how to stay in love with a bipolar person

It is good to see others like me out there and to hear from the other side of the relationship. I am 33 yrs old and have been diagnosed Bipolar1 since I was 23. It is genetic in my case. I would be happy to answer any questions about  living this way and in a relationship.

MY daughter in law is really nice one day and the next is as nasty as nasty. She also sleeps a lot in the day time, spends hours on her appearance to go out, lies about what she does and what my son does and says. Could she be bi polar?

She could be. The only definite way to knw is if she is diagnosed by a professional.

I've been with my bipolar girlfriend for over 12 years now and its been a hell of a ride. Both of us a drug addicts in recovery except she often relapses and before that happens pushes me away and brakes up with me to make it easier for her to have an excuse to go and f**k herself up. When she is well she is a loving wonderful partner but these periods never last longer then a few months. I am at the end of my rope . Have been clean for 8 years and started taking sleeping pills and tranx just tosurvive through our raugh paches. Tonights out of the blue, although I have noticed a cghange in her several days ago, she started a stupid argument , then told me we were finigshed and she stormed out to get waisted. Unfortunately drugs send her into psychosis but I was unable to stop her as she was treathening to call the police if I don;'t get out of her way. This relationship has become unbearable and I am looking to leave but I am afraid how I am going to handle the divorse as I have no close friends or a support system. I am scared I will slide back into drug addiction and eventually off myself as I can not see a way out. I am about to go back to Uni to finish my Honours degree and I don't think I can cope with stydy while my world is falling apart. Sorry to ramble on but I am worried scared and friendless and have been contemplating suicide. I'm in desperate need of guidiance. Would appreciate any suggestions. Thanks

Married 15 years to a Women with Bipolar, we have three teens, I should have divorced her, and raised the Kids, it was so unfair what they had to go through, it doesn't get better, and one day she wont come back from the Anger, and it gets bad. My wife Has been in treatment for 5 years and Just when you think it is going to be alright all hell breaks loose, If things go as they should Statistically Speaking She will divorce me when the Kids are Gone, and I will be the most hated person, it will all have been my fault, but even that will be good for her for she will then have a excuse for the reason she is the way she is, she will stay on treatment, And I will be approaching my 50's alone and having nothing because I stayed with her to support her, No the statistics are against you run while you can !!!!!

i have to call BS here. Ive been beaten up enough emotionally over the last three years,,, I dont thing ANY understanding does any good. RUN RUN RUN!!!!

I have got beaten up my Bipolar girlfriend both emotionally and physically several times and i cant even touch her because she would go to the authorities and tell everyone and i will be the bad person.

You cannot be with a Bipolar person, its very traumatic you will go insane !

Thanks guys for being there .. i have been searching for years trying to find what is going on with the only girl i love for real. we met 6 years ago and i've seen hell during these years. she just keep creating problems from no where and leave me with pain and sorrow without understanding whats goin on!! we broke up like many many times , some times for weeks others for months but she always come back and says that she is sorry and i just surrender to her. i forget every thing with her like there never been any thing wrong. i cant imagine my life without her. i love her with all my feelings and senses and she is all i want in my life. i cant get into any other relationships with other girls or even look to others. she got my heart and soul. we broke up like a month ago because she took a side suddenly and care less so i gave her her space a week later she came back to blame me that i'm the one who took a side and didnt care !!!! she drives me crazy and i dont know what to do with her ?!!!!! i'm really dying here guys .. i cant sleep and all the time thinking about her. i want her so bad and i need her by my side. i'm so helpless and i'm ready to do anything in the world to get her back. what can i do? nowadays she is just staying away from me and waiting me to take the first step and talk to her. but each time i'm doing this and she flips on me. i dont wanna be weak and do so cause she dont like weak people and on the other hand she is very stubborn. how can i end this cold war? how can i get her back to her mind? actually i dont know what to say more .. her picture just keep messing with my mind now, my heart beats faster, my breaths gettin heavy and i feels like crying. i miss her like crazy .. i miss her like if there is a vital part of me missing . i'm losing myself but i dont wanna lose her. help me guys please

