I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

I feel the same way and I'm a guy who loves a girl very very much and I've had some problems but this is easily the worst I feel exactly the same I don't know the answer but I'm just glad that I'm not the only one with this problem!! =|

Does it happen to you that when you are with your boyfriend or girlfriend and with your friends you don't feel well.. especially when you meet him at a party for example, that's when you feel really baaaaaaaaaad. Please someone answer! please

I mean I have that nausea and all of what everyone here is talking about, but the moment that I mentioned above is when it makes me really really sick.

seriously guys? i am pretty sure these are simply just feelings of love. Just enjoy you time and dont worry about why or what they are. They'll go away soon enough, mine lasted a year.... Time will tell you always. Promise.

i have this problem, same as everyone else and have been watching this thread for a while. i just got back from the doctors and was told my symptoms match up to functional dispepsia.  i hope this helps some people :)

I having exactly the same problem!!! It's nice to know that it's not just me going through this problem. For a while it did go away, but now she's leaving for study:( I think it's started up again because of this, I don't want her to leave, but I don't feel too upset. I think it's because I'm blocking it out and it come through in anxiety. I've been looking around and Kava capsules are suppose to help in anxiety, they're herbal and over the counter drug. I'm going to give it a go and see if it works, I'll reply with my progress.

heyy everyone i myself went through this horrible feeling me and my gf went out for two years and like all of you i too loved my ex gf extremely. i know exactly what all of you are feeling and i battled this feeling for a year while i was with her and because of it it put me through the deepest depression of my entire life... that whole year i felt as if i was in a dream with no emotion towards anything. well i can tell you that this feeling does get better as long as you keep trying and finding new ways to help one thing that helped was when ever it came around which was always i would in my mind tell that feeling to stop and try to make my mind blank... and do activities to keep you and your mind busy and excercise alot trust me it might suck but it definably helps. if you guys or girls need any help hit me up on my email which is my username. but uhh i am only 19 but very smart i went through this feeling when i was seventeen and i have understood most of it. idk for all of you but for me it came because i was new to love and had no idea how to cope with it and i became so worried to loose her that i would worry about that all the time if she was happy and it even got so bad that we stopped going to parties cause i didnt want her to get drunk and kiss another guy which she wouldnt have done but my mind allowed every possablity for her leaving to come in even though most of those events were 100% against her morals but i thought them any ways. dwelling on those things or the even thought brought the butterfly feeling you feel in your gut that makes you feel like throwing up all the time thats your mind preparing you for a painful experience because you are thinking it so to get rid of that feeling dont think of it keep you mind busy and what helped for me was xbox, working out extremely hard and masturbation and reading these posts cause i too thought i was the only one in the world having this problem. i know odd things lol but they some how brought my mind back to normal i guess becuase i was no longer able to concentrate on her and those feelings. the more you dwell on them the more depressed you get and since i was like that for so long she fell out of love because i was no longer the fun party animal lets go have fun me i didnt wanna do anything but lay in bed with her i know boring but for me it brought salvation to my mind and she just couldnt understand that.... and i know you guys think those girls are the only ones that you will ever love just saying if you break up but they arent... i thought the same. i know the heart ache is hell afterwards just as bad as the feeling but after a while you will start allowing yourself to look at other people it just takes time trust me time heals all wounds never got that till i got past my ex. but seriously every one i know how this is like your personal hell you are going through and ive been through almost every problem and i can help you with almost anything... but email me and we can talk from there. thanks for listening.

I get the same feeling with my boyfriend.  He stayed over last night and I ended up throwing up like 5 times :-  I've read in other places that the feelings we get are due to anxiety.  I will probably end up going to a doctor.  I know they have a pill that stops nausea and a different one that helps with anxiety.  I will take either if that means I get to look at my boyfriend and not feel like I'm going to be sick.  It sucks cause they guy is perfect for me and just the smell of him gets my stomach churning.

I am actually way too excited and astounded to find this amount of people with a similar problem. Through reading almost all the responses, I have related to a lot of them except I am not actually dating this girl. However, whenever I think about her my stomach just churns like no tomorrow and I have lost weight because of my loss of appetite. My nausea is so bad that I have puked at school and at home simply because of either talking to her or thinking about her. I don't know what to do and this feeling is almost unbearable.  When I didn't know the cause of this I went to my doctor and basically just said I'm not eating properly and they determined nothing was wrong with me after doing an ultrasound and other tests. I know now what causes these nauseous feelings and whatnot  but I really don't want to tell my parents because it's kind of pathetic. Please help.

I am a girl, but I have felt this way. It started as soon as I realized I wanted things to be serious between my boyfriend and I. I got so nervous and sick whenever I thought about him because of the responsibility involved in asking so much of that person and realizing love isn't just giving or just taking. As soon as I settled into the idea of being so in debt to the wonderful man I'm in love with, I got more secure and happy again. I'm happy to face whatever either of us has to face together.

