I am married for over 20 years and my husband is suffering from PE. It is very frustrating for both of us because it is ruining our intimacy. Our sex life sucks. I can no longer have an orgasm because I think that he is going to prematurely ejaculate right away that it ruins our time in bed. Yet he has one everytime we have sex. I crave him in the worse way and it really hurts that we don't have the sex life that I wish we could have. I always say it is okay but it really isn't okay. And he says let me give you oral sex, let me use a toy on you but what he doesnt understand is that once he prematurely ejaculates it ruins the moment and my mindset... I no longer can focus on the "Sex"...it's DONE...it's OVER!! I have asked him to go to the doctor several times. We started to go for counseling but it is not the right type of counselor...I asked him to find a sex therapist... he has not done anything to try to fix this situation except tell me that I have to support him. I want to help him but it is so frustrating to help him when he refuses to understand how it is affecting me as well...He has cialis...I ask him to take it because he also suffers from erectile disfunction at times... he barely takes it...but wants me to compromise myself...am I being selfish???
as it,s a matter of relation i feel its worth to seek professional advice , and try doing ''stop and start ''method may be it can help him stay aroused for longer period ... .... you cant expect good advice online since this kind of problems often requires counselling
I to have this issue. It turns out the more I have read that if he is "smaller" down there this is more common.
My husband has a ok length of penis but it is very thin. Not much thicker than my thumb. The glands are at the tip. If he has a larger penis the head is larger and the glands have more surface area to be spread out.
But if it is very thin like my husbands the nerves are much closer together and he will be very sensitive down there. This makes him cum in a few seconds.
I went out and bought a strapon for my husband to wear. He nor I was into it at first , but now we both really enjoy it. Don't let these stupid societal hangups keep you from enjoying sex. Its just a dildo. Most women have one in their top drawer. You would let you husband use that on you right?
We can use different size dildos. He can last for hours. We start out with the strapon. Then after I have cum tow or three times he takes it off.
I'm sooo wet usually from the strap on play that he can't last more than a few strokes in me. I'm happy and so is he. I finally get to cum.
It's much more personal with the strap on than just a dildo because he is the one doing the thrusting. He sets the pace. He gets to rub and touch you all over.
I get what I need and so does he. I highly recommend any couples to put down the society taboo that is associated with a strap on in the bed room. Good luck !
Have him wear a condom; it cuts down the sensation quite a bit for him which should allow for extended intercourse. You, on the other hand, shouldn't know the difference.
Have him wear a condom; it cuts down the sensation quite a bit for him which should allow for extended intercourse. You, on the other hand, shouldn't know the difference.
its something men cant control..