I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

No, this wasn't the first time. I first had it when I had a relationship with someone about 3 years ago. Long story short, she had a borderline disorder and I started feeling bad because she had said some offensive and shocking things to me. Maybe this wasn't the thing that caused it, but I remembered feeling VERY sick. I had to look away from her and let go of her hand to feel at ease again, or else it wouldn't stop or even become worse, so it really stood in the way for our relationship. Two years ago I had another relationship with someone, which made me feel nervous like hell again (trembling, heavy heart beating, nausea,...). But when I took initiative to kiss her for the first time, I don't recall having this feeling again. Then again this relationship only lasted for about a week, and she never took things serious. When I was a bit drunk during vacation I kissed a girl, later we kept on seeing each other during this week of vacation and stayed rather close, except for the kissing. So It only happened to me when I took things really serious, and knew the other person did as well. So I had a 2 year single period, not really because I was trying to ignore the feeling, or to make sure it didn't happen again, but mostly just because I didn't find the right girl. Again, I dated with my girlfriend yesterday again and It was great, we slept together and I didn't feel any nausea except for a bit in the beginning. It all soothes away when things get physical, because I really enjoy it, and so does she. Maybe it's because I don't take it all TOO serious and just try to enjoy it for as long as it's lasting? I don't tend to see relationships as something to live for, but something to live WITH. How about your point of view? How did your relationship start? If you're willing to share your story, I'd be glad to try and help. Cheers!

I think there is the key, taking the thing serious.. My relationship started just for fun you know.. I knew him when I was a child then I don't know how things went, I didn't see him for like 6 years and here we are meeting just occasionally. Than we started talking on msn and things like that, after a little we started dating. I wasn't in love with him it happened after a while. You know that's the thing that confuses me the most.. I'm not so in love with him like some people OH MY GOD I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT HIM,of course I love him, I adore him he is great with me, but I'm not so excited and still this happens to me.. I had a relationship before, it was a short one and I didn't feel this.A month ago I felt really bad for a week, that's when I started searching for people who feel this way. I got sick I started throwing up everyday for no reason, thinking bad, everything was looking bad for me.. I didn't went out with my bf because I knew I would throw up, I wasn't going out with my friends because just the idea of seeing my bf was killing me. And now I feel very good when I think of that week I don't know what happened, what made me feel that way. Anyway I think I'm gonna try this not taking things to serious more like fun..Wish you the best!

hey im 16 and it has allmost been a yera know since i have had this feeling it started one night out at a pizza place with some friends after a robotics competition wich continued the next day i was ok till we were aboout to leave and i sudenly felt really sick know it happens every time y am going to see someone (friend or not) and it makes me unable to do anything specially eats as straight after i vomit and its not nice vomiting in public mi biggest problem is that i have never had a girlfriend not even a date but every time i think about the girl i like or a girl i have a serious conversation about anything just serious i find mi self unable to eat or to sleep and it has reacently only become worse as now i cant do anything with anyone thats not fammily and even then i feel uneasy knowing that im not alone is good but further help would be apreciated

I'm sorry to hear about your problem. I've got this only happening with my boyfriend. But the main thing here is that u have to work with your self. talk to yourself, relax, don't take it with stress it will only make it worse. I don't know about your friends maybe u don't feel comfortable with them try something like calling a friend at your house and staying, talking or smth like that. I don't know what else to say cause I haven't been to a psychologist or something like that. WISH YOU LUCK!

Hey, I am an 18-year old guy with similar symptons. I've had this problem for 4,5 years and I haven't talked about this to anyone, ever. Tonight I decided to search through the web and I run into this. And darn I'm happy I decided to do this. My story is a little bit different than your's. I found only one post with similar stuff, but here goes... I dated my first girlfriend when I was 14. Both of us hadn't dated anyone before, so we were quite excited. I still remember our first kiss like it happened yesterday... heh... After a week of our first kiss she came to my place. We watched a movie, and after the movie I suggested we'd relax. I laid down on the couch and she climbed on me. After a while we started kissing. ...then she had to leave. I accompanied her about half the way she had to her home, and then she left. When I began my way back to my place my testicles hurt - a lot! I didn't have any stomach pain, just my testicles. The first thing I thought was "okay... I haven't been to the bathroom for a while." But taking a piss felt impossible. Like... after half an hour - or even more - I managed to take a piss. And my testicles were really, really sore all the night. We weren't close to each other after this event. I would've wanted to, but she saw me pretty much only with her best friend. Our relationship came to an end some time later. Funnily, not because of me feeling sick, but my girlfriend. She suffered from panic attacks. But now when I come to think of it... maybe she had similar illness as I (even though she's a girl and doesn't have testicles). The next girlfriend I had was... when I was nearly 16. We were very close to each other the day we started our relationship. We kept hugging and snogging. And it didn't take too long before I noticed that my testicles were hurt. Again! Then I thought it can't be a coincidence. There got to be something wrong... This relationship lasted longer and we were close to each other frequently. And every time my testicles were killing me. And of course I didn't want to tell about this, so that I wouldn't make her feel bad, because she makes me feel bad... Then this relationship came to an end as well. The next girlfriend I had was soon after I turned 18. And again. My testicles were killing me after a moment of kissing with the girl. This time I was aware it might appear, and it did... I tried using the bathroom if the reason would be in taking a piss, but no. Taking a piss was just impossible. Now that relationship is over, and I wonder if I can ever date anyone without having this killing feeling... Thank you if you read my post. I haven't shared my story with anyone ever before. And doing it anonymously is... soothing. What I've come to think of the reason for this is: I want the relationship to work so desperatedly that my body reacts. I also get jealous quite easily. I don't want to lose the girl, and it makes me feel ill. But why the illness appears in my testicles? No idea. Thanks again. This helped a lot!