You know, I'm also shocked yet relieved it's not only me. Let me start from the very beginning. It was 2010 a very rough year for me but I started this book, when I started writing it one thing led to another and now's there's pictures in it to and the dudes who draw for me need references so I needed one for the main chick and somehow if by chance I came across this girl. I was smooth, charming and calm and I asked her if I can use her as a reference and she said cool. Then I got to know her and my smoothness, charm and my calm fell away when I started getting feelings for her. It's 2012 now and she still doesn't know about this! She's been in a four month relationship with some other dude but that ended bad and she said she's not into a relationship right now and I get that but when ever I see her I get sick, like throw up sick. I shake from nerves. When ever I see a wink or something as her status on facebook or bbm whatever I get jealous and once again sick. Like a jealous sick. I really like this girl, more than like. I'm 18 and never really had a relationship cause it just never works. She takes interest in me and I'm so tired of myself. I get so nervous I run dry out of topic and I'm so worried I make a mess of things. Eating is also a problem. I have lost my appetite.  I saw people mention this already. I've had about three hours sleep this whole week and I have crazy nightmares of her rejecting me. They say the more you fear something the more power you give it but I'm trying not to fear it. Also it's not nice being with friends and I see her and I quickly need to go to the rest room, take a few breaths or throw up even only to get near her and do it all over again. Also I stand around like a stooge and get tongue tied. Is this life threatening? I mean, loosing sleep like that can be a bad thing so I've researched. Also, I've heard things about this girl, not comfortable things about what she's done and stuff but hell these feelings still press on. I don't care what I've heard, she's still a nice person. And I'm sick of being on the consist fear of her going with someone else. It tore me apart last time. I'm also depressed 24/7 only when I write it goes away. My nerves are getting the better of me and it's effecting my eating, sleeping, living and social aspects of life. How can I make it stop and be chilled like I used to be? Or is this the dirty part of love?Don't know what to do about her either, I want her so bad, to care for her and be cared back and just be there for her. She's let so many guys take advantage of her and the guy she dated hurt her so bad it makes me mad. Not to mention the list of guys going for her and I know most these guys and their intentions are very clear but I really love her and don't want to see her hurt. Do I care too much? How can I be the man she would want when I can't even look at a plate of food? And I hate this anxiety... Help please :(P.s keep an eye out for my book...will let know when it will come out :D still getting the pictures done though. Thanks yous/        

Wow, a lot of these people I really relate with.I'm 20, and I started dating a girl in August. She is really awesome, is loving and caring and supportive. She's interested in learning about everything and has a lot of attractive qualities.But once I asked her out, I started dealing with heavy anxiety. Stomach feeling sick, and just worried in general about super irrational things, up to the point where I really just was battling that often.Over the 6 months we dated, it would sometimes go away, and sometimes be super heavy. I think when we started talking about heavy commitments and stuff it got really hard and serious for me, probably as well after I said I loved her. But I guess things just got really complicated along the way with weird things (like her cousin being murdered).I really wanted to be with her. Hell, I still do. But it got to a point where I just didn't actually ENJOY my time with her anymore, because of the feeling in my stomach or just the anxiety in my head (They usually go hand in hand). I just didn't have peace, even though I could feel that she had so many qualities I loved.I noticed that things just got very...nitpicky for me. I would start to pick apart all of her flaws in my head to try and find out why I felt that way. Physical flaws would become huge in my mind, her little misspellings of words on texts would drive me crazy. Things that previously wouldn't be a big deal, became a big deal.I often compared my relationship with her with my previous relationship (Where my emotions where that crazy honeymoon thing all the time). I consistently wondered whether my first girlfriend was someone I should be with (even though she's quite messed up, and I really don't want anything to do with her. She plays with my emotions). The girl I'm talking about now is kind and loving and caring and would never purposely harm me ever.I know somewhere earlier on this forum, someone posted that "It's your subconscious mind telling you that something's wrong". You know, maybe that's true, and it's something I thought for a while. But you know what, I don't really believe that.What resonates more with me, was the person who said that it's a big chemical imbalance.I've dealt with depression for years now, and it comes hard in all this stuff. It really dulls my emotions and screws around with my desires.I think something that caused a lot of anxiety for me WAS the anxiety. I would say "Well, I had anxiety about her before, so that must mean we aren't right for each other. That worries me!" and then I would get more and more worried, and kind of get stuck in a cycle.Thing is, I love a lot of things about her. I can faithfully say if you asked me why we broke up, I would say "The feelings just weren't right/I wasn't ready".But based on our personalities, I had no real reason why we shouldn't work out. She gets most of my jokes, we can communicate about everything in the whole world, she's crazy sexually and just regularly attractive. (pretty face, pretty body). We pray together and can enjoy different activities together. But that anxiety and stomach feeling just took away all my fun, and eventually I got to a point where I realized that our relationship simply can't thrive in that scenario. So I ended it.We are still really good friends, and I wish I could get to a point where I could make something happen in the future, but oh well. I really shouldn't bank on that, but should just take care of myself and let life happen.I still have some anxiety being around her (enough that I read this entire forum thread), although when we are busy having fun it can often not be there.I wish I had a solid answer. I'll just keep investing into god and whatnot and see where that brings me.

Because she has brainwashed you to believe everything is okay in your relationship with her but it's not.

I have a different stories than everyone else. Me and this girl hooked up one night and it was great. We had sex in my truck and we both fell for each other. But now even if I'm sittin next to her just talkin I get sick to where I feel like I'm gonna puke but I never have. It seems like it would have feelin this way before sex and not after. I'm confused and I want stay with this girl

The cause was explained to me by a Dr...she saids its your subconscience telling you to leave the relationship. Best thing is to break up, you have to listen to ur own body, if u dont ur gonna make a lifetime mistake of marriage to the wrong person. Hope this helps