wonderful month. Amazing, breathtaking, exemplary, I could go on about how I feel about fate and astrology and how I think we're Kent to be.... but that's not what this forums about. I went to the enter net to find help, to get my head wrapped around anything that could help.
I'm scared that she hates me and doesn't want me around half the time, and then she's apologetic and acts like nothing happened. She can be the sweetest thing ever or the most unreasonable bull imaginable. She lies and withholds information about her day, keeps things from me, downloads and deletes apps, brings up her ex's a lot, stares at pictures of them and downloads them o her phone.... all sorts of things that I just let happen. And I don't mean let like I have any athority... that I deal with, have to excuse. I've avoided seeing this girl for years cause I thought I would fall in love and I have. No matter how much she wants to do porn, or craves attention from others, or threats/attempts/succeeds in kicking me out of my home, where my bed couch tv clothes.... no matter what she does I still love her.
It scares me cause I don't know how to open up my mind any further, I don't know if I should stick around to make it work, cause I'm so utterly confused if she really feels the same or not. If she really loves me the way she does when she's happy..... cause when she's not happy.... I just feel worthless. I feel disposable, replaceable, alone, anxiety sky rockets, blood pressure too.... it's only been 4 months. And even though she's always on my ass about job and the money I make on the side and how she doesn't get any of it, even though she can make hundreds a day doing what she's doing..... and even though I feel all these terrible things, which she never apologizes for.... and even though I feel like I'm about to pop an oulcer
I love her
And want to make things work
And have children with her
And provide for her and hers as well as my own..... I want to be the world for her, just as she's the sun AND the moon for me

Hi buddy , I'm sorry things are so rough for you at the moment.
I'm no expert but from what you've shared in your story there's a couple of things that really stand out.
Emotional involvement with someone will always make it hard to see the not so good elements of a relationship, especially if your the one who is doing all the trying to make it work part.
Take a step back , I get it you really care for her. To put it simply you're relationship isn't going to improve .
Her focus is on herself and others , not you.
She may have qualities you admire but it looks like you're her egos safety net.
If things are that bad don't even think about kids etc , do you really want to add that into such a volatile situation.
Bi polar or not , stop take a breath and put yourself first.
If you're feeling this unhappy all the time you need to pull yourself away from such a negative situation and clear your head.
You are worthy of happiness so start with you first. It is very difficult to build healthy relationships with others if you are personally struggling.
It's normal too feel down sometimes but if those feelings consume alot of your day please take the time to talk to a professional councilor. It doesn't mean you are broken or weak but you need to get those feelings out so that you can process them and to start feeling better.
25 is still young and you have years ahead of you to find your direction in life.
Trust me as I am speaking from experience.
I was in an almost identical situation when I was your age. She was hot ,I was a nobody ( in my mind ) the relationship dragged on the same way for years. We broke up , I was devistated for ages. Since then I have had a few different relationships and learnt more about life in general.
I am now settled and still have some relationship hickups but none of the nasty stuff like when I was your age.
Ps the girl I dated who was similar to the one you're seeing has tried to come back into my life twice. She has been married , bi sexual , a lesbian etc etc etc some people don't change and will always be complicated.

Hello I was wondering if you heard bk from her

I am in a similiar situation and need someone to talk to. My name is Pete. 

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I know your pain..I'm in the same place with the girl I love so much and reading this helps me in my situation with my gf..

Can i email u if not try me please i would love to talk with you for i been in arelationship also for 6 years and having some majior issues at hand that u might be able to help answer for me im so confused and at my last wits end thanks if u do and even if u dont

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Fu u liar you didn't feel for me Karen!! U known her for a month I'm the sweetest hottest girl you'll ever get ure gonna lose me to she doesn't want you dummy