I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

Oh my gosh I thought I was the only one! I am recently out of highschool and I've been in that naive infatuation 'love' before and I never had a problem like this, but there is this new girl. I'm not out of my mind about her but love her in a more down to earth way and we've never fought after a year and a half and it's going great. But everytime I think about her I get sick.. When I think of what I will do about her in my future. It's gotten to the point where I even wish I wasn't with her anymore. I hate this feeling. Have any of you grown out of this phase yet? I'm generally pretty chill and anxiety about the future does make sense but I am even sick when I am around her unless I'm distracted and doing something in the moment. It's starting to get to be a big deal. If I think of her while I am going to bed I get sick and can't sleep =/ Oh well.. Good to see that others share my strife

Gapz, I literally have the same thing as you. I feel sick around her, but I love her so much, and when we are about to have sex I feel so nauseous, but if I manage to fight the sickness in my stomach and we begin to have sex, im perfectly fine. And thats what bothers me the most, that I enjoy the sex but I feel sick to my stomach beforehand. But this post comforts me, knowing im not alone, I was terribly worried I was the only one with this problem. I am 17.

dudeee! so great to know this! lol. yeah...sex is GREAT lol...its always good but i just get sick...it sucks...and yeah if i fight it off it goes away but usually comes back...unless i puke then it goes away for the rest of the day

Yes, this happens to me now........ Im a junior in HS in every time I see my "crush" or prom date I feel like crap or when we hang out... I am really good at fighting off throwing up but I feel awful... I never want to go to eat with her ever because I know I will feel like crap... I think some of the reason why is because we havent done a lot... we just kiss and stuff but we need to spice up the relationship more... I want to but she shows no signs but my friend who is her bestfriend says she wants to spice up our relationship... I feel like shit every time we hang so it gets so ANNOYING... I wanna hook up bad but she shows no hints so IDK what the heck to do... Its terrible idk what to do but just shake my head and wish to god it would go away

I feel thE same way. I know I love my boyfriend but we had a fight where I got hurt and I'm not used to being in a position to get hurt. Since than (about a week ago) I don't feel the same feelings instead I feel sick around him and like I need to leave to make it stop, but as soon as I get home I miss him and want to see him until I'm actually with him and get the sick feeling. I know I love him and I can't stand the thought of ending things because I know it's not what I really want. Thinking about it all mskes me feel even more sick. I just want a way to get past this so I can stop hurting him and get back to how I normally feel. Could it possibly anxiety? :'(

Also it's hard to look forward to hanging out like o used to. I used to go thru my day waiting for the minute I could hang out with him because it was so amazing and now I can't look forward to it if I know I'm gonna be feeling sick the whole time.

i have been going through the same thing in my life with my girl , i feel anxious and very nervous all out of knowhere one day right before i started feeling like this about her and feeling terrible with my life i had got really sick with the flu or whatever it was and changed everything in my life including my feelings for her and what i wanted to do i also planned on marrying her and have always told her that and she wanted the same but a few days before i got sick and started feeling like this i was saying how i didnt want to go away to the military and wanted to have a life and kids with her and she obv felt the same then i got reallly sick with whatever i had and then my feelings changed and felt really sad everyday not wanting to live through the day cause every min was so bad and i felt terrible and after a few more weeks i started to feel better about my life and her and could feel so much love for her and then it hit me again and i dont want to lose her but i feel like its the only way i can feel not as stressed but i dont want to see her with anyone els just want these feelings to go away i just dont know what to do anymore i also dont want to let her go cause i feel that this will just happen again with somone els and they just wont be as supportive as her and as she is being now idk what to do and im getting desperate and thinking about not living through this anymore and just looking for ways people have got over it things they have done if if could help it would be great  thanks alot and im 21 and have never delt or felt with this or does it run in my family .

@ ty2323. Honey we are all on it, you should be strong and face it, its not easy for me too.. I have the same thing some days it goes away and I have great time, when just BOOM it shows up and makes me confuse, Do I love him or not, is he the right person for me.. but I know I love him, I know nobody else would understand this thing as he does because neither do I. Just take it easy, think positive, love her because she deserves it. Wish you the best.

