Hello everyone. I have not been on here in quite some time, but was going through my old posts and saw the dozens of posts from parents and individuals who are experiencing this with their own children or even experienced it as a child themselves. I can say, my daughter is now 8, and she rarely takes the time to pleasure herself, and when she does, she does it in private. At Age 5/6 she was still doing it quite a bit, and even at school. I worked with the teacher to give her a higher chair and have her sit near the teacher. This seemed to help a lot. The teacher also provided a stress ball type thing that she could play with if she felt the urge to do it in school. By first grade, she was not doing it much in school, that I knew of. But one day I was visiting her classroom and noticed her doing it when a lot of excitement was going on. She was 7 at this time. That evening we had a very long talk about what it is she is actually doing and what it is called..."masturbation". I explained to her that it is something that most everyone does, its just that most girls don't figure it out until they are much older. I explained that her friends would not understand and they may think she is weird for doing it at school. It is something she should only do in private, away from her friends, and even her family. Its a normal thing, but it makes other people uncomforble to see someone else doing it. Before that age, I do not think she was mature enough to get it or understand it. But at 7, she really seemed to understand what I meant. She is now 8 and in second grade, and she no longer does it at school and only does it in private at home, but rarely. So, eventually they do grow out of doing it all the time, but I do not think it will ever stop. I mean c'mon, for all of us...once we discovered the pleasure we could give ourselves, did it ever stop? She just had to realize its to be done in moderation and in private. She is old enough now, and knows the names of her "private parts", and I am very open (as open as I should be at her age), about the nature of masturbation.
I hope this can help some of you dealing with this. I know how frustrating it can be when it seems they won't stop for anything. But, you do need to remember not to shame them or tell them its bad. The act is not bad, just doing it publicly is bad. I had to remind her that other kids (boys and girls) may not understand and they might make fun of her. She does not want to be made fun of, so I think this was the big turning point for her.
Anyway, good luck to all of you!
My four old girl does it too. My nine year old did it as well and grew out of it. She will only do it in private and is embarrassed if she is caught. I am not worried about it. I try not to stress about it.
My daughter 6 year old and has a large clit. When she was a baby she would touch her self changing her diaper, but when i potty trained her she had easy access and would rub it all the time. So to stop her, I folded and rolled up a old bath towel and a cushion on the floor, on a waterproof mat. i took her underwear off so she can sit on the towel between her legs and lays on her front on the cushion, and let her move her hips back and forth so it rubs her clit. I also put a blanket over her and she will play, read or have screen time doing this. She did this from the age of 2 to 4, about 1 or up to 5 times a day depending on what we are doing. She has orgasms from the age of 2, first in the bath by rubbing her self with a wash cloth. She has around 3 to 5 in each sesson, which takes around 5 to 10 mins to have each orgasm, unless she keeps stopping to make it last longer. but she recently did have 10 orgasms in row, watching a movie on the towel, this to her is a personal best. Her session normally lasts around 20 to 30 minutes but can last up to 2 hours, one being 4 hours once. The orgasms have got stronger over the years. And doesn't moan as she rubs but does holds her breath when her orgasm comes, like she having a poop, making her face go red. she will play or read and talk to you, if shes on the towel. and will even say her orgasm is coming and putting her head down to hide when having it. If she is in her room she will stop till you go. I let her masturbate openly as its just the 2 of us and most of the time she has no underwear on, just long tshirt. she will do it on the towel with a blanket over her in the living room and how ever she wants in her room which is naked which is 90% of the time. Her clit never gets sore but does stick out all the time, and around her vagina is all ways pink. One thing I did learn is to let her finish her orgasm before she gets up, make for a grumpy child and make want to do it more. She has never masturbated outside or at school, or with her friends and is always dressed if people are visiting. And never had any problems with her and really smart. i have a few questions for people? Is your daughter finishing having a orgasm? Because it could make them do it more? And I find its best to give her time to masturbate everyday. I will answer any questions?