ok i am very young i have issue when ever im in a serious relationship the issue is i get very sick in the mornings naushis bathroom issues number 2 this has caused me to miss some school last year i was in a relationship with this girl and it was my first girlfriend i was very excited the next day i fel sick and probably spent 30 mins in the bathroom when we broke and i got over her it never hapened over the summer then when school started again i had little non serious relationships i never had a problem until not to long ago i started likeing this girl and now my issues are back i will do anything to get rid of them except leave her thanks for listening and please help

hey you guy and girls. i am eighteen and i have been going through this problem since i was thirteen. i get this issue with every girl i have ever gone out with and for me it usually happened at after a week and it was so bad that i couldnt handle it and had to give up. the girl i am going out with now i have been with for two years. the girl i am with now i am absolutly in love with. i absolutly adore her and everything she does. well my problem started happening with her about a year into our relationship. it started with this nervous feeling that i would get before a dirt bike race or before a dance competition and i know that that feeling starts everything because it has happened to me with girls numerious times. well then i tried not to think about it but i couldnt because i would run all sorts of scenarios in my mind of what i am going to have to do to break up with her. then that is where it got bad. before with all the other girls i would just break up with them right then and there but with her i just couldnt i couldnt live with out this girl and i told my self that i would do everything i could to get through this and i have and i am still working on it. i got this feeling really really bad for a month straight. like i would constantly feel like throwing up and my stomach would constantly hurt and i became very very depressed and always felt like i wasnt living life like i was watching a movie and it was hell. i couldnt think straight i would cry at all hours of the day and this took a toll on my body. i had lost twenty pounds and i started looking anerexic. well the thing that changed everything was that i was in the grocery store with my mom one day cause she was trying to get my mind off the issue which was impossible well she met one of her old friends and stood there in the isle and talked to her for a hour and that whole time that feeling was just building up and up because i had nothing to get it off my mind and i literally felt like i was going to die and i couldnt see anything like my vision just went blanck because i was so concentrated in my mind on thinking and thinking and in my mind i said fuck it i am going to have to give up and break up with her and then all of a sudden my mind went blanck and it went away. soon as it did i was like hell no i am not and so i went home and studied for hours on my feeling and what could cause it. during it i noticed that i hadnt gotten the feeling and then thats when it hit me so i thought hey maybe thinking about it brings it up so i did all sorts of things to get it off my mind like to totally keep my brain off it like play video games or masterbate and it really helped. it started going away gradually and gradually and then i would have days where i would feel totally inlove and happy and then it turned to weeks and it was just like before. now it has been a year later. i am still dealing with the feeling because i am trying to figure out what brings it on and everything and so i have been thinking about it alot lately. but you guys trust me the feeling does go away. you just have to find the confidence in your mind to say i am staying with her through thick and thin and if u truly love them you will stay with them. i know this feeling is hell you guys but to get through it you have to take it in baby steps. the quickest way for me to get that feeling out of my body and to stop thinking about breaking up with my girl friend i would close my eyes and say in my mind "stop, stop, i love this girl and i am in control" i know it sounds stupid you guys but it really helps and after this i would try to sing a song that was catchy so that that thought wouldnt come back for a while. and i just kept doing this every day and the feelings became less and less and became eradicated until now. i still get that feeling you guys just not nearly as bad but iit is a learning curve. right now it is getting a little bad like i am constantly thinking about her so i dont have as much fun with my friends and stuff and i am feeling a little like i am not living sometimes and i dont want to do as much fun stuff as i use to do. but i am working on those things again. you just have to forget it enough so that you will forget it forever. i think this feeling starts in our head. like when love fades like those chemicals that get released stop because you become use to them like she becomes family like your mother or sibling. like you are no longer in love with her but you love her if that makes sense. well i think because none of us have gotten past that point we dont know what it is like and we dont know what to expect. so since we lost that honey moon stage( stage in a relationship where love chemicals faded) we think we dont love those girls then we get the feeling because that nervouse feeling is linked to our deepest part of the brain and that feeling comes when we think we are in great danger like skydiving or taking a test for some. well since we have our subconcience saying that we love them but we think we dont and that maybe that is the end we get that nervouse feelings cause we are getting ready to do something crazy. then when that happens we start to think and think and think constanly about that issue and thats where we start to feel depressed and like we arent living. and all this tgoether gives us our stomack pain and loss of sleep and appetite loss and everything. this is what i think and have gathered over the years. i do think it is a phase we go through and the only way to get through it is to go through it otherwise we will just keep getting it. for a while there you guys i thought i didnt love her like i had no emotional feeling for a month and then after i slowly started to get rid of it i became more in love and now i am in even more in love with her than i have ever before and i am planning and have since the first month of our relationship to marry this girl. by the way you guys i thought about killing my self just so i didnt have to break up with her and hurt her so if you guys are that determined you can hit me up on the eee mail pbnjest2010(at sign)rocketmail(dot)com. srry i had to make it complicated they wont let me put our eee mails down. i am not a weirdo you guys i just wanna help because i know when i went through it i wish i had some one to talk to me that also went through it. i hope all of you guys tick with the peole you love because the feelings do go away.