  After reading these past 8 pages of post I have realized that you (all genders embodied) have pretty much gone through the same thing. Although I am only 18 years of age, I have gone through this multiple times and have always asked myself why it happens. I've tried different things and been with different people throughout my life, but before I continue I don't expect this topic to be taken all that seriously considering it's placement and the fact that it's on the internet.   I'm not exactly asking you guys to believe me or even toy with the fact, but instead try to perceive it in a different manner. Take the trait of love for instance, something that can't be defined as to truly what it is. All that we really know about this feeling is that it lets us feel about, and for another person, and we gather this trait through a mental or physical attraction to one another, sometimes both. Now this is how I see things and I don't expect to be agreed with, because this is how I have solved it for myself and I have got the feeling under control.  The fact that you "love someone to death" and it's possible you do, also puts another feeling within the mind. I always try and associate the feeling with that of a individual who has done a specific drug for a long amount of time. This feeling is the feeling of absence, and what comes after absence is withdraw. I'm not saying what you are going through is withdraw by any means, but instead is the fact that yes you have that person and you love them to death, but there's always the possibility you could lose them or they don't feel the same.   I believe a read a post about feeling horrible before sex and then when it's occurring you feel fine? Well what you felt although she was there physically before sex, your mind can't be sure or not whether shes always going to be there, in fear of losing her in any possible way. When you had sex the mind creates a stew of different things, and at that time you felt like you had her and in a sense could keep her forever, but it always goes back to the same solid state of sickness just as before.   In blunter terms what I'm trying to say is, the mind is the cause for the problem and it is by no means a physical trait. You are not at fault by any means. What you all feel is very real and there is a way to get it to go away. In my opinion through my own experience this is just the feeling of not being able to have that person anymore, even though you may have them physically at the time, your mentality is that they always might not be there, and it runs over and over and over.   I'm not saying any of you are wrong, or that it could be something medically related, but the mind is a extremely powerful thing and we need to learn how to read it. Try and think about why you feel what you feel for that person, and put the term of absence in place. Either it will work or it won't, everyone's mind works differently. I hope this helps some of you and help you to look at it in a different way. I was stuck once in a situation with this very same feeling, it's just mind over matter.  Also sorry about the jumbled together quick response, I would of gone more in depth so it could of made a bit more sense, but I'm rather limited on time. See it this way or not, I hope it gives insight. 

This is also a sign of minor anxiety, as your stomach is closely tied to your neural system. You are nervous, so try and simmer ;). The above was the more in depth answer to myself.

Hey, I used to have VERY similar problems to you. I used to only get sick around my girlfriend. Most of the time it was during intimate times we would have. When I went to the psychiatrist he helped so much. I later ended up finding out my true colors (think rainbow). It turns out I was gay! Who would of known all this time. Homosexuality is a more serious affliction than you may already think. There are many side effects that you might get. For me I will get sick in the presence of a woman if I think they are attracted to me. Another very peculiar effect is that it will sometimes change my perception of females. They will begin to look more hideous, but I don't think you are that far along yet. I hope that you too will find your true colors and I hope that this reply was most helpful!  

I thought I was the only one!I am 17 and had struggled so much with nausea, to the point where I have vomited over the concept of dating a boy. I am always fine once I'm there with him and have liked him from the moment I met him 18 months ago! But ever since I found out he was interested in me and asked me out, I can't even call him on the phone without wanting to vomit! Its holding me back so much in my relationship with him, and has happened before with another guy. With both guys I have managed to work through it enough to see them on a date, but I can't even commit to further dates because I'm terrified that I'll throw up.One reason I considered for this sickness happening was that I didn't feel under control and didn't know what they expected from me. Its such a horrible, persistent thing that I dread even running into him, even though I have feelings for him and am able to text, talk, fb and think about him without problems. Its only when he tries to arrange dates or a serious relationship with him, do I feel so sick I vomit. TO COMBAT THIS I took control and arranged a spontaneous date so that I didn't have time to think and feel sick. This worked but I just can't will myself to fight the horrible feeling anymore. I'm scared it will continue with every relationship I try to form. I think it's important to recognise when you are strong enough to deal with it fully, to think positively and realise you are not alone! My advice is to take control and do what you want before your body can protest! Because from experience, if I am with him and feel the sickness bubble up, i REFUSE to let myself vomit on him!!! I know this will work out for me in the end and you too.

I have the same problem. Ive talked to alot of my friends and even my girlfriend about this. They have all said it is most likely anxiety. Do we know for sure, no. But sometimes if something bad happens, or if we are getting intimate, i get sick. It is bad, but ive lived to deal with it. Are there any methods I can personaly use to calm down to make this stop happening?

Just reading that so many other individuals have the same problem as I do is reassuring.  I'm 18, and have been struggling with nausea since I had my first boyfriend at age 15.  Whenever I was on the way to see him or around him, I felt sick to my stomach and my heart pounded.  As much as I wanted to see him, being around him was never enjoyable because i felt so sick.  Whenever we'd go out to eat, I'd get sick and have to run to the bathroom and vomit, and even at school dances where I was distracted, I still got sick.  After the first time I got sick, I explained to him what was going on, and he was very understanding.  We kept things more low-key, which helped.  Also, being around my closest friends or in a group of people helped, as well as just hanging out at my house where i was more comfortable.  We broke up eventually for other reasons, and I started liking other people.  I'm fine when it's just talking, but if I think that they like me back, I begin to feel sick talking with them about even unimportant things, and don't like making plans to date or hang out because i always worry i'll get sick.  It's made it very hard to have a relationship with someone, but with those I've cared about, I told them that I have this problem and they've been understanding.  however, i still feel sick around guys that i like, which isn't fun, but i'm hoping that as I get older, it'll get better.  Does anyone know any tips?  My only tips are - keep things relaxed, and try to distract yourself, whether it's with a movie, or hanging out with groups of friends instead of 1-on-1 all the time.

Hey, i have the exact same problem, i've had 2 serious relationships in my life and both i have felt sick through the whole time..i'm a girl and all my friends are guys, i put it down to the fact that i'm not used to being romantic with guys..sex in relationships is really hard for me but casual sex with my best friend is the best sex i ever have...i dont know what to do either...:(