how to stay in love with a bipolar person

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Bi-Polarism is such a scary disease. In my opinion, it effects the other person in the relationship more than it does the actual person with the disease.
I was in a relationship with a bi-polar woman for 6 years, I am gay. I finally ended it because I was tired of living my life in fear. So many bad things happened in those 6 years. Mental abuse was the worst part of it. I'm sure I don't need to go into detail, because you know exactly what I mean.
I loved her, and still do love her. I finally had to decide who I loved more though, her or myself. i couldn't continue putting myself through such an emotional roller coaster. I had lost almost all of my family and friends because they couldn't stand to be around her. She had completely changed my life. She she would take her meds, everything would be perfect. After a couple of months though, she would stop taking them and we would be right back to square one.
Since leaving her, I can't even begin to explain what a relief it has been. Of course there are days that I miss her. My life was in shambles though, and now everything is back to normal. I no longer live in fear or have to walk on egg shells. So my suggestion is, if your partner will not stay on their medication, make the choice to love yourself more.

I am 30 years old. This is the most beautiful moment I have had online. I felt like I was going totally crazy. It's around 00.30 where I am, and my girlfriend is out on town with a "friend". I recognize so much of what you people write here, it's amazing. Nuff' said. Why do we love these girls so intensely? is it an obsession? I want out, but I'm sure she comes home soon to f**k my brains out and tell me I am the only one.

Anyway. Reading this gave me the strength to make a desicion. We'll see which one.

What if she wants to be just friends instead of saying she is in a relationship, she says she wants to be single

Thank GOD I found this thread. I have always felt so isolated in these feelings and repercussions caused by my BP GF. We have been in a relationship for 14 months and at first they seemed totally all normal. My theory is when you first fall in love with a person, you tend to block out the first couple of red flags about that person. When you start to settle with them and be more comfortable around them, that's when things start to get noticed. I remember about 3 months into my relationship, my girlfriend and I would have the occasional fight and/or argument (There is nothing unnatural about that) , but I started to notice a pattern in the way she would combat me. They would be little arguments that would escalate EXTREMELY quickly. She would say one thing that would hype her up and bring her into a newer, meaner, darker lever and just piggy back on her self until shes screaming "I hate you" , "You're the worst boyfriend", etc. etc.; and this was simply all about a meeting I had to have with my boss that I told her about, in which she inevitably denied I told her. She will block out everything I say while we fight because she is too focused on her anger, even when my reasoning completely justifies and makes sense. Loving a BP person has been the most mentally and emotionally taxing thing I have ever been a part of, and I wish I couldve known before and prepared for what I was about to get into. But I love her and will continue to stick by her side no matter what because thats what love is all about.
Thanks for making me feel not alone guys.

Hi, I have had my own personal dealing with (ADHD, OCD & borderline BiPolar) which I was diagnosed with in 1998. I am extremely creative, understanding and caring. When I commit to someone I stay committed and want to be there for better or worse. After many many years of not meeting anyone, I finally met a woman who is Bipolar and is on medication. She was honest and made me aware of this so I decided to educate myself even more as my conditions are nowhere as extreme as hers. It has only been a short time but in that time we both agree that we are on the extreme end of unusually alike and neither of us have ever met anyone who just knew the other so well. I am in my early 50's and she is in her early 40's so we both have had enough experience in life so we are not playing games with each other. There is a definite connection. 

I am going through one of the first times where she is forcefully pushing me away and giving excuses and reasons that I am too much for her. But I believe it stems more from jealousy. I do not argue, I give her plenty of space and I leave little messages that she can find that show her I am here and that I care. I am not angry, obviously it can hurt when someone says things but inside I believe this is one of the first deeper extended periods where she is dealing with her Bipolar. So I will patiently wait it out and see what happens. 

My question relates to how you can try and identify when it is not BiPolar and it may be something she really believes. If she is not feeling the same thing for me, which I don't honestly believe, I don't want to continue to bug her or reach out in a way that makes her uncomfortable. If I know she was serious I would simply let go and feel sad but I would let go. But I honestly don't believe it because of the signs that are all there. 

Is this forum a place where I can chat with someone to get advice? I feel it is important to be there for her so having someone who is more experienced than I provide me with some guidance and feedback would be helpful. 

Lastly, the posts on this forum have be very helpful. It is nice to hear from both sides. 

Thank you very much for your help,

Kindest Regards

My. Friend flipflops

My girlfriend of 1 1/2 years just broke up with me because she said she is numb and can't feel anything for anyone. Then tells me she loves me but can't show it. Said she wants to be friends until she is done trying to get herself out of her episode. If she feels the same way about me Will get back together. This is the first time in almost 2 years this has happhappened. We we're living together, we each have a child from a different relationship that loved each other abd we were a family. So it it's hard for me too understand how she could leave. Just wondering if something like this has happened to someone Abd what the best to do when your in love with this person so much it hurts. But they don't want you around Because she said she needs to work on herself. I understand that but why also say I love and I want us to be together just not till I can get things sorted out

run. run run.

You literally just described my relationship with my bipolar girlfriend aha

I love this site it's amazing !! Omg bi polar are all the same , crazy lieing evil cheating cunts
my ex girlfriend is just to much , I am a nice honest straight taking Bloke with good morals but can't take no more of the pain I really can't , always my fault and never can say sorry for being in the wrong !! Don't wanna talk about it is all she says cause she knows she's been a b***h but won't admit it good luck to the next Bloke haha poor f****r , sorry but she will go hell for the stuff she said to me and my daughter , God won't except u cause u are the devil !!!! Sorry to people that suffer it but in her case it's bollocks u know right from wrong , if u want money or treating them funny how they don't start being nasty then !!
It's all about them with not a care for anyone else , I deserve Somone normal life's to short

Strong enough to be with her. I was with her for 13 years. She was diagnosed with bipolar II. Now I (we) understood what the problem was. I even researched it, bought books about and hung in with her because I loved her so much and knew she had a heart. I have endured 6 breakups by her all for the same reason. I have always taken her back because I understood. The problem is how much can I endure. I am human, have feelings and my self esteem takes a beating when she does this. I am trying my hardest. I hung with her on this and tried to give her all the room she needed.
I would also like to point out the pattern. Fall-Winter ( back together) Late Spring-Summer (breakups) This length though once we get back together lasted 18 months at the longest. The break ups, up to 6 months. Its crazy and I see it coming. But I still can't prepare myself enough for the break up. I am exhausted and I honestly can say, even with my high tolerance level, that I may hedge on a reunion.

I can relate my ex/current I don't know what we are anymore. She is bipolar we fell hard and fast for each other. Things were awesome for 6 months. Then she started to push me away. Got kicked out of her house and moved in with another guy. But still claimed she loved me I know they screwed because I got a sick feeling in my stomach the day they did. I have tried to just end it but she knows how to pull me back. Very frustrating because I love her more than I have ever loved anyone.

Haha wow glad I read that one. I feel like I wrote it. Damn so it really is her illness. Taken me years to really place all of it on that. I refused to but it just makes more and more sense how someone could be so there and then gone.

To all that have written something I have been dealing with my girlfriends bipolar disorder for two and a half years and I am tired of it but like everyone else I love her but dealing with it is hard to handle it drives me insane sometimes. The high highs and the low lows. My advice is that you leave now before its to late.

What was her name it sounds like my girlfriend now to a T