I'm pretty shocked at most of the posts on here. Not denying bipolar makes relationships a breeze but I wouldn't say we are all evil. You get nice people with bipolar and you get not so nice people with bipolar. We are just people not monsters. If your patient and understanding that the person needs space and can deal with the inevitable baggage cos you just love them that much then it can still work out. Me and my bf are both bipolar and are constantly pushing and pulling each other away but we would never dream of hurting each other in fact the thought of how our conditions can hurt each other even when were not is often a cause for conflinct. At the end of the day though it still feels worth it for the both of us and even after the biggest blazing row we always kiss and make up. Obviously everyone is different and I know how maniplative some bipolar people can get (my ex) but please don't brand us as complete no goes. That kind of stigma is what makes things even more difficult for sufferers.

wow.. this thread has just made me think I'm not the only one in the world who is dealing with this.

Bipolar type II - do you really wanna get in to that?
- do you care to be cursed like you never being cursed before over stupid sh*t?
- do you mind all of your neighbors to hate you? because she is going to scream over nothing (most of the times you aren't even gonna be involved) I promise she will. be ready for the police knocking on the door.
- you are going to give a lot.. most likely you aren't going get anything in return (be blessed if she even says "thank you")
- she hates you.. no no wait!! now she loves you.. things
- cheating possibility

good luck folks!

I tried and after a year, I could not deal with it any more.  It was killing me.  I was truly and deeply in love.  But I was not willing to accept how harmful it was to my own health in stress and depression.  My blood pressure keep rising and rising and my doctor told me I was going to die.  Meds keep my BP down but my partner's condition was stronger than my meds and finally for my own health I had to leave.

you'll get used to it, I've dealt w. the same stuff... ALL girls have a lil' crazy in them...

Wow this is so crazy no pun intended but Im going through so many of the same things.The violent outbursts..and swearing like a
trucker. I love her to dealth and I don't want to leave her but I have an Autistic son and with her outbursts and issues that she goes through daily..I think is a bad influence on my son..I don't know what to do I want to help her but yet everything I do is wrong.I bring
her issue to light and she just tells me well I can't stand you either..so I just turn around and walk away..just I would add my own personal issue.

My Name is collin and ive been with my bipolar gf for 6 months. at first it was so easy to deal with but the past week she has been saying i smuther her and i am up her ass. but when i try to get out of her hair and give her space she gets pissed at me and says she is done with me . when we fight we fight over stupid sh*t.. nothing big at all idk what to do how do i react when she tells me to leave her alone  and when she gets mad at me ,, im so in love with this girl and i never wana loose her .. so someone please help me

Hi all,

I am so careful writing on forums like this. I find that we have learned so many terms and mental matters that we perhaps relate any different characteristic between two people by naming it some "mental disorder of some kind".  Blame in relationships goes both ways.

I also realize that I address these issues on a moment where its perhaps too late and hence see this as some healing. Healing towards renewal or closure, I cannot really tell at this point.

I read allot of the comments with people in exactly the same scenario and watching comments like: "I am glad not to be alone with this matter" or simply uttering their frustrations. Something I am doing myself at this very moment.

My initial questions are:

·          How far do we go defining what is related BP disorder in compared with "normal not compatible characters" in a relationship atmosphere?

·          I was always found mental disorders to be a grey zone. Especially if its light and not in an extreme mode, hence easier to diagnose. I also believe that we all have some "mental disorder" characteristics.  

My final question is:

 ·          If I give some details of the patters of my ex-girlfriend, would any one of you have the experience to say: "That's it"

I see many similar stories in this forum which I can relate to. I there for want to qualify my attempt by advising what symptoms I have seen in the past 2 1/2 years. Then ask for advice if it really turns out to a BP matter (which I am almost certain off)

Before I close this eventually first discussion thread I just want to make something clear.

I will make comments which are honest, comments which will be filtered by my own "short comings" and perhaps my inability to deal with critical situations. I don't like to point fingers and say: Its her own fault" You don't that when you truly love some. The ultimate goal is to be with someone who you care and love for. And perhaps understand what's best in the end.

I am a man who is in a frustrated helpless situation. And trying for as much as possible to find the right path for some resolution. Some understanding.

My ex did tell me that she had BP in some kind and other issues. I didn't handle that information very well at that moment. Based on some helplessness and also busy trying to work on things to get better.

Looking forward to you comments. As I have said earlier, there is more to come if that is welcome here. As you can see I do need some support.

Krgds

Eric