I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

i have the same problem i think, you have no idea how helpful it is hear others talking about it. Mines a little different, im in my first year of uni, i found out this guy liked me and to begin with i didn't like him, i got on great with him though, better than i have with any other guy, i started to really like him but felt ill about it at the same time so thought maybe i didn't really, it was just in the mind a little cuae i knew he liked me and i got on with him. Now i defiantly like him i think, but don't think he likes me which makes me regret things. So now its happening again, i really didn't think i liked this guy but he really really likes me a lot, when i found out i was like sorry no, but then i came to the conclusion i do like him and i said so the next day, cause i don't want ot make the same mistakes again. i felt fine when i told him, but later when like it seemed obvious we were going to kiss, i really didn't want to, felt a bit ill. so now im worried i don't, but right now i think i do, and i just don't know if im over analyzing things or if its just anxiety. I just really don't want to regret anything and i don't want to loose friends either. any comments would be unbelievably helpful.

How weird. I thought I was the only one....

hey, i wrote before second one up i think, the guest one where i had a problem with this guy i started seeing, and i was saying how i was feeling ill and how it had happened before with someone else since ive started uni. well i just thought id come online to say the feelings passed. I No longer feel ill at all around my bf, we get on great, i dont ever feel ill when i think about or anything. So i hope the same happens for yos and it is just a faze. i think it was anxiety. It lasted for about 4 days but alls well now. hope this is of some help. good luck to some i knwo how bad it can be.

Thanks for sharing guys. I had something very similar. About a year ago I had a relationship with a girl, it was the first time I had ever been so close with anyone. We were hanging out all the time and before I knew it I was thinking about her all the time, I couldn't concentrate on anything, and then problems started to occur. She had just broke up with her boyfriend.. and still loved him but said she couldn't be with him because of the type of person he was. . . Then he started pestering her, and she started feeling sorry for him all the time, it made me feel horrible, I felt so sick and horrible all over, it literally hurt in my chest around my heart. Then the worst thing ever, she left me for him. I pretended I was O.K. with it since we had only been seeing eachother a couple of months, but I was dying inside. Anyway, I had that feeling for the next two weeks (lost about a stone) and I didn't get over her for months. I wish I didn't feel that way. Anyway, now I'm starting to see another girl, and I'm starting to get the feeling. I think I have trust issues now because of what happened and I feel like crap whenever she mentions she's been hanging out with a guy. :-(

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I've had this problem - and I think it comes from a subconscious fear of getting hurt. Your subconscious tries to stop a relationship from happening by making you feel sick. When I started dating at 16, I'd feel sick in my stomach and vomit. It goes away when I just plowed ahead and continued to see a guy. But, I didn't date for quite awhile because it's easier to just not deal with those ick feelings. I've now started dating again after awhile (I'm mid-thirties), and while I haven't vomited, I get the sick stomach feeling. It sucks, but I'm hoping it'll just fade away again, when my subconscious realizes it can't stop me. But, I do feel like a dork when I can't just go out to dinner with a guy, and can't really have a good time because I am feeling sick. It seems like if the other person likes you enough though, they will stick around and try to help you through it.

I suffer from this problem as well. However, my heart doesn't race and I don't really feel nervous around her, but I just always feel extremely nauseuas. I was wondering from anyone who has had this in the past, how long was it for you until it went away?

I have this problem when I see girls I have loved of fancied for extended lengths of time. I have never really experienced it when I am actually with the girl in question, unless she says / does something that makes me think she wants / had someone else. I was just clicking through suggested friends on facebook and saw a profile photo of an ex-girlfriend for about a millisecond. It made me feel physically and mentally sick. My Heart started racing.........etc. I hate the feeling.

I am 15 and I have been dating this girl, well I have dated her twice. The reason I broke up with her was because of this and I didnt know what was a matter, i kept worrying and everything i didnt know watwas goin on. Now i hooked back up wit her and i feel the same way again. I get sick feeling and depressed for some odd reason, i know i hurt her before and i dont want to do it again because of this idk what to do. I think it is anxiety because i have it real bad but idk. I know what love feels like but this isn't it, this is weird. I talked to my mom and dad about it and they said it might be anxiety and emotional reacts to it or something, if that helps anyone.

I had the sick feeling when I was with my first boyfriend. You know when You drive over a big bump in the road and you stomach feelings like it's weightless and falling? It felt like that, mixed with butterflies and it felt AWFUL! But I couldn't stop thinking about him. I think it's something to do with mixed feelings and liking somone alot. The feelings passed after a few months of us being together. It's nothing to be worried about (unless you start getting obsessed. Someone I know, who shall remain unamed, explained this feeling to me also, and she ended up getting very stalker-ish). So it's like....the love/very strong feelings they all describe in the poems/songs. And it's messed up! But you do get over it eventually (:

Hi there, i understand where you are coming from. I have suffered from what is called agoraphobia. It’s the fear of the unknown, or situations where you are not in control. This first started around my girlfriend; first i would sweat, feel nauseous and sometimes vomit. It also progressed to the work place, school, and even in peaceful places like church. I never knew what was wrong, i started to eat right and exercise but it was no use. I finally saw a doctor who suggested that i had anxiety, specifically social anxiety. I was doubtful at first because i had always been a very outgoing person and never afraid of social situations. I was told that there doesn’t have to be any warning, it can appear out of know where. I started taking a small dosage of Paxil which is an anti-anxiety medicine. After 6 months of use it did not work all too well. What did work wonders was valium. Valium is a benzodiazepine it works by quickly dissolving into your system. It works great for quick situations that were weren’t expecting. Valium works by slowing down the central nervous system which in turn relaxes you, sedates you and brings your breathing down to a more controlled level. Valium works great but you must be aware that it is a controlled substance and can be very addicting if used more than needed. There are also other drugs out there that are "benzos" such as Xanax. Maybe ask your doctor about these drugs and give it a shot in low dosages. But please remember that these are really convenient drugs and you may find yourself taking them too often because they work so well. **** I am not a doctor Good luck Dean

She may have some sort of fur/hair on her that you could be allergic. Does she have animals?

Im 15 and i feel the same way.... it sucks cause like i have a big crush on this girl but i cant stay near her or i feel sick lately i started drinking and it sort of helped me when im with her and feel sick i just fake it with giving her the excuse that i drank too much im gonna try to talk to my parents about it maybe they can help

i'm 19. seem to have the same problem as most of you although some differ. i don't always get the sick feeling that most of you (including me) have experienced; however i do get it a lot and it's not good. it's getting so bad now that it's threatening our relationship. at first it only happened before sex i.e. during foreplay, but now it sometimes just triggers and most of the time i end up throwing up. i went to the docs about this and she had never had anyone complain about somthing like this before. i have no idea why it happens. i love my girlfriend and see no reason why should get sick all the time. so far it doesn't seem that this thread has many answers to the problem. some people suggest anxiety issues which may be worth looking into, but i've never had any previous problems with anxiety before so i don't know what to do :-( i'm planning on going back to the doctors in the next few days to try and find a solution to this and save my relationship. if anyone's interested in what happens let me know...

Hey psionus, idk if you're still out there, I know it's been a little over 3 years since you made this post, but I was wondering in that time, if you found a way to cope with this problem. I'm now in your situation as well where, I love my girlfriend to death, with everything I am. But I get this sick feeling you described when I'm with her sometimes, before sex, at work, or at the mere thought of her. Is there anything I can do to make it stop?