Hey guest, haha, it's funny because your issue is totally different from what we're all talking about. Your balls being sore and all, that's just your testicles saying: GET LAID! Don't worry about it too much. Normally when you're turned on from watching porn and such this is associated with ejaculating, but when you're in a relationship, the timespan is way longer, so you're actually turned on for quite a long time while your brain is enjoying this, but your hormones are eventually all building up to the moment in which you actually start to have sex. It's just a side-effect when you're turned on, your ballsac presses itself towards your own body and kinda acts like a muscle, all in preparation for sexual activity. What you can temporarily do is masturbate after you've visited your girlfriend and afterwards you'll notice they won't feel any sore anymore. Hopefully this solves your problem, cheers!

Funny thing is that i felt sick around every single man that i dated. EVERY ONE! the feeling with time would pass, but would come back. Its kind of a "ewww you make me sick, im going to vomit" feeling. The person begins to annoy me, and i start finding little flaws and eventually back out of the relationship. Anyway, my mother told me that she had that 2 and learned to suck it up. Well i finally met a man who did NOT cause me to feel this way ever. guess what, i married him. i think, its a weird subconscious way of telling us that the person is now right, back off.

Just cause you feel sick around someone does not mean you should leave them, just be calm and take deep breathes through your mouth Its usually a smell that triggers it, or the thought of doing something we arent prepared to do. So just relax and try not to think of it. Its all in your mind

I'm 31 and have had plenty experience dating, also been married before.I've only encountered what I'm feeling now once before.I started dating a girl 2 months ago, and I find myself falling head over heels.I thought everything was going great and we we're spending alot of time together and really having fun, then out of nowhere she says she wants to slow down a little.That completely shattered my confidence, and it makes you realize that you have insecurities, the fact that the person you're falling for doesn't feel quite the same way really eats you up.I realize thats really what being lovesick is.I had to realize falling in love isn't usually the fairy tale you may have believed and if you're significant other is worth it you'll find a way to deal with you're insecurities, be confident, and try to win her back.I'd just be happy if i could find something that would alleviate the nausea

i have had this feeling to the fullest...it started as feeling sick after sex..then it got worse and i began to actually throw up when i thought bout her..after 6 great months of love..we broke up..5 months later we start txting again (now) and last night...we were tlking...i got that feeling..and then threw up...and happened this morning too...its terrible. i wish i knew how to stop it...the best way i can describe it is that my stomach feels like a bag full of air..then all the air gets sucked out...and i puke. i still love her...i always will..she was my first true love and first person i had sex with and i dont want to worry about getting sick when i see her..and i do agree with the people that said its in ur head...it is...sometimes i am able 2 zone it out..but it is REALLY hard and doesnt always work. please...someone give me some answers

i have had this feeling to the fullest...it started as feeling sick after sex..then it got worse and i began to actually throw up when i thought bout her..after 6 great months of love..we broke up..5 months later we start txting again (now) and last night...we were tlking...i got that feeling..and then threw up...and happened this morning too...its terrible. i wish i knew how to stop it...the best way i can describe it is that my stomach feels like a bag full of air..then all the air gets sucked out...and i puke. i still love her...i always will..she was my first true love and first person i had sex with and i dont want to worry about getting sick when i see her..and i do agree with the people that said its in ur head...it is...sometimes i am able 2 zone it out..but it is REALLY hard and doesnt always work. please...someone give me some answers (just made my account..thats why theres a double post

I have this feeling for a time now.. and I just wanted to say to you that it's really just in your head. I have this feeling mostly when I go out with my friends he is with his friends and we see each other. that's when it gets me so haaaard. Anyway I've had a period when it happened everyday we went out but it just went away I think because I convinced myself that nothing will break me up of him, it's a crap and I will fight it. Be happy that you have her be confident, kill it, fight with it. I think it is the only way, because it really made me psychologically ill when I kept thinking why is it happening, I can't stop it ect. Hope it helped! wish u the best

I had the same problem too, and I still do. I'm a heterosexual female, almost 20 and every guy I dated made me physically sick. I met this one guy a could years ago that I'm still close with but I'm not seeing. We hooked up a few times in the past and it was like magic. I felt completely comfortable with him with no sickness at all. The problem is he's not interested in seeing me, so it's back to the drawing board. I hope you all have better luck, but I wanted to give you the hope that when you find someone you truly love, your sickness won't exist with them.